Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work

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You can also lower a girl’s social value in relation to yours with quick lines by negging women.

Here are some examples of negging women:

For a girl with a belly shirt: “Did your shirt shrink in the laundry?”

“Your roots are showing.”

“Your nose is a little red. You’re like an Eskimo. Cool.”

“You know, you look just like my little sister. Weird.”

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Effect of a neg on a hot girl illustrated

“You know, I like that outfit you’ve got on… but I don’t know… your shoes don’t really match. You should have gone with tan boots…”

To her guy friends, “So what’s special about this one.”

If she’s talking tell her friends, “So do you guys ever get a word in edge wise?”

“Hey… you look like that cartoon character… yeah that’s right, Rainbow Brite remember her?”

“I like your eyes. Hey… are you wearing colored contacts??? (before she can answer) Oh my god, no way, you are…”

“You know, your body language is all closed off. It makes you look like one of those newborns I saw on the discovery channel when they came out of the womb – all curled up.”

“Hey, you’re a goof.”

By negging women, you’ve indicated to her that you’re not interested in her over anyone else in the group. This is a new thing for her. She’ll feel the bitter sting of being just like everyone else. Her looks no longer give her all the power – because you’re not responding to her looks.

Because you’re demonstrating social value to the group at the same time she’s wondering, “Why isn’t this guy attracted to me? Why isn’t this guy paying attention to me? Who is this guy? How am I going to win this guy’s attention?”

Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants approval. No one wants to be ignored. The same holds true for beautiful women – even more so. Their whole reality is based on having power and having acceptance and adoration through their good looks. Take that away and their whole reality crumbles and they’ll do anything to get it back.

Negging women is ideal for really hot girls – 8s, 9s, and 10s. For an average girl (6s, 7s), you don’t want to use value zingers. All you need to do is demonstrate social value – you don’t need to lower hers. Hers wasn’t that high to begin with.

Negging women is unnecessary and inappropriate to use on girls who are already being friendly or giving you green lights. Don’t throw one out of the blue for no reason at a girl who is already responding well.

But if she’s super hot and you’ve just met her, that’s a different story. Use a neg or two on her.

Now, it’s critical to use negs right. Remember, you’re not out to damage the girl’s self confidence or put her down. You’re not out to mess up her self-esteem. Some guys in particular cross the line and start throwing soft insults and treating women like second-class human beings when they don’t deserve it.

The point is to make yourself stand out as socially valuable male and a challenge, not to make her feel bad. But used correctly, negging women is a powerful tool in your arsenal.

Update From The Author

I noticed that my post on negging “Negging Women – 10 Awesome Negs That Work” has drawn a lot of negative comments from women.

I understand the blowback.  I understand where some of you girls are coming from.  You see negging as a form of bullying or insults.

And most women are pretty sensitive to the idea of it, based on being bullied in real life.

Most women, particularly in high school, were teased, gossiped about, or bullied in some fashion – and usually from other women.  Pretty girls especially face negativity from their female friends, as pretty girls tend to hang in “pretty social circles” where there’s a lot of superficial cattiness, backstabbing, and competition.

Or even if you’ve never been bullied or teased yourself, you’ve seen the devastating effect it had on your classmates.  So naturally, you feel sympathy.

But anger at ‘negging’ is misplaced.

First, we are talking about a night club environment.  There’s lots of REJECTION involved, inherent to the environment.

And most of the rejection is aimed at the GUYS.

Haven’t either you or one of your friends ever ignore a guy?  Like, not even acknowledge his presence when he tried to talk to you.

It’s often pretty CRUSHING to the guy’s self-esteem that he isn’t given 10 seconds to acknowledge he’s another human being to talk to and say “hello”.  Ignoring a guy completely is much crueler than any neg a guy would dish.  (Like, “Hey girl!  You have some lint in your hair… look at that.”)

Then again, it’s a night club.  If a guy’s ego is so fragile, he shouldn’t go.

So please girls, if a guy told you that you had lint in your hair and that would “cut you down” or would “crush you”, and your ego is THAT fragile, then don’t go to night clubs!!  After all, the guys have to deal with MUCH WORSE from you girls!

In addition, Negs are for those glamour girls that have been spoiled all their lives by Daddy and have little sense of reality (like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton for example).  These are the types of girls that enjoy shooting “nice guys” down.  It’s THAT kind of girl that negs are designed to attract.

So if you’re a normal-looking girl with a normal attitude, you probably will NEVER BE NEGGED in your life.  So for crying-out-loud, don’t worry about it.

Further consider that 99.9% of guys are SO damn nervous in clubs and bars that they can’t even approach a girl without wetting their briefs… let alone finding the balls to neg a pretty girl.

So don’t worry, it’s statistically unlikely to ever happen to you, even if you DO look like a runway model.  Most guys will never approach you, or they’ll just try to kiss your ass to get into your pants.  And that’s SO much better than those bad boys, right?

But since those guys are NOT a challenge in the slightest, they’re not attractive to you.  That’s why you blow them off.

That’s what a neg does – creates a challenge to the female.  That’s what attractive guys do.  And ANY guy you’ve ever fallen for, on some level, you had to chase HIM.  Every single guy you ever had a crush on made YOU chase HIM.

I know it’s simple to latch onto a cause, leave a comment, and feel like you’re serving justice in some small way by taking a stand against the 1 in 10,000 guys that have the balls to neg a girl like, “Hey girl!  It’s funny how your nose wiggles when you talk!”  But really, it’s an empty cause!

