One of guys biggest problems is approach anxiety and I want to share with you a little example to help you out with this.
Guys hold back approaching women because they are fearful of taking a hit to their ego and self-confidence.
This guy is cultivating his identity as the rich guy, or the good looking guy, or the guy with the cool routine, or the guy looking for her approval. It’s like driving your ego, your beautifully fragile Mercedes ego up to the girl fearful that she’s going to spit on it and dirty it up.
Rather the Blissnosis man is like the sky, spitting at him is completely pointless and futile.
He doesn’t hold onto any negativity, he doesn’t acknowledge it. The Blissnosis man is in such a positive, social state that it’s beyond his conception that any negativity could exist.
This is not an intellectual exercise or strategy of ignoring negativity, but literally your altered state is so positive you literally do not even feel the negativity. It just flows past you into empty space, like sky.
If the woman were to spit into the sky, it would only come back into her own face. The sky cannot be dirtied by her spit.
Her tests or resistance are not meaningful unless you accept them. Unless you grab them, it is meaningless, noise, they have nothing to do with your reality.
It is like shouting insults in an empty room. Yes, she will create a sound, but when the sound waves have dissipated the room is again the same room. The room cannot hold onto the test or negativity, the empty room is just an empty room.
So in fact you cannot get blown out by words unless you take them, unless you cooperate with them. If you FEEL blown out, it is your responsibility, don’t blame the girl. Why did you accept it?
Accept only that which you need, accept only nourishment, accept only the positive energy coming back from her.
After all, why accept her poison? Somebody brings you a cup of poison to you, it’s not necessary that you drink it. Simply say “thank you” and radiate her more positivity and keep going.
Coming in with the right state the woman cannot blow you out of the set; if she tries and you remain unaffected like the sky, she’ll quickly give up. In fact, at a certain point she will “flip sides” and become intensely attracted to you because you didn’t sulk away like every other guy would.
She will say “no”, “no”, “no”, “no”, “YES” because one can only spit into the empty sky so many times before realizing it is pointless and silly, there is no reason to fight the sky. There is no reason to fight you.
The Seduction Science Classic program (included with the Blissnosis program) will teach you exactly how to get that relentless persistence and passion that women respond to.
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amazing article dude keep up the good advice helps a dozen. safe, peace.
i just remembered one of my friends who is married said she has more love for her husband as he doesn’t put up with her bitchiness as in he doesn’t bitch back. she said that he knows that she doesn’t really mean what she says when she bitch’s.so he just stays calm and cool about it. i can vaguely remember her telling me this but can’t seem to fully remember what she said.
You made me laugh. As a girl, I can verify that this is all true.
In fact, from yesterday I’ve one more: literatureart, I don’t put wordpress bla-bla anymore.
Thanks for the commentary in Rooster site. Keep in touch, Dan, Romania
Derek, what you’re saying is a bit like divine love.
You view the “object” of your affection like an innocent little child, that does not do the harm out of evil.
You are the Jesus approaching her alluring,yet so simply human person.
As you bask in the radiance of your inner love, that is today offered to this fascinating little creature, her agressive-protective clawing is just the fearful fit of a child that hasn’t yet learned to see in your heart.
There is no rational reason to suddenly deny the radiance in your heart, by envisioning her as an unattainable ideal.
You feel the waves of beauty in your heart.
That inner continuous explosion of joy that fills you.
Rich, handsome, skilled, socially elevated, sexually prodigious, you name it, they’re just coordinates, just labels.
When doubt rears it’s ugly head, just weigh all these socially endorsed “qualities” against the sheer sensation given by river of light that constantly fills your soul.
They crumble.
You are the Jesus coming to her.
That does not make you important. Vanity does not matter.
It makes you love itself.
You are the equal that carries the fulfilling of her first love dreams.
Divine love. When you live through love you are love. It does not depend on a woman, but you can choose to offer some of that joy to her.
So she looks at your shoes. It makes you burst in an understanding, yet bemused wide smile at her innocence.
So she looks like a man-eater. Pish-posh. The center of her soul aches for the same dreams of love an passion as any woman’s, no matter the size and shape.
When you draw the love in your heart with your fingers, lips, arms, on her skin, you light the flames of passion.
All you have to do is be the love that you are. When her shields have tired a bit, she’ll start sensing the radiance.
All the trick of divine love is coming to terms with the fact that it’s an inherent capacity of your own soul, and that it has nothing to do with how particularly hot she looks tonight.
I have a hunch that the entire big secret of those big bad mistical “naturals” is that they bask in their own inner joy, they only sometimes choose to also do it in the company of some women, I mean, why become a monk, right?
P.S. It is said that a picture is worth a thousand words.
To a keen eye, open mind, that heart picture you got there explains the whole philosophy of it. Where did you get it ?
