Seduction Science

10 Rules to Getting Mind Blowing Oral Sex From Girls

One of the qualities of the Starlight Girl is the ability to give wet, deep, and wild oral with her tongue and mouth.

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A woman isn’t born knowing how to give oral sex, so this is a skill that you can teach her how to do.

As her teacher, you must understand that the number one rule of thumb is that great blow jobs are VISUAL and stimulates a man’s mind VISUALLY.

Getting blown by a Playboy Playmate is going to feel much better than being blown by a 300 pound Gorilla woman that looks like Gimli the Dwarf, even though in reality the experience would feel pretty much the same.

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It’s what you SEE and the psychological stimulation it gives you that counts when it comes to getting great oral sex.

Her Rule #1. Admire the Master Cock

The woman needs to show happy admiration for the cock she’s about to swallow.

When she’s pulling down your pants, there should be a big smile on her face in anticipation.  This smile shouldn’t just be for show, she should really be happy to get her favorite desert.

When the cock pops out she should look directly at it, admiring the object of her affection.  She should look up at the man and make direct eye contact with a big smile on her face.  She can also start fingering her pussy or touching her breasts to make herself hot as she looks at the master cock.  Again, this is all about her giving her man visual stimulation.

Start talking sexy to her with the proper commands. “You belong to this cock… look at it and put a big smile on your face for the big cock you’re going to swallow!  That’s it baby, very good…  look at me… look into my eyes… now touch your pussy for me as you suck on it.”

Her Rule #2. Wet and Sloppy

Blow jobs need to be wet and sloppy.

Saliva and drool are a woman’s best friends when it comes to oral sex.  Drool should be covering the shaft of your cock and running down your legs.  When she comes up for air there should be strings of saliva hanging from her mouth.  It’s this visual element of a lustful, drooling chick on your cock that makes it really spectacular.

Tell her, “Use more saliva baby… get that cock WET.  That’s how I like it, with plenty of saliva and WET.  Drool on it baby, don’t hold back, get it wet.  That’s it.”

Her Rule #3. Go Deep

Some women mistakenly believe that cupping the head of your cock between her lips constitute as a blow job.

She needs to go down, down deep, down as far the shaft as possible until her gag-reflex begins to kick in.  We want to watch a woman at least try to swallow us whole.

Tell her, “Go deeper baby, deeper… go all the way down as far as you can go.”

Most women with your permission will oblige.  Don’t expect a deep throat however.  Deep throat takes months of practice to control the gag reflex.  It’s more the woman’s enthusiasm to please that counts.

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Her Rule #4. Show Some Tongue

A woman has to show her tongue. She needs to lick up and down the shaft of your cock and angle her head so that you can see that tongue of hers licking.

Likewise, as she’s coming up for air she can keep her mouth open and her tongue out.  And when she sucks on your cock, she can push her tongue out so you can see it stroking on the shaft.

The physical sensation is pretty much the same, whether her tongue is in or out, but it’s the psychological sensation of watching that makes the difference between ho-hum oral and mind exploding bliss.

Tell her, “Baby, show me some of that tongue of yours… put that tongue out for me.  Lick it, lick it.”

Her Rule #5. Keep With the Task At Hand

Nothing is more disappointing than getting an all-star blow job when a woman suddenly lifts her head up and starts talking about her work or what she ate for dinner the night before.

The trance is broken, like when someone’s cell phone rings in the middle of a great movie.

Your woman should be making noise– but it should be of the sucking and slurping variety.

If she does start talking too much about mundane topics tell her, “Hmm baby, I understand, but let’s talk about that later… right now get back to sucking that cock, it’s so exciting to watch you do that.”

Her Rule #6. Open Eyes and Relax the Face

Many women tend to close their eyes when giving head.

We also naturally close our eyes when we’re about to eat something we dislike, like cold Lima Beans.  Closing the eyes is a signal of disgust.

She might not be thinking that, she might simply be closing her eyes out of habit.  But it makes for an unsexy blowjob nonetheless.

If she’s closing her eyes, simply tell her to open them and tell her to look at you.  A women giving a wet, deep, sloppy blowjob while she periodically gives your direct eye contact is exciting.

