How To Get Laid in Colombia… Jesse’s Super Guide!

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This guide will answer your two burning questions,

a) How hot are Colombian women, *really*?  And…

b) How good is Colombia for getting laid with hot girls?

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Since I’ve lived between the cities of Medellin and Cartagena for half a year, and also visited Cali, Bogota, Pereira, and Baranquilla, I can give you a pretty accurate psychological profile of Colombian women and the prospects of meeting pretty girls and getting laid there.

First, let’s take a look at the quality of the women.

So Jesse, How Beautiful Are the Women Really?

What the more attractive young women in Cartagena generally look like.

Most men who visit Colombia hype up the beauty of the Colombian women to no end.

But it’s simply NOT true that all Colombian women are head-turners.  In fact, the vast majority of the women are quite “normal” looking.

However, because Colombian women don’t eat junk food and they walk everywhere, they DO tend to be lean and fit.

In addition, the population in Colombia is much younger than the U.S. or Europe.  Just a generation back, couples would typically have 3 to 8 children.  That birth rate has slowed down since to just 2 to 3 children, but the result is lots of 18 to 30 year old women running around today.

In addition, you’ve got a wide variety of ethnic types, depending on what city in Colombia you’re visiting.  The North coast of Cartagena and Baranquilla has darker skinned women, while Medellin has lighter skinned women, and even a few blondes.  Cities like Cali in the South have more cinnamon colored women.  So you can city hop and find all types of women.

In addition, Colombian men are notorious cheaters.  There are no laws protecting women, so women usually end up getting impregnated and then dumped by their Colombian boyfriend or husband.  Because of the competition, there’s additional pressure on the women to maintain their physical appearance.

The video below shows what the idealized girl from Cali looks like – the “10s”.  In Cali, that means a pretty face, cinnamon color skin, a plump ass, athletic body, and breast implants.  Keep in mind these women are not representative of the general female population, most women are nowhere near as attractive or fit.

Medellin is similar, but more white skinned, thinner, and less butt.  This video illustrates the best of Medellin women, the “10s”.

Colombian women are also known as being sexy for how they move and dance– that “Latin Fire” – which is a quality that goes beyond just looks and body.

The video below is of Colombian women showing off.

The photos I’ve posted here are the “crème of the crop” so to speak.  95% of the women however would fall into normal range of body and looks.

So overall, pretty girls but no more so than say, Miami or Los Angelos.

How the women get exaggerated

Girls from Cartagena, Colombia

Still, Colombia gets hyped up as having amazingly stunning and beautiful women.

The reason is that men with no game and who can’t get laid in their home country, especially aging men past their prime, come to Colombia and start getting IOIs (indicators of interest) for he first time in their lives from the women.

Typical scenario: A 50-year old guy with no game and a big belly (let’s call him “Smith”), who never gets eye contact from a girl back home in say, Georgia, suddenly touches ground in Medellin, Colombia and suddenly 30-year old women are making eye contact with him.

Add to that, Smith hasn’t traveled much before, and being in a new country feels exciting.  He feels young again and his testosterone is pumping.

Smith has a date with a MILF that he set up on beforehand, bangs a few hookers, gets some eye contact from the local ladies, and then goes back home to Georgia telling everyone that Colombia has absolutely the hottest women on the planet, and that the U.S. only has ugly “fem-cunts” who won’t give him the time of day.

It’s not that your typical 20 year old girl in Colombia is any hotter than your typical 20 year old girl in Miami or Los Angeles.  She isn’t.

But to the old guy Smith who hasn’t gotten laid in over ten years, he’s suddenly being validated with eye contact, he’s on a travel high, his ego shoots through the roof, and he thinks he’s in pussy and hot women paradise.

The truth is, his opinions are wrapped up in his own ego.  He is in no way objective.

So take heed that you can meet just as beautiful women in the U.S. or Europe as long as your game is tight and you don’t shit on your body with fast food.

Okay, now onward…

Getting Laid in Colombia

Medellin hottie

The second question is, is it easier to get laid in Colombia than in the United States?

Well, yes… and no.

The answer is complex, because it depends on who you are and what your goals are.

The reality is, getting laid in Colombia can actually be surprisingly difficult.

Just as a Colombian may mistakenly believe that the streets of the U.S.A. are paved in gold and money, you would be mistaken to believe that the streets of Colombia paved in easy women.

Yes, Colombia has hookers.  In fact, that’s why most gringos go.  You’ll find fat, middle-aged Gringos with absolutely no game fulfilling their dreams of banging a young woman… by paying for it.

But this guide isn’t about shagging disease-ridden hookers.  It’s about meeting regular, quality Colombian women.

Here’s what’s GREAT about Colombian women!

Cartagena girls

1. You are a Gringo, and therefore a desired commodity!

If your native language is English, you’re different, exotic, and assumed to be high status.

There aren’t too many gringos in Colombia, because most are either (a) falsely too scared to go (b) too broke (c) have no passport (d) or just don’t know about Colombia.

So you pretty much have the run of the place to yourself.  For every one Gringo there, there’s about 20 girls who would love to date a cool Gringo.  So you’ve got high status right off the bat.  Expect women to give you indicators of interest, even if you’re not the best looking guy.

You’ll even be more in the money if you take 20 minutes to dye your hair blonde and get blue colored contacts!

More Cartagena babes

2. Age differences are not a big deal!

In Colombia, you’ll see 45 year old guys dating 20 year old women.  I’ve even met an ugly 50 year old dude, who lived in Colombia, dating a woman in her mid-20s.

In Colombia, there’s far less social stigma about age differences.  It’s okay for a woman to marry a much older gentlemen, as long as he can provide for her.

I’ve seen older gentlemen with young women in the U.S. too, but you need real game to pick up a younger woman, because there’s more social stigma against it.  If you’ve got game and you hook up with that younger 18 year old, you’ll often meet push-back from her family and parents.  Not so in Colombia!