P.S. If you still disagree with this assessment, please leave a comment, I welcome all opinions!  😆

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Udyr
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Udyr
8 hours 43 minutes ago

Hahaha, this comments section is more toxic than the League of Legends community!

Carla
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Carla
10 hours 54 minutes ago

That’s the nastiest game that I have ever seen. A guy just did it with me and what happened next was the total opposite. I didn’t feel any challenge to seduce him or anything, it just turned me off cuz I’m not attract to abusive guys or stupid strategies from guys. You might get a girl using this bullshit, I’m not gonna either judge the kind of girl that you’ll attract but for sure she will be one with no confidence or only full of herself. A woman who wants a man with good attitude will never go in this stupid game. And for the author here, go fucking man up, dude.

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Oppinions welcome
6 days 15 hours ago

I don’t think I’m very pretty, in fact, I’m extremely average in appearance (or flat-out unattractive, I’m not sure how others perceive me), and all my friends are relatively plain and geeky, but i somehow landed myself a boyfriend. Now my dad thinks said boyfriend is “negging” me. My boyfriend took off my ear cuff, said “this is weird”, and gave it back to me and i didn’t think much of it. Is this him trying to “neg” me?

Oppinions welcom
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Oppinions welcom
6 days 15 hours ago

I’m not pretty or anything, I’m extremely average in appearance -if not flat out unattractive-, and my friends and i are more the geeky girls, and yet my dad thinks my boyfriend was trying to do something like this the other night. Said boyfriend took my ear cuff off my ear, said “this is weird”, and handed it back. I didn’t think much of it, but my family seems to think he was trying to “neg” me? Anyone agree? Disagree?

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PatheticBitches
7 days 2 hours ago

Thsi is probably the most ignorant and backwards article that should go on the book of “ways to never have a healthy relationship in your life”
really disgusting and childish. Maybe that’s why you need to resort to these sort of ridiculous tactics bro. Hey…here’s an idea. BE A FUCKING DECENT HUMAN BEING.

Olivia
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Olivia
8 days 21 hours ago
all these so called “nice guys” get upset when women ignore and avoid them at clubs, but when we tell them WHY we are cautious of men we don’t know, especially in club situations where date rape and other types of assault are common, they get all mad and throw a tantrum, like “but I’m not like THAT, I’m a nice guy! All these b*tches are so shallow and will only talk to hot guys, they won’t give us average guys a chance! :'(” Honestly, cry me a fucking river. In a club, and in everyday dating life, a straight man’s biggest concern is being rejected by women and having their feelings hurt while a woman’s biggest concern is TRYING TO NOT BE MURDERED OR ASSAULTED. Literally take a look at the news, do a google search for “woman killed by date” or “woman assaulted at club” and you will find hundreds of stories of women being assaulted and/or killed for rejecting a man’s advances or because she was drunk (also, before you say some bullshit about how ‘she should have been more careful blah blah blah’ who doesn’t fucking drink at a club?!). Bottom line is, stop making up… Read more »
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siggy
8 days 14 hours ago

Wow. Such vitriol. If the girl is “is a regular human being” and is told she has a red nose”, she is likely to smile dispassionately, say thank you and move on….she will not think “OH MY GOD HE IS A MASS-MURDERED”…so I conclude that (a) some of you need serious therapy, but won’t seek it until your divorce and (b) the type of person you reveal yourself to be is precisely the reason the article was written…did you stop to think that perhaps your response to an innocent neg tells that man a lot about you?

lalala
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lalala
8 days 23 hours ago

Women have enough experience to recognize negging as a red flag for guys that just get off on trying to break women down, humiliate, and abuse them. It’s a deal breaker. You get blacklisted. There are plenty of other guys that they can trust and will want to be with them and be respectful with one another. You don’t understand women at all. A woman will never be thoroughly dirty with you unless she knows for sure that she can trust you. You won’t get anywhere with women if your approach right off the bat is to demonstrate that you don’t deserve to be trusted.

siggy
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siggy
8 days 15 hours ago

Wow – home many times do I have to ask – how is that telling a girl she has a “red nose” being an attempt to “break women down, humiliate, and abuse them”…wow, some of you kids are seriously disturbed. The use of a relatively innocent written piece as a projective device for such anger and horror that lies at YOUR core is a worry.

lalala
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lalala
7 days 17 hours ago

No women is going to give you a chance at a club if you approach them with these lame lines. That’s all I am saying. Deal with it.

lalala
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lalala
9 days 14 hours ago

You get what you give. Give compliments and you gain the interest of the pretty girl and a fun and uninhibited sexual experience. Girls don’t want “the chase”. They want to be desired. Give insults and she will avoid you, will insult you back, or I suppose a shame-filled, sad sexual experience with the lights off, and crying afterwards. Compliments communicate confidence. Insults communicate a weird, socially awkward guy that lacks confidence.

siggy
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siggy
8 days 15 hours ago

Honestly, did you read the article? So many here have read what they WANT TO READ into the article and then post a comments based other delusional view of what is being suggested here. If you feel it is horrifyingly insulting for someone to say “you have a red nose” then the problem is not with the speaker – I’ve said it below and I’ll say it again…what you horribly incensed web are really railing against is the possibility that you will not receive complete and unalloyed praise and adoration…and as such, it is a form of narcissistic rage.

lalala
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lalala
7 days 16 hours ago

I didn’t say any of that. My post was actually very reasonable about how you will never have fun sex. I can’t possibly imagine why you are so unsuccessful with women. You seem simply delightful. You could try a humorous approach. Next time you see an attractive women while you are out disco dancing, do a little turn while shaking your tush and say, “I’m too sexy for this shirt”.

