Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work

Jesse

You can also lower a girl’s social value in relation to yours with quick lines by negging women.

Here are some examples of negging women:

For a girl with a belly shirt: “Did your shirt shrink in the laundry?”

“Your roots are showing.”

“Your nose is a little red. You’re like an Eskimo. Cool.”

“You know, you look just like my little sister. Weird.”

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Effect of a neg on a hot girl illustrated

“You know, I like that outfit you’ve got on… but I don’t know… your shoes don’t really match. You should have gone with tan boots…”

To her guy friends, “So what’s special about this one.”

If she’s talking tell her friends, “So do you guys ever get a word in edge wise?”

“Hey… you look like that cartoon character… yeah that’s right, Rainbow Brite remember her?”

“I like your eyes. Hey… are you wearing colored contacts??? (before she can answer) Oh my god, no way, you are…”

“You know, your body language is all closed off. It makes you look like one of those newborns I saw on the discovery channel when they came out of the womb – all curled up.”

“Hey, you’re a goof.”

By negging women, you’ve indicated to her that you’re not interested in her over anyone else in the group. This is a new thing for her. She’ll feel the bitter sting of being just like everyone else. Her looks no longer give her all the power – because you’re not responding to her looks.

Because you’re demonstrating social value to the group at the same time she’s wondering, “Why isn’t this guy attracted to me? Why isn’t this guy paying attention to me? Who is this guy? How am I going to win this guy’s attention?”

Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants approval. No one wants to be ignored. The same holds true for beautiful women – even more so. Their whole reality is based on having power and having acceptance and adoration through their good looks. Take that away and their whole reality crumbles and they’ll do anything to get it back.

Negging women is ideal for really hot girls – 8s, 9s, and 10s. For an average girl (6s, 7s), you don’t want to use value zingers. All you need to do is demonstrate social value – you don’t need to lower hers. Hers wasn’t that high to begin with.

Negging women is unnecessary and inappropriate to use on girls who are already being friendly or giving you green lights. Don’t throw one out of the blue for no reason at a girl who is already responding well.

But if she’s super hot and you’ve just met her, that’s a different story. Use a neg or two on her.

Now, it’s critical to use negs right. Remember, you’re not out to damage the girl’s self confidence or put her down. You’re not out to mess up her self-esteem. Some guys in particular cross the line and start throwing soft insults and treating women like second-class human beings when they don’t deserve it.

The point is to make yourself stand out as socially valuable male and a challenge, not to make her feel bad. But used correctly, negging women is a powerful tool in your arsenal.

Update From The Author

I noticed that my post on negging “Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work” has drawn a lot of negative comments from women.

I understand the blowback.  I understand where some of you girls are coming from.  You see negging as a form of bullying or insults.

And most women are pretty sensitive to the idea of it, based on being bullied in real life.

Most women, particularly in high school, were teased, gossiped about, or bullied in some fashion – and usually from other women.  Pretty girls especially face negativity from their female friends, as pretty girls tend to hang in “pretty social circles” where there’s a lot of superficial cattiness, backstabbing, and competition.

Or even if you’ve never been bullied or teased yourself, you’ve seen the devastating effect it had on your classmates.  So naturally, you feel sympathy.

But anger at ‘negging’ is misplaced.

First, we are talking about a night club environment.  There’s lots of REJECTION involved, inherent to the environment.

And most of the rejection is aimed at the GUYS.

Haven’t either you or one of your friends ever ignore a guy?  Like, not even acknowledge his presence when he tried to talk to you.

It’s often pretty CRUSHING to the guy’s self-esteem that he isn’t given 10 seconds to acknowledge he’s another human being to talk to and say “hello”.  Ignoring a guy completely is much crueler than any neg a guy would dish.  (Like, “Hey girl!  You have some lint in your hair… look at that.”)

Then again, it’s a night club.  If a guy’s ego is so fragile, he shouldn’t go.

So please girls, if a guy told you that you had lint in your hair and that would “cut you down” or would “crush you”, and your ego is THAT fragile, then don’t go to night clubs!!  After all, the guys have to deal with MUCH WORSE from you girls!

In addition, Negs are for those glamour girls that have been spoiled all their lives by Daddy and have little sense of reality (like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton for example).  These are the types of girls that enjoy shooting “nice guys” down.  It’s THAT kind of girl that negs are designed to attract.

So if you’re a normal-looking girl with a normal attitude, you probably will NEVER BE NEGGED in your life.  So for crying-out-loud, don’t worry about it.

Further consider that 99.9% of guys are SO damn nervous in clubs and bars that they can’t even approach a girl without wetting their briefs… let alone finding the balls to neg a pretty girl.

