Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work

You can also lower a girl’s social value in relation to yours with quick lines by negging women.

Here are some examples of negging women:

For a girl with a belly shirt: “Did your shirt shrink in the laundry?”

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“Your roots are showing.”

“Your nose is a little red. You’re like an Eskimo. Cool.”

“You know, you look just like my little sister. Weird.”

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Effect of a neg on a hot girl illustrated

“You know, I like that outfit you’ve got on… but I don’t know… your shoes don’t really match. You should have gone with tan boots…”

To her guy friends, “So what’s special about this one.”

If she’s talking tell her friends, “So do you guys ever get a word in edge wise?”

“Hey… you look like that cartoon character… yeah that’s right, Rainbow Brite remember her?”

“I like your eyes. Hey… are you wearing colored contacts??? (before she can answer) Oh my god, no way, you are…”

“You know, your body language is all closed off. It makes you look like one of those newborns I saw on the discovery channel when they came out of the womb – all curled up.”

“Hey, you’re a goof.”

By negging women, you’ve indicated to her that you’re not interested in her over anyone else in the group. This is a new thing for her. She’ll feel the bitter sting of being just like everyone else. Her looks no longer give her all the power – because you’re not responding to her looks.

Because you’re demonstrating social value to the group at the same time she’s wondering, “Why isn’t this guy attracted to me? Why isn’t this guy paying attention to me? Who is this guy? How am I going to win this guy’s attention?”

Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants approval. No one wants to be ignored. The same holds true for beautiful women – even more so. Their whole reality is based on having power and having acceptance and adoration through their good looks. Take that away and their whole reality crumbles and they’ll do anything to get it back.

Negging women is ideal for really hot girls – 8s, 9s, and 10s. For an average girl (6s, 7s), you don’t want to use value zingers. All you need to do is demonstrate social value – you don’t need to lower hers. Hers wasn’t that high to begin with.

Negging women is unnecessary and inappropriate to use on girls who are already being friendly or giving you green lights. Don’t throw one out of the blue for no reason at a girl who is already responding well.

But if she’s super hot and you’ve just met her, that’s a different story. Use a neg or two on her.

Now, it’s critical to use negs right. Remember, you’re not out to damage the girl’s self confidence or put her down. You’re not out to mess up her self-esteem. Some guys in particular cross the line and start throwing soft insults and treating women like second-class human beings when they don’t deserve it.

The point is to make yourself stand out as socially valuable male and a challenge, not to make her feel bad. But used correctly, negging women is a powerful tool in your arsenal.

Update From The Author

I noticed that my post on negging “Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work” has drawn a lot of negative comments from women.

I understand the blowback.  I understand where some of you girls are coming from.  You see negging as a form of bullying or insults.

And most women are pretty sensitive to the idea of it, based on being bullied in real life.

Most women, particularly in high school, were teased, gossiped about, or bullied in some fashion – and usually from other women.  Pretty girls especially face negativity from their female friends, as pretty girls tend to hang in “pretty social circles” where there’s a lot of superficial cattiness, backstabbing, and competition.

Or even if you’ve never been bullied or teased yourself, you’ve seen the devastating effect it had on your classmates.  So naturally, you feel sympathy.

But anger at ‘negging’ is misplaced.

First, we are talking about a night club environment.  There’s lots of REJECTION involved, inherent to the environment.

And most of the rejection is aimed at the GUYS.

Haven’t either you or one of your friends ever ignore a guy?  Like, not even acknowledge his presence when he tried to talk to you.

It’s often pretty CRUSHING to the guy’s self-esteem that he isn’t given 10 seconds to acknowledge he’s another human being to talk to and say “hello”.  Ignoring a guy completely is much crueler than any neg a guy would dish.  (Like, “Hey girl!  You have some lint in your hair… look at that.”)

Then again, it’s a night club.  If a guy’s ego is so fragile, he shouldn’t go.

So please girls, if a guy told you that you had lint in your hair and that would “cut you down” or would “crush you”, and your ego is THAT fragile, then don’t go to night clubs!!  After all, the guys have to deal with MUCH WORSE from you girls!