Siggy
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Siggy
7 days 6 hours ago
Wow – you are seriously delusional or deliberately trying to bait me – or crazy…or (more likely) all of the above. For the record, and I have no idea why I am writing this other than to show you how loopy communication is in the ether, I am 58 years old with 2 grown-up kids. As I have said perviously, and it sounds mega-wanky to have to say it, I am in law, psychology and academia. My law is largely pro-bono working in international relocation cases – Hague Convention mainly – women getting screwed over by malicious, litigious, vexatious arsehole ex’s.. My psychology interest is body dysmorphia. I have lectured for 25 years. And all those skills pale into insignificance with my capacity to have fun sex, ha, ha…do you really think you have some god-given gift whereby opening your legs makes you the “funnest” person in the whole wide world?? Especially if it is done, lets say…in a forrest (gosh!). I strongly suspect the opposite is the case. Your discourse, which I prefer not to have to parse, suggests you sit in a dark room trawling the internet to express the anger that lies coiled at your core like… Read more »
lalala
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lalala
4 days 18 hours ago

You are the only one expressing anger. All of your comments reveal a deeply disturbed and sick mind. And it’s incredibly easy to set you off. You can induce anyone to do it. You must lead a life in which it’s very difficult to make human connections. You blame it on everyone else. Seeing the same imaginary person in everyone that you encounter. Never looking at your own failings. You lie to yourself saying that you don’t care about the aspects of human experience that elude you. But, the anger you feel reminds you that it actually bothers you very deeply. So you live an angry, lonely existence trawling the comment threads of articles written for and by pathetic people. You tell yourself that you are a genius changing the world in these comment threads, and you can’t ever sustain a healthy relationship because women bore you (even if you are actually talking to a man, a father trying to protect his sons and daughters). You project your own dark room existence onto others. Your comments reveal a lot about you. I feel very sorry for you.

lalala
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lalala
5 days 19 hours ago

Also, I know this is going to sound mega wanky, and I don’t know why I am even telling you this other than to show you how loopy communication is in the ether, but I am in my 60’s. I am Christie Brinkley. Also, I am an astrophysicist. I am Neil DeGrasse Tyson. I am both Christie Brinkley and Neil DeGrasse Tyson. But, on the side I am a Prime Minister (not going to tell you which country), but it’s mostly pro bono work. I bet you are swallowing your tongue now that you know who I am.

lalala
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lalala
5 days 21 hours ago

You do know those are lyrics from a song from the 90’s right? You are having a very big emotional reaction to a song by Right Said Fred.

lalala
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lalala
5 days 22 hours ago

There are a number of reasons why negging will never be a part of my life. The main one being that I am an adult. Negging is what middle school boys do. And they stop when they grow up enough to realize how it doesn’t get them anywhere. I hope someday you grow up and are able to actually form genuine human connections.

lalala
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lalala
5 days 22 hours ago

And I was just randomly looking this word up. But, when I saw your 5000 repetitive projection of rage comments, and your delusions of grandeur… I couldn’t resist. And I thought you would recognize it. But, you didn’t. I have never baited anyone on the internet. You make it that easy. Also, this comment of mine that we are both replying to takes a line directly from another article about seduction written by a man.

lalala
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lalala
5 days 23 hours ago

Lol. I baited you so bad, so many times. You keep getty into a bigger and bigger tizzy. I don’t think you even realize I am talking to you on two different comment threads. And taking things you say from each one to include in my responses. And some of my replies are your words and you are insulting your own words. And you are taking the bait so hard. But, you can’t actually insult me because you know nothing about me, who I am, how old I am, what I do, what gender I am, how many or how old my kids are. You are just railing against an imaginary person. And it only reflects on you.

lalala
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lalala
6 days 1 hour ago

Previously you said you are psychiatrist. Now you say you are a psychologist. Those are two completely different fields. No psychiatrist or psychologist would confuse their own degree and title.

lalala
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lalala
6 days 11 hours ago

This article is about trying to get women to sleep with you. You can stop being a sick pig now.

lalala
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lalala
6 days 11 hours ago

Deliberately trying to bait you. My very first comment to you was a cut and paste of your words. And you flew off the handle. No normal person would write all of this about their life in this context.

lalala
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lalala
6 days 11 hours ago

You are a scary person.

lalala
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lalala
7 days 17 hours ago

I haven’t said any of that. My comment was very reasonable about how you will never have fun sex.

M.
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M.
13 days 21 hours ago

What you have written is a screed to help men find more surefire ways to abuse and dehumanize women.

Anger at negging is not misplaced.

Make no mistake: what you are doing and encouraging other men to do is abusive. Laugh, be glib, talk yourself up, let other men congratulate you or thank you.

It does’t matter.

We see you for what you are. And I’d be willing to bet substantial money that unless you’e a complete sociopath, sometimes, late at night, all alone in your own head, with those ever-expanding feelings ugliness and worthlessness, so do you.

Theresa
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Theresa
14 days 21 hours ago

You could use this tactic, or, OR! You could be awesome instead and choose not to play the game, and love yourself. If you just focus on being the best person you can and have a great deal of patience, you’d be surprised what opportunities will present themselves.
And I would caution you against assuming all “8s, 9s and 10s” (because appraisals are essential when referring to females) have enormous egos and need to be worshipped in order to survive. Some beautiful women are actually humble, friendly, and sensitive to negative comments. We all have our own emotional wounds, men and women alike, so maybe don’t be careless with people’s feelings and be the bigger person, and don’t assume you know someone’s life story based on the fact that they’re attractive.

