Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work

You can also lower a girl’s social value in relation to yours with quick lines by negging women.

Here are some examples of negging women:

For a girl with a belly shirt: “Did your shirt shrink in the laundry?”

“Your roots are showing.”

“Your nose is a little red. You’re like an Eskimo. Cool.”

“You know, you look just like my little sister. Weird.”

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Effect of a neg on a hot girl illustrated

“You know, I like that outfit you’ve got on… but I don’t know… your shoes don’t really match. You should have gone with tan boots…”

To her guy friends, “So what’s special about this one.”

If she’s talking tell her friends, “So do you guys ever get a word in edge wise?”

“Hey… you look like that cartoon character… yeah that’s right, Rainbow Brite remember her?”

“I like your eyes. Hey… are you wearing colored contacts??? (before she can answer) Oh my god, no way, you are…”

“You know, your body language is all closed off. It makes you look like one of those newborns I saw on the discovery channel when they came out of the womb – all curled up.”

“Hey, you’re a goof.”

By negging women, you’ve indicated to her that you’re not interested in her over anyone else in the group. This is a new thing for her. She’ll feel the bitter sting of being just like everyone else. Her looks no longer give her all the power – because you’re not responding to her looks.

Because you’re demonstrating social value to the group at the same time she’s wondering, “Why isn’t this guy attracted to me? Why isn’t this guy paying attention to me? Who is this guy? How am I going to win this guy’s attention?”

Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants approval. No one wants to be ignored. The same holds true for beautiful women – even more so. Their whole reality is based on having power and having acceptance and adoration through their good looks. Take that away and their whole reality crumbles and they’ll do anything to get it back.

Negging women is ideal for really hot girls – 8s, 9s, and 10s. For an average girl (6s, 7s), you don’t want to use value zingers. All you need to do is demonstrate social value – you don’t need to lower hers. Hers wasn’t that high to begin with.

Negging women is unnecessary and inappropriate to use on girls who are already being friendly or giving you green lights. Don’t throw one out of the blue for no reason at a girl who is already responding well.

But if she’s super hot and you’ve just met her, that’s a different story. Use a neg or two on her.

Now, it’s critical to use negs right. Remember, you’re not out to damage the girl’s self confidence or put her down. You’re not out to mess up her self-esteem. Some guys in particular cross the line and start throwing soft insults and treating women like second-class human beings when they don’t deserve it.

The point is to make yourself stand out as socially valuable male and a challenge, not to make her feel bad. But used correctly, negging women is a powerful tool in your arsenal.

Update From The Author

I noticed that my post on negging “Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work” has drawn a lot of negative comments from women.

I understand the blowback.  I understand where some of you girls are coming from.  You see negging as a form of bullying or insults.

And most women are pretty sensitive to the idea of it, based on being bullied in real life.

Most women, particularly in high school, were teased, gossiped about, or bullied in some fashion – and usually from other women.  Pretty girls especially face negativity from their female friends, as pretty girls tend to hang in “pretty social circles” where there’s a lot of superficial cattiness, backstabbing, and competition.

Or even if you’ve never been bullied or teased yourself, you’ve seen the devastating effect it had on your classmates.  So naturally, you feel sympathy.

But anger at ‘negging’ is misplaced.

First, we are talking about a night club environment.  There’s lots of REJECTION involved, inherent to the environment.

And most of the rejection is aimed at the GUYS.

Haven’t either you or one of your friends ever ignore a guy?  Like, not even acknowledge his presence when he tried to talk to you.

It’s often pretty CRUSHING to the guy’s self-esteem that he isn’t given 10 seconds to acknowledge he’s another human being to talk to and say “hello”.  Ignoring a guy completely is much crueler than any neg a guy would dish.  (Like, “Hey girl!  You have some lint in your hair… look at that.”)

Then again, it’s a night club.  If a guy’s ego is so fragile, he shouldn’t go.

So please girls, if a guy told you that you had lint in your hair and that would “cut you down” or would “crush you”, and your ego is THAT fragile, then don’t go to night clubs!!  After all, the guys have to deal with MUCH WORSE from you girls!

In addition, Negs are for those glamour girls that have been spoiled all their lives by Daddy and have little sense of reality (like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton for example).  These are the types of girls that enjoy shooting “nice guys” down.  It’s THAT kind of girl that negs are designed to attract.