In addition, Negs are for those glamour girls that have been spoiled all their lives by Daddy and have little sense of reality (like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton for example).  These are the types of girls that enjoy shooting “nice guys” down.  It’s THAT kind of girl that negs are designed to attract.

So if you’re a normal-looking girl with a normal attitude, you probably will NEVER BE NEGGED in your life.  So for crying-out-loud, don’t worry about it.

Further consider that 99.9% of guys are SO damn nervous in clubs and bars that they can’t even approach a girl without wetting their briefs… let alone finding the balls to neg a pretty girl.

So don’t worry, it’s statistically unlikely to ever happen to you, even if you DO look like a runway model.  Most guys will never approach you, or they’ll just try to kiss your ass to get into your pants.  And that’s SO much better than those bad boys, right?

But since those guys are NOT a challenge in the slightest, they’re not attractive to you.  That’s why you blow them off.

That’s what a neg does – creates a challenge to the female.  That’s what attractive guys do.  And ANY guy you’ve ever fallen for, on some level, you had to chase HIM.  Every single guy you ever had a crush on made YOU chase HIM.

I know it’s simple to latch onto a cause, leave a comment, and feel like you’re serving justice in some small way by taking a stand against the 1 in 10,000 guys that have the balls to neg a girl like, “Hey girl!  It’s funny how your nose wiggles when you talk!”  But really, it’s an empty cause!

P.S. If you still disagree with this assessment, please leave a comment, I welcome all opinions!  😆

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  1. Jesse is pretty clearly making a distinction here that negging is basically lightly teasing someone. A this kind of neg is not an insult. It’s actually treating women the same way men treat men. We poke fun at each other all the time, and the better friends you are the more aggressive the teasing. So getting all huffy over this is bullshit.

    There is, however, a problem with verbal abuse, and it’s pretty wide spread. Teasing, whether between men and women, or between men and men, is never intended to hurt. If someone is putting you down and intentionally making you feel like trash, you need to get out of that situation. Teasing is only teasing when everyone knows it’s a joke. It’s a game that is supposed to be fun for everyone. “Negging” is meant to catch a girl off guard. When the vast majority of guys are coming and dropping lame pickup lines or just being creepy, a guy who instantly treats you like “one of the gang” is going to throw a pretty girl for a loop. It may seem manipulative, but the reality is you have no chance in the dating scene if you can’t catch someone’s attention, and playing games like this does that very well, and when done PROPERLY it’s fun for everyone and nobody gets hurt.

    Seriously though, if some guy walks up to you and starts telling you how shitty you look, then slap him, throw your drink in his face, and kick him in the balls before moving on. He deserves it. That’s not negging.

  2. To all the girls saying that negs are stupid and don’t work, I disagree. If you use the right type of negs at the right time, they can work wonders. Saying “You have a beautiful dress! My mom has one just like it.” isn’t a great neg (It would take too many words to explain why). “It’s cute how your nose wiggles when you laugh” is a much better neg. Whether it’s true or not, every time she laughs now she is going to become somewhat shy and be thinking of her nose. Notice how this neg was in no way an insult, although it could easily be misconstrued as one. If you understand negs, they’re amazing. The point is, negs work.

  3. This is the first time I’m hearing about this shit. This “negging” is ridiculous. If you have to put a women down to get her attention, then how far do you think you going to go. Maybe women should start “negging” men. “Your pants are to tight, do you have enough room for yout balls”. Great fucking idea. Target 8’s 9’s and 10’s. They clearly put you down for a reason. This is really a load shit. Women already face nonsense and other criticism from women. Now we have to worry about it from the opposite gender. How great!