She should also relax her face.  The ultimate psychological turn on is to get a nasty blowjob from a girl with a sweet, young, baby face.  When the girl tenses her face up as she’s swallowing you, it creates the opposite effect.

So correct her if she tends to tense her facial muscles as a matter of habit.  Simply tell her, “Relax your face baby.” Blowjobs should be relaxing and pleasurable for her, not a stressful muscular chore.

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Her Rule #7. During Momentary Breaks, Keep Eyes and Mouth Open

To add to the visual thrill for a man, the woman should take regular “display pauses.”

A display pause is when she stops sucking and lifts her head up.  Her eyes should either be making contact with yours or admiring your cock, her mouth agape and hanging open like she could go back down on you at any moment, and saliva drooling down her chin.

The way not to take a break is for her to stop sucking, close her mouth and close her eyes while she takes a moment.  This is not sexy.  It’s particularly critical that she keeps her mouth open while she breaks, like’s she eagerly anticipating for your cock to be shoved down her throat again.

Tell her explicitly, “Baby, next time you take a pause, keep your mouth open and keep your eyes on my cock.  Let’s try it right now.”

Her Rule #8. Slow Down

What’s not sexy is frantic, uncontrolled motion.  The girl needs to move slow and sexy, like an exotic dancer who slowly undresses and works with controlled, deliberate motions.

If she’s going too fast, she’s obviously trying to please you, so just tell her to “slow down baby” and the problem is solved.

Another way to train her to move in a sexy fashion when she’s giving head is to scour the adult films for a girl who gives incredible oral (and believe me, most of the films will give you BAD examples, so start scouring) and watch it together with her.  When the right scene comes up tell her, “Wow, she gives good head… nice and slow with controlled movements.”  Your girlfriend will take a mental note.

Her Rule #9. Glam Up

The blowjob is as good as what you visually see as what you feel.

If your woman is dressed and made up like a porn star, she’ll FEEL like a porn star and ACT like a porn star.

You’ll also feel more like you’re getting head from a fantasy girl who is there to please you and be your hot slut.  So have the woman dress up for you regularly.

Her Rule #10. Smile for the Cum Shot!

Shooting your seed on a woman with a tensed face and her eyes closed isn’t so sexy.

She shouldn’t just sit there to take it with her eyes closed.  She should open her eyes and receive her blissful treasure with a big smile on her face.  She should then wipe your cum off her face and start licking it off her fingers.

When you cum inside the woman’s mouth she can do more than immediately swallow.  She can give you a little show, swirling the cum around inside her mouth, letting some of it come out and drool down her chin.  Then she can swallow and give you a big smile of delight.

If she isn’t smiling for you when you cum, simply tell her, “Oooh, that was nice.  Give me a big smile baby!!”

Those are just a few tips for experiencing FAR more pleasure with women.  And if you want to really “build a better girlfriend” or wife, check out my Blissnosis Program.  It’s hours and hours packed full of girlfriend training tips to engineer “the perfect woman.”

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  1. BAKARI

    THIS IS VERY MUCH TRUE AND APPLICABLE.THANKS ALOT AND I PROMISE TO PRACTICE THE SAME THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN.

    • Jesse Charger

      Thanks bakari!

    • Anonymous

      Love it orql!@!!!

  2. BAKARI

    NEXT PLEASE DO THE OPOSITE ,I MEAN WHAT PLEASES MEN.

    • Anonymous

      JUST COME TO ME

      • Anonymous

        NO!!! U cum to me!!!!!

  3. louis

    That was great, i think i will give it a try right away.Am looking forward to seeing other rules

    • Jesse Charger

      Report back…

  4. Ashutosh

    Thank you , it was really good one . i’ll make a note of it and sure i will use it too.
    Thanks

    • Jesse Charger

      Glad to help man :smile:

  5. Ahmed Tijani

    Hi my friend,

    Lets acknowledge the efford of this guy, he has done enough to solve the problems of meet lady which many sharing guys like, were not able to practice what we have learned for him may lazeness or fear of the ladies.

    Hey let me ask someone things are lady to fear of meaning when approaching them for strating relationship with them. what causes that please let me know because I can talk to a lady.

    Almost get to 30years old but no girl friend or anything close to that.