So don’t worry, it’s statistically unlikely to ever happen to you, even if you DO look like a runway model.  Most guys will never approach you, or they’ll just try to kiss your ass to get into your pants.  And that’s SO much better than those bad boys, right?

But since those guys are NOT a challenge in the slightest, they’re not attractive to you.  That’s why you blow them off.

That’s what a neg does – creates a challenge to the female.  That’s what attractive guys do.  And ANY guy you’ve ever fallen for, on some level, you had to chase HIM.  Every single guy you ever had a crush on made YOU chase HIM.

I know it’s simple to latch onto a cause, leave a comment, and feel like you’re serving justice in some small way by taking a stand against the 1 in 10,000 guys that have the balls to neg a girl like, “Hey girl!  It’s funny how your nose wiggles when you talk!”  But really, it’s an empty cause!

P.S. If you still disagree with this assessment, please leave a comment, I welcome all opinions!  😆

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Negging is psychological warfare, which to me, is close in form to gaslighting, because when you call a guy out on negging, he then accuses you of being “crazy” because he meant it as a “compliment”. Anything designed to mess with someone’s head is abuse. What is the end goal? To trick a woman into sleeping with you? So this “mind-fuck” is actually “mind-rape”? I am not a super model, but I have been the victim of negging for over 6 years and am finally able to define what this person has been doing to me. It is mental manipulation… Read more »
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I just searched up “negging”. Call me ignorant, but I had no idea it had a term. I personally have never used this. I’ve seen other guys do it though and thought it a little odd and obvious. I’ve also had it done to me, from females, but I knew they were just playing around. Didn’t realize it’s a means to an end. Maybe I’m oblivious. Anyway, Not sure if these would really work on a girl..at least not most of the time anyway. I’ll sometimes throw some shade in a banter-esque style but only after talking to her for… Read more »
Maud
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Maud

So,you’re saying it’s ok for men to neg women because after all,they have to deal with worst from women?
How is it different from simply put her down?

Alix
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Alix
Jesse don’t listen to any of these whiny cry babies who have you completely misunderstood because they can’t handle the truth. No one here is talking about destroying self-esteem & making insults, it’s meant to be playful & challenging banter & it’s based on the push & pull principle. Tension is an important & normal part of seduction. This dating game is not a fairy tale where being a nice guy will & putting on her on a pedestal will get her attracted to you. At the end of the day you’re trying to win her over & that doesn’t… Read more »
Maud
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Maud

Alex,when those “techniques” are hugely used by assholes who play mind games to take control over women and the relationship,people have all the reasons to be “cry babies” as you put it.

Alix
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Alix

Hi Maud, i can understand what you’re saying, the issue here is that most people are dismissing this technique in it’s in entirety (without really understanding what it is)
& not its misuse

whutwhut
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whutwhut

Anyone who would do even half of what this pathetic loser is suggesting must be a complete sociopath, if they would turn to this because they were alone, maybe they deserved to be alone in the first place.

Siggy
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Siggy

Please see every reply I have made here!

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Her: Hey you look like that cartoon character.. Herald Berman, remember him?
Her: Your eyes are a little red. You’re like an Albino. Cool. lol
Her: Your boxers are showing.
Her: Did your baseball cap shrink in the laundry?
Her: You know, you look just like my little brother. Weird.
Her: I like your hair. Hey… are those frosted tips??? (before he can answer) Oh my god, no way, they are…”
*speaking to his DNA*

Siggy
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Siggy

Honestly, why do you want to prove my article – each of these lines would create nothing but intrigue in me. Honestly.

a male
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a male

shameful tactics say alot about yourself ladies. remember that

Carol
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Carol

Hey Jessie you are a wanker, I hope they call you on your behaviour and tell you to fuck off!

Anonymous
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Anonymous
I know a woman who was negged long-term by her boyfriend… he did all the things described. She always believed he was just joking… the little jabs at her self-confidence were the norm. Her friends tried to tell her he did not seem to be joking… that he meant all that he said on some level. But he kept the tone light so as not to aggravate her too much… it was more a control/ status thing. The two of them had had a child together; she brought her child to another town and saw the situation more clearly while… Read more »
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Anonymous
Predatory behavior towards women is sickening.And this is predatory: setting your sights on a woman and doing whatever it takes to get what YOU want. Ick. If you think this mentality isn’t a stepping stone to more aggressive behavior, you are fooling yourself. Example A from real life experience: I guy pulls this crap on me in a bar. I let him know that he is impolite, I didn’t ask his opinion, and ask him to go away… I guess it was the final blow to his ego, because next thing I know I’m being yelled at, threatened, and called… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

Seriously? Someone needs therapy for saying someone else has a red nose? Wow. There are some weird people out there so angry they create these straw monsters in the hope they will burn. Where in the article does it say it is OK to scream and threaten?? The argument posed by this post is like saying we should ban gelati ocean swimming for all because it contains sharks. Get a grip please. Or, in fact, therapy.