    1. If you don’t like it then don’t respond to it…The only problem is, if guys do it right you wont be able to tell they’re are doing it. You’ll be too worried about yourself at that point! Shit works 😉

  4. i think it’s not the neg who make women feel bad and feel insulted i think it’s the attitude of the guy, the vibrations and waves who are plenty of insecurity when the neg is delivred by the guy in an insecure way and from an insecure place !
    i think guys who are insecure should not use any technique on a woman who want to seduce because they will only increase the insecure vibrations and stress by using techniques first they don’t understand and can’t understand yet and second they don’t master enough so they will be confused and be more insecure, they should work fon their confidence first and specially work to be in a good waves and vibrations when they are talking to a woman no matter what she look a woman should not afraid a guy to go talk to her, if the guy is afraid this mean he think she is better than him and this will lead him to fail no matter what he will do maybe if he succeed for some reason the girl want to give him her number because she was so alone and single for months and the guy seemed to not be so ugly after all why not but he will fail on the date she will omg what im doing here and leave him give him an excuse and go, so forget techniques guys for the moment and concentrate only on you ! on what you feel what you project and what you show to a woman, there is alot of guys who suceed with hot women and they don’t ”use” techniques they didn’t learn anyone and probably if you ask them how they do how they seduce they will for sure not be able to answer you because they even don’t know how and what they are doing because they are themselves naturally good by being themselves by not being afraid of being themselves around women, if you will act like an insecure guy who is trying to seduce a girl who are afraid from inside of him the woman will feel what you think of yourself she will feel your insecurity no matter how good you are in hiding it will come a moment where she will see how insecure you are ! i think the most important thing to know about seduction is youre real or fake, youre strong to be yourself or weak, you are a man who can feel and understand women or just another guy who don’t understand them..
    from here you can know what to work on, if you are fake work on being real ! if you are weak work on being strong and if you don’t understand women go practice and talk with alot of women talk be with them know them live with women understand them have friends and sex friends have a girlfriend and understand her mind understand who she is, the only way to seduce women is being yourself the real you not the actual insecure guy, understand women and you wil be confident with them, i think this is all you need, and it’s not a work of 2 days guys it’s a dedication it’s a motivation it’s a love for seduction and women :)

  5. I’d messaged a guy I thought was ‘kind of’ cute; especially because of some nice, hand picked quotes he’d posted on the dating site, and I guess rambled on a bit about how I had the habit of reading when I was younger..etc. I added that his pit bull was v.cute (it was).
    He comes back with a one liner: “Are you a virgin?”
    I’m with my guy friend at the time, and he tells me this idiot was ‘negging’ me, and to ‘ignore’ him. I was too steamed to do that, so I just came back with a, “No, but I’m guessing you’re a prick. Thanks for the heads up,” then blocked the piece of turd.

    I just think the guy has issues, and is a ginormous a-hole. That wasn’t negging. He just has a mean streak.

    1. hahahah “Are you a virgin?” isn’t a neg… A neg is something that gets a girls attention and is in a way a compliment but could be easily misconstrued as a bad thing. This leads most girls into thinking it was a bad thing. He’s a dick, but you need to ease off negs. They’re good and bad…

  6. Pretty girls, more so than others, deal with this type of behavior within their social circles. Therefore I don’t subscribe to the idea that this is going to damage their self worth.

    I’ve had guys do this in the past and it has never worked out the way they intend. I always come back with something equally as snarky – and as you know, pretty girls are really good at being bi tchy. I never understood why men would do this until I read this article. I assumed they were ignorant and lacked social etiquette. How misunderstood you men really are.

    Best of luck in your endeavors.

  7. “In addition, Negs are for those glamour girls that have been spoiled all their lives by Daddy and have little sense of reality (like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton for example). These are the types of girls that enjoy shooting “nice guys” down. It’s THAT kind of girl that negs are designed to attract.”

    So if this is only for a small, shallow minority, why is it a major focus for you? Why do you want the girls that shoot nice guys down? Hmm are you responding to negging yourself while also being a shallow asshole only wanting to hook up with a woman based on her looks?