    Thanks I will keep it to be use in near future.

    Ahmed T. I.

  6. anand

    i have tried but not deep as it try my girl as u suggested

  7. The Rogue

    Ahmed, Sexual attration and arousal stirs up a whole slew of brain chemicals and circuitry. We experience a rush of adrenaline and dopamine and it can make us anxious if we haven’t developed the experience of dealing with that. For many of us, it can make us freeze up and not approach a woman.

    My advice is to maybe just start smiling at, making eye contact with, and saying “Hi” to EVERY woman you meet. Not just ones you think are attractive.

    After awhile you’ll start to realize its not such a big deal and your brain chemistry will adjust to your connecting with women you meet and that anxiety will start to melt away.

    As for the BJs ~lol~ My sexy gf thinks about what a great cock I have and how much she adores it, and that “mindset” translates into the sensation she is imparting, and her oral finesse is tres exquisite. Believe you me. It’s mindfulness vs. mechanical technique.

  8. The Dude

    Good advice. More importantly, I would also translate these tips into how a guy should go down on his girl.

    • Jesse Charger

      That’s another article… :razz:

  9. Saul

    Thanks, I’ll take this advice the next time I give a blowjob

  10. Anonymous

    Thanks, I’ll take this advice and try to do it in the next and keep in touch with some more tips.

  11. rajesh

    hi i am rajesh thanks to tips

  12. Blowjob

    All very good advice!

  13. daka dave

    Well done. I seem to originate a monologue for every occasion. It is always trance inducing. My intent is always to maximize the woman’s pleasure. Knowing that she must surrender an serve to maximize her pleasure. I am an empath, hence cannot extrapolate, a monologue, for all occasions. Because all woman are unique and each occasion is unique.

    Your tips are very good. Well done.

    I used to write down some of my better monologues but lost them all when my web page crashed. I had no back up. They all come back when I need them. It is just good to rehearse. Rehearsal helps.

    I have instructed and trained many women. Each and every one of them thanked me. Oral sex is a dark and lonely job but they have to do it. Like anything they want to be told how to do it well. They want to do it well. Perhaps each man is unique. They want to please you. Tell them how.

    Further more I have found that the more orgasms you have given her the more enthusiastic she will be. I have so many monologues, indeed themes of monologues, that amp that up.
    And I have been trained in a Tantra Ashram to give women hours and hours of non stop orgasms.
    Again JC; Well Done.

    • Roberto

      daka dave: I loved what you said, ” I have instructed and trained many women”. I am in the process of training women and giving them long-lasting orgasms. I look forward in hearing more from you and learning from you.
      Roberto

    • Jesse Charger

      I second that

  14. james

    the given tips is very much worthfull and passionate to every one who experience it and it was mindblowing too.it was an exited perfomance when you do it slowley and step by step.thanks a lot.

  15. jon ackerman

    Thanks! My boyfriend learned a few new tips from this article. Any good tips for anal?

    • Jesse Charger

      Do a search on the site, I’m sure you’ll find something. :mrgreen:

  16. stareguy

    It is really good for me.Surely I will use.

  17. nadira

    Forplay is necessary, but oral/anal sex is not recommended by any ethics/medical rule. Even it is harmful for health.

    • female

      totally, sucking a cock with shit on it would be not only gross but also could give you lots of nasty things! its not a waste product for no reason! the other way round might be ok tho!!

  18. nadira

    Every action start from eyes and many feelings can be exchanged through eyes.

    Man can make ejaculate his partner without fuck her by chewing her toungue and it leads to make easy entercouse with her pleasure.

    • Jesse Charger

      Yeah, that’s how I cum in the coffee shop, I just look at the chick’s eyes and I jizz in my pants. ;-)

  19. jonny bag

    this tag sucks man

  20. domo

    No wonder I have only been getting good, but not great bj .. I thought it was all about the physical. My life shall be different.

    • Jesse Charger

      Go forth my son

  21. Joe

    This was all great I plan to get a lover to do this for me.

  22. Anonymous

    i have a problem with tip #10. should she really keep her eyes open for the cum shot…what if…it ends up on her eye ball. That seems uncomfortable and might also sting.

