Why Women Fall For ‘Do Her and Dump Her’ Bad Boys

While Mothers want their daughters to avoid a “do her and dump her” bad boy Rake at all costs, a bad boy can actually be exactly what a girl needs sometimes.

Women are deeply oppressed by the role they are expected to play. Women are supposed to be the moralizers of society and expected to suppress their natural sexual urges and fantasies.

What the bad boy Rake offers a woman is what society does not allow her – an affair of pure pleasure, an exciting brush with danger. The Rake offers to touch and draw out that repressed sexual desire within women that cries out for liberation.

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Elvis slept with hundreds of women in his lifetime… do you think any of them regretted it? Not likely.

The Rake, in his pursuit of pleasure, draws a woman into the kind of purely sensual moment in which past and future lose meaning. And sometimes that’s exactly what a woman needs, even if no long term relationship will come of it.

The bad boy Rake, a good one, is delightfully unrestrained, incredibly bold in the face of his own fears, and women admire him for his audacity, forgiving him for the fact that he is always on the prowl for the next woman. The Rake shows no hesitation in his actions by abandoning all restraint, by letting himself go.

And the Rake lives for challenges. Whereas most men give up on the first sign of resistance, the Rake never worries about a woman’s resistance to him. The Rake knows that more “prudish” the woman, the more she will be tempted by a man with a dangerous or naughty side.

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Dean Martin the Rake

After all, it is often the most “virtuous” of women who fall mostly deeply head over heels for the bad boy. So resistance only further fans the fire of his determination.

In fact, the Rake’s greatest asset is his reputation as an incorrigible and notorious lover of all women. The Rake never apologizes for his love-her-and-leave-her ways, but instead he embraces it. He may be disloyal, dishonest, and sexually “amoral”, but that only adds to his appeal with the ladies. Paradoxically, it his very reputation that makes women compete for his attention. And often women love him for it in a twisted kind of way.

The bad boy is the man who breaks women out of their passivity and routines and into a world of adventure and fantasy. After all, women deep down want to have a chance to become sexually irrational and uncivilized, to have a chance to explore dangerous sexual pleasures and the taboo.

So you see, the bad boy “scoundrel” actually plays an important role to women.

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danny
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danny
If you’re tall and good looking then the bad boy approach may work for you. If your not any of the two mentioned above then you’re gonna come off like a genuine A hole. An A hole is quite different than a bad boy. Most of the examples here are celebrities of some type. A celebrity doesn’t need to be a bad boy. His “celebrity” statues is enough to get him laid. The symbolic “bad boy” some envision on his Harley and will a blonde bombshell on the rear seat is just that – a metaphoric vision. Any motorcycle bad… Read more »
Experienced
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And I really think NO MAN should “fix” or “try to fix” any broken-hearted girl, like someone posted before. There are shrinks for it. She got into a relationship with a bad boy? She KNOWS the pleasure she had with him – and she KNEW that she would be devastated at the end because she would never “keep him”. No one forced her to go with him. It screwed her mind? pay herself a shrink and fix it. As a man, just say “no” to any girl that wants you to fix her. That is covertly just an basic power… Read more »
Experienced
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I agree. Its better to think on “inner cave-girl” and the Rational Girl. The Inner Cave-girl wants badly the bad boy, as audacity, not courage rewards a lot. The rational part of the woman is afraid of the bad boy behaviour. I have allways been a “fair man” , not a bad nor a nice guy. Once I just behaved as a bad boy in a place for some months and I got the nicest girl there, married to a “nice guy”, to be completely wet-between-her-legs for me, prone to do whatever I wished, not even caring for her own… Read more »
Jambo
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Jambo
Wow this is just nice! I think your future daughter, or a niece of yours or your mother, or best friend’s kid would love this article and have some guy to do that to them. Wow!! Great advice! I personally think that guys like this, like Mystery also are still angry from getting rejected or perhaps ignored by some (bad/phony) girls in their youth or past. It’s time to heal those wounds and not try to get back at all beautiful females as a whole to try to hurt them so that they “appear” to be the stud. Women are… Read more »
Ace Fricke
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Look. Women can’t be trusted. Period. A chick could break up with you at lunch, go home, shower, put on a sexy dress, a spritz of perfume and have a guy bedded by dinner time. With guys, it may be another 5 years before we sink the pink. Why? Because it’s the woman who decide who gets under the hood. So long as we men stay single and aloof, we retain our power in the relationship. Once you’re married, all power goes to the woman. All legislation is written for the woman’s benefit. Remember, women are experts at hiding the… Read more »
Michael
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Michael

I don’t agree with bad guys are really the good guys. Sure a woman may require that fling with that type, but if its a fling then both individuals should be aware of that. Besides most guys who do her and dump her and assholes. All they think about is everything they don’t have, instead of being greatful for what is right in front of them. That’s why, when they’ve conquered that piece of ass, they’ll simply move onto the next. Plus, that kind of man is highly unlikely to be loyal in a steady relationship.

tested
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tested
Come on… Let’s get real. Sure, it’s easy to get in bed with quiet, even wallflower types who have not discovered how to feel beautiful from a smart shopping trip to her favorite mall(with a knowing friend, female OR male). Tell the truth: women who feel beautiful, even in a curious ‘other way’ will frankly look great! 85% of Hollywood ‘stars’ frankly don’t look like much, out of school uniform, whatever their manager and stylist and dresser decide is ‘her look.’ You, our would be romeo, only believe your favorite ‘star’ is the ‘ideal girl’ because of successful marketing. Yes,… Read more »
Eddie
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Eddie

Well…… I think that women are drawn to adventure. Something exciting. As a musician (who’s married) I find it very challenging sometimes. Even though I don’t ask for it….. but then again maybe it’s the power of music.

elvis2
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elvis2

i disagree. it’s true that most people would like to meet and maybe have an intimate ‘party’ with their favorite celebrity..
but, a woman fresh out of a relationship (on the rebound)
could do better than to fall under the spell of a soulless aluminum-siding salesman (rake). Better to meet someone with less ego.. (and perhaps more compassion)

zaher
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zaher

how are you ?

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