  8. If the concept about negging women in a club environment is so fucking important perhaps you should place that as the title dumb shit. I, a nice girl who is surrounded by men (which is 97% the office) NEGS ME ALL THE FUCKING TIME BECAUSE PIECE OF SHITS LIKE YOU POST THIS GARBAGE. I’m nice to all of them and still get back-handed compliments FOR NO FUCKING REASON. Tell me EXACTLY how THAT IS FAIR.

  9. “Most women, particularly in high school, were teased, gossiped about, or bullied in some fashion – and usually from other women” by the vicious girls in the “pretty social circles.” Women are not gentle creatures. There is no need to go easy on them. If they weren’t hostile and self- absorbed, men would not have to use “negging” to counter- act their bitchy acts, because women would take responsibility for their sexuality by approaching men.

    Even 6s and 7s throw up “shit tests” and actively try to sabotage your effort to reel them in AFTER they have shown themselves responsive by qualifying themselves, i.e. stating why they find you attractive. Either she get’s negged by a beta or the assertive male shuts her down with hard seduction, “I want you and want to _______ to you.”

  10. Negs can work there is a fine line to be walked with this technique and certainly a relationship can’t be built no this at all. But using one or two mild well placed negs in a conversation can work. Heck some women even admit that it works. And the reason many women say it doesn’t work is for the same reason women won’t tell their male friends that what women really want is intimate dirty sex. It’s taboo, that can’t admit it. Likewise women will rarely if ever admit that negs work.

    Here are my top negs. You tell me what is wrong with these?

    Awh I like the way you laugh your nose goes all crinkly like a little bunny rabbit.

    You know you blink alot.

    I just saw a girl outside wearing the exact same outfit.

    You neg haters can’t tell me that these comments are degrading women really. In fact they are likely to laugh.

  11. you people really don’t get it, and i can only assume 1) you are either a white knight who will reside in the friend zone of every girl you meet until they hit their wall at 30, and start looking for someone malleable and with money to support their life styles. or 2) you are females. Negging is not blatantly being an asshole or putting a girl down to try to make her feel bad. It has to be done in a playful manner about things that are very superficial and not truly going to make them feel bad about themselves. it can also be called banter. yes some men are horrible at it and don’t understand how to use it correctly, so they just come off as over compensating dickheads. It is all part of the game, and you women take just as much part in it, if not more so, than males do. You want to bitch at us about “running game” or deceiving you, but at least you can see what you are going to get. On the other hand you ladies are so deceptive that i might fall asleep next to a 10, and wake up next to a 5. hundreds of example videos on youtube of makeup tutorials making a woman look absolutely nothing like what she really looks like. Pounds of make up, fake eye lashes, tans, pushup bras, fake hair extensions, high heels, you name it. i mean god you ladies are the epitome of deception when it comes to the sex game. to make matters worse, modern day feminism is shitting on the male population and making things even more difficult for men if they aren’t in the top 10-15 %. i have friends that have absolutely no chance to hook up with a girl when we go out because they will get ignored from the get-go, simply because they aren’t over six feet tall, have a six pack, and aren’t a ceo of a company, as just about every woman things she is entitled to now. you want to talk about shallow just look in the mirror, and the feminist dominated media is just diluting the minds of the younger generation more and more, so these trends are only going to get worse. Men need at least some tools of the trade since we can’t literally modify our entire appearance before we head out to a club.

  12. How sad you think this is a good way to attract a woman. What happened to good old fashioned proving yourself a decent enough person to want to be with? So what if high maintenance girls put you down in nightclubs — Don’t talk to them. If they are so awful they are obviously not worth it so why don’t you concentrate on finding nice girls who won’t, then concentrate on positive interaction instead of negative doesn’t-do-anyone-any-good snarks. The behaviour you promote in this article is exactly the sort of tactic abusers use to bully and control their abuse-es. Have some F-ing sense of responsibility you numpty.