So if you’re a normal-looking girl with a normal attitude, you probably will NEVER BE NEGGED in your life.  So for crying-out-loud, don’t worry about it.

Further consider that 99.9% of guys are SO damn nervous in clubs and bars that they can’t even approach a girl without wetting their briefs… let alone finding the balls to neg a pretty girl.

So don’t worry, it’s statistically unlikely to ever happen to you, even if you DO look like a runway model.  Most guys will never approach you, or they’ll just try to kiss your ass to get into your pants.  And that’s SO much better than those bad boys, right?

But since those guys are NOT a challenge in the slightest, they’re not attractive to you.  That’s why you blow them off.

That’s what a neg does – creates a challenge to the female.  That’s what attractive guys do.  And ANY guy you’ve ever fallen for, on some level, you had to chase HIM.  Every single guy you ever had a crush on made YOU chase HIM.

I know it’s simple to latch onto a cause, leave a comment, and feel like you’re serving justice in some small way by taking a stand against the 1 in 10,000 guys that have the balls to neg a girl like, “Hey girl!  It’s funny how your nose wiggles when you talk!”  But really, it’s an empty cause!

P.S. If you still disagree with this assessment, please leave a comment, I welcome all opinions!  😆

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Many girls commenting here and never listen to their advice on how to flirt with them. They think they know what attracts them (by example they think they’re attracted to a handsome guy couse he is “nice” and “kind”). Negging worked for me (unintentionally) couse I knew I had no chance and I just wanted to tease her without caring of the consequences, but in a friendly manner (former colleague of mine). She was very spoiled and used to having all the boys do her liking. Ironically she wanted to spend time with me, who didn’t do her liking instead.… Read more »
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actual girl here – Not offended but this is pretty bad advice.
If you ever manage to get a woman’s attention, use it to influence her with positive impression.
Unless you think it would be more helpful to be laughed at, because you will be made fun of all night for commenting on mascara.

WARNING
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You are a narcissist piece of shit with no balls..

WARNING
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You are a narcissist piece of shit with no balls.

bdbsmsmriti
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bdbsmsmriti

You sound an absolute loser. No, amend that – you are a loser. Negging a woman takes balls? I’m amazed you can even find yours, Jessie.

Feminist Killjoy
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Feminist Killjoy

Just FYI – this is horrible advice, from someone who is likely a social retard, but thinks he’s very popular. Women. Don’t. Like. This. Seriously. It’s stupid and childish and doesn’t work. Get a woman by actually being an interesting person, and treating her with respect.

Siggy
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Siggy

…just before she goes home with the hottie with the tatt’s…(male or female!)

Alexander norton
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Alexander norton
Woah. There’s a lot here. It makes me happy I’m no longer desperate in night clubs. There’s a few things that are deeply offensive – 1) the rating system, saying that a girl is an 8, 9 or even a 6 is so degrading. Your basically saying the only thing they have going for them is their looks. I heard about this when I was a kid, but adults still do this? Wow. It’s really damaging. 2) connections with women are down to genuine interest. If you just want to get in someone’s pants then your intentions just highlight why… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

1. It’s called “assortative mating” – look at every species on the planet…(called “narcissistic object choice” in shrinkology)
2. “Genuine” and “interest” are oxymorons.
3. “knock them down” by saying they have a red nose? “disgusting”?? “Genuinely” hyperbolic! etc etc
4. Yep, Freud said the same thing…after a lifetime of analysing women, he could not work out what women wanted! What chance do mere mortal men have?

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Yep. Be emotionally abusive because you’re a little boy afraid of rejection.

Siggy
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Siggy

Wow – “emotionally abusive” because someone DARE say you have a red nose??

Or might you be one very angry (and more than likely, abusive) woman?!

And if so – why?

chris
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chris

Couldn’t not have said it better. Because it’s a hot female, it’s totally okay to act a dick….what?

Siggy
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Siggy

“act a dick” for saying someone has a “red nose”?…

Tom
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Tom

These guys are socially clueless. They don’t realize they have everything backwards. He’s saying it shows confidence to NOT hit on an atttactive girl. He thinks girls are attractive to guys who are submissive and intimidated, calling it “being a challenge.”
He’s thinks only a loser would want HIM. That’s why he thinks wanting someone is being a loser

Siggy
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Siggy

The market garden was designed to produce produce. Will and Guy’s Jokes – Logic of English Language The city tip was so full that it had to refuse more refuse. In the boat, a row erupted amongst the oarsmen about how to row. The nurse wound the crepe bandage around the wound.

