Talking to girls on the phone – phone conversation is necessary to get from one meeting location to the next. Now some guys like to talk to the woman for 15 minutes and get it over with quickly; other guys like to talk on the phone for over an hour to build bond and connection with the woman. However, no matter what you plan to say or how long you intend to speak, it will come off wrong if you sound nervous.

Most guys start out nervous when talking to girls on the phone, but then calm down as the conversation continues and a conversational rhythm emerges.

In fact, it’s usually those first five minutes that you’re a little nervous speaking over the phone, that feeling of nervousness typically most acute right before you call her. The problem is, if in those first five minutes your voice is a little raspy, unsure, or constricted, it will make the woman feel nervous too and she’ll feel like it’s all “wrong” and not want to get together with you.

That’s why, no matter what you say, you can only make the girl feel comfortable if YOU are comfortable from the very first word you say to her over the phone.

Here’s a little trick I like to use and it works wonders when talking to girls on the phone, especially that first phone call.

What you want to do a few minutes before the call is do this quick exercise and sing “A-ve Maria.” Chant “Ave Maria” out loud to yourself for a few minutes. Feel the vibration in your throat, which will give you a nasal sound, and then move the vibration down to your chest which will give you a resonant sound.

Like a mantra chant, you’ll relax right down and you’ll become used to hearing your voice. At the same time, your voice will be resonant and sexy going into the conversation. I’ll often be chanting “Ave Maria” even as I dial the phone number.

  Your friend,

  Jesse - Contact me or Leave a comment