  13. Oh I’ve had douches try to “neg” me my whole life, even though I grew up in an abusive household and have seen my share of the bad side of the USA. It IS ****EXTREMELY*** transparent and pathetic. How many times do they think we’ve heard this shit before??? It’s a way to say “Hi, beautiful woman. I’m an insecure Douchebag”. The ONLY way to win a woman is to sincerely deliver many, many compliments about her good qualities and beauty, be loyal and faithful, and get down on your knees and thank God that you ever had the chance to even be near her let alone sleep with her. Chances are, you’ll never, never have such an opportunity again so if you like it, put a ring on it LOL LOL Oh and women have a very sharp memory for who has ever tried this before. Should you try something like this and it fails, which it most certainly will, you will forever be a “marked man” and avoided like the plague -not only that, her circle of friends will be secretly informed and you will be laughed at and banned from the entire group. And trust me when I say, the word about this spreads like wildfire. You might as well get used to sleeping alone if you become known for this sort of thing in any way. So you’d be best off being sincere and very, very complimentary right from the start.

  14. You win sex, IF you don’t show indications of thinking of the woman as a soft, warm spot on legs. And, seriously, just because you are only doing it to a select group of women doesn’t mean it’s not bad.

  15. now that you explained negging to all the dam women on earthm it isnt going to work on them anymore, duh! do you guys want to know what will really work on women? BOYCOTTING THEM! thats right, keep it in your pants for a few months, ignore the women, ALL of you guys, and see if we dont then have a complete power shift. but you guys CANT keep it in your pants, cuz you are weak, arent you! thats why all of us males end up LOSING this battle of the sexes.

      1. yeah that’s clearly what he is saying, that he hates women. did you even read what the fuck he wrote? you women have no fucking idea what you want. you have no idea what it is like to approach a woman and have no idea how she is going to respond. you all get so pissed at men for “running game” and trying to figure out how to get you to respond, while you have a face full of make up, fake eye lashes, fake hair extensions, a pushup bra and god knows what else going on. get the fuck over it. the game is how the game is and men have it WAAAAYY more difficult. until women are the ones that have to approach men, buy them drinks, and do all the other shit just shut the fuck up and stop complaining about men giving you attention, and then complaining when they aren’t giving you attention as well. as i said in the beginning you really don’t know what you want, you contradict your selves more than you even know.

    1. I 100% concur with this plan. Boycott those bitches. Every single last one until they are begging for sex. Let’s do this.

  16. Soooo…I’m guessing this is for ugly guys to hit on women who really are out their league in the hopes that they are stupid and will fall for this??? It’s cruel to pick on people who aren’t as smart as others, any way you slice it. No intelligent, confident woman would fall for this; so you are interacting with women who suffer from emotional issues and exploiting them to get sex. While it’s sad, I suppose it’s natural selection. Your offspring will be similar to you and your mate. So enjoy that grungy nursing home and fifteen baby daddies, etc. Why oh why do we make people take driving tests to drive but not to procreate? Well, this doesn’t matter that much. I’ll just sit back watch as you and your type are removed from the gene pool.

  17. lol while reading this i seriously remembered all those times guys did this to me and every time it just made me cringe and feel ashamed for the guy.

  18. Wouldn’t it be better not to manipulate or play games at all? Why not put your GENUINE, unique self out there? Sure, there will be rude, inconsiderate people who will treat you poorly. They are not worth your time! They are doing you a favor by making their narcissism obvious. You don’t want that in your life anyway. It may take a while, but you WILL meet a worthwhile woman, it may not be that particular night or in that particular bar.

    In addition, many of these rude women are very insecure themselves. Try, (and I know it isn’t easy) to keep that in mind and not take the rejection quite so personal.

    Her rejection is probably the result of being profoundly mistreated by someone in her childhood.-

    1. They do this because their real personalities are either so foul or so boring that they’d got shot down immediately. A negative reaction’s better than none, right?

