You can also lower a girl’s social value in relation to yours with quick lines by negging women.
Here are some examples of negging women:
For a girl with a belly shirt: “Did your shirt shrink in the laundry?”
“Your roots are showing.”
“Your nose is a little red. You’re like an Eskimo. Cool.”
“You know, you look just like my little sister. Weird.”
Effect of a neg on a hot girl illustrated
“You know, I like that outfit you’ve got on… but I don’t know… your shoes don’t really match. You should have gone with tan boots…”
To her guy friends, “So what’s special about this one.”
If she’s talking tell her friends, “So do you guys ever get a word in edge wise?”
“Hey… you look like that cartoon character… yeah that’s right, Rainbow Brite remember her?”
“I like your eyes. Hey… are you wearing colored contacts??? (before she can answer) Oh my god, no way, you are…”
“You know, your body language is all closed off. It makes you look like one of those newborns I saw on the discovery channel when they came out of the womb – all curled up.”
“Hey, you’re a goof.”
By negging women, you’ve indicated to her that you’re not interested in her over anyone else in the group. This is a new thing for her. She’ll feel the bitter sting of being just like everyone else. Her looks no longer give her all the power – because you’re not responding to her looks.
Because you’re demonstrating social value to the group at the same time she’s wondering, “Why isn’t this guy attracted to me? Why isn’t this guy paying attention to me? Who is this guy? How am I going to win this guy’s attention?”
Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants approval. No one wants to be ignored. The same holds true for beautiful women – even more so. Their whole reality is based on having power and having acceptance and adoration through their good looks. Take that away and their whole reality crumbles and they’ll do anything to get it back.
Negging women is ideal for really hot girls – 8s, 9s, and 10s. For an average girl (6s, 7s), you don’t want to use value zingers. All you need to do is demonstrate social value – you don’t need to lower hers. Hers wasn’t that high to begin with.
Negging women is unnecessary and inappropriate to use on girls who are already being friendly or giving you green lights. Don’t throw one out of the blue for no reason at a girl who is already responding well.
But if she’s super hot and you’ve just met her, that’s a different story. Use a neg or two on her.
Now, it’s critical to use negs right. Remember, you’re not out to damage the girl’s self confidence or put her down. You’re not out to mess up her self-esteem. Some guys in particular cross the line and start throwing soft insults and treating women like second-class human beings when they don’t deserve it.
The point is to make yourself stand out as socially valuable male and a challenge, not to make her feel bad. But used correctly, negging women is a powerful tool in your arsenal.
Update From The Author
I noticed that my post on negging “Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work” has drawn a lot of negative comments from women.
I understand the blowback. I understand where some of you girls are coming from. You see negging as a form of bullying or insults.
And most women are pretty sensitive to the idea of it, based on being bullied in real life.
Most women, particularly in high school, were teased, gossiped about, or bullied in some fashion – and usually from other women. Pretty girls especially face negativity from their female friends, as pretty girls tend to hang in “pretty social circles” where there’s a lot of superficial cattiness, backstabbing, and competition.
Or even if you’ve never been bullied or teased yourself, you’ve seen the devastating effect it had on your classmates. So naturally, you feel sympathy.
But anger at ‘negging’ is misplaced.
First, we are talking about a night club environment. There’s lots of REJECTION involved, inherent to the environment.
And most of the rejection is aimed at the GUYS.
Haven’t either you or one of your friends ever ignore a guy? Like, not even acknowledge his presence when he tried to talk to you.
It’s often pretty CRUSHING to the guy’s self-esteem that he isn’t given 10 seconds to acknowledge he’s another human being to talk to and say “hello”. Ignoring a guy completely is much crueler than any neg a guy would dish. (Like, “Hey girl! You have some lint in your hair… look at that.”)
Then again, it’s a night club. If a guy’s ego is so fragile, he shouldn’t go.
So please girls, if a guy told you that you had lint in your hair and that would “cut you down” or would “crush you”, and your ego is THAT fragile, then don’t go to night clubs!! After all, the guys have to deal with MUCH WORSE from you girls!