Adrienne
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Adrienne

I have been paying a dermatologist to treat broken blood vessels around my nose caused by aggressively squeezing blackheads when I was a teenager. If some guy pointed out the very thing that I am insecure about, I would A) think he was rude B) feel embarrassed and discontinue the conversation. I would not feel bad about myself, I would think poorly of the person who has pointed out my physical flaws instead of initiating a conversation aimed at getting to know me.

Siggy
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Siggy

…and entirely fair enough. That would be a reasonable and measured response.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

This is disgusting.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

I’m a guy and you’re a pig. Douchebag!

Matt
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Matt
Like I can see in weird situation that this might be successful, but do you really want to date someone only into you because you prey on their insecurities could and making them feel like the reacher instead of the settler? Any time I’ve gone out with girls they play nice with the either the faux “nice guys” and neggers to avoid a conflict but do everything they can to get out of that situation, eg fake numbers. Why? Because women learn quick that predatory men are not suitable. But ones who are generally interested and friendly are seen as… Read more »
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I’m a woman and not sure if I agree. Just because a man seems interested and friendly it doesn’t make them more attractive – a little mystery and uncertainty is more interesting and fun.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

I’ve only just seen this and haven’t read the hundreds of comments but don’t understand why a person wants another person to feel shitter than we all do about ourselves anyway

Lovernotafighter
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Lovernotafighter

love your woman, respect your woman, treat her like a queen genuinely and with no motives, and she will treat you like a king. IV been married for 20 years to my queen and would never dream of treating her with such disrespect.

Chris
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Chris

I feel sorry for the poor sap who wrote this article. You must lead a very sad lonely life. I once had troubles getting good women until I grew some balls and learned how to pick out quality women who I could respect and love. I would never speak down to a woman to gain power because I am secure with myself and desire the same in a woman.

ThisDoesn\'tWork
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ThisDoesn\'tWork

Let’s all admit that this website is actually the worst, kay?

ThisDoesn\'tWork
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ThisDoesn\'tWork

My f*cking god, you dumbass

Frank
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Frank
“Negging” only works if you have an attractive quality (look or style) to begin with. You have to say the “neg” with confidence and a smile while looking her up and down with a swagger. Like the post says only say 1 at the start or near the start to grab her attention. And also come up with better negs that actually relate to the girl in which slightly teases her. Only the first one about the laundry will get her interested in a conversion – important as that is all what negs do! FYI I have been told by… Read more »
Daggerdan
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Daggerdan
a lot of self proclaimed nice guys don’t realize that they aren’t as nice as they think they are. Guys that are genuinely nice are already in relationships because they know how to treat women, just because a guy has a hard time picking up women does not automatically put you in the “nice guy” category, it’s generally the opposite. Self proclaimed “nice guys” are the bitter ones that can’t pick up a women and then hate on them for it. A genuinely nice guy is secure and loving and would have no trouble getting a woman, and would never… Read more »
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Oh dear – “nice guys” are “bad guys” and (really) “nice guys” are “nice guys” when in fact (the real) bad boys (not mentioned, you’ll notice) are often the real winners…but here is the horrible super-controlling element to all this – the statement that: “…make necessary improvements and the ladies will follow…” This is a despicable attitude….can you imagine saying that to a woman; “change yourself, learn to treat me nice or else”….and so THIS post finally gets to the heart of the reason behind all the vitriol spewed by women here.,.,,and it is this attitude; WE HAVE ALL THE… Read more »
ThisDoesn\'tWork
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ThisDoesn\'tWork

No, no, no… Being a nice guy is actually kind of the BEST fucking strategy. If you’re looking for someone intelligent, then don’t “neg” her. She’ll run faster than a motherfucking train.

RingMaster
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LMAO Ladies and gentlemen, step right up… 5 cents for admission to the freak show, not for the faint of heart… My friends, I present to you a sad sack of a man who has thus far been a failure with every social aspect of his existence, therefore attempting to create a new persona for himself online in order to impress other sad sacks as an “expert” …Watch how he responds to my clicker for a treat! Down boy…don’t get too close, fellas, however, his disease may be catching…We utilize cattle prods for your safety, but fear not. This underdeveloped… Read more »
Alix
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Alix

lol, is that the best you’ve got? just crawl back into that little box where you came from cos the real person who isnt adding any value to the discussion is you

Sangie
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This is fucking sick…. wow.

hiroshi
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hiroshi

This is actually interesting. I came up with my own theory that this might work, a little while ago, before I heard of “negging”. What prompted the idea was how many, many times being really nice just fosters disdain.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Use that ? on me and you’ll be walking away from me with a red cheek, asshole. Only an idiot would put up with emotional and verbal abuse.

