Most guys are going out motivated and driven by fear.
Anxiety about what the girls will think of them…
Frustration that they’re not making a girl fall in love…
Neediness for approval…
Desperation to control every aspect of the situation…
Head in the past about what might happen again…
Judging how hot a girl is or whether she looks approachable…
Fear about of the pain at what might go “wrong”…
All these emotions stem from FEAR, feels painful, and throws a negative energy to the girls. When fear is your driving force, you end up taking no action at all to avoid feeling pain. But that’s not really living.
You need to flip your script – and instead meet women coming from a place of LOVE.
Love is secret Ingredient X of pick-up… Happiness to be alive, whatever reactions you might get.
Gratitude at the opportunities, whatever girls might be there.
Dancing to the fun music, whatever sour face someone has.
Feeling Sexual by absorbing the sexual energy of the room.
Letting others eat the sushi platter of LOVE and good FEELINGS and your SMILE off your chest… giving FREELY and OPENLY to women and men and everyone in the room, expecting nothing in return.
Yes, you can feel happiness and fun and joy WITHOUT a hot girl on your arm and WITHOUT even speaking to anyone!
It seems impossible – how can you feel the party vibe and be smiling and dancing and happy and excited in a bar or club or party without having girls or friends around you?
Can’t you can play sports without a bench of cheering fans?
Can’t you sing walking along the street without an audience?
So why can’t you enjoy yourself at a party, singing, laughing, smiling, clapping, bopping, dancing… without a girl?
You may think you can only give out good energy and feel happy when there’s a girl there approving you, giving you validation.
But you could be sitting alone in your room, radiating great energy, like you’ve just won the lottery, feeling happy, for no particular reason.
Instead of motivated by fear, you can be giving feelings of LOVE like happiness and joy – giving gifts of smile and good energy freely to others with no expectations of something in return.
In the beginning it can feel unusual because you start thinking, “Um I’m feeling good for no reason… am I delusional??” because you’ve always been taught that you can only feel good when you buy new clothes or a girl smiles at you. You’ve been taught that you need outside validation to feel good inside.
But you can create happiness and joy and sexual energy and give out love-based feelings from within YOURSELF. That fantastic energy that you create on your own is the real power, the real source of capacity, and you’ll find that women near you will be suddenly drawn to you, suddenly grabbing for a piece of that magic you’ve found that remains so elusive to them.
When you’re feeling fear, nothing will seem to go right because you’re coming from the wrong place.
When you’re motivated by love – a love for women, a love for the moment, a love for life, a love for good feelings, a love for sharing your good feelings – just talk to any woman and she’ll feel happy for no reason at all.
Your state will draw her into state, and if your state is powerful enough it will overwhelm her and she’ll cling to you for more of it. What you’re giving her is a great gift.
That’s why I recommend Bliss Parties and getting yourself a Starlight Girl, explained in Blissnosis. The women at these parties are pre-selected for being sexually open, happy, and giving their love in many forces, spiritually, emotionally, and sexually – it just creates the right atmosphere to be a man of giving and gifts and good energy in return.
So bring the deserts, bring the chocolate cake, bring the ice cream, bring the wine, bring the flowers to the party, bring the dancing, bring the celebration, bring it all from a place of Love – and people will want to join in YOUR party.
Your friend,
Jesse - Contact me or Leave a comment
… Have you been smoking weed lately Jesse? Lol, j/k.
So! How do we achieve this awesome, amazing feeling? Got an NLP script for us? If not, make one, you’re the one who’s achieving this greatness, you can make the script so we can run it too.
A script won’t bring you good feelings and positive energy- that’s up to you to infuse any script with
What Jesse is actually saying is instead of waiting for someone to come along and make you feel good about yourself, you’ve got to be your own generator of your joy, happiness and good feeling. Because the positive vibe you’re gonna send from your state of being will make your interaction with women easier.
So it’s not up to Jesse to show you how to make yourself feel good because you already know it or you’ve got to figure it for yourself, you don’t really need no NLP trick to help you generate your own happiness.
