Getting girls is all about how you FEEL inside.
Think for a moment- what is more important than how you feel?
If you were to make more money, you might FEEL more freedom.
If you were to have more power and prestige, you might FEEL you have more control and security.
And if you were to have the dream girlfriend, you might FEEL more self-esteem or love or pleasure.
It’s not the objects themselves that you’re after, but the feelings they give you.
The problem with all of these things is that the good feelings they give you are TEMPORARY.
If you get a raise, you’ll be happy and excited for a while, but pretty soon you’ll revert to your normal emotional level and you won’t even notice the extra money. In fact, you’ll upgrade your lifestyle and pretty soon you’ll be just as unhappy until you get the next raise.
Likewise, having a girlfriend will bring a flood of emotions—infatuation, love, sexual pleasure—but all those too will pass. Pretty soon you’ll revert back to your normal emotional level.
If you’re living in fear, anger, rejection, bitterness, impatience—it doesn’t matter how much money you make, how much power you attain, or how many girls you lay in your bed—you’ll feel a temporary rush of pleasure, but at the end of the day your “emotional thermometer” will readjust back into fear, anger, and rejection.
If you’re living in those states, the quality of your life will be substandard and shoddy no matter how much cash in your pocket, no matter how many people look up to you, and no matter how many girls open their door to you.
Can you live in a great emotional state WITHOUT any of those external things? Can you feel inside the way you want to feel without external validation from others? Can you instead feel passionate and spectacular about yourself, about your physical fitness, about your personal passions and pastimes?
Then you won’t need approval from your boss, or approval from friends, or approval from girls to feel spectacular—you’ll feel that way as a matter of natural course. Then you won’t spend all of your time chasing, chasing, chasing—you can just BE. And a guy who already feels like a High King without the money or cars or girls is, paradoxically, exactly what will attract girls to you in the first place.
That’s my “seduction tip” for you to today. I know it’s a little abstract, but if you can master that it will bring you a lot farther along than any pick-up line I could give you.
Your friend,
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Hi, my name is Mick … I have these questions that seems really hard for me to overcome, I hope you can address it in your news letter / your blog:
How do you overcome your “Neediness” around women, especially when currently you don’t have one, and how you overcome that feeling of anxiety, lonely, and also confuse … between getting the women first, or focusing to built your identity, like your career, etc2 … and, while you doing it, how do you handle your emotion … mainly about “Neediness, jealousy, anxiety, lonely, and confuse” …
Do you have a jedi mind trick to handle these kind of inner problem, because these eating me up on the inside.
Thank You,
Mick.
I have known this amazing fact for a while: when I feel good, everything in social reactions goes WONDERFULLY. Derek, it would be awesome if you could tell us how to internally feel good all the time despite the environment.
~Nathaniel~
HI!
Is very easy Nathaniel, and I did test this on my self.
Is related to testicles, do not laugh I am serious.
Is medical proven that when you hold more testorene in your body you act more: strong, feel powerfull and feel good..then you interact better with women..then EVEN SO you don’t get lucky..not everyone is a master at least you had good memories because you interact and you did make women feel good. And this is the first step. Then when you look over internet and learn more about attarction, you practice and you see IT WORKS you will feel like discovering a NEW LAW of PHYSICS!!
Ok no in GENERAL you can feel good if everyday you REALIZE something but we ALL agree that we have better use our time to feel good around women DON’T we? that’s we are here! Good luck!players
Ok.. and I forgot..because this is were I started when you do not masturbate or after having sex you eat healthy (depends of your body mass etc) let’s after 2 days you have enough material in your testicles..NOW you go and approach women and you will how everthing comes natural! You just have to be RECEPTIVE at the progrresion ESCALADATE and pay attention to women signals (there are 5 times more so you should be stupid not to) and then know how to do an plan ahead to get this woman in a place alone with you. good luck.