In addition, Negs are for those glamour girls that have been spoiled all their lives by Daddy and have little sense of reality (like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton for example). These are the types of girls that enjoy shooting “nice guys” down. It’s THAT kind of girl that negs are designed to attract.
So if you’re a normal-looking girl with a normal attitude, you probably will NEVER BE NEGGED in your life. So for crying-out-loud, don’t worry about it.
Further consider that 99.9% of guys are SO damn nervous in clubs and bars that they can’t even approach a girl without wetting their briefs… let alone finding the balls to neg a pretty girl.
So don’t worry, it’s statistically unlikely to ever happen to you, even if you DO look like a runway model. Most guys will never approach you, or they’ll just try to kiss your ass to get into your pants. And that’s SO much better than those bad boys, right?
But since those guys are NOT a challenge in the slightest, they’re not attractive to you. That’s why you blow them off.
That’s what a neg does – creates a challenge to the female. That’s what attractive guys do. And ANY guy you’ve ever fallen for, on some level, you had to chase HIM. Every single guy you ever had a crush on made YOU chase HIM.
I know it’s simple to latch onto a cause, leave a comment, and feel like you’re serving justice in some small way by taking a stand against the 1 in 10,000 guys that have the balls to neg a girl like, “Hey girl! It’s funny how your nose wiggles when you talk!” But really, it’s an empty cause!
P.S. If you still disagree with this assessment, please leave a comment, I welcome all opinions! 😆
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984 Comments on "Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work"
shameful tactics say alot about yourself ladies. remember that
Hey Jessie you are a wanker, I hope they call you on your behaviour and tell you to fuck off!
Seriously? Someone needs therapy for saying someone else has a red nose? Wow. There are some weird people out there so angry they create these straw monsters in the hope they will burn. Where in the article does it say it is OK to scream and threaten?? The argument posed by this post is like saying we should ban gelati ocean swimming for all because it contains sharks. Get a grip please. Or, in fact, therapy.
This is disgusting.
I’m a guy and you’re a pig. Douchebag!
I’m a woman and not sure if I agree. Just because a man seems interested and friendly it doesn’t make them more attractive – a little mystery and uncertainty is more interesting and fun.
I’ve only just seen this and haven’t read the hundreds of comments but don’t understand why a person wants another person to feel shitter than we all do about ourselves anyway
love your woman, respect your woman, treat her like a queen genuinely and with no motives, and she will treat you like a king. IV been married for 20 years to my queen and would never dream of treating her with such disrespect.
I feel sorry for the poor sap who wrote this article. You must lead a very sad lonely life. I once had troubles getting good women until I grew some balls and learned how to pick out quality women who I could respect and love. I would never speak down to a woman to gain power because I am secure with myself and desire the same in a woman.
Let’s all admit that this website is actually the worst, kay?
My f*cking god, you dumbass
No, no, no… Being a nice guy is actually kind of the BEST fucking strategy. If you’re looking for someone intelligent, then don’t “neg” her. She’ll run faster than a motherfucking train.
This is fucking sick…. wow.
This is actually interesting. I came up with my own theory that this might work, a little while ago, before I heard of “negging”. What prompted the idea was how many, many times being really nice just fosters disdain.
Use that ? on me and you’ll be walking away from me with a red cheek, asshole. Only an idiot would put up with emotional and verbal abuse.
HELL YEAH
…and only a pathologically angry person (the ones that guys only identify when it is too late) that threaten physical violence if some suggests that they have a “red nose”. Seriously, you are the embodiment of what this article is about: those women that use the power imbalance in relationships, and that can occur between men and women (a power imbalance that this article seeks to mildly redress), as a weapon, that if eroded, become psychotic. Get some help for your rage.