ThisDoesn\'tWork
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ThisDoesn\'tWork

HELL YEAH

Siggy
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Siggy

…and only a pathologically angry person (the ones that guys only identify when it is too late) that threaten physical violence if some suggests that they have a “red nose”. Seriously, you are the embodiment of what this article is about: those women that use the power imbalance in relationships, and that can occur between men and women (a power imbalance that this article seeks to mildly redress), as a weapon, that if eroded, become psychotic. Get some help for your rage.

RingMaster
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AHHHH Here we have another specimen… One who utilizes moral outrage when faced with conflict, yet has the strange ability of a lack of self awareness on his part of said conflict…Another sad sack seeking advice from the sad sack “writer”, frustrated at his lack of prowess with all social situations indefinitely…Ladies and gents, we call this specimen a “hypocritical splooge tank”….5 cents, ladies and gents! Hurry, hurry, hurry, step right up!

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Bitches be flockin’ to me now

Anonymous
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Anonymous

same. every since i read this article it’s like “women hate this guy, find out why in just 3 easy steps”

Anonymous
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Anonymous

fuck you

Gem
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Gem

Narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths use this kind of manipulative, covert and insidious technique. It’s called ‘gaslighting’ and it’s emotionally abusive.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

All of these are sad. Reading these posts is a bit like laughing at a dog that bites his own tail. Then gets mad at his tail for giving him pain and feeling powerless because of it. Then calling it a bitch.

Anonymous
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Girls deal with MUCH worse than guys at night clubs and everywhere else. They deal with the REAL and ACTUAL possibility that any man they talk to (or don’t talk to) may assault them in some way or possibly murder them. For REALZ. This is part of what being a woman means. Why add more crap to that just because you want to get laid guy? Feeling rejected because you tried to talk to someone who doesn’t want to talk to you does NOT compare. If you have to play head games to get someone interested in you, it’s NOT… Read more »
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why
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why

You know, this isn’t tactfully putting someone down, it’s sounding like a pathetic autist who has never talked to women before.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Ma’lady

Anonymous
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Anonymous

*tips hat*

Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.

Your commentary explain your sick behaviour even better thank you for clarifying. Ever heard of the golden rule. If the girl ignores you in a bar MOVE ON. After all you are not looking for love you. You just want to get your jollies. Some you think you have the right to such intimacies, even with a stranger, whenever you desire. By teaching such behaviour, you are lowering men one ‘negging session’ at a time.

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I had a “BF” who negged me regularly. Guess what? While he was spending hours driving and hundreds of dollars every week to see me, I was dating (and ^%$#ing) other men when he wasn’t around. And I did it specifically because of his negative comments. I had never cheated on someone before. Not ever. Would not have even considered it. But with the negging guy, once his negative comments became too much, I not only did it, but relished it. I let that go on for a couple years … and it eventually became an “I’ll get you back”… Read more »
Alix
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Alix

Nah you actually don’t have a clue what negging is. There’s a big difference between a neg and an insult. Please read up again what negging is so you can properly understand it

Yooper - (look it up)
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Yooper - (look it up)

Its a tactic, and you say you’re above it. But yet it drove you to go sleep around and cheat, both according to you, you’ve never done before.

So either the tactic had a profound effect on you, or you’re lying about not doing those things before.

And what will happen when your mr wonderful finds his way to your comments.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

I agree, women seem angry at negging only because used right it seems to work.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Did you read her comment? Clearly, it didn’t work out for the guy. lol

Siggy
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Siggy

Yes, because it erodes their power base.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

What power base? lol. You mean women aren’t more than make-up here for my objectification??? Gee and here I thought women were people.

Siggy
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Siggy
Oh dear…yes they are people. Why do people argue from the lowest common denominator. As PEOPLE they are suffused with what Nietzsche called the ‘Will to Power’…there are power dynamics in all you see — whether a cup of tea, or 2 black holes colliding. This article addresses the enormous power women have in their physiognomy – how can this ever be doubted?! Why is this so shocking? As such, the counterbalancing force is in the male ‘animus’ – which seeks its union in the female anima – how to do this, is the age old question. This tension has… Read more »
Smithy
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That’s deep

Anonymous
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Anonymous

What’s deep about picking a speck out of a girls hair while complimenting it, i.e negging? Peeling away at a girls appearance, classy. Genuine reflection of your own character.