Thanks felix, great input. Yes, it is like being Jesus — turn the other cheek, just accept love and only radiate love and don’t let anything negative affect you or touch you and even the most “bitchy” women will fall in love with you for that. If you’re only giving love and not worried about your ego or being accepted by the girl, she’ll give you love back… you are giving her a gift of making her feel joy inside
This is a great confidence builder for all young macks…We all are leary of the jilt but the jilt is just a barbell to build muscle in the mind and heart of the jilted. It is kinda like the chapter in the book The Art of SEduction-Prove Yourself- If she hasn’t given in it is possibly because you haven’t gone far enough to make her see you reaching…. With a little push and pull on her heart mind and senses in time she will humblle down to you..she has no choice…Keep this in mind and have a macktabulous day
I like that word “macktabulous”
Mighty man Mack, you sound like you missed a tiny detail.
“If she hasn’t given in it is possibly because you haven’t gone far enough to make her see you reaching” – you say.
Hey, she’s got a mind and heart of her own, all you “have” to do is be where she is.
No other effort necessary.
Sometimes, when you start making efforts to reach an effect, like making her see you, you fall in that trap of using a mind to signal a heart. Even the best seducers out there, they do not talk to a girl’s heart, they only expertly confuse her mind with the visual and behavioural luster they masterfully wield. Their effort is fascinatingly effective, but ultimately, utterly fake.
The proof? They leave behind regret, or even pain.
When you simply enjoy the radiance in your heart and give her the chance to experience the same, even if the relationship breaks later on, she’ll be left with a tremendous lesson of love that will enable her to avoid all future fakes, since she’ll sense they have no light in them, and she’ll allways have a smile at the memory of you, even if bittersweet, even if you pissed her something awful.
No, you do not have to move any mountain, make anything happen. Just be next to her. And love. Oh, and do have the time of your life, regardless of her. No effort.
“the jilt is just a barbell to build muscle in the mind and heart of the jilted”-you say
I completely agree with you. It’s just true. Pitty some take hardship as some curse and not as a blessing in disguise.
These words ring so true! I agree with Felix as well. It’s awesome to hear and be reminded! Thanks!!
Not to mention the very top picture, it’s great! It totally goes with what you are saying. When your energy is flowing throughout all the chakras, you are open and strong; nothing can alter or affect you. Thanks again!!
Hey dude keeep up with the info,guys need to here this stuff 2 clear there heads.keep up the good work…..mike the maddog……………………………
Hmmmmm…good work man….wud love further advices from you
It is surely a valuable advice giving out a lot of positive energy.
Hi Derek I am writing to remind you that you are responsible for a social development of society that is unparalleled. You Starlight concept is amazing. Since I use your advice my quality of life increased dramatically, especially when it comes to women. This sunday morning I woke up and thought about what I learned from you and smiled when I took a look to the left seeing my sleeping wife.
Always when I think this cannot be topped, you come up with more new stuff. Please keep it up.
It doesn’t get even better than this. JC creates other JCs who can give great advice.I looove this.Men everything JC says works.Kudos gentlemen.
I have a hunch that’s exactly one of the things JC is trying to achieve. There are far too many jerks out there that just use the wonderful women of this Earth and give them nothing real in return. Giving them a chance of happyness by empowering the good men near them is a way to love these women while not even being physically close to them.
i have listened close to the makings of a perfect bitch getting one thing wrong like a player and wishing to fix but we’ll surely have all the mystics of the fairy tales when it is simply to love thru love ,Felix,Mack,DOG and JC U R suspense heroes
Well JC, I like the whole concept of positive thinking and all but isn’t it just pie in the sky thinking that one would be like this enlightened being who just deflects negativity where ever he goes? Its as if you would have to be an ordained monk or something. If your having a crap day, which we all have plenty of those, we’re likely to be in a bad state which in turn makes it difficult to deal with some woman’s rudeness. I’m just being pragmatic.
It’s not about having a bad day, just when you go to a bar or club to meet girls. Don’t let their state affect your state, otherwise you’ll be on a roller coaster ride of highs and lows. Just let whatever venom pass through you and you let YOUR state affect THEIRS.
ok, well, I guess this is a case of practice makes perfect. I should get back into my meditation practice again.
Thanks Jesse
Thanks a LOT… I learn so much from this section… You guys keep it up… Be positive… and don’t let negative stimuli brings you down… coz sometimes it happens… we can’t just expect good things all the time. In this world we have to face the UP’s and Downs… and remember.. The captivity of NEGATIVITY kills YOU!!!
There are at least three ways to respond to spit.
1) Obviously, one is just ignore it and go on.
2) One of my favorite lines is from Patrick Swayze from Road House. Smile (sometimes, I’ll wink too) and say, “Opinions vary.”
3) Another is the comeback. Like “That’s good. You’re not my type either.” Or maybe a neg — with a smile, of course.
After 2 and 3, sometimes I’ll just pick up with what I was saying when I was so rudely interrupted. Or look at her, shake my head slowly, look around for someone else to talk to, and make her reel me back in.