3. Colombia is good for day game

The U.S. is a real car culture; we drive everywhere.  And for that reason, many cities are lame for meeting women during the day.  You’re pretty much restricted to your local mall or bookstore.

Colombia however relies far more on good ole’ fashioned walking, buses, trains, and public transit.  Not only does it keep the women nominally fit, it also makes it easy to meet them.

You can go for a stroll in any neighborhood and have non-stop daytime sets for daytime game.  Great!

And Here’s why Colombia Is Often HARD For Getting Laid

Party in Medellin

Colombia sounds like pussy paradise, right?  Not so fast cowboy!

Colombia is actually a *difficult* place to lay a bunch of hot girls.  And here’s why.

1. Gringos, while status symbols, also have a bad reputation.

Yes, it’s a paradox.  As a gringo, you’re exotic and desired.

At the same time, gringos have a reputation for shamelessly chasing prostitutes.  And that’s exactly what 90% of the gringos there do.

These gringos have zero game and have no interest in learning game.  They just prefer to pay for cheap, easy sex.

Consequently, regular Colombian women will not sleep with you so easily.  They’re suspicious that you’re in Colombia just there to hook up with prostitutes.  And they feel if they sleep with you right away, you will just fuck them and dump them, like a prostitute.

Also, Colombian women who hook up with a gringo too fast may fear her reputation becomes tarnished.  “She had sex with a gringo after the first date?… hmm, maybe he paid her!” goes the thinking there.

So it can look bad to be seen in public with a gringo too quickly, even though you’re simultaneously a status symbol.  Fucked up, right?

That means the girls will throw you lots of IOIs – eye contact for instance.  But it’s quite difficult to actually get their pants off.

Compare that to the United States.  Yes, it’s more difficult to get IOIs from the girls in the U.S.  But once you’re “in” with a girl, she’s much more liberal about jumping into bed with you.

2. Colombian women are sexually mistrustful of men in general.

More Medellin women

Colombian men have a notorious reputation for being massive cheaters.

First, there are very few laws for protecting women.  A Colombian man can bang a girl, get her pregnant, and move on to another girl with little consequence.  He need not fear paying child support.

Thus, you’ll find an enormous number of abandoned single mothers in Colombia… and deadbeat Dads.  And as a result, women are mistrustful of men in general – and extremely jealous if they’ve got a man.

This kind of culture is NOT conducive for breeding sexually liberated, promiscuous women.  Instead, a Colombian woman is inclined to date you without putting out for a long period of time to gauge your “faithfulness level” first.  Once you demonstrate that you’ll be faithful and you’re trustworthy, only then will she sleep with you.

It’s not true across the board, but Colombian women are generally quite cautious about men.

3. The Catholic Church.

Old-school religion still touches Colombia deeply.  While the Church’s grip on sexual morality is continually loosening, there’s still much guilt surrounding sex.

Colombia is NOT like Sweden where casual sex is accepted.  In an agnostic country like Sweden, a young women will meet you in the club, take you home that night, introduce you to her parents, and walk you right into her bedroom and fuck you with her parents able to listen in.  Not so in Colombia… noooooooooo way!

Women are deeply concerned about their reputation and the Catholic Church is a powerful moralizing and guilt-creating factor.

4. Nightlife is very social circle oriented.

Partying in Cartagena

In a U.S. or European bar or club, it’s a mingling culture.

Yes, in the U.S. girls go out with their friends and in groups.  But it’s perfectly acceptable to forcefully interject yourself into the group and mingle.  Most guys have too much approach anxiety to do it, but the fact is that the logistics are on your side.  Women stand in small groups and are open to mingle.  As long as you’ve got some balls, it’s easy to meet women.

That’s not so much the case in Colombia.  Women go out in large groups of friends with other guys, and they tend to sit and socialize in their group.

The women are out with other guys because (a) Colombian culture dictates women need to be protected and chaperoned at all times by male friends and (b) women go with men because guys are expected to pay.

In the U.S. or Europe, you can walk around and mingle.  But in Colombia the logistics in many night spots are far less favorable for you.

5. Most young women still live with their conservative and watchul parents and family.

Cartagena women

Colombia is a poor country.  A young woman can expect to earn $300 to $500 USD per month.  Consequently, a young woman will continue living in her parents home until she gets married.

As a result, most young Colombian women are not independent.  Her parents can watch her every move, and they know who she’s going out with and where she’s going at all times.

In addition, typically her grandparents are also living in the house.  And her unemployed brother.  And her uncle lives next door.

Yes… she’s got a lot of family pressure on her, and her reputation is at stake!

If you call her to schedule a date, her parents will know.  So before agreeing to meet you, or even take your call, she has to deal with her family – and family comes first in Colombia.

Will her parents judge her reputation?  Will they judge negatively that she’s meeting a gringo?  Is this gringo out for just sex, and what will my parents think?

There’s enormous pressure on her then to NOT sex you up even if she does agree to meet with you.

6. The older women tend to be single mothers… and busy.

Medellin MILFs

Most available, single women over age 26 will already have children – and be a single mother.  Not only is she broke on a meager Colombian income, but she needs to work long hours and she’s got kids to take care of.

She’ll be eager to date you because she’ll see you as her and her children’s ticket out of poverty.  That doesn’t mean she isn’t genuinely attracted.  She is genuinely attracted.  But her circumstances dictate that she won’t sleep with you that easily.

She’s looking for a financially steady and responsible man who will support her emotionally and financially and accept her children – a provider.  So she’s going to want to date you, size you up, and see if you’re real marriage material.

Again, not conducive for easy hook ups.

What this all means

Your typical Colombian female has enormous family pressure.  There’s religious guilt.  She’s not independent.  And she’s afraid that you, as a gringo, are just after hookers and quick sex.