  19. as a dude I don’t know how i feel about the whole thing but girls seriously this thing you think happens where you actually like and fall for the nice guy routeen is bull. most women don’t want the nice guy who treats the girl well like a princess and puts up with her crap because we usually get friend zoned while the guy who comes in and doesn’t really care at first what you say and who is more edgey with you is the one you take home. that doesn’t mean those dudes aren’t good guys but the behaviour is different. most women have been socialised to believe the male approaches and you guys get to decide who’s in and out and you have fooled yourself into believing it’s because he was nice and seemed like he would treat you right, attraction isn’t rational for men or women, you go home with the cheeky guy who had the balls to make you stop and think and who gave you a bit of banter. you are delusional if you think you look at a timid guy with a good job who will treat you great and think oh i want him. most times that doesn’t happen at least not in the first contact otherwise flirting wouldn’t exist. men have to jump through crazy hoops to attract women assuming any of you give those of us who are good nice people the time of day so it’s not that different from men having a few hoops of our own for you to jump through. we are attracted to somebody not because they are a good choice. i know so many girls who get their motor running with the dickheads and are only friends with the guys who are nice and treat them awesome. the logic is flawed. then again these things can be done in a suttle way without upsetting somebodys self esteem this stuff works otherwise their wouldn’t be an industry

    1. Hey. I’m poly, and my boyfriend is a *genuinely* nice guy (no quotation marks needed), and he at one point had 3 girlfriends, and was continuing to talk to a few girls he met on Tinder. There was never a moment where he tried to manipulate any of us, there was never a moment where he tried to disrespect or tear us down.
      Dude was getting mad laid. The nice guy CAN get the girl(s). In fact, girls who are confident and sure of themselves are hella more awesome in bed because they know they are doing it because they want it.
      Stop pretending like manipulating people is ok. Stop pretending like negging is ok. If you are having so much trouble picking women up, then maybe you should reconsider where and with whom you’re doing it.

  20. I have been ‘negged’ and let me tell you, it is the stupidest thing a guy could possibly do. I don’t even remember what he said, something about my dress. I just looked at him and walked away. It did not pique my interest in him, did not make me think he was part of a ‘higher social class.’ It just made me think he was an asshole.

    I don’t deserve to be spoken to that way, and I don’t tolerate it. This entire concept of negging is just so asinine.

    1. It’s a numbers game. Just like advertising online or in an app. I’m sure you see an ad and think, “who the hell actually clicks those?” Yet it works. It works because there is a percentage of the population that will be intrigued by those ads. Once again, it’s a numbers game. There are girls out there who find it attractive when a guy busts their chops. I love girls who are snarky and have a great sense of humor, and negging works fantastic to see if she is someone I want to have a conversation with.

      You don’t speak for every girl on the planet. Everyone is different. I think just walking away after a guy built up the courage to talk to you is pretty rude and no one deserves to be treated that way. He tried with good intentions to pique your interest. You decided to respond with a total lack of respect.

      1. If a guy’s opening line is an insult, I don’t consider that a good intention and he doesn’t get my respect. Walking away without insulting him back is the kindest thing I can do. I’m so glad that I’ve got a boyfriend now and am out of the dating game.

  21. Speaking as a “pretty girl” who makes a living from being “pretty” I can tell you that these comments would either just piss me off or make me think you’re a weirdo. I fell in love with my husband because he was genuine, sweet, romantic and intelligent. If he had told me my roots are showing or that I look like sister (YUCK) when we first met, he would never get my number or go out with me. Maybe this crap works on some insecure little girls but not confident WOMEN.

      1. That is seriously a good question, Doctor! Talk about the band, if there is one. Talk about something going on around the bar (or other venue). More women are into sports now, so talking about the game on the bar’s TV might work. Even talking about the weather could work. That way, you aren’t gushing with compliments and inflating the girl’s ego, but aren’t insulting her and getting shot down, either.

        Things that don’t work: Negging. Being really drunk. “So, you got a boyfriend?” <–actual opening line, and yes, I do have one. That brings up another, related issue: when a woman says she has a boyfriend, one of two things is happening. Either she really has a boyfriend, or she is letting you down easy so that you won't feel bad. DO NOT respond, "So if you have a boyfriend, THEN WHERE IS HE?" This happens to me a lot, even though I don't dress provocatively and am older. This is a good way to meet a woman's boyfriend–not something a guy wants to do.