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Anonymous
17 days 17 hours ago

The one actual tip you need to get women to like you: WOMEN AREN’T EXTRATERRESTRIAL BEINGS. DON’T TREAT THEM LIKE THAT.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
17 days 18 hours ago

well, fuck you and your fucking stupid pickup shit.
You neg a woman and LISTEN TO ME she will think you’re just another piece of garbage.
Nobody wants a fucking ugly ass that critiques physical appeareance. Makes you look desperate, misogynist and shallow as fuck

“MEN HAVE IT WORSE” TALK ABOUT PAIN OLYMPICS. FUCK YOU, Cry me a river!! NOBODY gets to tell anybody they have it worse just by pulling the assumption out of their ass.

Anyway whats the urge on getting laid everytime? WTF are you all sheep? animals?? GTFO

Siggy
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Siggy
16 days 16 hours ago

Wow – such fury, hatred and ugliness. For suggesting that you tell a girl she has a red nose!

Unfortunately for men, the unspeakable horror that lies at the heart of this person is not discovered until they are WAY into the relationship. Then the man is in a world of hurt dealing with a mentally ill person who (usually) won’t let go.

Think about it – if you see such fury over NOTHING, imagine if you have slept with this monster and they don’t like the idea of not being loved FOREVER!

Anonymous
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Anonymous
18 days 18 hours ago

Actually this is a good way to make yourself look like an ass.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
19 days 18 hours ago

This is hilarious xD

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 6 days ago

Hey man, how long is your video about “speaking to her DNA?” Do you actually tell how to do it or it just examples of success stories?

Sam
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Sam
1 month 10 days ago

Over 800 comments, good god! I didn’t know it was possible for the author himself to kick the hornets next the same way a troll does… just for the reactions. “If you still disagree with this assessment, please leave a comment, I welcome all opinions!” says the blogger who just told anyone angered by ‘negging’ that their feeling of anger is misplaced. And then made a blanket statement that anyone who has issues with ‘negging’ has taken on an “empty cause.”

Way to contradict yourself, dude.

And then there’s the circular and highly emotional argument that ALL girls found in nightclubs who are ’10s’ have irreparably damaged hundreds (maybe thousands) of male egos by being spoiled and thus these women deserve to be negged by virtue of the fact that by looking hot and being in a night club they have irreparably damaged hundreds (maybe thousands) of male egos by being spoiled.

Good luck with that attitude, man.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
17 days 18 hours ago

Totally agree with you.

Anybody who believes this shit is SO fucking gullible and desperate.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 13 days ago

“How do I get this girl to like me? l know! I’ll insult her, then she’ll clinging too me in no time.”
There are few that ever get to the level of full retard. This guy has gone so far past it that it’s starting to redshift.

Nope
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1 month 13 days ago

You are actually more disgusting than onision.

bec
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bec
1 month 13 days ago

You just sound like your parents didn’t love you very much and weren’t interested in bringing you up right.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 13 days ago

This HAS to be satire

What is wrong with you?
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What is wrong with you?
1 month 14 days ago

What a fucking twat.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 14 days ago

Boo hoo, the incel is mad because he couldn’t get any pussy.Oh sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt your poor wittle feewings like all those other feeeemales.There, I just gave you your 10 seconds of acknowledgement.Hope the next girl you neg gives you a good kick in the nuts…I mean after all, it IS a better alternative to ‘being rejected’, the WORST possible fate a man can suffer *muffled sobbing*

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siggy
1 month 12 days ago

Wow, there are some sick women posting here – such hatred and anger…it actually shows why this story is necessary – the contempt these women feel for men is the cause of the problem that this article addresses…wow, just wow…boy are there some ugly people out there – that delight in rejecting men.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 11 days ago

It’s not contempt against men, just against the kind of sick men that encourage things like negging.Also, nobody ACTUALLY delights in rejecting other people.People don’t do it for teh lulz, they reject you because for one reason or another they just dislike you.I don’t know who’s rejected you so badly that you honestly have such a negative mindset, but it ain’t getting you anywhere.And FYI most women respond poorly to negging and other such techniques.You should get off the internet, stop reading these bullshit articles and work on improving your lifestyle.Then you’ll feel much better about yourself and the world around you 😐

Siggy
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Siggy
1 month 11 days ago

Lulz, I’m a 58 year old lawyer/psychologist with 2 kids! Stop projecting! The interesting thing to me is that you say “they just dislike you”…thats quite telling actually. What you mean to say is (I hope) is “they just don’t like you”…there is a difference…a big difference, lulzl. Read again my comment that you commented on…slowly. But thanks for the advice…I’ll give some serious thought!

Joe
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Joe
30 days 2 hours ago

What is quite telling is your use if internet lingo at your age, your claim you are a lawyer AND psychologist (not likely), a mention of kids but no spouse, & your defence of a borderline mysoginist using questionable logic…. frankly this all adds up to a very angry, rejected old man who is lonely and looking for an online diversion, or a troll…. or a little of both.
I read the article with interest as it shows a keen understanding, albeit reprehensible, approach to ego manipulation. It really is not worth defending for the average person as this type of “world view” is unrepentant & unchangeable via direct criticism. The less attention this gets the better.

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Gab
1 month 14 days ago

Negging is stupid, plain and simple, i’ll not explain you why cayse many have, already.
But dude…DUDE if you say i look like your little sister then you hit on me i wont be like “oh no i have to prove to him i dont look like his female siblings!!!” and be more like “this guy has some fuckin incestual issues”
And if you guve me unasked fashion advice, you’re an asshole. And qorst if you talk about me in front of me without aknowledging me i wont aknowledge your existence like, ever.

siggy
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siggy
1 month 12 days ago

Wow – such hatred and anger…over suggesting playful banter??