AHHHH Here we have another specimen… One who utilizes moral outrage when faced with conflict, yet has the strange ability of a lack of self awareness on his part of said conflict…Another sad sack seeking advice from the sad sack “writer”, frustrated at his lack of prowess with all social situations indefinitely…Ladies and gents, we call this specimen a “hypocritical splooge tank”….5 cents, ladies and gents! Hurry, hurry, hurry, step right up!
Bitches be flockin’ to me now
same. every since i read this article it’s like “women hate this guy, find out why in just 3 easy steps”
fuck you
Narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths use this kind of manipulative, covert and insidious technique. It’s called ‘gaslighting’ and it’s emotionally abusive.
All of these are sad. Reading these posts is a bit like laughing at a dog that bites his own tail. Then gets mad at his tail for giving him pain and feeling powerless because of it. Then calling it a bitch.
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You know, this isn’t tactfully putting someone down, it’s sounding like a pathetic autist who has never talked to women before.
Ma’lady
*tips hat*
Your commentary explain your sick behaviour even better thank you for clarifying. Ever heard of the golden rule. If the girl ignores you in a bar MOVE ON. After all you are not looking for love you. You just want to get your jollies. Some you think you have the right to such intimacies, even with a stranger, whenever you desire. By teaching such behaviour, you are lowering men one ‘negging session’ at a time.
Its a tactic, and you say you’re above it. But yet it drove you to go sleep around and cheat, both according to you, you’ve never done before.
So either the tactic had a profound effect on you, or you’re lying about not doing those things before.
And what will happen when your mr wonderful finds his way to your comments.
I agree, women seem angry at negging only because used right it seems to work.
Yes, because it erodes their power base.
That’s deep
So I have to admit, when I first read this article I got kind of pissed.
Then I paused.
This is an interesting idea. Disgustingly manipulative, yes, but fascinating. Even if it’s used in the proper social setting there are a lot of dependant variables in the equation, especially if it’s dependent on the individual who is negged’s values.
(Guys can be negged too stfu with the fake ass manly pride. I almost hate you for targeting women to be the neggie.)
I’m a bit late to the party but several things stick out about Siggy. The first of which is; Don’t hide behind the anonymity of a keyboard. If you’re going to insult people have the decency to do it under your real name.
Also this:
‘If you actually knew who I was, and what I did, you’d probably swallow your own tongue’- This is classic braggadocio akin to the classic “Do you know I am?” And speaking for myself, I don’t care who you are or what you do.
ARROGANCE
Dating advice at actually works:
Go up to a woman in an appropriate setting.
Introduce yourself.
Talk to her like a person.
After you have been talking for a few minutes if she isn’t trying to runaway…
Ask her if she’d like to go out sometime.
Don’t take it personally if she says no.
It’s not rocket science.
You’re welcome.
Don’t…take…it…personally? How could that ever be? I say; don’t take it personally if someone says “hey you have a red nose…”
this could work, but maybe it would be more effective in the numbers if negging was sprinkled in there somehow
Hahaha, this comments section is more toxic than the League of Legends community!
I don’t think I’m very pretty, in fact, I’m extremely average in appearance (or flat-out unattractive, I’m not sure how others perceive me), and all my friends are relatively plain and geeky, but i somehow landed myself a boyfriend. Now my dad thinks said boyfriend is “negging” me. My boyfriend took off my ear cuff, said “this is weird”, and gave it back to me and i didn’t think much of it. Is this him trying to “neg” me?
Probably not. ‘Negging’ is essentially teasing…it just sounds a whole lot more crude.
I’m not pretty or anything, I’m extremely average in appearance -if not flat out unattractive-, and my friends and i are more the geeky girls, and yet my dad thinks my boyfriend was trying to do something like this the other night. Said boyfriend took my ear cuff off my ear, said “this is weird”, and handed it back. I didn’t think much of it, but my family seems to think he was trying to “neg” me? Anyone agree? Disagree?
no, because ear cuffs are kind of weird, right? You’re wearing it to be different and express your individuality.