Ra
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Ra

So I have to admit, when I first read this article I got kind of pissed.

Then I paused.

This is an interesting idea. Disgustingly manipulative, yes, but fascinating. Even if it’s used in the proper social setting there are a lot of dependant variables in the equation, especially if it’s dependent on the individual who is negged’s values.

(Guys can be negged too stfu with the fake ass manly pride. I almost hate you for targeting women to be the neggie.)

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Cat

I’m a bit late to the party but several things stick out about Siggy. The first of which is; Don’t hide behind the anonymity of a keyboard. If you’re going to insult people have the decency to do it under your real name.
Also this:
‘If you actually knew who I was, and what I did, you’d probably swallow your own tongue’- This is classic braggadocio akin to the classic “Do you know I am?” And speaking for myself, I don’t care who you are or what you do.

Siggy
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Siggy
These comments are awash with insecurity and overweening inferiority complexes – it oozes from every pore. That’s why I love it so much and scoot over here after a day in court…(this time defending an intellectually disabled man fined for not being able to use his travel card on a shaky bus…his “ttthhhhaaaannnnkkk yyyyouu” after my team and I got him off broke my heart….yes, I have one). Now, where were we? You seek to put a face to a name? Look up “facial recognition nucleus” and its role in human society. That will explain your anxiety. As for revealing… Read more »
Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.

ARROGANCE

Nicole
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Nicole

Dating advice at actually works:
Go up to a woman in an appropriate setting.
Introduce yourself.
Talk to her like a person.
After you have been talking for a few minutes if she isn’t trying to runaway…
Ask her if she’d like to go out sometime.
Don’t take it personally if she says no.
It’s not rocket science.
You’re welcome.

Siggy
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Siggy

Don’t…take…it…personally? How could that ever be? I say; don’t take it personally if someone says “hey you have a red nose…”

AltRoles
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AltRoles

Her: Hey you look like that cartoon character.. Herald Berman, remember him?
Her: Your eyes are a little red. You’re like an Albino. Cool. lol
Her: Your boxers are showing.
Her: Did your baseball cap shrink in the laundry?
Her: You know, you look just like my little brother. Weird.
Her: I like your hair. Hey… are those frosted tips??? (before he can answer) Oh my god, no way, they are…”
*speaking to his DNA*

Anonymous
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Anonymous

this could work, but maybe it would be more effective in the numbers if negging was sprinkled in there somehow

Udyr
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Udyr

Hahaha, this comments section is more toxic than the League of Legends community!

Carla
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Carla
That’s the nastiest game that I have ever seen. A guy just did it with me and what happened next was the total opposite. I didn’t feel any challenge to seduce him or anything, it just turned me off cuz I’m not attract to abusive guys or stupid strategies from guys. You might get a girl using this bullshit, I’m not gonna either judge the kind of girl that you’ll attract but for sure she will be one with no confidence or only full of herself. A woman who wants a man with good attitude will never go in this… Read more »
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Oppinions welcome

I don’t think I’m very pretty, in fact, I’m extremely average in appearance (or flat-out unattractive, I’m not sure how others perceive me), and all my friends are relatively plain and geeky, but i somehow landed myself a boyfriend. Now my dad thinks said boyfriend is “negging” me. My boyfriend took off my ear cuff, said “this is weird”, and gave it back to me and i didn’t think much of it. Is this him trying to “neg” me?

AltRoles
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AltRoles

Yes, this is exactly negging. A cheap tact used by cheap men.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Probably not. ‘Negging’ is essentially teasing…it just sounds a whole lot more crude.

Oppinions welcom
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Oppinions welcom

I’m not pretty or anything, I’m extremely average in appearance -if not flat out unattractive-, and my friends and i are more the geeky girls, and yet my dad thinks my boyfriend was trying to do something like this the other night. Said boyfriend took my ear cuff off my ear, said “this is weird”, and handed it back. I didn’t think much of it, but my family seems to think he was trying to “neg” me? Anyone agree? Disagree?

w23
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w23

no, because ear cuffs are kind of weird, right? You’re wearing it to be different and express your individuality.

PatheticBitches
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PatheticBitches

Thsi is probably the most ignorant and backwards article that should go on the book of “ways to never have a healthy relationship in your life”
really disgusting and childish. Maybe that’s why you need to resort to these sort of ridiculous tactics bro. Hey…here’s an idea. BE A FUCKING DECENT HUMAN BEING.

Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.

Yes. Men wonder why they are losing their dignity in this world. They teach each other how to be scum.

Olivia
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Olivia
all these so called “nice guys” get upset when women ignore and avoid them at clubs, but when we tell them WHY we are cautious of men we don’t know, especially in club situations where date rape and other types of assault are common, they get all mad and throw a tantrum, like “but I’m not like THAT, I’m a nice guy! All these b*tches are so shallow and will only talk to hot guys, they won’t give us average guys a chance! :'(” Honestly, cry me a fucking river. In a club, and in everyday dating life, a straight… Read more »
Alix
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Alix

@Olivia, your argument sounds more like an excuse for why a guy shouldn’t approach a woman in a bar. I know couples who got married after meeting at a nightclub in case you want to judge people. First of all this article doesn’t talk about dealing with a woman’s resistance in these ‘unsafe’ environments, it talks more of being playfully challenging if a woman (usually high status) doesn’t regard you as her equal

siggy
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siggy

Wow. Such vitriol. If the girl is “is a regular human being” and is told she has a red nose”, she is likely to smile dispassionately, say thank you and move on….she will not think “OH MY GOD HE IS A MASS-MURDERED”…so I conclude that (a) some of you need serious therapy, but won’t seek it until your divorce and (b) the type of person you reveal yourself to be is precisely the reason the article was written…did you stop to think that perhaps your response to an innocent neg tells that man a lot about you?

AltRoles
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AltRoles

Your argument is weak, continuously using the “red nose” line.

Let’s try the flip side and maybe you can jab some introspection.
“Her: Hey you look like that cartoon character.. Herald Berman, remember him?
Her: Your eyes are a little red. You’re like an Albino. Cool. lol
Her: Your boxers are showing.
Her: Did your baseball cap shrink in the laundry?
Her: You know, you look just like my little brother. Weird.
Her: I like your hair. Hey… are those frosted tips??? (before he can answer) Oh my god, no way, they are…”
*speaking to his DNA*

Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.

An innocent neg or a calculated tactic? Yes she might be forgiving, or even slow to catch on to it (which I assume is the hope of the nagger) but there is nothing innocent about it; and of course we all know that.

Siggy
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Siggy

Pray tell; what “innocence” is there in matters of love and war?

lalala
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lalala
Women have enough experience to recognize negging as a red flag for guys that just get off on trying to break women down, humiliate, and abuse them. It’s a deal breaker. You get blacklisted. There are plenty of other guys that they can trust and will want to be with them and be respectful with one another. You don’t understand women at all. A woman will never be thoroughly dirty with you unless she knows for sure that she can trust you. You won’t get anywhere with women if your approach right off the bat is to demonstrate that you… Read more »
siggy
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siggy

Wow – home many times do I have to ask – how is that telling a girl she has a “red nose” being an attempt to “break women down, humiliate, and abuse them”…wow, some of you kids are seriously disturbed. The use of a relatively innocent written piece as a projective device for such anger and horror that lies at YOUR core is a worry.

Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.

SIGGY: Female sensitivity has nothing to do with maturity. It is why women have the honour of becoming the world’s mothers – an honour when there are better men than this who love and care for them. Negging is clearly calculated manipulation of other humans, no matter how light and fluffy you want to see it.

Siggy
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Siggy

Wow, you manage to conflate sensitivity/maturity/motherhood/manipulation. Not easy to do. What can I say but; wtf?

lalala
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lalala

No women is going to give you a chance at a club if you approach them with these lame lines. That’s all I am saying. Deal with it.

Alix
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Alix

Hahah, alot of us have used negs, not insults, or trying to break her down emotionally and mentally as you cry babies seem to imply, NEGGING! & it’s worked really well. So the joke’s on you lalala

lalala
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lalala

You get what you give. Give compliments and you gain the interest of the pretty girl and a fun and uninhibited sexual experience. Girls don’t want “the chase”. They want to be desired. Give insults and she will avoid you, will insult you back, or I suppose a shame-filled, sad sexual experience with the lights off, and crying afterwards. Compliments communicate confidence. Insults communicate a weird, socially awkward guy that lacks confidence.

Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.

I disagree that ‘simple desire’ is what all women want. Just the same, one sentence in your comment should go up in lights because it is amazing. ””Compliments communicate confidence.”” Unless it’s flattery – a means to an end, an honest compliment shows a generous spirit.

siggy
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siggy

Honestly, did you read the article? So many here have read what they WANT TO READ into the article and then post a comments based other delusional view of what is being suggested here. If you feel it is horrifyingly insulting for someone to say “you have a red nose” then the problem is not with the speaker – I’ve said it below and I’ll say it again…what you horribly incensed web are really railing against is the possibility that you will not receive complete and unalloyed praise and adoration…and as such, it is a form of narcissistic rage.