Talk about “issues”.

Read the article again – slowly – then tell us who is the “asshole”.

And how many men have you hurt?

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 14 days ago

It’s gotten to the point where I can predict if a guy is going to pull this type of shift before he even opens his mouth. You douchebags are that obvious. You’re so socially inept that you can’t just have a normal human interaction. It has to follow a formula, and there’s nothing more obvious and annoying. And how is a neg like “your roots are showing” supposed to work? That’s just called being a dick because of your own insecurity.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 12 days ago

“douchebags”…”inept:…”dick”…thanks for the insight into how you think and feel – and why playful banter is taken by you as a full-on assault upon….what?…maybe the glorified status of yourself in you head?

Wow, such ugliness.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
13 days 18 hours ago

They’re obviously just negging you back. Can’t you hack it? Little bit ironic…

Anon
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Anon
1 month 14 days ago

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHSHAHAH WHAT A JOKE

Only a goddamn loser would treat a human being like this and anyone who follows this advice should seriously reevaluate why they feel the need to go to a “seduction science” website. So lame.

Boop
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Boop
1 month 14 days ago

God damn that edit is pure cringe.
Do you visit r/Truecels much? God damn lol

Grow up or die alone
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Grow up or die alone
1 month 15 days ago

You poor sad little man.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 15 days ago

Omg you are fucked up.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 16 days ago

Negging is proven to work and I have used these tactics many times with great results. Heck I even used it on my current girlfriend of 2 years and we’re still going very strong. The below comments are all from SJW sexist women who refuse to see the other side of the coin. Keep up the great work OP.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 14 days ago

I’m sure you and your waifu are still going strong after two years. Cotton is very durable.

Boop
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Boop
1 month 14 days ago

Jesus I’d hate to meet the type of woman who responds positively to this crap. I’ve had guys do this to me and it’s VERY off putting. Embarrassing your date is not a good idea, guys.

Bee
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Bee
1 month 28 days ago

“But since those guys are NOT a challenge in the slightest, they’re not attractive to you. That’s why you blow them off. That’s what a neg does – creates a challenge to the female.”

You don’t need a high school diploma to know that the above quote is based on wishful thinking and nothing scientific.

How on earth would anyone know what is/isn’t attractive to someone? A neg does not “create a challenge” for the person being negged regardless of their sex because no one can know what is/isn’t/would/wouldn’t be a challenge to another person until they get to know them (and even then they’d still be guessing). Besides, if someone has that kind of power they’d be making a ton of money working for the NSA, not writing this kind of stuff. Sheesh, if humans were so predictable and manipulatable we’d have peace in the Middle East by now.

Kristen
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Kristen
1 month 21 days ago

Agreed. This is so gross and pathetic.

Jen
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Jen
1 month 28 days ago

You know what I used to say to guys that would do this crap to me? “I’m sorry, I don’t speak English.” In perfect English, of course.

As a woman I must tell you this approach might work with some, but I can guarantee you that you’ll be getting the neediest, most insecure woman in the group. I guess if your goal is just to get laid that doesn’t really matter, but then you risk being hounded by an insecure, needy pain in the butt for who knows how long.

Here’s an old fashioned idea: Try introducing yourself, smiling and being sincere – that always worked on me.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 14 hours ago

I’m sorry dudes are literally bullying you but good GOD A GIRL MIGHT HAVE SAID NO TO HIM ONCE THE HORROR.

You\'re a gross fuck
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You\'re a gross fuck
2 months 19 hours ago

Please die

anonymous
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anonymous
1 month 21 days ago

seconded.

ophelia
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ophelia
2 months 2 days ago
lamest and most transparent lines ever. if any guy ever said any of these things to me, it would be an instant turnoff. barf. try developing a personality and a sense of humor. THAT is attractive and (if you want) seductive. or, if you don’t care if you screw a woman with no depth of insight herself, someone who would actually fall for this idiotic ploy, why not just get a rubber doll? you won’t have to buy her any drinks or waste any time on foreplay. i mean what the hell. why bother. mean girls may be popular, but not with the targets of their meanness. of course, i’m over 18. maybe this works for the little ones, but if you want to get laid the rest of your life, an authentic self-respect and respect for others will take you much further. and that isn’t something you can get from a book or a blog or a cheat-sheet. you actually have to work for it. develop your mind and your sense of self. some guy approaches me with this BS, i know immediately he’s got both no self-confidence or respect for me, and therefore i just walk away. you… Read more »
Siggy
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Siggy
2 months 2 days ago

wow – such anger. Why? It’s a harmless ploy. Read the article again – it doesn’t say to water board the girl! Or call her horrible names. Or kidnap her puppy.

If it doesn’t work for him – he can move on – or learn that this doesn’t work.

What are you really railing against?

It is, I think, the very thing that the article is addressing – the power imbalance that can occur by virtue of birth or circumstance.

You take it as a full-scale attack on humanity – why?

Why feel so threatened? You seem a smart person – work it out…you might learn something too.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 7 days ago

You keep defending the guy that insults women in an effort to fool them into sleeping with him. Let me just say that again; He insults women in an effort to fool them into sleeping with him.

His policy is that a girl with high self esteem is a blight on all men at a night club. As such, her self esteem must be attacked so that she can debase herself by sleeping with someone who has no respect for her. You said in an earlier comment that you have a wife. I feel sorry for her. Does she know you think that pretty women need to be taken down a peg just for being born pretty?

