It must too be part of your bedroom repertoire to eat a woman’s pussy out good and proper.
Cunnilingus is called by a lot of names; oral sex, eating pussy, going down, tongue thrashing, giving head, and muff munching to name a few. But whatever you call it, women love it.
For some women, oral sex is the only way she’s trained herself to have an orgasm. For others, it’s the most intense.
Women will adore you if you’re able to give them a good tongue lashing. You can easily compensate for having a small penis if she knows she’s found a terrific tongue thrasher, and she won’t let go of that easily.
You can move your tongue in ways your penis never could. And your tongue is naturally lubricated for her pleasure to boot.
However, cunnilingus is not a natural skill that you’re born with. If you don’t take the time to learn the skill, women won’t get the thrill. And fortunately for you, many guys are reluctant even to put their face in a vagina giving you a great advantage.
Love the Pussy
About 90% of men complain that cunnilingus takes too long, is uncomfortable to perform, or tastes funny.
Imagine this scenario. A sexy, beautiful woman sits on your bed. You ask her for oral sex. She declines saying she doesn’t like the taste, but finally agrees to go ahead with it. She pulls your cock out, takes a look at it and frowns.
“Ugh,” she grunts as she takes the tip of it into her mouth. After a few minutes she asks, “Aren’t you going to cum yet?”
Not very hot and sexy was that? Most of the fun of getting a blowjob is getting a good blowjob and knowing that the girl loves giving it. It’s no different for a woman getting cunnilingus from a man.
Now imagine this scenario. The same sexy, beautiful woman is sitting on your bed.
She unclasps your belt, wetting her lips with her tongue. “I find you so sexy,” she says… and her eyes smile when your cock springs to attention for her.
Taking your cock in both hands she smiles from ear to ear with a devil’s grin. “Hmmmm… I’m going to love sucking your cock,” she says. She slowly licks the underside of your penis, sucks your balls, and takes you down her throat until wet saliva covers your shaft. “Hmm… I love the way your cock tastes in my mouth,” she says. “Don’t cum yet…”
The difference between bad oral sex and good oral sex is attitude. It’s the way the giver enjoys what they’re doing without inhibition. Nothing is hotter to a woman than for her to think that you find her pussy the most delicious dessert on Earth.
Let her know, or at least fake it, that you love eating her pussy out. Pretend her vagina is a cherry lollipop that you’re dying to lick. You love the way her pussy tastes. You love the way her pussy smells. You’re NOT giving her oral sex for her pleasure… you’re giving her oral sex for your pleasure.
Give Her Eye Contact
Men make the mistake of not keeping eye contact when eating a woman out.
Although more easily said than done, keep eye contact with her as you move toward her pink treasure. Glue your eyes to hers a little longer than you would normally, even during silences. A gaze that stays overtime awakens primal feelings in her.
When you must look away, only do so reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly, as though they had been stuck with warm taffy.
To spice things up more, throw her a devilish look that conveys lust. Throw her one as you’re licking and sucking your way down her stomach. Stop and look. Install the feeling that you’re a “bad boy” in your head, make eye lingering contact, and slowly lick your lower lip.
Smell It and Taste It
Most women’s vaginas taste like hot, sweet, sticky, kind-of-salty candy. However, her specific taste will vary depending on her period, hormones, contraceptive method, what she ate that day, and her age.
Whether she’s worried about vagina’s smell or taste or not, tell her how much you love it to relax her. When you first put your face in her inner thighs, breathe in deeply and say to her, “Hmm… you smell really nice down here.”
This next trick gets a woman really turned on. Once her pussy is soaking wet, stick your finger inside her vagina until its slick and shiny with her vaginal juices. Pull your finger out and suck her vaginal juices completely off while making eye contact. Tell her, “Hmm… your pussy juice tastes sooooo good. I could just eat down here all day.”
If she smells or tastes downright foul, this is caused by out-of-control bacteria, not her natural vaginal moisture. Don’t tell her that she smells. Tactfully suggest that you take a shower together first so that you’ll both smell clean.
Above all else, make sure that YOU relax… or she won’t! If you’re squeamish and tense, she’ll sense that immediately and follow you right into it. Remember, you’re the leader and you’re setting the tone.
So relax. Don’t worry. There’s almost nothing you can do that won’t feel terrific. Even if at times you may feel confused and uncertain, she’ll be in heaven. Any licking and sucking of her vagina or clitoris is going to feel great to her.
Most men enjoy having their genitals touched at any time, whether they’re aroused or not. This is not the case with women however.
Most women need a good bit of stimulation before having their clitoris tongue lashed. Unless her clitoris is engorged with blood, it will be too sensitive to touch directly. So don’t dive right in without a little prep work. First you need to get her dripping-wet hot down there.
Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more than men, love to be teased. Make her anticipate the sensations.
Kiss and lick her inner thighs first. Then lick the groove where her inner thigh meets the outer vaginal lips. Go up to the very edge of her pussy licking long strokes.
Before you touch her pussy with your tongue, gently use your softest, warmest breath on the whole area. Come dangerously close to her pussy and then float away.
Licking the Pussy
Once she’s hot and wet, move onto the main feast. Give her pussy a tongue-lashing, but don’t touch her clitoris yet– you’re still warming her up and her clitoris might be too sensitive still.
Move in and out of her pussy lips and around and around with your tongue. Keep your tongue wet and moist.
Now almost all men get this part wrong. Don’t extend, tense or point your tongue like you see in porno flicks. These are actors putting on a show for the camera. It’s better to use the whole surface or the flat of the tongue rather than just the tip. Just try licking your own hand with the point of your tongue and then again with the flat. Which one feels better?
Again, tell her how much you like eating her. Sigh as if you’re in heaven. Tell her, “I love eating you out… I could be down here all day… mmmmmm.”
After you’ve pleasured her pussy to the point she’s really wet and juicy, move on to her clitoris.
A woman’s clitoris is the most pleasure-sensitive part of her vagina and that’s where you’ll want to devote your attention. In fact, the tiny little clitoris has more sensory nerve endings than the entire penis!
Imagine the sensation of your entire dick being stroked all at once in the space of green pea. In other words, be gentle! Most men make the mistake of licking the clitoris too hard. Keep the pressure light, especially at first.
Every woman is different however. Some women will love it if you suck hard and directly on their clit. A few may shriek in pain at direct contact, even if they’re excited. For most women, what would have felt rough at first will feel fine once she’s very excited.
Taking Her over the Edge
She’s getting close to orgasm now. Yes, varying your stimulation is good for getting her there, but once she’s close to orgasm you want to keep a steady rhythm and intensity. When it comes to clitoral orgasms, wandering off or changing technique when she’s on the verge of cumming will only sabotage it.
Once you’ve got her hips bucking up and down, pressing against your face and she starts to have an orgasm– don’t let go of that clit! Most men make the BIG MISTAKE of stopping too soon.
Stay in there no matter what. If she’s bucking up and down, try to move with her as best you can. Unlike men, women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm.
So how long should you keep going? Until she makes you stop. Usually you’ll know when she suddenly pushes your head away or says, “Stop!” because her clitoris will be very sensitive after she’s through having her orgasm. Otherwise, she’s one of those women who can have more stimulation after orgasm and can have multiples, in which case just keep going.
If you’ve tried every technique you know of and she still hasn’t had orgasm, don’t worry about it. Unlike for a guy, oral sex for a woman doesn’t need to include orgasm for it to be very pleasurable and satisfying.
Your pal, Jesse