Seriously – can anyone understand this reply??

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Youneedtherapy
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Youneedtherapy

Small penis. That’s what it is. Oh, no, my bad, you must have fell out of your crib and ut must have really really hurt your ego. Good luck trying to fix it.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
Incredible. While this probably isn’t the only thing, I do admit, I am fascinated by that phenomenon- the fact that men who are worth it, are chased after by women. It’s incredible. And yes, always, those guys are the ones with the kind of confidence to not give any fucksabout anything, not about women, about rules, etc. Indeed, I must admit, I find it to be intriguing. What I mean is this: Ladies, and I know you guys are definitely going to agree with me on this, but women love to please men they like. They love it. But how… Read more »
Tom
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Tom

You’re extremely confused lol. You’re saying it shows confidence to NOT hit on attractive women. Were you born yesterday? How does anybody not know that it takes guts to show interest in a hot girl. Jesus. Losers like you are just projecting how you’d feel about anyone who’d chase YOU. You assume they must be a loser because you’re not worth it. If you felt worth it you’d see it as dominant

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Much confidence. Very ability. Much skill. Penis. Vagina. Bigly man. Confidence. Burn the witch. Sex. Protein boner shake. Derp. That is really how I feel reading this article and some of these comments as a woman. Is that what it’s like when dudes hang out?

Anonymous
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Anonymous

So, uh. This was very badly written, and so it’s very confusing. My bad.

Pete
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Pete
And in today’s round of Wikipedia hop-skip-and-jump, I stumble on the term ‘negging’, and have it kindly explained to me by some sociopathic shill, desperately projecting his own twisted fucked-up inadequacies as some means of peddling some cheap, dime-store schtick to equally morally bankrupt fucks half a click away. And all in the name of what, mate? Sex? Fuck, that’s original. I like talking to, engaging with – and fucking – women as much as the next man, but reading this shit? Makes me want to go all Snake Pliskin and turn off the internet. Jesse ‘Charger’? (dear god, the… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

Snake Pliskin? I thought you were dead?!

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Thank u

Anonymous
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This guy! As a man I just want apologise for this entire article, not only was it ill conceived and entirely inappropriate it was also completely absurd in its premise and later ‘justification’. I cannot fathom how you the author thought that this quite obviously sociopathic approach to dare I say courting was a good idea. Do you by some miracle not have a Mother? Because I find it very hard to believe that someone raised in part by a woman would resort and then promote such behaviour. And before you or anyone would suggest I am no white knight… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

Now why did you have to bring my mother into it?! 🙂

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Thanks

CLA
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CLA
So… I’m not going to be like all these other people who are responding with anger and emotional outburst (though I will acknowledge their arguments are valid). Let me try a different approach, and I accept that you still may not even bother to read my comment because I don’t agree with your philosophy. But I assure you, I read your entire article, and I gave it a fair consideration, including that I agree with some of your reasoning, if not the “technique” itself. First of all, I truly understand where you are coming from. There are absolutely a lot… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

Good comment.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Hmmm, I don’t know if this guerilla vantage point is going to help our friend in the bush much. You’re going to have to be more straightforward and just tell him he sucks.

Alyson Smith
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Alyson Smith

Hope you’re happy staying single then, mate.

Alyson Smith
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Alyson Smith

Negging shouldn’t be a thing. Ever.

The first fella to try that on me will be promptly told to fuck right off.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
Here are some suggested titles for your update: This is what Mansplaining sounds like (for all you “girls” who needed to have it broken down for you). Or: Why women are really actually wrong about how we react to things men write about the way we are. Or: Chill out: there’s nothing wrong with teaching each other how to score, manipulate and objectify the bitchy, hot ones, since they’re the ones whose pants we want to get into the most… and they don’t react to being the on the receiving end of all that unsolicited sexual attention in ways that… Read more »
Kate
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lol the follow up comments are a hilarious and pathetic attempt to get women to understand why you’re telling men to act like assholes. I’ve been to nightclubs, and no it’s not only men getting rejected. It’s mostly women being rejected. I’m in a room full of people and out of all the girls, there are only two girls getting hit on. I used to be one of those girls, fresh out of high school and working as a model. I was “spoiled by daddy” too. I did not LIKE treating guys like crap. I would have liked it if… Read more »
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a b

Cool story. Needs more dragons and stuff.