Me for instance, I’ve seen the magic of what Jesse is saying here, in this thread, happened to me countless times in club environments. Although I go sarging most of the time on my own, I never said that I’m alone, and a couple of hours before hitting the club scene, I make sure I watch whether musical themed flick such as ” Staying Alive, Grease, Moonwalker”, or a comedy movie. This makes me feel great about myself and once I step in the spot, I associate myself with Travolta or Michael Jackson or Will Ferrel despite me being a Black African. So if there’s a song that moves me I just slip in my simulated persona then start having fun.
So it’s up to you and Jesse is just being helpful by reminding us that we have that POWER inside us.
yeah i agree with Jesse and Roland. i do something similar to Roland’s advice but instead of watching a movie i listen to music that makes me feel good and create my own movie in my head where im the star and i run the show. or you could try watching comedy that puts you in a good mood or remember something funny that happened before to you or your friend. you get the gist.
That’s right John whether you listen to a piece of good music or watch a fun movie that make you feel good about yourself it’s a good start to get you in the right sate of mind.
thanks for leaving a comment in my site. it’s been a while since i read something written by a bacchanalian.
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thanks for the advice. i was feeling pretty depressed today…37, single, no kids, feeling no purpose, former (current?) addict, buddhist…but with above average looks by most everyone’s standards. i’m my own worst enemy (wasn’t that a ‘lit’ song?). anyway, your blog made me stop and refocus for a minute. i need to quit self medicating, and choose to be happy with myself before i can be happy with anyone else. i’ve been in a several relationships with attractive women – mostly dancers, escorts, addicts, and/or codependent chicks. it sounds (and is) fun for a minute, but i’m in pain inside because i’m 37 and feel like the party is ending and i want (or need) to find a girl to provide me with the positive affirmations (and family?) that i so desire. although i’m employed and responsible (rent a nice apartment, own my 2004 vehicle, will be willed a home & money shortly), i still feel like a kid because i haven’t settled yet. but part of me doesn’t want to settle. i mean, i want to settle down, but i don’t want to just settle for anyone. i think i set my standards too high because i look for approval from everyone – i want everyone to perceive my girl to be the hottest, smartest, sluttiest
around. anyway, i’m rambling… thanks for the enlightening blog post:)
-Steve
Sounds like you need a “good girl” who can also be your slutty mistress. So you can settle and find some peace, but not miss out on the fun. I’m posting up more about blissnosis and getting more stuff ready
Loved it! I was smiling all the way through your post!
And so true.
As usual, GREAT STUFF Jesse!
I believe you’re absolutely correct. You need to dig yourself if you want women to dig you, too. A concept I refer to as “Seducing yourself first” ~grin~ And as for how to get there, I always say: Fake It Til You Make It.
And the way to “make it,” for those of you wanting a script or whatever — that’s what Jesse’s “Blissnosis” program is for! Just GET it. The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll be happy you did.
~The Rogue~
excellent analysis…yes many men are happy [me no exception] with validation from a woman but yes what u say is true that even without such a woman being around men shd feel happy by themselves bcos then their minds get conditioned and mind drives the body.
I like your style of writing.. Makes something otherwise really hard to explain in words make perfect sense. I totally agree.
Hi Jesse,
I like your stlye.
I noticed this about myself last year and realised that if I am feeling anxious I end up projecting my anxiety on to the women I meet.
My strategy:
Before I head out, I think of the mood ~I want to project. If I feel that I’m too moody – watch a comedy to lighten my mood and go out with a spring in my step.
If I’m feeling waay too goofy and want to project a sexual but fun mood, I watch something slightly more sexual.
This was my mood is preset before I head out. Friends of mine are sometimes confused as to how I can project the mood.
Hope these insights help
TouchUK
I Touch therefore I am
I like your style of writing.. Makes something otherwise really hard to explain in words make perfect sense.
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in my words , it pains to be alone and to pretend to be happy and take out the pain is rather theartric, i have always felt the same way , dressing up and feeling good and act and be my own Steve Segal, Wesly Snipes but if you trip it hurts like torture like a spy abducted under interogation tied head down wards and still you’ll be acting ,like Jonh Rambo conditioned to resist pain, but Derick always say it good, but the bottom line is my gfriend must also be my slut i have ref to a Nas Song Called the makings of a perferct bitch…
i like girls
Fucking is a art. It has various way of enjoyment.