    Any one have similar experiences or insight. I am a virgin.

    Peace and take care.

    • Jesse Charger

      It might be uncomfortable for her, but we’re talking about what makes it hot for YOU!

      • jordan

        sex should also be pleasurable for the woman as well as the man. how dare you say that!
        well if youre suggesting that my man should cum all over my face, then ill cum all over his face (i squirt). sex shouldnt be painful to the woman at all…unless shes into that and suggests it first.

  23. Bi Bandit

    Dude Man, I think you watch too much porn… more than i do atleast.. Many chicks would rather swallow than have cum all over their hair. and having your eyes open..is a day long trip with the red eye..(and not the plane)
    However.. some us like/love giving head.. just dont be condensending about it… we do it.. coz we want to see your toes curl.
    2 cents:

    1.The ganky first cum.. is not on.. wank before.. get it over and done with.. let her see that happen even..

    2.If you want her to love giving you head..be on sugary stuff 24 hours before- no beer and gassy veges and greasy foods (lol)

    3. Have a bottle of absinthe, sambuca or spicy liquor.. she can play around with that when she’s down there. It makes for a great sensation too.. and just incase u havent followed No 1 & 2 it makes swallowing quite palatable.

  24. Cubanlink

    I can honestly say my girl give me great blowjobs, no complaints here. The only thing she does not like is facials. She claims they are degrading, alot of girls say the same thing. Is his degrading to women ?

    • Emily

      *I* like getting facials, and I KNOW they’re degrading. The difference is, I like that it is degrading.

    • Anonymous

      I personally think it’s degrading because it absolutely comes from the mind of the person doing the degrading. They KNOW you don’t enjoy it and want to do it anyway. That means that they truly don’t respect you, your body, or your mind.

      As for myself, it’s just downright disgusting, dirty, and painful (the eyes) and frankly….my hair products, make-up, and appearance matter more to me than sex/oral sex with a guy. I’d avoid sleeping with a man altogether who is even known to like this sort of thing….let alone suggest we do it.

      I would consider it a “fetish” that should only be suggested/used when dealing with a partner who is also has the same fetish. Typically people with fetishes make them clear in advance to potential partners and/or try to find dates online through forums and communities geared toward those fetishes.

      In those cases, it’s totally fine. But men need to understand that wanting to give a facial and being “upset” that a woman doesn’t want it/thinks it’s disgusting is a problem with YOU and not a problem with HER.

      Please note that I’m not saying that particular fetish is “wrong” or you enjoying them are a problem. I’m saying that you need to understand that it IS a “fetish” and therefore unusual and typically NOT something you just do to a woman without her prior consent or without already knowing she has the fetish to receive them (and enjoy it).

      If she’s tolerating it just to please you and you KNOW that and continue to subject her to, you are abusing her whether you mean to or not. Forcing your own fetishes on someone else IS abusive. That includes nagging her to let you do it, expressing anger/disappointment when she doesn’t let you do it, verbally shaming her for not “caring” what you like, etc…..whether intentional or unintentional, you ARE abusing your partner if you’re trying to make them do something they don’t like/don’t want to do just because it happens to be your fetish.

      • StudleyHungWell

        My wife loves facials. We started doing them at her request, not mine. She loves them so much she cums every time I cum on her face. She says she loves the “power” of it and the way it makes her feel. I, of course, am more than happy to please her this way. ;-)

    • Gonstable

      I love giving facials, and my GF loves getting them. I think it makes her look beautiful, and its so visually hot and sort of dominating to shoot a hot load on her face. We probably do a facial once a week.

      Sometimes i will cum in her pretty hair, and we wont wash it out. We will go workout at the gym, or go out to a bar or restaurant. Its so sexy for both of us to know that we have a little secret. A few weeks ago we stopped at a bar after a long bike ride. She came outside with our drinks and whispered “I just ordered drinks from a bartender with cum on my face and neck”. That was so hot.

      One thing that I’ve found works well is to reward her for deep throat.

      I will hold the back of her head with both hands, and she will take my whole cock down her throat. She will swallow on it, which really feels incredible on the head of my cock. She can hold herself like this for maybe 20 seconds.