If she puts out fast with a gringo, she’ll get a reputation as a prostitute.  So your typical girl, no matter how much she’s attracted to you, will string you along for weeks, if not months.  And the more she likes you, the more she’ll want to string you along to see if you’re serious about making her your exclusive girlfriend or wife.

To Get Colombian Girls, Here’s What You Need!

Have I scared you yet?  Do you still want to play the game?  Okay, here’s 3 essentials you’ll need under your belt before going if you want any kind of success at all.

#1. You need enough balls to cold approach

Can’t do a cold approach in your home country?  Then you’ll find yourself no more confident in Colombia either.  And you’ll meet exactly ZERO girls.

Women will give you lots of IOIs perhaps, looking your way.  But they will NOT approach you… EVER.

My forceful recommendation is to approach at least 3 women a day in your home country for 30 days straight.  Once you can do that, you’re ready to go to Colombia.

And if you can’t meet 6s and 7s in your home country, you won’t be able to meet girls in Colombia either.

If your game is still weak, you haven’t gotten the right advice. Most of the dating programs out there put you inside your head and inadvertently create MORE approach anxiety.

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#2. You need time.

You’re going to be in Colombia a just a week you say?  That’s not enough time to hook up with a girl, even if your game skills are mad tight.

Colombia is more a place you need to go to actually *live* there for *months* to really hook up with hot women.

Medellin women

#3. You need Spanish.

If you can’t speak a word of Spanish, you won’t even be able to make a basic connection with a girl.

Most Colombians don’t speak any English.  And if you can’t speak a word of Spanish, the girl will assume you’re just there looking for easy hook-ups with prostitutes.

So it’s key to do the 90 lessons of Pimsleur for Spanish before you go, which will be enough Spanish to see you through your trip.  Don’t go though before you’ve done all 90 lessons!

Who Colombia is good for… and who should skip it

The “Way Beyond AFC”

The AFC has never approached a girl before.  He has massive approach anxiety.  He “knows” game in theory, but has never put it into practice.

He thinks going to Colombia will be a quick fix to hooking up.

My recommendation: If you can’t at least approach a girl in your home country, you’ll have just as much trouble meeting women in Colombia.

Work on your game and confidence first. Again, I highly recommend my 15 CD Nonverbal Sexual Mind Control program. The one program is all you need to hit the ground running.

The “Monger”

This guy has $500 to blow on a debauched sex-filled marathon of hookers.  He doesn’t care about meeting regular women, he just wants to pay for quick and easy pu-tang.

My recommendation: Most gringos go to Colombia for exactly that.  And the sexually conservative Catholic culture, coupled with economic poverty and legal prostitution, has created a high demand for girls willing to spread their legs on command.  If you just want hookers, Colombia will work for you.

The “Fast-Strike PUA”

This guy has decent game.  He can meet girls back home, but he’s only got a week or two to vacation in Colombia.

My recommendation: You’ll get IOIs and phone numbers, but you’ll be unlikely to hook up with a quality girl.  You’re better off going to Europe or to Brazil where girls also like Americans, but they’re far more likely to partake in quick sex.

The “Passive Incomer”

You’ve got passive income of $1,000 monthly or more (4 hour workweek style), and you want to hang out in Colombia for months, if not years.  You’ve got the time to learn Spanish and practice game on the local women.

My recommendation: Colombia can be a great option.  It’s cheap, and you’ll have time to meet a beautiful girl and get her into bed.  Still, Colombia is far better for the guy looking for one, quality woman than it is for lots of one-night stands.

The “Cradle Robber”

This guy is older and looking to hook up with a far younger woman as his girlfriend.  He has lots of time to spend finding her and courting her.

My recommendation: If you’ve got months to work the scene, Colombia can be a great option for you.  The women are pretty, and larger age differences are socially accepted.  Some of the old farts who retired and are living there have girlfriends 20 and 30 years younger than themselves.

The “Night Life Partier”

You’ve got good game and you want to tongue down girls in night clubs and bars and go wild.  You’re looking to pull girls home for one night stands.

My recommendation: Skip Colombia.  You’re far better off in slutty, college party culture like Cancun during Spring Break, or just back in the good old U.S.A.

The “Hot Girlfriend Seeker”

You just want to meet a hot chick for an exclusive, long-term relationship.  You speak Spanish, you’ve got decent game, and you’ve got time to be down there.

My recommendation: The same facts that make Colombian women are hard to bed also makes them extremely loyal – and almost scarily possessive – girlfriends.  If you think you can maintain sexual faithfulness in return, and you’ve got some months to meet and court a hot girl down there, Colombia can be a good option to find a hot girlfriend and eventual potential wife to settle down and have children with.

Don’t let her catch you in the arms of another woman though – she’ll cut your balls off!

Let’s Wrap This Up…

Still want to meet Colombian babes in their native homeland?  There ARE some real hotties down there.

But it completely depends on your goals with women… and your lifestyle circumstances.  Hopefully this guide has helped to clarify your options and shed light into the wonderfully complex psychology of Colombian women.

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  • Aaron says:

    I think you [author] are an idiot! Maybe you are the middle-aged fat guy with no game…or you really haven’t traveled much. Traveling isn’t about trying got fuck every girl you see, it’s about meeting people, including girls, and sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t. You are generalizing an entire culture, and I personally find it repulsive. What a waste of time to read and I’m disappointed 241 of us have read this shit article. I have been all over the world including all over Colombia and find this to be ridiculous.