Siggy
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Siggy
1 month 5 days ago

Oh dear. Firstly, everybody “fools them into sleeping with them” in one way or other! This is just one way to do it – and secondly, I am not here to defend the guy, I’m here to create balance amongst all the vitriol being spewed by (presumably) women who seem to feel emotionally crushed and violated and furious because some guy says men should tell hot women that their nose is red…WTF?!…but I can see, fourthly, you don’t get it, and you haven’t answered my question which was; why so much anger?? I doubt you are at a stage in life where even the question makes sense, and as such, nothing I can say will make you see what is really at play. Not that I am some sort of ORACLE! Just that when you get to my stage in life, you’ve seen and done enough (as many have) to know when people’s agendas and MOs are revealed, they attack with a mighty righteousness which in the end simply proves the point being made. Think about it petal, in that dark deep place where the truth lies.

anonymous
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anonymous
1 month 21 days ago

Not really. In fact, these are all pretty limp-dicked compared to what most intelligent, popular females hurl at each other on the reg anyway.

I guess that’s my problem with this though. It’s all so far-fetched and obvious. I mean, I can’t even really imagine some medium guy walking up to me or one of my hot friends and actually saying “your roots are showing” or “your shoes don’t match your purse.” Like, lol, who the fuck asked you, pencil dick?

So, yeah, the author’s probably right. It’s essentially harmless. I mean, the idea of a 7 or lower guy working up the nerve to try this? Pretty long shot. And the idea of it actually working? Adorable.

But hey, more power to you if you do. Definitely, give it a shot. My guess is if you were desperate enough to do this, you’re used to girls laughing at you anyway. What have you got to lose?

-XOXO

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 6 days ago

It’s funny mean girls do this all the time… it’s why they’re popular

Bethany
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Bethany
1 month 21 days ago

And why no female would actually fall for this. We’ve seen this game since 6th grade.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 7 days ago
I thought reading this would be a waste of time but now I’m happy I did so that if any guy says dumb shit like this to me in the club I know it’s not a reflection of me, but instead of his low self-esteem and glaring insecurities if putting me down makes him feel better. It’s hard to believe, but sometimes girls can go to a club or bar with my girl friends and just want to dance with my FRIENDS and not get hit on by guys at all. There are nights when I turn down any guy, no matter how ‘hot’ he is. I’ve had a guy offer to buy me a drink once and I politely said “no thank you” and had him call me a jerk for it… I would rather politely say no and go back to hanging out with my friends, let you save some cash, instead of saying yes and being fake, taking your money, and then spend the rest of the night trying to figure out how to get rid of you. If you’re hitting on a “Paris Hilton or Kim Kardashian type” who you clearly have internalized resentment for, then… Read more »
Grow up or die alone
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Grow up or die alone
1 month 15 days ago

Yessss

anonymous
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anonymous
1 month 21 days ago

Right? It’s like “wow, he thinks I’m out of his league and can cut me down enough to touch his shriveled dick.”

Great plan, Lol

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 12 days ago

Correct me if I’m wrong. I summarized this as, “Try to knock her down a peg and she just might sleep with you.”

anonymous
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anonymous
1 month 21 days ago

Yeah, but only if she’s clearly hotter than you. That was the important bit.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 13 days ago

I…I don’t understand…why must you be an asshole to attract women? And why would you even want to attract the type of woman who would only respond to this strategy?

I really don’t get how this works…if someone said these things to me I’d probably just laugh it off nervously but secretly feel like they’re an asshole and avoid them.

It’s not like I know anything about “picking up girls”…but I think people should just be nice, and instead of trying to get a “hot” girl who wouldn’t respond to politeness, try to approach a decent girl who would be nice back. ^^

I hope there are guys out there who feel the same as me.

Michael
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Michael
22 days 12 hours ago
Well I am often told that I am a nice guy. But I feel that in today’s age woman get hit on so much by guys that they put their guard up to the point where it is unnecessary. I am out in public and say hello to a girl I get rude looks and I get accused of hitting on girls by my friends because I talk to a girl like they are human and not because they are male or female. I like meeting people and learning about who they are but nowadays I am scared shitless to talk to woman because I am afraid they might take it as I am hitting on them. I can understand the frustration because I get hit on by woman that I have no mental or physical attraction to (usually very needy) what I can say is that it is very important that men and woman both do not hold everyone accountable for what few people have done to us. That is just sexist no matter what sex you are and there are millions of people on this earth and not everyone is the same. Still do not be quick to… Read more »
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Boop
1 month 14 days ago

I’ve had guys use some of these on me. I immediately thought “what an asshole”. This would only work on women with the LOWEST self esteem possible. Attractive women, who get guys all over them, are not gonna settle for a guy that insults them.
This is straight outta r/Truecels. Guys that insult women because they can’t get laid.

Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

It’s not being “polite”. It’s an advance. Being dominant.

anonymous
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anonymous
1 month 21 days ago

Right, but my question is what do you do when it’s time to show the hot girl your disappointing penis?

Tina
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Tina
1 month 21 days ago

Hmm. That’s a good point. Guys sad enough to find this blog, what say you?

Siggy
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Siggy
1 month 21 days ago

I say this: you miss the point of the article (and probably, life).

So, in order to “castrate” the “sad” readers you pretend that social confidence in some way correlates with penis size – and therefore it is risible. It must be “pretend” because the only other option is that you actually believe there is a one-to-one (inverse) correlation between social anxiety and anatomical dimensions – in which case, wow.

And you make the (supposed) bedroom scene some sort of magic act where the penis is, at some point, presented to the girl for inspection. In other words, in your imagining of things, its all about the penis and size. This is extraordinarily shallow. And studies show (and men know) the penis size has very little to do with intimacy – true intimacy.