Siggy
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Siggy

This the first post that has truly nauseated me…in the words of Nietzsche – and they seem to have been written with you in mind:

“Women are considered deep – why? Because one can never discover any bottom to them. Women are not even shallow.”

You are a horrible person.

RojoMojoJojo
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Siggy, let me know if you swing by France. Beers on me. You made your point and the ones who were supposed to gain from it, will eventually. Power dynamics, as simple as that. Don’t listen to all these soft babies who want to go on and on accusing you of being a misogynist and inciting mental violence against the whole of womankind (wtf are they smoking, really). The ones who wanted to find faults and didn’t even pay attention to the proper wording that you’ve(?) typed going all OTT and overboard with some exaggerated nonsense, honestly let them live… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous

They come in pairs ladies, take notes. PSA: They might come in groups or sets of two.

Siggy
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Siggy

Congratulations on being able to count to ‘two’. Not sure what your point is though.
But I can sense the disturbance in the force as you realise (above) that there is a a world of thought larger than your parochial fishbowl and pet peeves. Keep thinking and stop just ‘reacting’. And look up “ad hominem”,

Siggy
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Siggy

Yo bro – you truly are strong with the force! Please use your powers for good not evil, ha, ha
Many will remain unenlightened…so it has always been.
And if you swing past Australia – I will pay you the same honour!

R

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Is that a thing? To put the first letter of your first name? Because I feel like a douchey guy sent me a text once and did that. Who signs a text or an internet comment??? Oh wait…

00000
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Thanks, I now know to stay away from men with the mentality of a 12 year old.

Kate
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Kate

lol so true! “If you dip her hair in paint she’ll like you” didn’t work then, doesn’t work now.

Katherine
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Katherine

If you had come on to me like this I wouldn’t have been offended – I’d assumed someone had dropped you on your head as a baby or something. Or at least had some kind of personality deficiency. Your misogyny is showing and it’s the exact opposite of appealing.

Bengu
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Bengu

Rejection is something and insulting is another you piece of shit. Oh no, I’m not insulting you, just rejecting your idea.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

I think you are a huge asshole

Anonymous
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Anonymous
Since when are women obliged to talk to men approaching them? Take it from an average woman: turn down a man, cause you just don’t want to talk and 99% of the time he gets salty. Sorry, but if your ego is crushed that easily, the go back to momma. If I don’t want to talk to you for whatever reason, then no negging in the world will help you, insults even less. Take it in your stride, walk away and try to talk to someone else. It is that simple. And it will make you look less of a… Read more »
Kate
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Kate

You’re so right. They’ll start yelling and screaming at you just because you don’t immediately drop your pants for them.

Siggy
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Siggy

Here is the truth about why they turn ‘salty’ – you don’t know how to talk to them nicely…truly communicate….and that’s because you don’t have to. And unbeknownst to you – you will be getting a rush every time you can hurt someone….with a smug “in your dreams”….try something like “look I can see you’re a nice guy, but honestly at this point I just don’t need…I don’t mean to hurt you but….good luck in your search and I admire your courage in…..”

Almo
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Almo

Just another keyboard warrior hiding behind an anonymous profile so they can talk rubbish about things that have nothing to do with this article. Please take a seat

(oh & read between the lines next time)

Anonymous
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Anonymous
Ooooohhh my gooood I’m trying to be the better person with people like you but I just can’t!!!! Are you actually calling crazy and not-suitable for respect the women who insult you for the crap you have in your fucking head? You little piece of shit? Guess what bitch, if you were a stable and attractive person you wouldn’t need “negging” in the first place to get laid. I can’t even understand the way you’re thinking! How the hell can you think the stupid things you say are OK? People like you and anyone “negging” should have their fucking dicks… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous

Christ the stupidity is strong with this one, please cleanse this femen cunt

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Dude just fyi, your little “update” made you look a million times more A DICK. And you were already a pretty big one.
P.S. you must be a really sad person.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

THIS SITE IS TRASH

Harry
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Harry

Should change the title to “How to be a dick.” Seems far more appropriate.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Yes and all PUA advice, the Red Pill community and Return of Kings should follow suit. It’s pretty much ‘How to be a psycho manipulative dingus 101’ or could also collectively be called: ‘Intro to ted bundy’s thought processes’.

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Negging is clearly using the sociopathic manipulation technique of devaluation.