  • twpxblog says:

    Thanx man- I’ve lived in Brazil , too. Mostly the same way as You’re describing Columbia. You got a thorough way to say things. It is very inspiring for me, as I am preparing a website of my own … nothing to do with ladies, just philisosophy 😉 Thank you, beautiful and truthful writing! to

  • SILVIA says:

    It is interesting article but poor researched, the author seems very uneducated, and does not really know about Colombian culture and its people. Colombian women, we are not different than North American Women, you cannot generalized, every individual is different and Colombian women we are very independent and do not like to depend on men, we do not call men providers because we can provide for ourselves . However, educated Colombian men knows how to treat women with respect as opposed to North American men. I left my family, work and friends and married a North American guy and no, I was not poor how this article illustrates. I was shocked coming to the U.S, spent all my savings and find out with a hard reality of human trafficking. This guy put a $ amount on me as a person, he wanted a sexual and domestic slave,and at the same time time forced me to sleep with other people because that is what pleased him. I was trapped, thank you God, I am saved now , but with no family, or friends. I would suggest to the author of this article to educate himself first before write such of degraded comments about Colombian women and culture. In Colombia we respect North Americans and we expect to be respected as well.

    • Marcy says:

      Silvia you are right to have all these mixed feelings at this person, I am a Colombian woman living in the US with an American boyfriend as well, and also came here with my own money to do grad school and it wasn’t until I was getting done with that, that i met my boyfriend (true love if anyone wants to believe in that stuff still). But there are some things true in this article, in spite of the chauvinistic nature of its writing, we are not like american women in many ways. Women in America think they need to be all that and not show they ever care about or want a male partner, so that they can show themselves as strong and independent. The reason for that is rooted in the fact that separations here are much more relevant than anywhere in our country; men vs women, white vs black, Republicans vs Democrats, its all a fight here, there’s always someone to compare you and be better than, and don’t get me wrong, that makes for a lot of successful people here. But the truth is that they secretly desire someone but don’t know how to retain him because americans are not thought to tolerate. They are so independent that they say good bye to the first sign of disscontempt with out giving it a chance. The first sign of this comes when as a teenager, the parents can not wait to get them out of the house. From a very young age the people who are in charge of showing nurture, compassion and support, are the same ones to show intolerance and distance between the people you care about. This makes american man think they can’t get with anyone in their country, because why bother with someone that they will never tolerate even a single stupidity from? And vice versa, and therefor is easier to find the way out and just get around with one night stands and an eternal quest of getting laid forever. In Colombia, we are all friends and we are very close within our social circles and yes we hangout with male friends because we live in a dangerous country where we don’t want to fall in the wrong hands, but that doesn’t mean we are less strong or independent, we are just very caring about our people. And yes we love our families and are very close to them and we tend to live with our parents until advanced ages, but that doesn’t make us any less self-sufficient. We simply are more loving people with less barriers put against everyone, we welcome all, black, white, asian, poor, rich, european, “gringo’, men or women, etc. It is true that men in Colombia haven’t acquired the sense of responsibility to determine a mate for life, and therefor treat divorces as the simple way out, so why not throw it all away in the first attempt? And this is a sad but true fact, so lets be responsible for our bad. But not to generalise since good Colombian men are out there as well and respectful of woman and marriage, like verywhere else. The truth is this article is not enraging because of the stereotypes it bring out, but because of the point of view of that who writes it and to whom he writes it. We will never be able to do anything about there being poor uncultured men who, in a desperate attempts, in front of their own incapability to meet women, had to recur to people like the writer of this article. He’s simply providing for all those animalistic at heart that never cared to evolved into more mature beings and those are the one you and me are now safe from, thank God. We can just expect that the ones playing the game will also enjoy it on some level, and that no one gets hurt at it, nor the girls, nor the poor SOBs trying to “get laid” just for the fun of it. The writer could in fact have demonstrated a bit more culture and not be so crude on his words who could so easily be rephrase not to sound misogynous and, lets face it, jerky! And somehow this article could have been successful to educate and culture men in finding different experiences abroad with the opposite sex, instead of making it a guide to shove their d***s into a foreigner’s vagina, and contributing to the ignorance at heart of the human race and its search for a better quality of living. So don’t be angered at the ignorant for they don’t know what their doing :)

      • steve says:

        Shit Marcy your great lol. I wish you were’t married. Im an educated older american man, somewhat traveled and yes, the guys that write these kind of things accross the world too often do so callously with “that only one thing in mind” and therefore, meanwhile, think themselves special or “valuable for their insight / service.” Thank God you come in and add ACTUALLY, FACTUALLY, what is the real life, down to earth real life to it AND ONLY THEN AND THEREFORE THE REAL INSIGHT AND PERSPECTIVE VALUE TO IT!! Thank you so much. Steve

      • Anonymous says:

        Wow Marcy, that was a lengthy but a very interesting and personal point of view from a native Colombian. Your passion is commendable and I will be visiting Colombia in January.

    • Anonymous says:

      Wow that’s really sad Silvia. Sorry you met a creep

  • Tyshawn says:

    Hello. I want to go to Cali.. Where are the places, the bars and clubs I need to go to and what’s the prices to be with them

  • The oracle for woman says:

    This is all old school, the % of bautyfull Colombian woman is equal all over the world and they are as hard to get as anny woman in the world for a comon man.
    Having traveled in 54 countries Aand being maried for 25 yaers and with a 15 year younger woman now I think I now.
    What is thrue is the age difierence is less a thing in Colombia but if you can have a 15 year younger educated woman in Europe you can get one everywhere.

  • You don’t need to go to Colombia so much as to simply learn some workable Spanish and have the time and money to stay in one place a bit. If you don’t speak any Spanish,, then go some place in Latin America and study it some. I am speaking from experience here. If you have a decent attitude, you as an English speaking man will be popular if you take the time to go abroad. True for women in the same situation as well.

  • Leslie says:

    Girls from Bogota are the most educated in Colombia and beautiful too

    • Xavier says:

      Hi ,long time too late I know but am surprised by the authors condensing and simplistic comments.

      I think everyone regardless of education,ethnicity,religion or creed should find mr/mrs right.

      Sometimes its not easy being a middle aged Aussie gringo.

      All the best

  • Anonymous says:

    Great article but where I would differ in your opinion is the fact that it is in fact very easy to get laid in Colombia, and I’m not talking hookers. I’ve spent time all over this great country and have met and slept with many very attractive hot women, many who I still have contact with.