      Her reward is that i shout out loud my pleasue as she does this. “Fuck, fuck fuck”, that sort of thing. After she pulls my cock from her throat, i bend down and kiss her so deeply and passionately. She loves that. Then she will do it again until we are both so crazy that we have to fuck.

      A few things that i didn’t see here. Spitting on the cock. My GF will sometimes pull my cock out and spit on it and jerk it for a bit. That is visually super hot.

      I recently taught her to cheek fuck, or “jawbreaker”. This is when my cock makes one of her cheeks bulge out. I love the look of this, and enjoy caressing her cheek as it bulges with my cock head. She does this every blowjob now.

      I also taught her face slapping. This is an awesome addition to a blowjob. She will pull my cock out, and during a break, she will look up into my eyes and slap both sides of her face with my cock. Then back to sucking. I find it amazingly sexy and submissive.

      The other day, we were playing, and she said she wasnt going to open her mouth and suck me, and wanted to know what i was going to do about it. So i told her i was going to slap her face with my cock, which i did. Hard. Then i slapped her clit with my cock. After that, she was dying to suck me.

      Anyway, there’s some insight into our super hot sex life. In short, facials are really hot, and can be enjoyed by bogth partners!

      • Anonymous

        Yeah and in the real world you get through lots of tissues.

      • doctorevil

        so is going down on a woman a fetish and degrading as well?

  25. Charlie

    I second Emily.

    Instead of TELLING her to do something, ask, encourage and tell her/him what turns you on.
    “Let me see those beautiful eyes of yours”
    “You look so sexy licking my cock like that”
    “You wanna try taking it deeper?”
    “That felt great, baby, and you looked so hot with my dick in your mouth”

    If sucking you off is a positive experience, he/she’ll wanna do it again. If it’s degrading (assuming she/he isn’t in to that) he/she’s gonna offer.

    • Jesse Charger

      Charlie, these are still leading commands. Same thing, you’re just being a little more polite.

  26. Randall

    Isn’t sexuality full of paradoxes Here is the gracios and gorgeous woman we profess to love, yet we long to strip them physically and emotionally any literally choke her with our manhood! Actually comment on her “skill” as we grind her face into the manhood so as can revile her and dominate her until she either chokes on our seed or takes it shot rift UN the eyes…the more degrading the better…and we judge her humiliation as if we were simply passive spectators, instead of the animalistic man who just choked the very woman he professes to adore. “I love you darling” “Now swallow it bitch while I rest my hand on your neck and thrust my throbbing cock down your throat and takeextra pleasure

  27. Anonymous

    I second that randall

  28. Anonymous

    Interesting read! However, while I agree with the impact all these tips will have during the act, I have serious doubts as to the actual practicality of your “training” suggestions.

    I laughed most at the porn tip. I mean, seriously, what women are you dating that makes such blanket suggestions seem applicable to all women?

    Ho hum, another day on the net… ;)

  29. neilquagmire

    reading that I had to jerk off & blow my wad.

  30. Anonymous

    Hmmm…I’m all for people/couples talking about and being open about their personal desires and ways to improve sex life including techniques (such as this article).

    My issue with this article is that although you mention all the “natural reactions” women have/do (facial expressions, eye-closing, etc), you seem to ignore the fact that everything you mentioned in this article is essentially a list of things that the “receiver” (of the oral sex) would enjoy. While this is great, the actions you say are “unattractive/unsexy” but are common amongst women are things the women isn’t TRYING to do (wrong) in most cases.

    Meaning that if you nit-pick and tell her do this and do that and do this and put on a huge “show” of “loving the cock” for you…..you’re not only telling her that her blow-jobs aren’t good enough for you, you’re also pressuring her to fight against her natural urges (to close her eyes, to not gag, etc) and that is something that she then has to THINK about, WORRY about, TRY to do, and then be worried that the end result wasn’t good enough.

    While showing your partner what you like and don’t like is a good way to make sure you have a healthy sexual relationship, if a man implements the above strategies and actual “commands” in the way you have described in this article, you are making blow-jobs EXTREMELY stressful for the women giving them. You are making it a step-by-step, play-by-play, list of rules and commands that are similar to a boss to employee or parent to child.