Thsi is probably the most ignorant and backwards article that should go on the book of “ways to never have a healthy relationship in your life”
really disgusting and childish. Maybe that’s why you need to resort to these sort of ridiculous tactics bro. Hey…here’s an idea. BE A FUCKING DECENT HUMAN BEING.
Yes. Men wonder why they are losing their dignity in this world. They teach each other how to be scum.
Wow. Such vitriol. If the girl is “is a regular human being” and is told she has a red nose”, she is likely to smile dispassionately, say thank you and move on….she will not think “OH MY GOD HE IS A MASS-MURDERED”…so I conclude that (a) some of you need serious therapy, but won’t seek it until your divorce and (b) the type of person you reveal yourself to be is precisely the reason the article was written…did you stop to think that perhaps your response to an innocent neg tells that man a lot about you?
An innocent neg or a calculated tactic? Yes she might be forgiving, or even slow to catch on to it (which I assume is the hope of the nagger) but there is nothing innocent about it; and of course we all know that.
Pray tell; what “innocence” is there in matters of love and war?
Wow – home many times do I have to ask – how is that telling a girl she has a “red nose” being an attempt to “break women down, humiliate, and abuse them”…wow, some of you kids are seriously disturbed. The use of a relatively innocent written piece as a projective device for such anger and horror that lies at YOUR core is a worry.
SIGGY: Female sensitivity has nothing to do with maturity. It is why women have the honour of becoming the world’s mothers – an honour when there are better men than this who love and care for them. Negging is clearly calculated manipulation of other humans, no matter how light and fluffy you want to see it.
Wow, you manage to conflate sensitivity/maturity/motherhood/manipulation. Not easy to do. What can I say but; wtf?
No women is going to give you a chance at a club if you approach them with these lame lines. That’s all I am saying. Deal with it.
You get what you give. Give compliments and you gain the interest of the pretty girl and a fun and uninhibited sexual experience. Girls don’t want “the chase”. They want to be desired. Give insults and she will avoid you, will insult you back, or I suppose a shame-filled, sad sexual experience with the lights off, and crying afterwards. Compliments communicate confidence. Insults communicate a weird, socially awkward guy that lacks confidence.
I disagree that ‘simple desire’ is what all women want. Just the same, one sentence in your comment should go up in lights because it is amazing. ””Compliments communicate confidence.”” Unless it’s flattery – a means to an end, an honest compliment shows a generous spirit.
Honestly, did you read the article? So many here have read what they WANT TO READ into the article and then post a comments based other delusional view of what is being suggested here. If you feel it is horrifyingly insulting for someone to say “you have a red nose” then the problem is not with the speaker – I’ve said it below and I’ll say it again…what you horribly incensed web are really railing against is the possibility that you will not receive complete and unalloyed praise and adoration…and as such, it is a form of narcissistic rage.
I am human, all too human. And why do you make this about me? And “look to yourself” is precisely correct or as Aristotle put it so succinctly “γνῶθι σεαυτὸν” – there can be no higher pursuit. Except perhaps for; if you meet the Buddha on the road you must kill him. But we digress onto esoteric lines indeed – let’s get back to the issue of why PRECISELY telling a girl that she has a red nose is a heinous crime deserving of the most severe admonition?
I didn’t say any of that. My post was actually very reasonable about how you will never have fun sex. I can’t possibly imagine why you are so unsuccessful with women. You seem simply delightful. You could try a humorous approach. Next time you see an attractive women while you are out disco dancing, do a little turn while shaking your tush and say, “I’m too sexy for this shirt”.
Awe did the big man child get his little bitty feelings hurt. It’s okay when you grow up to be a big boy you will learn how to act like a human being. Seems lalala has touched on a nerve. You don’t have to front with your story of your imaginary career. Based on your comments I picture a sad lonely man in his moms isolated basement with no job, no friends, and of course no gf.
SIGGY: You are talking down to ‘lalalal.’ In fact you are bullying her. Your arrogance boggles the mind. None of our success (or our age) makes us kind, decent people.
And you point it?