  • TonyS says:

    Interesting topic and quite accurate for most points!

    I’m in my late 20s. I’m Canadian. In Colombia, I am never depicted as one since I’m of Asian origin. I speak a fluent Spanish (95%), with little accent (French is my first language and it’s close to Spanish – so I don’t have that thick accent most native English speakers have) and I’m south-east Asian so I have tropical traits (light tanned skin). I’m different but I easily blend in.

    One thing I realized from this forum is that many people seem insecure and keep asking questions like: “If I’m blonde with blue eyes, do I have a chance?” I’m 60 and muscular, do I have a chance?” Truth is, if you have a brain and a good personality, you will always have a chance. Colombian women are human… They have their own tastes. You can’t expect all Colombian women to like gringos. Some even have preference for Asian men (trust me, my wife is Colombian).

    Get to know them! You don’t just date or marry a girl just because she is good looking. A lot of women are good looking in Colombia but not all of them can be wifey material. Just be respectful, don’t be an ass, and have confidence. When a woman shows you signs of interest, be friendly and talkative. Yes even Asian men (apparently we don’t have game) can be successful in Colombia.

    Here’s my experience:

    I visited a few cities of the interior (Medellin and Bogota) but I will mainly talk about the Caribbean coast). I have lived in Cartagena for 14 months now and I often travel to Barranquilla to visit my wife’s family. I like the coast better to the interior (safer, more laid back, warm weather, the sea). I feel the women on the coast are more traditional, but also easier to talk to and more fun.

    I met some women in Bogota, they were very formal and polite but kinda distant, + I wasn’t attracted to most women there (they’re not all ugly, just not what I prefer). I didn’t like Medellin so much. Women are beautiful but many are stuck-up. I spent about 2 weeks there and all I heard about was how Medellin is the center of the world and the best place on Earth. I was bored.

    Colombia is pretty diversed ethnically. It’s true that you find more dark skinned girl in Cartagena and Barranquilla (and I also like them a lot) but you can also find women of all colors in any city. My wife is white. Her dad is from Santander and is half-Italian, her mom is from Barranquilla and is half-Venezolana (quite a mix) but this is pretty common in Barranquilla (I know many Colombians of German, Italian, Arabic origins) in Quilla.

    Barranquilla is my personal favorite. The happy index declared Colombia to be the happiest country in the world (2014) and the city showing the highest index is Barranquilla. People are very laid-back, friendly and happy. Women in Barranquilla are very humble, they are hard-working and the social gap is not as huge as in Cartagena. Some comments posted were very degrading to lower-class/mid-class women. In Cartagena you would most likely have to aim for a high-class Cartagenera if you want an educated open-minded woman. The middle-class is more developed in Quilla, and a lot of them are educated and the city have top-universities in the country (Universidad del Norte – Simon Bolivar).

    From what I read on the forum, it seems that high-class women from the interior (Bogota-Medellin) are not much interested in “gringos” since they don’t need their money (as if it was the only thing that a foreigner has). A lot of women in Quilla are interested in foreign man, and it’s had nothing to do with their money, really. They are curious, open-minded and eager to learn about other cultures. The Barranquillera is mostly happy and satisfied with what she has. Cost of living is VERY low and they are not pretentious. They are charming, they love loud music, they love to dance and they know how to please their man. They are beautiful and really take care of themselves. I think the Barranquilleras are amongst the most beautiful women in Colombia.

    I make a decent salary in Colombia but I’m not rich. Yet I have a beautiful Colombian wife. My wife is 22 y.o. Comes from a mid class family but lives in a low-class but safe neighbourhood. Her family is well educated (one brother is a lawyer and a navy officer, the other is a doctor) and my wife works in criminology. So I am not buying the pattern that you need to aim for a high-class Colombian woman to find a good wife. You just need to get to know people well. Unless you want to spend all your money in a glamorous life-style which is really not necessary to find a good and beautiful Colombian woman.

    It’s true that most women still live at their parents until they get married. One reason is the salary and the other one is the importance of family in Colombian culture. It doesn’t not mean than she cannot be independant and that she will rely on you to provide. I know I have a good wife because we work as a team. We both live in Cartagena which is an expensive city and we both work because we want to be together. A good woman will show efforts for the relationship too.

  • Big Rod says:

    Great article.

    And for you older guys, don’t take offense to the fat and bad comments, he’s just stating the truth. Anybody who’s ever been on the mongering scene or spent time in gringo infested areas (of any country) knows this to be true. If you keep yourself in great shape kudos to you. I probably fall into that older guy category myself (47) so I’m right there with you. Except for the fat part. :)

    The only thing I want to add is that for those of you looking to meet a “regular girl” in the cities where mongering (i.e, guys looking for prostitutes) is common, if not rampant, the “regular girls” often move between both worlds.

    Just like some guys who do business with prostitutes are ultimately looking for a serious relationship, some women work both sides of the coin as well.

    Her dating profile says she’s looking for a serious relationship (she probably is) and has a day job. But she’s also open to spending time with a decent looking guy just looking for a few hours or days of companionship who are willing to pay for it. Very often these girls are “universitarias” – college girls acting as escorts on the side. But no means are college girls the only ones doing it. Or maybe she flat out works the clubs/bars too. Prostitutes can found everywhere, not just in whorehouses. She meets me and I become a client, she meets you and falls in love. The difference is I’m just a client, so I know what she does for a living. You, the guy she falls in love with, are a prospective husband or a long term boyfriend. She’ll carry the story of her secret life as a prostitute to grave out of fear of losing you.

    I could go on, but I think (hope) you guys get my point. You never know what you’re walking into, so be careful out there guys!

  • Lawrence Gilbert says:

    How about the guys that go to Columbia on the romance tours looking for a wife not just a quickie in bed. I hear many of them are successful in finding a woman of their dreams.

