Can’t Make Your Girlfriend Orgasm? Reprogram Her Beliefs About Sex

Jesse

It is important to understand that the capacity for sexual arousal and orgasm is biologically programmed into the body for women, so if it isn’t happening, something must be in the way: pathological trances.

A pathological trance is a belief that you’ve learned sometime in the past that’s meant to protect you in some way, but in reality is maladaptive and self-defeating.

I remember the first time eating out the pussy of a girl I had recently started dating.  She lay on the bed, legs and hips rhythmically rocking with warm pleasure.  Her juices ran down her butt cheeks into the sheets as I ran my tongue up and down her labias in slow strokes.  All of a sudden, and without cause, she abruptly stopped rocking and became sexually unresponsive.

To my surprise, she had felt as if her body was “going out of control” and she didn’t want me to think that she was a “slut”.  Just like that, in a matter of mere moments, she had switched from bucking in sexual ecstasy to feeling fear and shame!  Her pathological trance stopped her dead in her tracks when she felt she was “going out of control”, preventing her from being a truly sexual and happy human being.

She had a belief, learned from young childhood before she had a critical mind, that enjoying sexual pleasure too much was shameful, unladylike, and being a “slut”.  The belief is attempting to protect her from the negative consequences of being labeled a slut – even if it’s not a real danger and only an imaginary one.

The real consequences of this belief had prevented her from having an enjoyable sex life.

Some women are holding on to control so tight they can hardly breathe.  They just can’t let go, relax and enjoy.  In fact, the biggest barrier to orgasm for women is mental distraction from a pathological trance.  Pathological thoughts and beliefs in her mind take her away from the good sensations in her body, taking her out of the moment and losing touch with her senses and pleasure.

As a general rule, the amount of pleasure a woman experiences is directly proportional to the level she can let go and surrender her body and mind to her pleasure.

It doesn’t matter how many fancy sex techniques you know; they’re worthless if she can’t let go and truly enjoy herself.  The best sex she’ll ever have is when she feels good about herself and what she’s doing.

Fortunately, you can replace a woman’s pathological trances with new, wonderful, sexually adventurous beliefs in their place using hypnosis.

First, let’s take a look at some of the more common pathological trances that you may encounter with women.

Rape or Molestation Flashbacks

Between one in four to one in three women have been raped or molested in the United States.  She may have a posttraumatic stress reaction in which sex reactivates fear and unpleasant memories.  She may have trouble trusting other men, letting go of herself in the moment, or surrender to sexual intimacy.  Sex may become a duty rather than an expression of love, pleasure, or comfort.

With some women, as intimacy increases, so does her fear of being dependant, vulnerable, and unable to protect herself.   Commitment begins to feel like being trapped in an unsafe situation.

To make matters more complicated, sexually abused women tend to blame themselves for their experiences.

Fear of Pregnancy

Fear of pregnancy is very common in inhibiting a woman’s desire.  Many women will still have a fear of becoming pregnant even when they’re on the pill and when you’re wearing a condom.

Body Image or Age Concerns

Most women feel dissatisfied with some part of their body.  Often they don’t like their bodies for reasons they cannot and should not try to change.   Some worry that their breasts are too small or too large, that they have too much hair on their bodies, the scars or stretch marks on their skin, or about their weight.  Other women worry about how they look, smell, and taste.  They worry about how the cellulite in their legs or fat on their tummy might quiver unattractively.  They worry about being “clean down there.”  Most of these real or imagined defects are most noticeable only to the woman herself.

She may be more focused on her appearance rather than being focused on pleasure and arousal.

Fear of “Going out of Control”

Many women worry if they really enjoy sex “a lot.”  Some women when they become highly aroused may feel that their body is “running away with her” and that she is losing control.  They may fear they will become insatiable and wanton for sex if they let their sexual drive run amuck, so they automatically turn it off.

Discomfort with the Male Penis

If she’s inexperienced, she may be unfamiliar with male anatomy.  Some women who grew up sheltered create imaginative, and often scary, ideas of what a penis looks like.

The Work Ethic

Good sex is fun and playful.  But some women are workaholics and feel guilty when they’re not working on their career, making sure their house is the nicest on the block, or spending time with their children.  They have trouble letting loose their carefree side that doesn’t always watch the clock.

Feeling Vulnerable or Not Able to Trust

A woman may have had a disastrous relationship with a previous partner, being badly hurt emotionally.  Or she may have seen her father emotionally abuse her mother.  As a result, she may have fears of being emotionally vulnerable and have trouble trusting men – preventing her from feeling free to focus on her own pleasure.

Fear of Being Labeled a Slut

In our society, women are taught to display their sexuality, but not to be sexual beings.  They are taught to act like virgin Madonnas in public or else they risk being labeled a “slut”.  For many women, they’re taught this is the very worst thing they could be.

The result is that many women are very afraid of their natural desires, especially younger women who are very much controlled by society’s expectations of them.  They don’t want to look like they want sex so they bury their fantasies and desires deep into the pit of their stomachs.

This pathological trance may run so deep that the thought of any kind of sex at all might trigger the fear of being labeled a slut.

General embarrassment, shame or guilt

Women receive all sorts of cultural and religious messages that can inhibit their sexual desire, arousal, and orgasm.  She may believe that masturbation will cause sickness or blindness or it’s just bad.  She may believe that premarital sex might send her to purgatory.  Sex is very mental for a woman… if any kind of shame or guilt gets in the way, it will be very difficult for her to get aroused.

Performance anxiety

Sex in women’s magazines is often portrayed as a goal sport, with all emphasis on achieving orgasm for herself or achieving orgasm for her man.  She may worry about how long it takes her to reach climax, how much time it takes her man to spend stroking, licking, and caressing her to put her over the edge.  This kind of performance anxiety pops her right out of the kind of mental state necessary for orgasm – relaxed and comfortable.  The more she worries, the more difficult it is to achieve her goal.

Sink The Religious Guilt About Kinky Sex

In some cases your woman may feel religious guilt about having kinky sex with you.

One can surely agree that the Church’s moral stance on sex borders on the guilt ridden and neurotic.

Yet the sexual morality of today’s Christians was not something handed down by Christ himself. Rather, it was handed down by later practitioners and leaders who were more interested in controlling the masses than following the original tenets.

For instance, the early clergy of the Christian church enjoyed polyamorous and polygamous relationships. Priests and monks were allowed to marry and have children and often had more than one wife. Even up to the 7th Century, it was permissible by word of the Pope himself that a man could have more than one wife.

Closed views of sex by the church largely originate with St. Augustine. Formerly indulging and experimenting with all types of sex himself, he became an overzealous, anti-sex persecutor who preached that sex was only valid if intended as a means to have children. Any sex, even that within the holy bonds of marriage, used for pleasure was wrong and you would burn for it.

This attitude still follows us today; some women are taught from childhood that they’ll suffer for all eternity in guilt and shame and hell for even having sex outside of marriage.

To a young child lacking a critical factor, these fantasies feel vividly real and nightmarish.

If a woman is struggling with her sexuality and the idea of visiting a club because of her Christian upbringing, you may want to direct her to the Liberated Christians website at http://www.libchrist.com

The site will give her counterbalancing social acceptance from other Christians that sexuality in all its forms should be celebrated. The site also exposes false traditions of sexual repression that have no biblical basis.

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How do you get by the fact that she thinks her but is fat and you can not touch her there during sex are She dont want to sit on you because She feels to heavy(she is not). Complementing doesnt work….
What can i do?

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