    What I’m saying that telling a woman to ignore all her natural urges (to close eyes, to avoid gagging, to forget to make eye contact because she’s concentrating on doing a good job in the first place, etc) and then telling her to STOP doing all those things is about as UNSEXY for HER as it gets. It make the blow job become a CHORE in her mind because she feels like you have numerous, specific requests and demands. It also eventually will make her LESS likely to want to give you a blow-job in the first place (because she’s worried that you’re waiting to correct her, grade her, command her, or ask her to perform multiple tasks and “acting” while she’s already trying her best to please you) and that makes the overall sexual enjoyment LESS for both partners.

    If a man or woman feels criticized about their “sexual skills”, they often become unwilling to do them or worse…..they hate doing them and “suck it up” and do it just to please you.

    Humans can sense these things whether verbal or non-verbal and when you have a list of commands such as in this article….you are making oral sex a chore for BOTH of you. If you’re spending that much time thinking about/itemizing/planning/commanding/grading the woman while you’re receiving the blow-job…..guess what? You aren’t even paying attention to the FEELING, the moment, your body, your sensations, or HER feelings and sensations. Sensation is the biggest part of sexual enjoyment whether for males or females. Along with that is seeing enjoyment from your partner (ie: seeing the other person enjoys what you are doing makes THEM enjoy it more, do it better, and want to do it more often).,

    In simple terms…positive reinforcement. The suggestions above may be technically “good advice” and may make the actual blow job itself better for YOU, but it will actually HARM your long-term sex life, harm her self-esteem in being more sexually open and confident (because now she’s worried that she isn’t “worshipping the cock” properly), and harm your enjoyment of it as well because you’re too busy thinking about what she SHOULD do and what YOU like…..while ignoring the fact that if she isn’t enjoying it as well…the situation becomes very unsexy for both parties.

    What works best (according to experts and my personal experiences) is showing when you DO enjoy something either through body language (sounds, breathing, positive words) or SHOWING her what you like (meaning guide her mouth/hand/face to areas you know you like stimulated and then showing the appropriate “pleasure” reaction when she hits the right areas). This allows you to still gain the same results (ie: showing a partner what you really like and want without making them feel inadequate, unattractive, or unskilled at what they’re already doing) without having to “overthink” it.

    It isn’t the actual skills and movements that matter so much as how turned on you are and how turned on SHE is. The more turned on both partners are, the BETTER the sex will be…..the better the oral sex will be…..and the frequency and confidence in doing those things will increase. You gain all the positives you are looking for without making blow-jobs a “chore” or a performance.

    A majority of sexual pleasure does not come from anything regarding skill, type/size of body parts, amount of sex, length of sex, or technical things at all. We as humans THINK that they do…..but take note that knowing and learning every “technical” sexual skill on the planet will not make sex great. Not unless it’s combined with a mental, emotional, and sensory experience.

    I apologize for the long-winded comment, but this article (although well-intentioned) basically takes ALL of the sexiness out of oral sex and also ensures that the woman giving it feels like she’s doing a chore. Those two things alone guarantee you’ll get LESS blow jobs, LESS positive response to giving on, and LESS sensory experience for the both of you.

    It’s simple to get good oral sex (whether you’re a man or a woman) if you STOP all logic, reasoning, timing, and worries about technical skill and START allowing your senses to take over your mind (ie: each touch, the breathing, the sounds, the tingles, the warmth, the visual, the emotional, and even the verbal) because the person doing the GIVING wants to please you and building their confidence in whatever they’re doing makes them feel more confident overall and will lead them to be more willing to try new things, do old things “better”, and most importantly ….FEEL SEXY.

    Both men and women need to feel confident and sexy in order to truly be “at their best” in the bedroom. Most of that comes from the mind. And to be blunt, everything stated in this article would cause low sexual self-esteem, lowered confidence, and MORE inhibitions about sex with you personally.

    If you switched everything you mentioned here to positive reinforcement (ie: say/express no response when you DON’T like something but being sure to express obvious positive responses to what you DO like) you don’t need to do/say/command/or worry about any of these things mentioned in the article.

    A man or woman watches for cues as to what their partner likes and doesn’t like. They will adjust accordingly (over time as you get to know them) and will do so willingly and enthusiastically because they aren’t being FORCED or TOLD or CRITIQUED for what they’re already doing.