  • Anonymous says:

    So I’m a Colombian women, and even though there are a few points true to this post, there are also some that are a huge lie!

    1. PROSTITUTION IS ILLEGAL, except from certain zones on the cities called “zona de tolerancia”

    2. We don’t look up to US people the way you say so, first they tend to say ColUmbia, huge mistake, if you go there at least learn the name! Second they call themselves American, America is a continent, not a country, so yes we think they are too self involved. Third we’ve been diminished a lot by Europeans and US population, by saying or thinking that all South America is the same, and that we live in the middle of the Amazonian rainforest, so if you really want to hookup with a Colombian girl, even for a one nightstand you need to play your cards ok! Learn a little bit about the city you are in and the country, don’t introduce yourself as an American, preferably try to avoid mentioning you are from the US, for an European country would be better and most women won’t even notice and never say ColUmbia, remember it’s COLOMBIAN.

    3. Most Colombian women are independent, actually in most of the cases they are the sole provider for the family, so if you think we might be after your money because you think you are making more money than we are, don’t fool yourself, unless you make more than 60 k a year women won’t want you for your money.

    4. It’s true that there are many women that get pregnant and have many kids, but this happens mostly on he families that don’t have access to education and protection.

    5. Bring your A game, we are Colombians, why do you think Colombian guys can be cheaters with women from any nationality and only get caught by us, it’s not that we are possessive, it’s that we are better at that game, that’s why we never get caught!

    6. Don’t fool yourself! Women everywhere already have a better game than yours, so if you start casually dating a Colombian and then end up marrying her, don’t be surprised! That’s more common than what you may think.

    7. If the only thing you want to do is seal the deal, take her to a nice place, be chivalrous and never underestimate her, this is a macho culture, and even though we love been treated like princesses (that is how we are treated within our family and friends), we also love not been diminished by being women, it happens a lot on this country.

  • defaa says:

    Looks that you just choose the bad aspects of the culture. I’m pretty sure that if you go to Medellin, el parque lleras you will find really beautiful girls.

  • Anonymous says:

    Very good writting. I’m 70 and in good shape with some money and blue eyes and thinking of moving to Columbia.

    What are my chances of a hot young girlfriend?

  • paul says:

    hi, i have visited colombia before, but i stayed in cali, and did not go out much as it was all new to me and i was meeting a girl prioer to visiting….so whilst there i did not see many nice girls…….so can you recommend a place a bar or a town where all the pretty girls hang out and is save for me to visit…the girl i was seeing told me when i go out do not speak english as they will know i am a foreigner and i could get trouble………..i think it was a scare tatic so i didi not venture out alone

  • Jack says:

    It’s strange the places a google search will take you. Good article Jesse…stereotypes galore but stereotpes exist for a reason…there’s some truth to them.
    I was 42 and divorced for a couple years when I met a great Colombian woman learning spanish online. I would have never thought about it but they can be great places to meet women…BUSUU for example…not a plug just an experience.
    I became the hot girlfriend seeker I guess. Anyway…we texted on whatsapp and skyped everyday for about 8 months then I finally got the chance to go see her. Great experience…had a good friend with me…a photojournalist actually which is a big bonus on a trip with smart phones. What a beautiful country. I met many of my girlfriend’s friends…stayed at their place actually some of the time at their request after everyone felt comfortable. We stayed in Bogota about a week and went to a small Colombian tourist town called Melgar…where Colombians go to vaca. Had a blast.
    Anyway…we’re very much in love…and she’s 27…has a kid…fits your profile but “es OK”…I’m raising two of my own and their similar ages. I appreciate that at this point. Your description is very accurate. They flat out tell you age is not a big deal there…and think it’s strange it ever would be. Very pretty women there…but they are deeply Catholic and are looking for security. It’s what it is. We’re both learning each others languages and it’s amazing how some incentive helps in that regard.
    The women I met there are very passionate but not necessarily any easier than here in the US. They can be jealous…but they show genuine affection without the entitlement. They were also genuinely interested in finding out about you…and talking about themselves and their country. The are a very proud people. I never once felt I was in danger. I noticed one angry look by a guy in the whole time I was there…and we were two pretty good looking gringos with two good looking Colombianas! I expected much worse.
    Actually it was a blast being stared at all the time. I’m 6’1″…about 200 lbs and have lighter hair and lighter green eyes. I stuck out and it seemed even more obvious to my girlfriend and her friends. Colombians are a short people…pequeña as they say. We went to a club in Megar…Tonik…and I was asked multiple times to take pictures with beautiful girls there just on the way to the bathroom. I realize now that my girlfriend probably was watching like a hawk…jajjajajja. The dance floor there is a swimming pool…and we saw just one other gringo there. They sat them right next to us…cradle robber…probably 60 with a 35 year old. Not judging…just using your terms. Didn’t chat at all…had other people…young wanting to talk all the time introducing us to all the girls they were trying to pick up. Just fun.
    So there’s an experience for ya…I’m heading back down to see her soon. Getting a tourist visa here for her is a pain in the ass though. They don’t just hand those out to single Colombian women. We’ve been together about a year now. The women there aren’t afraid to care for a guy who is willing to reciprocate. They find a responsible guy sexier I think. If your faithful they’ll do practically anything for you. It’s refreshing…and to give credit when it’s due…some of that’s tied to their religious beliefs (not all Catholicism is practiced the same…half my family is Catholic…my ex is Catholic.. and it translates differently there because of their struggles). And as someone here noted…terrific kissers and they kiss all the time.
    In the end…go visit! It’s cheap and fun and you might get lucky. My buddy did…although i put down some groundwork for him ahead of time and we already had a group. He gets girls here too…sooo. They fell in love with him there.
    And my Colombian girlfriend…she’s spectacular…not perfect just like me but we look damn good together and we both have a vanity streak…another trait of the women there. They do like to look good, look at themselves and show it off a bit. I can’t wait to go back…often…and get her here some day.