Any males that would need to use this technique are little insecure beta boys and should focus on finding their balls and learning to be Alpha Males.

Alpha Males close the deal because they are confident and women are drawn to them and don’t need to be mind fucked to want to be with them.

crazypineapplehead
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Well, ladies: if nothing else, we have all been informed of this technique and we can respond how we choose when presented with it. We can’t control anyone else but ourselves. Thanks, Jesse! Education is power!

Anonymous
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Anonymous

your points are interesting… still not okay. come on. you know this.

Jim
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Jim

And this is why you are still a virgin

Anonymous
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Anonymous
As a “hot girl” who was literally called a 10 out loud by some PUA (POS) creep mastermind… What you’re all doing is cruel, inappropriate, and down right wrong. You are using powerful emotional and psychological tools to systematically attack a woman’s self worth, autonomy, individuality, free will, as well as her mind and body. Negging is a deplorable practice and is precisely the kind of chipping away psychological abuse that can lead to devastating outcomes for women with tumultuous pasts or difficult lives. These triggers are powerful and downright dangerous and irresponsible to use on people. You never know… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

Seek help. Seriously, you need help. If this is a reflection of your inner world and dialogue, you are a disturbed person. You’d think the suggestion was dragging women to Room 101 from “1984” (read the book – Orwell)…honestly, your rage needs to be dealt with or you’ll continue being you…

Psycholuver
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Sickie,
Guys like you with petite, delicate, bird-like body frames have to get women somehow, right? I think it’s so cute how tiny you are! …wanna fuck?

I’ll bet you and the ‘clientele’ at which this article is aimed wouldn’t be able to ‘perform’ after a neg like that..

But, it’s just a comment saying you have a small frame! I don’t understand why there should be an issue with it?! Haha

Kimo da Hapa Haole
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Nothing she said was wrong. Negging, when it’s done in a relationship and not by some random asshole with a bald patch you meet in a bar and never see again, can seriously undermine a woman’s self worth and make her accepting of more damaging types of abuse. It might seem like one small comment won’t do that much harm, but when it goes on for months at the hands of someone you trust and love, any woman will start to have lowered self-worth. At best, negging is like a little 6-year-old boy going up to a pretty girl on… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous

Regardless if you agree with the article or not, it specifically says in the article that it should be avoided in relationships…

Siggy
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Siggy
Where in the article does it say that negging is to be done “in a relationship” and “for months”? And (I ask for what seems the hundredth time) how can saying that you have am Eskimo-like red nose equate to “systematically attack a woman’s self worth, autonomy, individuality, free will, as well as her mind and body”??? Seriously?? – you can’t see a problem when there is such a hysterical and histrionic response (here and below) to telling someone their t-shirt looks like it has shrunk…you really thing that is a proportionate response to this mild albeit tacky article? Really??… Read more »
Psycholuver
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Psycholuver

Guys like you with petite, delicate, bird-like body frames have to get women somehow, right? I think it’s cute that you’re so tiny! …wanna fuck?

I’ll bet if a female negged you, or other PUAers who utilize this technique, in this fashion you wouldn’t be able to ‘perform.’

But, but..all I said was some harmless little comment regarding a body size! How is that offensive?!

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Let me illustrate the difference to you between teasing and taking a dig at a girl’s self esteem: Teasing-“Hey your stomach is showing a little, not that anyone’s complaining. I know I’m not. ;)” Negging-“What’s wrong with your shirt? Did it shrink in the dryer? Do you know how to do laundry?” There is a clear difference. In the tease, you are being playful and letting her know you find her attractive and you’re only joking. In the neg, you are deliberately obscuring whether you’re joking or not and you are insinuating on purpose that you do not find her… Read more »
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Well you started off using a reasonable tone, pointing out the (supposed) difference between teasing and negging (which, let me say again, I would not use personally, and, as I’ve said below, I think is tacky) but then you slip – as so many do here – into talk about it equating (in your opinion, inevitably) to ‘rape’ and ‘violation’!…it is this ANGER of yours that I am interested in…for example, you elide seamlessly from a what is talked about in the article above, namely, a one-off neg to a ‘hottie’, into psychological torment ‘over the course of months’ which… Read more »
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You sir, are delusional. I am the above poster. And no, it is not narcissistic rage. Maybe you’ve never had the misfortune to meet an actual narcissist if you think my paltry internet comment is narcissistic rage. My point was clear and it’s the same point everyone is making that you don’t seem to get-there are actually people out there who have mental illness, people with abusive upbringings, people with fragile self worth and self esteem. Pushing their buttons to get in their pants is never appropriate. How do you know what you’re doing? You don’t. You don’t know anything… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous

See,you just made my point.Why would the good voters overlook all the nice gentlemen and ladies out there to elect Trump as president?He even won the women vote by the way.Sometimes being a jerk works!

