Should you be a jerk or a nice guy provider?
Take this analogy. Suppose there are two varieties of a species of bird, differentiated only by their willingness to fight. When two birds find the same piece of food, the “hawk” variety always fights, the “dove” always flees. If almost all the birds were doves, being a hawk would be profitable, since hawks would almost always get disputed bits of food without having to fight for them. If hawks do better at food gathering than doves, they will be more successful in producing and raising offspring, so the number of hawks will always increase.
As the number of hawks increases, the payoff to being a hawk falls; more and more often the opponent turns out to be another hawk, and the result is a fight that does both birds more damage than the food is worth. At some ratio of hawks to doves, we reach an equilibrium where each strategy is equally successful.
However, this “nice guy” versus “jerk” theory is a false one. Why?
Because guys who are most successful with women are neither “nice guys” nor are they “jerks”. They are neither “doves” nor are they “hawks”.
Guys who are successful with women are playful, relaxed, and don’t apologize for their actions. Guys who are successful with women are in tune with women’s emotions, desires, and interests and have a deep love of women. They don’t allow themselves to be walked all over by women but neither do they themselves walk all over women either. They treat women well and with respect, just not from a needy frame.
In other words, there will never be a shortage of women attracted to the kind of men that women naturally fall for.
For example, imagine if all of the women in your city grew larger breasts, fuller lips, smoother skin, and toner muscles. Would there suddenly be a shortage of men attracted to those kinds of women? No. If all the women in your city suddenly looked like a Perfect 10 would that decrease the number of guys wanting them? No.
Learning seduction is not about becoming a jerk; rather, it is the equivalent of a man growing breasts. It’s installing the qualities that are attractive to ALL women – even the women who prefer “nice guys” over “jerks” as well as the women who prefer “jerks” over “nice guys”.
The point of this analogy? Learn the skills and characteristics that make men universally attractive to women and don’t get caught up in the idea of being either the jerk or the nice guy.
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