    One note Jesse…if there’s a way to put dates on these posts it would be appreciated for obvious reasons. I think Colombia is changing quickly.

  • Thomas says:

    Hi, Had a very very different experience in Cartagena. We were a group of young men from Scandinavia and had no problem finding sexy women to sleep with, Without paying!! Of course, we look better than average but still not so sure about this guide. Proven that finding good looking women there who “just” wants to have fun is possible, more than possible actually.

    Good luck!

  • kenneth dodanwatawana says:

    Awesome, O RoD of Jesse.

  • marty says:

    looked around coloumbia for 3 months…pereira medellin cali… found a hottie in pereira the best…shes 34 im 53…Married her one month later 4/2013. It takes so much time for the second letter from gov.after all papers done…I have seen her 3 times ….I give her 175 every 2 weeks… she works too…skype everyday…she gets her visa sept.4 2014 ..If ur gonna go to colombia to bring wifee home start asap Tough 17 months for me shes a 9.5…. .5 for brown eyes 40dd 28 waist 36 ass…Coloumbian woman have the lowest divorse rate in the world..coloumbian men are pigs…If u want a girl to love u forever shes there plus cook clean sex when how etc…

    • Marty, you are not going to be happy. First off, all Colombian men are not pigs, and you saying that shows exactly where your own US head is at, and it ain’t pretty.

      What’s going to happen to you when your own feelings of cultural superiority begin to grate on your Colombian fiancee’s nerves? You, from your misspelling of the word Colombia, show that you haven’t an ounce of interest in learning Spanish or in sharing your wive’s Colombian heritage with her. That’s a recipe for you getting rather quickly divorced. Good luck, there is still s bit of time for you to begin to change, but the change you need to achieve is rather huge.

      Good luck.

  • littlenumchuck says:

    hahaha get a life dude? this is cheauvanism big time!

  • C.L. says:

    I’ve lived in Medellin for a year and this analysis is spot on.

    (Except for the part about there being just as many beautiful women in the U.S. as here. haha. I fiind the women here FAR more attractive)

  • Jay says:

    Dude, this info is on point. I got game, great looks and fuck dimes in New York but these bitches are not loyal. I’m a relationship guy but I can’t save a hoe anymore. Anyhow, I’m heading to punta cana for threesomes and all for a week, then I was stuck on going to Colombia, Argentina or Brazil for massive ass attack. my boy mentioned to not hit up Brazil and go to Colombia for dime hoes. Your intel has guided me, I’m so appreciative. I’m in need of booking my trip for the month of sept of 2014, any advise will be greatly appreciated. I’ll even pay you a fee if needed. Thx bro.

  • Anonymous says:

    This article was shown to me by an american friend and we had our laughs. As a colombian woman I found this pretty interesting, and while some things are right one others are a bit off. I gather the women you are refering to are the lower to middle class colombian women instead of the upper middle to higher class colombian women. If you ever find an american that is dating or has dated a colombian woman from the upper classes they will tell you a whole different story because the upper class colombian woman speaks english, wont ask you for money for her or for her family, has a whole different outlook of life, they are still family oriented and wish to get married and such. If you find that guy he is most likely happily married. Yes we still think most americans come here for the hookers and are a waste of time. And yes most Colombian women dont give it up quickly or easily but you can find those that after a night will give it up fairly easily like anywhere else .Most colombian are catholics but priests here last time I checked dont go looking up our skirts to see if we give it up or not. So let´s not make it about religion because it is a lie. I have dated colombians and americans and I do like the way americans behave in a serious relationship, they cook and are not afraid to get busy with the house chores while colombian men will not do that. Americans are more family oriented but you can find dead beat dads in both cultures. I had a blast reading this article and talking about it.

  • Anonymous says:

    great read, dated a Columbian, FRIGID

  • Jakartaman says:

    I notice you refer to 50 and over as old and old farts. Does this description apply to Tom Cruise Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt? They’re all 50 or slightly older and don’t look like Quasimodo Geriatrics. And come to think of it neither do I. You generalize that older guys all have pot bellies and are looking to hook up with hookers. Not necessarily so. What if you’re over 50, still have a handsome face, great game- especially ‘Day’ game- this gringo’s specialty- and know a little Spanish, is that ok? And finally, if you stand around 6’2″ weigh 185 with a slim and muscular physique, would that work too? Just curious to know. Oh, and one final thing. What if you’re one of the 95% of the world’s population who DON’T live in the US- would that also be ok?

  • 58 year Old Colombia Goer says:

    I have been to Colombia many dozens of times, am almost 58, have a girlfriend for five years who is 25 now, I met her when she was 17. Without knowing she was that young. She was a hybrid, that is she hooked once in awhile with foreign guys when she needed money, but also genuinely liked foreign guys and though she preferred them younger, the young guys don’t like to pay and are no better in bed, nor are they at all reliable. She was also something of a runaway from home, that is she had nowhere else to go but Cartagena. She is quite beautiful so I had to compete to get her and keep her after initially paying.

    What this shows is that some girls who are beginning to hook are not hookers at heart, they simply don’t know what else to do, or have no other opportunities in life or even enjoy having sex if not only selectively. And usually no father to support them, or a very poor father, and the mother is busy taking care of three other kids on a minimal income, so she is cut loose.

    Ideally she would like to find a youngish man to marry and take care of her, that is the dream which sometimes comes true, but she also likes to have money to buy nice clothes etc. and be upwardly mobile, and she sees other girls with all that just from sleeping with with guys like me, and she tries it and it’s not bad at all, and she falls into it. But she is redeemable, at least in some cases. Not so after the hooker life gets ingrained in her psyche and she becomes a veteran, but during the very early stages she can be “saved” and “bought out”, helped into a legitimate profession or educational process and over time she can forget she ever hooked and become a nice normal woman with an older gringo boyfriend. IT sometimes does not work, and they say falling in love with a hooker is a fool’s game, but in my case after a few problems were solved and I treated her with love and generosity, the problems went away.