Also, I know this is going to sound mega wanky, and I don’t know why I am even telling you this other than to show you how loopy communication is in the ether, but I am in my 60’s. I am Christie Brinkley. Also, I am an astrophysicist. I am Neil DeGrasse Tyson. I am both Christie Brinkley and Neil DeGrasse Tyson. But, on the side I am a Prime Minister (not going to tell you which country), but it’s mostly pro bono work. I bet you are swallowing your tongue now that you know who I am.
You do know those are lyrics from a song from the 90’s right? You are having a very big emotional reaction to a song by Right Said Fred.
There are a number of reasons why negging will never be a part of my life. The main one being that I am an adult. Negging is what middle school boys do. And they stop when they grow up enough to realize how it doesn’t get them anywhere. I hope someday you grow up and are able to actually form genuine human connections.
And I was just randomly looking this word up. But, when I saw your 5000 repetitive projection of rage comments, and your delusions of grandeur… I couldn’t resist. And I thought you would recognize it. But, you didn’t. I have never baited anyone on the internet. You make it that easy. Also, this comment of mine that we are both replying to takes a line directly from another article about seduction written by a man.
Previously you said you are psychiatrist. Now you say you are a psychologist. Those are two completely different fields. No psychiatrist or psychologist would confuse their own degree and title.
This article is about trying to get women to sleep with you. You can stop being a sick pig now.
Deliberately trying to bait you. My very first comment to you was a cut and paste of your words. And you flew off the handle. No normal person would write all of this about their life in this context.
You are a scary person.
I haven’t said any of that. My comment was very reasonable about how you will never have fun sex.
What you have written is a screed to help men find more surefire ways to abuse and dehumanize women.
Anger at negging is not misplaced.
Make no mistake: what you are doing and encouraging other men to do is abusive. Laugh, be glib, talk yourself up, let other men congratulate you or thank you.
It does’t matter.
We see you for what you are. And I’d be willing to bet substantial money that unless you’e a complete sociopath, sometimes, late at night, all alone in your own head, with those ever-expanding feelings ugliness and worthlessness, so do you.
The one actual tip you need to get women to like you: WOMEN AREN’T EXTRATERRESTRIAL BEINGS. DON’T TREAT THEM LIKE THAT.
well, fuck you and your fucking stupid pickup shit.
You neg a woman and LISTEN TO ME she will think you’re just another piece of garbage.
Nobody wants a fucking ugly ass that critiques physical appeareance. Makes you look desperate, misogynist and shallow as fuck
“MEN HAVE IT WORSE” TALK ABOUT PAIN OLYMPICS. FUCK YOU, Cry me a river!! NOBODY gets to tell anybody they have it worse just by pulling the assumption out of their ass.
Anyway whats the urge on getting laid everytime? WTF are you all sheep? animals?? GTFO
Wow – such fury, hatred and ugliness. For suggesting that you tell a girl she has a red nose!
Unfortunately for men, the unspeakable horror that lies at the heart of this person is not discovered until they are WAY into the relationship. Then the man is in a world of hurt dealing with a mentally ill person who (usually) won’t let go.
Think about it – if you see such fury over NOTHING, imagine if you have slept with this monster and they don’t like the idea of not being loved FOREVER!
Actually this is a good way to make yourself look like an ass.
This is hilarious xD
Hey man, how long is your video about “speaking to her DNA?” Do you actually tell how to do it or it just examples of success stories?
Totally agree with you.
Anybody who believes this shit is SO fucking gullible and desperate.
“How do I get this girl to like me? l know! I’ll insult her, then she’ll clinging too me in no time.”
There are few that ever get to the level of full retard. This guy has gone so far past it that it’s starting to redshift.
Nice comment – thank you.
Not really – he didn’t say “neg her until she is a mindless appendage”…it is all about getting ATTENTION when otherwise you would be overlooked or ignored. That’s all.
You are actually more disgusting than onision.
You just sound like your parents didn’t love you very much and weren’t interested in bringing you up right.
This HAS to be satire
What a fucking twat.