If the girl is in fact a “size queen” then that (to me) indicates a problem, either in psychology or physiognomy (anatomical compatibility) and that problem might not be ably to be avoided after showing the “hot girl your disappointing penis”…

lalala
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lalala
11 days 11 hours ago

Dude, they are just negging you. Why so hostile? You act like it’s the biggest injustice known to human kind. Why can’t you take it? It’s just playful banter. You obviously have failed at life.

Siggy
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Siggy
11 days 27 minutes ago

Oh I get it – ironic humour, ha, ha, ha, ha…not

And I failed at life because…because…you didn’t understand what I posted?

If you actually knew who I was, and what I did, you’d probably swallow your own tongue.

lalala
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lalala
9 days 11 hours ago

It’s pathetic that a 58 year old guy is going out to clubs to neg 20 year old girls.

siggy
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siggy
8 days 15 hours ago

Haven’t been to a club in my life. Last time I went “clubbing” it was calling “disco-ing’ ha, ha…and BTW, stick to the issue (if you can) – how is that telling a girl she has a “red nose” a heinous crime deserving of the opprobrium being metered out here?

lalala
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lalala
7 days 17 hours ago

I have been happily married for 20 years. But, you are here obsessed with this article. You obviously aren’t successful with women.

lalala
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lalala
7 days 17 hours ago

Then why are you here. Reading every single comment. Replying the exact response to every single comment. Defending this lame article. Getting your panties in a bunch. Get over it.

Siggy
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Siggy
7 days 6 hours ago

I don’t read every comments! Just the ones that have replied to mine – life is too short! Am I defending the article? No. This is aimed at people very different to me. Trust me, ha, ha….I am just trying to spread some balance and wisdom, but I can rapidly see I am having a battle of wits with someone that is unarmed!

lalala
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lalala
6 days 11 hours ago

You are delusional

lalala
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lalala
9 days 11 hours ago

I was only saying your own exact words back to you. Those aren’t my words and thoughts. Those are yours. I honestly thought you would be smart enough to recognize that. I am sure you are a stellar psychiatrist. That’s sarcasm. I am not impressed.

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2 months 13 days ago
The idea of putting someone down to “lower them” socially is so manipulative it’s kinda despicable. If you feel it’s ok to belittle someone in order to get in their pants, makes me wonder what’s your next step after you accomplished that. Maybe you continue to “neg” the poor person throughout the whole relationship and also manipulate them in other ways as well? As a girl who is attracted by stereotypical manly man, I have to say that you’re lowering yourself by showing me that you feel the need for these kind of manipulative little games. I do think that praying on girls insecurities reveals about you that you don’t feel confident enough about your game, like is that something you always need to do in order to get laid? I don’t know if I’m a 6 or an 8 or whatever but girl friends I go out with are definitely 9-10 and I do know that what all of us desire is to be approached by a CONFIDENT guy, someone above the petty little games, who respects himself and therefore respects girls he’s attracted to. Who acts genuine and with integrity, clearly stating his intentions and boundaries, finding out… Read more »
Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

No…You miss the irony just like he does.
He thinks being the prize is the dominant role. Literally calling calling it being a prize for someone and still missing the irony.

They talk about social “value”, like they’re supposed to want to be objects like items on a store shelf. Because no one ever told them that dominant/alpha is about position. And that the pursued is the lower position, as the “prize” to the pursuer.

Showing interest is confidence. That is the misogynistic/douchebag alpha thing to do. The risk of being threatening, creepy etc. Why do you seem to miss the irony like he does? Even while attacking him.

wiseass
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wiseass
2 months 13 days ago

Haha well I don’t really think that’s the irony because I would disagree with your point of view that being pursued is the “lower” position. If anything, I would say you’re the dominant one if you are the pursued one, being in a position where you can make decisions. Being perceived as “the prize” can be sexist and objectifying (so I see what you’re getting at), but it doesn’t have to be that way – you can perceive someone as a prize and worth pursuing because you acknowledge and appreciate their personality too, wouldn’t you agree?
Btw I don’t think that hitting on someone should be about “pursuing” at all, but about having a straightforward chat and expressing mutual interest, if there is any.

Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

The pursuer is the one in the position to make decisions. The decision to pursue. Simply having the right not to be forced does not mean making decisions

And being a prize literally means being an object. It’s semantics. Dominant in this context means the pursuer. The position of consequence. The “main” force. Whatever you value someone for, advancing on them is what dominant means. Don’t overthink it! You can pursue if you want

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 18 days ago

lesbian

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 20 days ago

And this, right here, is why I don’t go to clubs.
Microaggressions turn me off.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 26 days ago

I thoroughly enjoyed all of the outrageous comments made, presumably by guys who are not getting laid, and want to feel like they are heroes of a gender that doesn’t need their defense, or women who don’t get hit on as often as their compatriots.

From the article/blog post:
“I like your eyes. Hey… are you wearing colored contacts??? (before she can answer) Oh my god, no way, you are…”

Comments section:
WHOA, WHOA!! Don’t put a girl down like that you MISOGYNIST pig (the fuck??) You must have a really small penis! Calling the men ankle biters, losers, and worse. Anyone know where I can find some irony?

I came wanting to know what negging means.
I left reminded of the pond-scum that litters the interwebs.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 12 days ago

“I came wanting to know what negging means.
I left reminded of the pond-scum that litters the interwebs.”

I must be a time traveler.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
2 months 28 days ago

Women already do this to each other and look at how well that turns out.