    I find Colombia is 2% rich and 98% poor to lower middleclass. The 2% don’t even look at me because they don’t need money and can get a respectable young boyfriend. Everyone else does look, or at least think about it, and they come in all types. Typically, you have either free-spirited or “lost” young women who want to have fun, make money and party (hookers, semi-hookers, or sexy non-pros who love getting gifts) or intelligent amibitious women with dreams of traveling and getting out of Colombia, or single mothers or women with needy families who need a sugar daddy. Any of the latter three types are relatively easy to get. The hard part is to find one with the fantastic chemistry that keeps you coming back, because if not, it is easy to stray in Colombia. I can go to Cartagena and get laid twice a day every day for the rest of my life. And some of those girls will either be great lays or sweethearts or both. So each to his own, either play the field or grab a novia and treat her right.

    Meanwhile back in the US, at 58, women younger than 35 don’t even look at me, even though I am an impressive man and tall and good looking (minus half my hair). And if I try to hit on a young woman it can be humiliating. The other option I seem to have are type mistress relationships. That takes real money and attracts some scammers and nut cases. I had one potential mistress meet me, ask to go to the Gap and after buying $300 worth of clothes literally run away and jump into a car with her young boyfriend. That would not happen in Colombia. Down there, you are a king, so long as you are relatively attractive, have money and some degree of self-confidence. Or iof you don’t have all of the above at least you can find a nice average looking girl so long as you make her life easier.

    As a result, I think I am going to keep going to Colombia. I can afford the airfare and it is a very comfortable place for me. And then, at 58 or even 68 I have fantastic sex with a passionate young woman and it makes me feel 20-30 years younger and proud of myself instead of like an over the hill has-been whose balls are about to shrivel up and die. Of course back home there is a social stigma to this and many people disapprove, but since I don’t give a damn anymore that is not a problem.

    Bottomline, Colombia rocks. But like anything else, you only get out of it what you put into it. And I have put in a lot so I get back a lot. Fair deal.

  • Daniel says:

    Im living in Medellin and although your analysis is spot on, it’s basically only true for women from the poorest locations in the city. A mildly educated woman can earn any where from 1,000 to 3,000 USD, living in her own apartment and really not relying upon a male or male chaperoning in any way. But these decent women hate gringos because 99 % of them come for the hookers, all in sandals and shorts and acting like they’re just too much for the local guys (which these women who chances are have traveled before) know is just not a fact and ultimately just shoot them down for the attitude. Good advice, dress decent not like your on the beach and don’t travel in groups of pasty faced white guys just looking at all the ass that walks by. The only woman that will pay attention are the one’s from the ghettos

    • 58 year Old Colombia Goer says:

      To me, so-called “decent” women in Colombia who frown on me can go F themselves. There are not many of them, and they are no better as girlfiends than some spoiled head-case back in the states. Which is exactly what I want to avoid. I have learned over the years to spot the ones to avoid. They are the privileged pampered ones who seem to have everything, and they don’t need me, so I don’t need them. Not a problem.

      On the other hand, I know how to spot the purely mercenary pros with serpentine hearts who only think of my wallet and how to get as much out of it as fast as they can, and I avoid them too.

      In the great middle though, there are all types. You say girls who make $3000-$5000 a year don’t need help. BS. I give my novia $15,000 a year and she still never seems to have enough for long. She either buys imported clothes or supports her mother and siblings and pretty soon she’s broke again. ANd you might ask why I am so generous? Well, I live near Beverly Hills and remember all the times I dated women I wasn’t even sure I liked. The dinner alone could cost $150 and maybe I get a goodnight kiss for all that. And then, especially when you’re much older than the woman, she wants more support, a lot more maybe. I had one GF who would only sleep with me in a five star hotel bed. SO figured out I was getting laid about twenty times a year and spending over $1000 per time. Down in COlombia, even including airfare and everything else, it costs me a lot less, maybe $300 max and I get exactly the girl I want, at least physically speaking. A near-perfect girlfriend experience almost every time about 50 times per year, all for about $35,000 including all travel expenses. PLus part of the time I also get a nice vacation, especially when we go to San Andres or Cancun.

      Of course this is not for everyone, but it works fine for me. I always get upgraded to first class too since I fly so often. Not bad at all. And if it ever ends with her, I will find another. Would take me 2-3 trips tops to work something else out, or just have fun playing the field again.

  • Observations are all valid. says:

    Your observations are well thought out.

  • Anonymous says:

    awesome job and to the point i met and marry a women from colombia 6 years ago and i was just there for work not even looking for a girl friend or wife i found most women there to be homebodies and a sweet hearts but don,t cross them it does not end up good

  • Anonymous says:

    This article of yours is absolutely the truth and informative ! And amazingly match every single fact of the reasons men travel to Colombia ! specially Men in the US. great article that is all I can say

  • j says:

    My friends and I went to Colombia. And like u talked in this we hooked up with some hookers. Now one of my friends is totally in love with this girl. We tried to explain to him that kind of relationship is no good. Can you give some kind of tip so we can talk him out of this relationship.

    • Don’t worry about it so much. Eventually the hooker herself will talk him out of the ‘relationship’. Some lessons come with a cost, but overall, it will be cheaper than getting a 4 year degree generally is.

      • Anonymous says:

        I am from Colombia, I merried a gringo for almost four years and he is older than I 36 years head from me.. Anyway I believe in God since I was a chil my only problem is that I don have money and familia in U.S when I move here with him everythin was perfect and now he is wild we me (I don’t like to drink,smoke,or do thinks that are not healthy) I love fitness organic food and my big dream is to be ablo to go to school for the rest of my life I aldo love to travel hahah! Oh, I didn’t speak Inglish three years ago… So conclusion gringos are not that great people I thought they are. Now I don’t no what to do.

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