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Hi the above comment is cool …… but need more details about Girls relations
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Great article but what are the ways to master our emotional states?
hi
I saw this randomly after browsing in youtube about The Law of Attraction (the basis of the book The Secret). It’s really connected
i think this is the mother of all theory. But maYbe I still need something to applicate this theory
thx
Yeah, the article doesn’t tell you HOW to be happy inside… BUT there are other articles on this site with some great advice on how to achieve that. Also, I teach Bootcamp which is closed right now..
The guys who get the most girls are the ones who don’t need them. Women can sense this right away. You usually see this dynamic envelop in any club or bar scene. Even in a college environment, where lots of guys are clinging onto the party girls. They’re pretending to not “chase” them, but it’s so obvious they are, so they aren’t getting any.
Derek, I think the people who do the “chasing” are middle income Americans. That describes a great deal of our western population, because they’re sacrificing all their energy trying to make ends meet, not having the time value to learn something like seduction that requires time and motivation.
An observation of mine: The ones who make a lot of money or little money generally are living in their own realities. That’s why they get what they want from the women they desire. They aren’t listening to society and they are scripting their own reality without “committing” to any man. The bum who has no job thinks so highly of himself that he’s internalized the idea that he’s too good to give his time to any employer. Women do end up in relationships with deadbeats, and does this shock you? The super rich will also get their way because they’re used to having anxious beta males do the dirty work while they’re making money and doing more important things like getting laid.
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HI Derek and guys
I want to write something to Mick…
Mick, first is that you are at the moment in crisis and you must to know that crisis is the moment when you have to change something in your life…
so if you are feeling anxiety, confusion, loneliness you have to do something about it, you have to make changes in your life.
In one article ‘Gratitude is the secret ingredient with success with women’ Derek explained how to take it step by step and build up your confidence…
so you first call some girl or go out and talk to first girl you find interesting and show some values in your life and yourself and that’s it, maybe she will like you the way you are
You just have that chance today, tomorrow who knows what might happened
Also I must to say that I have lost my job this week so if someone hears of some job in the States let me know . I will try to come…
hi this is sabya.i looking 4 vivacious girl,like beaoncy.can u arreange?i will be very great full thanks.
As a girl can I also offer a small tip to add to to Mr Dating Tips? If you pay her attention. That means (act if you have to) be really interested in what the girl is saying… that way she will feel special and the doors to heaven start to open!
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yeah the way u feel inside is very vital i think its one of the most important aspects of being attractive to everyone. Thanks for the advice Derek, take care bro.
I like your website,so i read all;I need your opinion? I am a teacher at the university and college. one of my student loves me very much and asked i love her or not,of course i said thet i love her too.but, she sends me messages /finly i dont now how what must i do,she is ten years younger then I!
I’d like to subscibe to the views and observations of Sriram. In hindi and a few regional languages from my country ie India there’s a saying “You’ll always find monkeys eating mangoes” or similar meaning. It means good things are consumed by ppl who apparently don’t deserve them!
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im best editor – I’d like to subscibe to the views and observations of Sriram. In hindi and a few regional languages from my country ie India there’s a saying “You’ll always find monkeys eating mangoes” or similar meaning. It means good things are consumed by ppl who apparently don’t deserve them!
im best editor – hi this is sabya.i looking 4 vivacious girl,like beaoncy.can u arreange?i will be very great full thanks.
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Good point, but how do you get to the type of mindset you’re talking about????
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Thanks again Jessie. I have to get your program. Im so tired of being the shy guy. Especially when there around there friends. I want to overcome it all. You have great advice.
Thanks again Jessie. I have to get your program. Im so tired of being the shy guy. Especially when there around there friends. I want to overcome it all. You have great advice.
Jesse, most of what you say reveals rare and valuable insights. Bravo! What I don’t understand is how you carry on with your mission when your followers (judging by the comments they post) are such hilariously clueless, pathetically obsequious, openly craven halfwits. Perhaps you do it for the laughs. It is some of the best comedy on the web.