To get her into bed, sometimes, despite all of your efforts to turn a woman on, when it comes down to the moment of sex, a woman still shuts herself down mentally.
To get her into bed don’t take it personally. Most likely the woman has legitimate concerns that worry her, preventing her from sleeping with you – even if she otherwise wants to.
Some women are extremely worried about the word getting out to their friends or family that they had sex and being labeled a “slut”. Other women are worried about catching a disease or getting pregnant… but they don’t want to ask you to wear a condom for fear of being a “slut”. Or they don’t even think to ask.
Or they really like you and they’re afraid that after sleeping with you, you’ll disappear from their lives. They fear that by sleeping with you, they’ll lose their power over you and they don’t want to give up that leverage.
Or the girl might be a virgin – and is simply scared of the whole unknown experience in general.
Although you can’t know specifically what her particular fear is, you can preemptively address and allay her possible fears with some heart-to-heart talk to get her into bed.
Simply hold her in your arms and tell her that you always wear a condom when making love to a woman so that she trusts she won’t catch anything or get pregnant. And tell her that you look forward to waking up with her tomorrow and that you don’t want her to look back on the experience with any regrets – implying that you won’t think of her as a slut for sleeping with you and that you won’t ditch her the very next day.
Again, you’re doing some “mind reading” here in the hopes of addressing her particular fears to get her into bed.
But guess what – it works. A little understanding and addressing a woman’s most common fears is often enough to make her comfortable enough to continue.
Your friend,
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Hi Jesse, I sleep with a girl who is a stripper i”m a lot older 55 to be exact, she is 26. the second time we she didn’t want to come to my house but she did after we had a few drinks. She told me that she didn’t want sex . so we talk for a while and I was dis appointed but , she later told me that it was that I had a daughter her age . my children are away from home and my wife lives in another state than me . She likes me but it was as if that are attraction was not their that night. we still see each other at the club but now i will not get dances any more. She calls me and talks to me and i try to inter act with her and we do but can’t seem to tell if she will ever sleep with me again . So I drove her home after work one morning from the club and ask her we we stand. that s when she gave the line about my daughter . she just wants to be friends . she said that after she sleeps with some one that the end up not talking to her any more . But I showed her i wasn’t like that then the next time she wouldn’t sleep with me. I told her that in tex that she wasn’t getting any more massages from me . because I’m to old for her . Her response was . Ur kid’n I hope? I didn’t respond right away and told her that I was going to have to find puddles. Puddles was a joke between us about a duck whose name was puddles that other ducks like to play in an out of. So will she stil sleep with me if I build attraction or she just using me for her on comfort levels. Help