    On a side note: Ummm….semen burns the shit out of your eyes, so asking a woman to open her eye so you can come on her face is actually pretty abusive because it DOES induce pain and irritation and is dangerous for the eyes. You may want to consider the fact that forcing pain and injury on your partner is not normal and sexy unless you both are “into” that sort of thing.

    Also, asking a woman to watch porn and show her “how it’s done” is really disrespectful and EXTREMELY negative. Although it may seem like an easy way to give her some skills….imagine if a woman made you watch a porno and told you that she’d really like you to have unlimited sexual stamina, a rock-hard penis at all times, and “act” like the dude in the movie. I don’t think it would put you in the “mood” to do anything sexual at all. Telling a woman to act like a porn star to please you is basically telling her to act/become something she isn’t. It’s not only insulting and negative, it also tells her in clear terms that you don’t actually like WHO and WHAT she is to start with. It also *may* tell her you don’t like how she looks and require porn-star looks and skills in order to be happy.

    Just thinking about a guy doing the things you mentioned and especially SAYING them to me makes me feel like never having sex with any man, ever again. Inducing stress in your partner is the biggest pleasure-killer you could bring. This article brings nothing BUT that.

  31. Tyler

    I feel like If I was getting a blowjob and I acted this bossy she would get mad. I’m not even going into some thats sexist blah blah blah because honestly I love giving oral and would actually appreciate instructions. I’m just saying doing this is not upping my chances of getting more blowjobs.

  32. Robbie

    Just asking questions and making suggestions is good too. If she’s into you, she’s gonna wanna make you feel good. The first time my gf gave me a bj I had to pull her off me because she was still sucking and my cock was so sensitive. I asked her, “Did you swallow?” She said she didn’t swalloe all of it but that she could the next time. She gave me another bj in the morning and swalloed every drop. Felt so good.

  33. ASISH

    DO GIRLS FOLLOW THESE RULES?

    • Jesse Charger

      if you direct her and she likes you, yes

      • jordan

        LOL WHAT? only if she likes doing the things you are asking her to do. females are not here to be used or to be told to do things they dont like to do.

  34. AnonymousDallas

    Holy cow, kids, it’s all about having fun, and communicating with each other in order to enhance the experience! I know that when I look up and smile during fellatio, my partner always finds it thrilling (when on my knees). I did have a partner, however, who preferred me to lay my head on his belly, facing away from him, taking as much of his penis in my mouth as I could, and then simply nursing (literally, sucking) on it. There was almost no back-and-forth, or in-and-out movement. I met him 28 years later, and this was still his preference. My point is in communication . . . and playfulness!

    • Jesse Charger

      Great comment, thanks for sharing it

  35. AnonymousDallas

    I’d like to add that fellatio can definitely be a turn-on for the giver, as well as the receiver. I even had a hands-off orgasm once, while fellating one partner (I woke up feeling randy and sucked him awake in the middle of the night!).

  36. Anonymous

    #1) yeah, semen in the eye burns like a bitch and this should never be encouraged. I’ve had it by accident and if I believed my husband expected to shoot me in the eye every time I went down I wouldn’t do it. That bit of advice is bullshit pure and simple.

    A woman can close her eyes during the big finale without being unsexy..a little girl squinching her eyes shut when being squirted with the garden hose or splashed in the pool…surprise and delight!

    #2) I think that the “directions” can work to an extent but IMO should be dosed out a bit at a time. I love when my husband tells me what to do but he never sounds like he’s training me. It’s like a commanding “look at me”…or he just grabs my hair and does his own deep thrusting.

    #3) as other people mentioned: positive reinforcement…but I personally prefer some of both techniques. Tell me what you want in some spots and just show me your pleasure in other spots.

    I liked this article more as hints for the lady instead of for men to pressure their women.

