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99% of guys come into pickup from the frame: “I want to be LIKED by girls.”
What they do is they putter around for YEARS being a “nice guy” trying to be liked by girls.
Yes, they learn theory, tricks, and tactics, but ultimately they remain “nice guys”.
……..They don’t interrupt conversations at the bar and take them over.
……..They don’t approach because they think the girl might have a boyfriend and they don’t want to get in the way.
……..They don’t look girl’s body up and down and get their creep on because they want to be a “gentleman”.
……..They don’t pull the girl in and grab her ass to get their faces slapped.
……..They use routines to say “the right things” to make the girl laugh, but not offend her or challenge her.
When you want to get better with girls, it’s quite an understandable impulse to want to be “Liked”.
But you know the best way to be LIKED by everyone? Kiss ass. Supplicate. Make your voice quiet and accommodating. Don’t take up space. Be helpful. Say funny things to make the girls laugh. Tell people what you think they want to hear. Mold your opinions to theirs. And NEVER show your sexual intentions lest you creep someone out.
That’s exactly how you get LIKED by everyone. But it doesn’t get you LAID.
If you want to get LAID, you have to let go of being liked all the time and start getting in people’s faces and start stepping on toes.
To get laid, you’re going to need to become an I-come-first, troublemaking Rake to overturn the natural order, with a smile.
That means leering at girls and openly undressing her with your eyes as you talk to them.
That means telling girls upfront that they’re hot, even if the guy standing next to her could be her boyfriend.
That means loudly interrupting a group at a bar and taking over the conversation.
That means pushing yourself on an interested girl, even is her cock-blocking friends are screaming at you and giving you the finger.
Game and pickup and having sexual abundance is NOT about being liked. It’s about making girls wet between the legs because of your reckless persistence and unapologetic sexuality, even if that means pissing off half the people on the planet.
If you’re in this to be LIKED you’re in the wrong field of study.
If you’re relying on routines to be LIKED by the girls, you’re coming from a bad place.
If you’re opening timidly and hiding your intentions to ensure that you’re LIKED, you’re going to fail.
And MOST guys who come into this game will learn a little theory and then putter around for YEARS… and YEARS… trying to make girls LIKE them.
And they NEVER get over their approach anxiety. Because that need to be liked is *THE* source of your approach anxiety.
Only when you decide to drop all the “I hope this make her like me” phony, not-you gimmicks and instead begin to openly and unapologetically get your CREEP ON with girls, only then will the approach anxiety fall away and girls begin REACTING to you as a sexual caveman and Rake who goes for what he wants.
Reckless Game teaches you just that, to Recklessly take action, to Recklessly persist, and to Recklessly express your core desires as a man, regardless of being “liked”.
So remember, this is not about being LIKED, this is about getting LAID and keep in mind the difference.
Leave a comment below and let me know your experience!
~ Jesse
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I hear you Jesse,
A lot of what you say makes perfect sense to me and I see myself as that guy who wants to be liked and because of that, I have difficulty approaching.
I was in Poland last week and there are so many beautiful women there. I tried approaching, but they won’t even make eye contact or slow down their walk…
However, later when I was more than a little drunk, I made some “successful” approaches, I had the girls hooked and interested, but then I lost them… one girl threw her lighter at me, one kicked me, a couple of them stormed away in a huff… to tell you the truth, I don’t remember what I did, either to initially gain their interest or why I pissed them off…
But this isn’t the first time I’ve had this kind of experience, so, I gotta ask you, if not being liked doesn’t get you laid, how does being a jerk get you laid any more often… seems like so-called “bad boys” have something else about them that women find irresistible, that a nice guy acting bad just doesn’t possess…
Tommy J
What I’m saying is that guys when they start out, are so obsessed with being “liked” by the girls that they never step up, or they’re extremely timid and conservative in their actions. They don’t touch the girl enough or lead enough.
From what you’re saying, I can’t diagnose what is going wrong – not enough details. Girls kicking and throwing lighters at you is not normal, so something is certainly off.
thanks Jesse. I neeeded that… we guys get lost in the “LIKE”, thanks bro
Sandee no prob
Dear Jesse, Thanks for the awesome artikels.I’ve read some on the site, and the one you have sent ..I like. You’re so bad, aou’re going to make me lose first! B Around, E.
Great article. Tommy..Guys who seek approval or want to be “liked” come across as needy, which can be unattractive. A guy who is indifferent to the outcome and says what he wants and takes what he wants is attractive.
EXACTLY !!
I have a question: when you say
“They don’t interrupt conversations at the bar and take them over.
……..They don’t look girl’s body up and down and get their creep on because they want to be a “gentleman”.
……..They don’t pull the girl in and grab her ass to get their faces slapped.”
Isn’t this taking the “reckless game” too far? because although expressing our desires is the only way to get laid, especially in clubs, i don’t understand the need to be disrespectful and not caring about others around the girl, by the way, doesn’t contradict the mystery method in which we should befriend the group first? And also, how do you apply this to the daytime in a place where the girl can feel the social pressure?
thanks
Alex, most guys completely hide their intent, so this post is to get you out of that mindset. You’re far better than at the other extreme than to hide it.
It’s not necessary to befriend her friends first – that’s hiding your intent. You can do it that way. But you can also go directly after the target, and THEN befriend the friends. You come across as MUCH more alpha that way.
During the day, you need intent too. You may not show it so intensely, but you DO need to FEEL it to have that drive to go get her.
Nice article Jesse. I wish I would of read this article when I was 11 or 12 years old it would of saved me tons of disappointment and loneliness….
I noticed that when I approach women directly and when I’m up front with them I feel less of a pussy and my approach anxiety diminishes massively. Fuck it…. that’s why I love Charles Barkley, Terrell Owens, Randy Moss, Gary Coleman, Billy Bob Thornton, Howard Stern, and other loud mouth upfront men.
I think American culture and religion in someways has a lot to play in this. I was raised is a very strick ultra conservetive Christian house hold with 4 boys and no girls. Men are made to feel guilty for wanting to have sexual desires for women. Men were made to feel guilty for looking at a womens body. Men are taught to be ultra respectful to women and pay for everything because that’s what gentleman are suppost to do. Men are taught to be super nice to women because women are soooo presious. Bull Shit…..
We see it all in the media where the beta loser always wins over the girls from the evil Alpha Jerk. (ie: The movie: The nice guy). But here’s the reality, when you program this type of guilt into a mans mind at an early age he loses that hunter caveman instinct of going after when he wants and his confidence is destroyed at an early age. It’s like taming a Lion at an early age, the lion loses his wildness.
I say F*#K what your parents think, what your friends think, what your female co-workers think, and what beautiful women even think. Just be upfront. Because here’s the truth most women put on a front when you first approach them, it’s called a”BITCH SHIELD” and she’s not being authentic. So the point is why do you have to put on a FAKE “Comedian Shield.” I just try to connect with women when I approach, screw making them laugh. I’ll let them know within the first 30 seconds that they are hot as hell and that I was staring their bodies up and down for the last 10 minutes. And the truth is women want men to stair at their bodies, they want the attention, don’t let the media and women fool you in to thinking that your a pervert. It’s natural and any women how hates being checked out by other men has serious mental issues…..