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Anonymous
Your “red nose” argument is just a way to minimize the vile “advice” that you are giving to men who clearly want some help in their dating lives. This “advice” and encouragement to neg women is a disservice to the sorry saps who take your writing seriously. If my nose is red for whatever reason, I do not need a man to point that out. My eyes work just fine, thank you. What business is it of any person to approach me and dissect my appearance? Clearly you are a manipulator and are trying to recruit others. Perhaps you had… Read more »
Maud
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Maud

Completely ridiculous.

Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.
SIGGY: You really need to get to know what a woman is. She is not a man. She is not a child. “Delusional view…?” You speak of kids, but just where to YOU stand in this scheme of things? As a well intentioned, well mannered grown up? Women and men see things differently; but the best people learn to cultivate GOOD qualities. If you don’t like women as they are, why not leave them alone and look at what good things YOU can add to the world? You are not a God. You are a flawed individual insulting other flawed… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

I am human, all too human. And why do you make this about me? And “look to yourself” is precisely correct or as Aristotle put it so succinctly “γνῶθι σεαυτὸν” – there can be no higher pursuit. Except perhaps for; if you meet the Buddha on the road you must kill him. But we digress onto esoteric lines indeed – let’s get back to the issue of why PRECISELY telling a girl that she has a red nose is a heinous crime deserving of the most severe admonition?

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Youneedhelpsiggy
Just ignore all of the other abusive negging points and keep bringing up the red nose scenario. Come on dude if you were a psychologist like you claim you would understand that this is emotional abuse to gain control but you aren’t a psychologist, you are just a bitter man that deters women and then hates them for it. Get a clue, really read the article very slowly so that you have a chance to actually understand the reality of it, then read your comments and then seek out a real psychologist that can help you sort out your abusive… Read more »
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lalala

I didn’t say any of that. My post was actually very reasonable about how you will never have fun sex. I can’t possibly imagine why you are so unsuccessful with women. You seem simply delightful. You could try a humorous approach. Next time you see an attractive women while you are out disco dancing, do a little turn while shaking your tush and say, “I’m too sexy for this shirt”.

Siggy
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Siggy
Wow – you are seriously delusional or deliberately trying to bait me – or crazy…or (more likely) all of the above. For the record, and I have no idea why I am writing this other than to show you how loopy communication is in the ether, I am 58 years old with 2 grown-up kids. As I have said perviously, and it sounds mega-wanky to have to say it, I am in law, psychology and academia. My law is largely pro-bono working in international relocation cases – Hague Convention mainly – women getting screwed over by malicious, litigious, vexatious arsehole… Read more »
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Gina

Awe did the big man child get his little bitty feelings hurt. It’s okay when you grow up to be a big boy you will learn how to act like a human being. Seems lalala has touched on a nerve. You don’t have to front with your story of your imaginary career. Based on your comments I picture a sad lonely man in his moms isolated basement with no job, no friends, and of course no gf.

Disgusted with you.
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Disgusted with you.

SIGGY: You are talking down to ‘lalalal.’ In fact you are bullying her. Your arrogance boggles the mind. None of our success (or our age) makes us kind, decent people.

Siggy
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Siggy

And you point it?

lalala
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lalala
You are the only one expressing anger. All of your comments reveal a deeply disturbed and sick mind. And it’s incredibly easy to set you off. You can induce anyone to do it. You must lead a life in which it’s very difficult to make human connections. You blame it on everyone else. Seeing the same imaginary person in everyone that you encounter. Never looking at your own failings. You lie to yourself saying that you don’t care about the aspects of human experience that elude you. But, the anger you feel reminds you that it actually bothers you very… Read more »
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lalala

Also, I know this is going to sound mega wanky, and I don’t know why I am even telling you this other than to show you how loopy communication is in the ether, but I am in my 60’s. I am Christie Brinkley. Also, I am an astrophysicist. I am Neil DeGrasse Tyson. I am both Christie Brinkley and Neil DeGrasse Tyson. But, on the side I am a Prime Minister (not going to tell you which country), but it’s mostly pro bono work. I bet you are swallowing your tongue now that you know who I am.

lalala
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lalala

You do know those are lyrics from a song from the 90’s right? You are having a very big emotional reaction to a song by Right Said Fred.

lalala
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lalala

There are a number of reasons why negging will never be a part of my life. The main one being that I am an adult. Negging is what middle school boys do. And they stop when they grow up enough to realize how it doesn’t get them anywhere. I hope someday you grow up and are able to actually form genuine human connections.

