You are not your past.
And the past does not equal the future.
I don’t care if in the past you’ve had trouble approaching women. I don’t care if in the past, you were nervous around women.
If you want to meet hot women, making a new identity has to take place. Look, the past is over. It doesn’t exist anymore. The past is a hallucination, a movie inside your mind. Yes, the past can be a reference to help you make good decisions in the here and now, but the past doesn’t need to control you.
Today you can be a totally new person. Today you can be making a new identity. Today you can do things or act in new ways that aren’t normally you.
I mean, what’s holding you back from today saying, “The past is over. Today I’m going to be a new man. Today I’m going to be a new person. Today I’m going to be the kind of person who approaches and opens beautiful women successfully.”
Sure, your friends, your family, they have expectations about the kind of person you’re supposed to be, about certain ways you’re supposed to act. But you don’t exist simply to please them, to fit a confining role of what they’re comfortable with.
All through our lives we change, grow, mature, expand our possibilities of who we are. You can use your past as a guide to help you navigate through the world, but it’s not healthy to let it control you, or let others expectations control you. That’s living in a self-imposed prison.
So if you want to be able to approach women, you have to have this belief that you can grow, learn, and change, make a new identity, and that just because you acted one way yesterday, doesn’t mean you have to act that way today or tomorrow or next week or next year.
Today, tomorrow, next week, and next year, you can become a new person, a new person who has abundance in his life. And just because you failed yesterday or the 10 days before that, or the 100 days before that, what happened in the past does not equal what is going to happen today or in the future. All that matters is what you’re going to do right now.
Your pal, Jesse