Being ‘Liked’ By Girls Doesn’t Get You Laid!… And Why Guys Fail In Dating

99% of guys come into pickup from the frame: “I want to be LIKED by girls.”

What they do is they putter around for YEARS being a “nice guy” trying to be liked by girls.

Yes, they learn theory, tricks, and tactics, but ultimately they remain “nice guys”.

……..They don’t interrupt conversations at the bar and take them over.

……..They don’t approach because they think the girl might have a boyfriend and they don’t want to get in the way.

……..They don’t look girl’s body up and down and get their creep on because they want to be a “gentleman”.

……..They don’t pull the girl in and grab her ass to get their faces slapped.

……..They use routines to say “the right things” to make the girl laugh, but not offend her or challenge her.

When you want to get better with girls, it’s quite an understandable impulse to want to be “Liked”.

But you know the best way to be LIKED by everyone?  Kiss ass.  Supplicate.  Make your voice quiet and accommodating.  Don’t take up space.  Be helpful.  Say funny things to make the girls laugh.  Tell people what you think they want to hear.  Mold your opinions to theirs.  And NEVER show your sexual intentions lest you creep someone out.

That’s exactly how you get LIKED by everyone.  But it doesn’t get you LAID.

If you want to get LAID, you have to let go of being liked all the time and start getting in people’s faces and start stepping on toes.

To get laid, you’re going to need to become an I-come-first, troublemaking Rake to overturn the natural order, with a smile.

That means leering at girls and openly undressing her with your eyes as you talk to them.

That means telling girls upfront that they’re hot, even if the guy standing next to her could be her boyfriend.

That means loudly interrupting a group at a bar and taking over the conversation.

That means pushing yourself on an interested girl, even is her cock-blocking friends are screaming at you and giving you the finger.

Game and pickup and having sexual abundance is NOT about being liked.  It’s about making girls wet between the legs because of your reckless persistence and unapologetic sexuality, even if that means pissing off half the people on the planet.

If you’re in this to be LIKED you’re in the wrong field of study.

If you’re relying on routines to be LIKED by the girls, you’re coming from a bad place.

If you’re opening timidly and hiding your intentions to ensure that you’re LIKED, you’re going to fail.

And MOST guys who come into this game will learn a little theory and then putter around for YEARS… and YEARS… trying to make girls LIKE them.

And they NEVER get over their approach anxiety.  Because that need to be liked is *THE* source of your approach anxiety.

Only when you decide to drop all the “I hope this make her like me” phony, not-you gimmicks and instead begin to openly and unapologetically get your CREEP ON with girls, only then will the approach anxiety fall away and girls begin REACTING to you as a sexual caveman and Rake who goes for what he wants.

Reckless Game teaches you just that, to Recklessly take action, to Recklessly persist, and to Recklessly express your core desires as a man, regardless of being “liked”.

So remember, this is not about being LIKED, this is about getting LAID and keep in mind the difference.

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Dan
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I agree with this article and soon after reading Double Your Dating back in 2004 I adopted a less caring attitude. I later refined that attitude when I discovered there was more out there than David DeAngelo. HOWEVER – and this is a big however, choosing to behave in a badboy way and putting my “creep on” and not trying to be liked by every girl I met hasn’t proven effective for me. As a matter of fact when approaching women with my friends we usually play the good cop/bad cop role as me being the bad cop. I’ve noticed… Read more »
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This is so interesting and thanks for the website Jesse. I keep reading page after page because the content seems to be triggering a realisation after another. I’m always wanting to be liked, i think it seems from having severe ADHD as a child and still quite strong now, people as a result would get annoyed with me and i would be always be approval seeking to become popular. It is clear to me that this is what i’m doing wit my staff and how its making me a weaker leader as a result. So it is clear to see… Read more »
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Anonymous

It is a messed up country when you have to be rude to get girls. Is much better to go to third world countries and find dependent type nice girls then become an ass to lay women you would never want to marry to begin with.

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The nice guys should remain nice because the goal is to get good girls like fuddy duddy types and not bitches

Rich
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Rich
The nice guy mindset can creep up on you if you don’t exercise your reflective skills properly. I had a breakup at the start of the year and ,honestly, I felt like shit for a while. I’d really put my balls and heart on the line with that one. But I picked myself up and my social life had been effortless and tons of fun up until the last month or so when everything stopped giving me the same buzz. I’d fell into the trap of mixing pleasure and friendship. Sometimes, if your having a shit couple of weeks and… Read more »
JIMBO
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JIMBO

THANKS MAN.

JIMBO
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JIMBO

THANKS JESSE.

Alex
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Alex
I have a question: when you say “They don’t interrupt conversations at the bar and take them over.   ……..They don’t look girl’s body up and down and get their creep on because they want to be a “gentleman”.   ……..They don’t pull the girl in and grab her ass to get their faces slapped.” Isn’t this taking the “reckless game” too far? because although expressing our desires is the only way to get laid, especially in clubs, i don’t understand the need to be disrespectful and not caring about others around the girl, by the way, doesn’t contradict the… Read more »
josh
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josh

Great article. Tommy..Guys who seek approval or want to be “liked” come across as needy, which can be unattractive. A guy who is indifferent to the outcome and says what he wants and takes what he wants is attractive.

Emanuel
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Emanuel

Dear Jesse, Thanks for the awesome artikels.I’ve read some on the site, and the one you have sent ..I like. You’re so bad, aou’re going to make me lose first! B Around, E.

sandee
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sandee

thanks Jesse. I neeeded that… we guys get lost in the “LIKE”, thanks bro

Tommy
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Tommy
I hear you Jesse, A lot of what you say makes perfect sense to me and I see myself as that guy who wants to be liked and because of that, I have difficulty approaching. I was in Poland last week and there are so many beautiful women there. I tried approaching, but they won’t even make eye contact or slow down their walk… However, later when I was more than a little drunk, I made some “successful” approaches, I had the girls hooked and interested, but then I lost them… one girl threw her lighter at me, one kicked… Read more »
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