lalala
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lalala

And I was just randomly looking this word up. But, when I saw your 5000 repetitive projection of rage comments, and your delusions of grandeur… I couldn’t resist. And I thought you would recognize it. But, you didn’t. I have never baited anyone on the internet. You make it that easy. Also, this comment of mine that we are both replying to takes a line directly from another article about seduction written by a man.

lalala
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lalala
Lol. I baited you so bad, so many times. You keep getty into a bigger and bigger tizzy. I don’t think you even realize I am talking to you on two different comment threads. And taking things you say from each one to include in my responses. And some of my replies are your words and you are insulting your own words. And you are taking the bait so hard. But, you can’t actually insult me because you know nothing about me, who I am, how old I am, what I do, what gender I am, how many or how… Read more »
lalala
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lalala

Previously you said you are psychiatrist. Now you say you are a psychologist. Those are two completely different fields. No psychiatrist or psychologist would confuse their own degree and title.

lalala
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lalala

This article is about trying to get women to sleep with you. You can stop being a sick pig now.

lalala
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lalala

Deliberately trying to bait you. My very first comment to you was a cut and paste of your words. And you flew off the handle. No normal person would write all of this about their life in this context.

lalala
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lalala

You are a scary person.

lalala
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lalala

I haven’t said any of that. My comment was very reasonable about how you will never have fun sex.

M.
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M.

What you have written is a screed to help men find more surefire ways to abuse and dehumanize women.

Anger at negging is not misplaced.

Make no mistake: what you are doing and encouraging other men to do is abusive. Laugh, be glib, talk yourself up, let other men congratulate you or thank you.

It does’t matter.

We see you for what you are. And I’d be willing to bet substantial money that unless you’e a complete sociopath, sometimes, late at night, all alone in your own head, with those ever-expanding feelings ugliness and worthlessness, so do you.

Theresa
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Theresa
You could use this tactic, or, OR! You could be awesome instead and choose not to play the game, and love yourself. If you just focus on being the best person you can and have a great deal of patience, you’d be surprised what opportunities will present themselves. And I would caution you against assuming all “8s, 9s and 10s” (because appraisals are essential when referring to females) have enormous egos and need to be worshipped in order to survive. Some beautiful women are actually humble, friendly, and sensitive to negative comments. We all have our own emotional wounds, men… Read more »
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Anonymous

The one actual tip you need to get women to like you: WOMEN AREN’T EXTRATERRESTRIAL BEINGS. DON’T TREAT THEM LIKE THAT.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

well, fuck you and your fucking stupid pickup shit.
You neg a woman and LISTEN TO ME she will think you’re just another piece of garbage.
Nobody wants a fucking ugly ass that critiques physical appeareance. Makes you look desperate, misogynist and shallow as fuck

“MEN HAVE IT WORSE” TALK ABOUT PAIN OLYMPICS. FUCK YOU, Cry me a river!! NOBODY gets to tell anybody they have it worse just by pulling the assumption out of their ass.

Anyway whats the urge on getting laid everytime? WTF are you all sheep? animals?? GTFO

Siggy
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Siggy

Wow – such fury, hatred and ugliness. For suggesting that you tell a girl she has a red nose!

Unfortunately for men, the unspeakable horror that lies at the heart of this person is not discovered until they are WAY into the relationship. Then the man is in a world of hurt dealing with a mentally ill person who (usually) won’t let go.

Think about it – if you see such fury over NOTHING, imagine if you have slept with this monster and they don’t like the idea of not being loved FOREVER!

Hottielottie
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Hottielottie
I think you need read the article again but think of it in roll reversal. Is that an appropriate way to treat you, would you enjoy and promote a woman to treat you this way. How would you feel if your manhood was critiqued. It’s not just telling a girl she has a red nose, read the article that you wrote again. You are sorely confused And senile. And you are the one projecting your hate and anger. I’ll stop now, I’m trying to have more compassion for the mentally ill. I hope you get well soon. I really do.… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy
OK, so now you’re a psychiatrist. Well done – a noble profession indeed. How would I react if a woman said to me “hey, I hear you have a small dick…”? I would be (honestly) intrigued and come back with something smart (I hope!)…but here’s the thing – you’re “thought experiment” would never really occur in real life – the type of women that are described in this article don’t need to draw attention to themselves…that’s the whole point of negging….to get their attention – albeit in a rather (to me) crass way….I am not promoting the practise, I am… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous

Actually this is a good way to make yourself look like an ass.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

This is hilarious xD

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