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Why are you girls here in the first place?This is supposed to be a men’s only site.Its like you girls sneaking into a boys’ locker room and eavesdropping on them.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
So we can protect ourselves from you creeps and not get manipulated into doing things we don’t really want to do with guys we might not actually like. I’m learning all I can personally about the Red Pill, PUA community, etc. because I want to educate my daughters and friends about this level of hatred and I want them to be able to be aware that there are millions of men in the world who think this way. Sadly, women must protect themselves at all times. We live in a brutal world where men are so threatened by feminine power… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

“creeps”…”hatred”…”brutal”…???

For saying you have a red nose?!

You need help – seriously.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Take it or leave it,this PUA stuff works and NICE guys will always finish last.
The heart will always want what it wants no matter what the brain says.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Also what is the difference between attempting to “lower a woman’s social value” in relation to you and attempting to target and lower a woman’s self esteem? The fact you are using words like “hysterical” and “histrionic” to describe my response just speaks to my point even more.

Kent
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To be fair, I kind of see where you are going with this, but this doesn’t work like you say it does. Most of the time, if you act like an asshole, girls are simply gonna assume that you are just an asshole. Being an asshole is not attractive, no matter your gender. To get the ones you are talking about, you need looks yourself, or some other thing that attracts them. I know you think this reverse-psychology bs sounds cool and all, but its not a bulletproof way of doing this as there is no merit to it. Sure,… Read more »
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Saying ‘You probably won’t get negged’ is negging. You’re trying to set up girls to feel proud to be negged, because if they’re negged it means they’re valuable. It’s pretty transparent. And negging is transparent. We’re not stupid. Not even us hot girls. We see a guy negging and know that he doesn’t have enough character to attract women. He has to resort to tricks. It’s actually pathetic, in the true sense of the word. As is this piece.

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What a sad boring wanker

Robin
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Robin
Playful teasing can be a normal part of flirting, and part of the mutual “chase”. But this is completely different. This is not playful teasing. It is intentionally making a vulnerable woman feel bad so you can hope to win her back. It is psychological manipulation and anyone who tricks or manipulates a vulnerable woman into bed is a sociopathic soulless immoral damaging fucking asshole IMHO. Ultimate cowardice. How can you even enjoy the sex when you know she is not actually attracted to you? Surely genuine, open lust is the biggest turn on? If a girl is fucking me… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous

This is what mental illness looks like. Dude, seek help.

Leah
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Leah
If you respect women, and particularly want to be with a beautiful woman, have honest intentions, it shows in the quality of the content in your speech, and your verbal/body language – including your inflection, intonation, and volume. How you speak is a powerful, persuasive linguistic skill that goes a lot further than making implications about her appearance (ex. assuming she is wearing contact lenses, questioning the quality or color of her hair, etc.). No one likes being “teased” by a stranger. You need to step your game up, improve the quality of your conversation and add genuine attitude that… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy
Firstly, women who claim they are “hot” rarely are. Secondly, this is more often the case when they are engineers, ha, ha 😉 Thirdly, the point of the article is that negging – despicable act that it seems to be to most women posters here – can be used by a dude precisely when talking about the MIT DNA store (huh?) to a “hottie” DOES NOT WORK. That’s all. Pretty simple really. One (questionable) tool in the armamentarium. The rest of what you write is therefore irrelevant, and an excuse to lecture us all, and also to make you feel… Read more »
Chrissi
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Chrissi
Average or ugly guys being hung up on getting a woman just for her looks is just hilarious. Last thing you need is attitude but if you want to get somewhere you should kiss up to her. If a woman wants a “challenge” she’ll just go with the average hot guy/bad boy i guess you never thought of that in your genius plan. And what’s up with these ratings? No normal person rates someones looks by nrs what a huge d-bag sign. Worst of all you’re not even willing to listen to well meant advice and then complain no one… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy

“Ugly”…”troll”…”d-bag”…wow, what a wonderful human being you are. Great catch! Definitely deserving of “kissing up” and “respect”..(which BTW is what you fear losing – which is the point of the article…but obviously you missed this subtlety)
0/10

Joe
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Joe
I’m not sure who the target audience is here for this blog.. angsty teenage boys competing for women’s numbers? Hermits with difficulty speaking or respecting women? What makes you think women can’t see the ulterior motive behind negging when they’re out in a social setting? Expect negative feedback from repulsive negging tactics like in this kid’s blog. Honestly, who do you expect to pick-up by making comments like “it looks like your shirt shrunk in the dryer” or “your roots are showing”? Do you honestly believe a “10” is going to pay more attention to an average Joe bc you… Read more »
Eve
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Eve

Here’s a crazy idea: treat women like human beings & don’t be an asshole.

– advice from a hot woman

Anonymous
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Anonymous

No one cares

Melissa
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Melissa

When guys neg, it’s an instant red flag that they’re not worth mine or any girl’s time. It’s a pathetic “look at me look at me” move and insulting. The fact that guys actually believe it would work is just beyond me. Honestly forget pick up con men (and the nightclub scene that this apparently works in) and just pick up a hobby that will likely have female members. It’s much easier and way less manipulative to just be a goddamn genuine human being with a girl and find a connection that way. Trust me, negging does NOT work.

Jim
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Jim

Personally I would never treat a woman that way. And any woman who falls for that crap is not someone I want to be with. That sh*t is fine when you are 19 and looking for a one night pick up, but when adults do it…it’s just pathetic to be honest. If you need to undermine a woman’s confidence to get her to sleep with you then it says a lot more about you than it does about her. fwiw I’ve never ‘negged’ and would be disgusted by any of my friends who did.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

No one cares

Shae
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Shae
OMG! How condescending can one human being be? You might as well have said: “don’t worry if a guy hasn’t negged you: it’s because you’re just not that hot, that he should even bothered!!!!Should a beautiful woman feel honoured somehow that a man has negged her ??? Jesse it doesn’t sound like you like women very much. I am sorry I am not crying a river because women don’t give some men the time of day. But that implies that all men acknowledge ALL women even the ones they don’t feel attracted to. Now that’s not true, and you know… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous
Negging is psychological warfare, which to me, is close in form to gaslighting, because when you call a guy out on negging, he then accuses you of being “crazy” because he meant it as a “compliment”. Anything designed to mess with someone’s head is abuse. What is the end goal? To trick a woman into sleeping with you? So this “mind-fuck” is actually “mind-rape”? I am not a super model, but I have been the victim of negging for over 6 years and am finally able to define what this person has been doing to me. It is mental manipulation… Read more »
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Jon
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Jon
I just searched up “negging”. Call me ignorant, but I had no idea it had a term. I personally have never used this. I’ve seen other guys do it though and thought it a little odd and obvious. I’ve also had it done to me, from females, but I knew they were just playing around. Didn’t realize it’s a means to an end. Maybe I’m oblivious. Anyway, Not sure if these would really work on a girl..at least not most of the time anyway. I’ll sometimes throw some shade in a banter-esque style but only after talking to her for… Read more »
Maud
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Maud

So,you’re saying it’s ok for men to neg women because after all,they have to deal with worst from women?
How is it different from simply put her down?

Alix
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Alix
Jesse don’t listen to any of these whiny cry babies who have you completely misunderstood because they can’t handle the truth. No one here is talking about destroying self-esteem & making insults, it’s meant to be playful & challenging banter & it’s based on the push & pull principle. Tension is an important & normal part of seduction. This dating game is not a fairy tale where being a nice guy will & putting on her on a pedestal will get her attracted to you. At the end of the day you’re trying to win her over & that doesn’t… Read more »
Maud
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Maud

Alex,when those “techniques” are hugely used by assholes who play mind games to take control over women and the relationship,people have all the reasons to be “cry babies” as you put it.

Alix
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Alix

Hi Maud, i can understand what you’re saying, the issue here is that most people are dismissing this technique in it’s in entirety (without really understanding what it is)
& not its misuse

whutwhut
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whutwhut

Anyone who would do even half of what this pathetic loser is suggesting must be a complete sociopath, if they would turn to this because they were alone, maybe they deserved to be alone in the first place.

Siggy
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Siggy

Please see every reply I have made here!

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