Gab
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Gab
1 month 14 days ago

And thinking adult women dont recognize negging right away is naive for this exact reason

Anonymous
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Anonymous
3 months 3 days ago

I was really shy when I hit college. Around when I turned 21 mystery and his method came into my life. I used negging to great effect to build a lot of self confidence but also some animosity that it worked so well. Eventually I stopped negging much when it dawned on me, I was pretty decent looking just really shy, the negging just helped get me used to talking to women.

I highly recommend negging as a way to arm shy guys to get over their fears. It’s also important to remember that the 1 in 7 rule works. Play the odds, the fish will bite eventually.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
3 months 15 days ago

and the misogynist stuff is old. Men have lost so much self confidence because of female manipulation. It’s time Men stop listening to this crap and take back what we had before.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
3 months 15 days ago

All yall women need to chill out. One form of dishonesty isn’t better than another and there are many women who are just dishonest. It’s the same games just played in a different way. Stop getting all mad because this particular one is offensive.

Gab
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Gab
1 month 14 days ago

“People are assholes so i’ll be an asshole, that’ll show them!!”
2 wrongs dont make it right

siggy
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siggy
1 month 12 days ago

Playful banter is not being an “asshole ” (you seem to like this word)

Calling people an “asshole” is being an asshole.

Anonymous
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Anonymous
1 month 7 days ago

Didn’t you just call her an asshole in a roundabout way?

Anonymous
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Anonymous
3 months 17 days ago

Please just be nice. If the lady is not polite to you in return, she’s not a good person. Walk away feeling good about yourself.

Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

Hitting on someone is not “nice”. It’s for yourself. Not for her. It’s assertive. Being dominant. These pick up artists don’t see the irony in their stupidity

Kitsune
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Kitsune
2 months 13 days ago

Agreeee 🙂

X.
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X.
3 months 7 days ago

right on!

Anonymous
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Anonymous
3 months 17 days ago

As a women, I completely agree with the notion of the chase and liking guys who give me a challenge, but in all honesty I would probably be put off by the back handed insult I’m receiving and simply want nothing to do with him. It would really come off as insensitive, arrogant, and straight up douchy to think that I would care about a stranger’s opinion on my personal choices, i.e. my outfit etc.. Just a thought, might be different for some.

Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

Why do you want a guy to be a wimp and NOT pursue?

anonymous
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anonymous
1 month 21 days ago

Give your vagina to people who insult you, duh!

Anonymous
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Anonymous
3 months 18 days ago

The guys that I’ve had to chase didn’t make me feel like anything less than what I am, which is an attractive, competitive, and aggressive lady who doesn’t even listen to horse shit (like negging) from the children who try it.

I try not to begrudge people who use different methods or have different personalities, but I’d never fall for bullshit like in your article because I don’t have the patience for someone who can’t keep up. I feel bad for the girls it does work on because you’re doing nothing to help lift them up, only continually ankle biting because that’s where you are. On the bottom of the ladder and jealous as fuck of anyone above you.

Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

Why doesn’t everybody just tell these pick up artists about the irony? That the pursuer is the dominant position. Assertive. It’s literally called being a man and they still don’t get it.

They think being wanted is the dominant position. Even when they literally call it being a PRIZE. They still don’t get that it’s the lower position.They’ve never even heard of something like sexual harassment.

Siggy
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Siggy
3 months 17 days ago

and “modest”, you forgot modest, ha, ha

(and angry as heck)

Shane D\'souza
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Shane D\'souza
3 months 15 days ago

The article and the comments – they each have their uses, good as well as bad, in the quotient of impressionability. However, this bloke calling himself Siggy – self-aggrandizing himself as being of some considerable expertise in the realm of psychology and the law – is yet to be deciphered as to what chip on his shoulder he’s bringing to the table…
As for some consistency in his majorly unsympathetic comments, there’s but one – “you don’t get me, you never will, unless you (ask – apparently makes for a negging symptom).

Siggy
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Siggy
3 months 15 days ago
hmmmm, how to reply? Well yes, I have spent 30 years in psychology (mainly psychoanalysis) and the law (as a lawyer). Can’t escape that. And yes, that makes me a pretty old “self-aggrandising” dude. So that can bring with it some perspective on the “battle of the sexes”. I’ve seen a lot. And for some reason (and who can be totally objective about it?) I have taken an interest in this article probably because (presumably) of my own “scars” from the relationship “trenches”. As for being “unsympathetic”, I’m not so sure – reading some of my comments, I think, shows them to be pretty balanced. But “chip” on my shoulder? Maybe. Perhaps I bristle at the way the article’s, let’s face it, pretty mild suggestions are met with such vehemence from (presumably) women that don’t want the power imbalance implied in the article, tipped in the man’s favour. It maybe that they want total worship 100% of the time. And if my view is an echo of some psychopathology on my part it might be because I have been stung in the past by the power that beauty has to ensnare, bewilder, and in many cases, hurt. Some women revel… Read more »
Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

Being a sex object is not power

Anonymous
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Anonymous
3 months 21 days ago

Or you could always try being a decent human being and showing women some fucking respect.
There’s a thought.

Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

Showing interest in them is not “respect”. Pursuing is assertive. That’s the irony in this loser’s article. He thinks being the object is the dominant position. Even though it’s literally called submissive.

Carmen
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Carmen
1 month 24 days ago

Indeed…

Kitsune
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Kitsune
2 months 13 days ago

Glad there are people like this with common sense c:

Tom
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Tom
2 months 13 days ago

You seem to miss the irony like he does. Do you realize he thinks the object is dominant?

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