  37. Katie

    I personally love giving oral to my boyfriend and have many times done the suggestions listed above on my own will, because I like finding new and exciting things to arouse him. However, I think had he commanded or “coached” me to do some of these things by way of your suggestion (telling me to open my eyes as he finishes), I would maybe do it that single occasion, but would feel more like a toy than a partner and would be less inclined to offer a blowjob anytime soon. Some women like to play the submissive one, but they and their partner should discuss those types of things BEFORE the act so they don’t feel like they’re being used. One of my ex-boyfriends used to push my head down so far and choke me so bad that I didn’t blow him for weeks- then broke up with him! Gentle coaching and affection as a base make for the best blowjobs for both partners.

    Coming from a very happily sexual college student, in a committed relationship that is filled with love and many, many blowjobs.

  38. Maddie

    I thought this advice was helpful BUT the bottom line is that I love sucking cock, and it shows. I can’t tell you how many BFs I’ve had who have never come from oral before meeting me. It’s great to collect tips on the perfect BJ, but if you don’t actually enjoy it, it is not going to be fun for anyone. The converse is that if YOU do enjoy it, trust me, your man is not going to be giving commands like in the article. He is going to be in nirvana.

    • Anonymous

      I wish I knew you Maddie I’d have you show my girl a thing or two you suck then show her how to. Always better to have another girl show her I think

  39. Anonymous

    Great tips, Jesse ;)
    I will definitely try them out.

    Also, I have a question.
    Do men like getting blowjobs all the time? I would love to give blow jobs every day.. maybe even a few times a day, but I’m afraid that would be a turn off or I’d seem overbearing? I don’t know.. what do you think?

    Thanks♥

    • Anonymous

      Where have you been all my life?? lol I wouldn’t mind thats for sure! :grin: :mrgreen:

    • Anonymous

      No i am a man and if i could get it every day it would be awesome.

  40. Anon

    I have to respectfully disagree that its mostly visual. My uncle who served in the Korean war said that when he and his buddies went to a whore house there that there was this grandma whore that was known to give the best blowjobs. She was old but really knew her way around a cock and the line for her proved it.

  41. sexylilbish23

    I like getting facials from my guy. He was my first oral sex experience and I asked him to do oral first! I always let him give me facials or cum in my mouth its not degrading its an oral sex fetish of mines I have a oral sex fetish and I believe sharing my disgusting fetish with him and we love it.All because us woman who role play as young hot slutty cocksuckers in the bedroom doesn’t mean we are whores to society I don’t suck everyone’s cock but I’m a professional at sucking his..7yrs together and 4kids together trust me giving good bjs keeps you both happy

  42. Anonymous Real Person

    This is a hilarious load of bullshit. Women are not like this at all and hate going down on dudes.
    You watch way too much porn, man.

    But leading all these gullible people on is horseshit. Be real and don’t lead these people to ruin their relationships.

    • StudleyHungWell

      A lot of women are exactly like this. I happen to be married to one. My wife also has a submissive bent so this really gets her off.

  43. Anonymous

    Written by a complete moron who learned about sex from pornography. You try getting jizz in your eye, asshole.

  44. sammy

    I’m a girl but reading this made me so wet lol

  45. Anonymous

    Your CRAZY! You don’t talk like that to a woman, sure the guy may like it that way, but don’t expect all that. You sound like a porn star director!

  46. suren

    I sayy dnt be pushy if she likes facial den its fine

  47. Anonymous

    i say dont be pushy

  48. Anonymous

    Wow. Men, do not, I repeat, do not say any of this shit to your woman. It’s comical. Awful. It will ruin the mood for her faster than anything.

  49. Ron Dark Delicous

    I think every woman , wife , girlfriend should please like this .The man should tell her how to dress , make sexy noises , how to swollow ,be gentle with the balls . Tell the woman how to keep there eyes open ,smile at te penis ,enjoy making love to the penis .If the women dont agree or try to find ways to please you then it will be a unpleasant life of sex for the man , and women, even if you have to watch porn, then soon she will do two things get mad cause you watch porn or just know that she need to see what or how can she make you feel better than those porns you watch. Take your time to explain to girlfriend , wife that this is what you like love for her to take incasideration ,you want her to please you like this and better. I do get oral sex its great, but after reading this my mind already had vision of what i was reading in the steps. If the man can aim to please both ways oral,and having sex and love doing it and the response he get from the ladies ,they should too.I Wish all men and women the best pleasure for the rest of yall entire life. There are alot relationship that feel like this, so reach out to others.

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