Click the video above to PLAY this video, where I answer the ethics of dating a far younger woman.
The question is, “Is it okay to sexually desire far, far younger women, even barely legal girls or girls that are 10, 20 or even 30 years younger than yourself?”
Very controversial and I really don’t see that topic addressed very much but this is the God-honest truth. Any red-blooded, 85-year old man would make love to a teenage 18-year old girl in a heartbeat if given half the chance.
And yes, it’s perfectly normal to desire far, younger women!
Of course, there is that odd guy out there that’s like, “Oh, I would never sleep with an 18-year old girl!” Well, that guy is either lying, out of the fear of being judged which is a very real fear in our society. Or, simply because societal programming tells him that that’s how he’s supposed to react because from a purely biological standpoint, men are driven to mate with the most sexually-fertile women.
That’s how human race has ensured survival through the generations frankly. Women are most sexually fertile when they hit puberty and continuing on to their early 20s. As a man, you are just simply programmed over millions of years of selection to be attracted to young women with their newly-budding breasts and their widening hips.
Guys who chase young women just have more babies, passing on selective traits to their male children to also chase young women. Period!
It doesn’t make you bad or creepy to desire far younger girls. Men have always secretly desired younger women and they always will, regardless of what others think of it.
Look, many people out there are going to label an older man a pervert for even admitting he’s attracted to younger girls. But that’s simply ridiculous!
Look, advertisers all the time rub hyper-sexualized young women in men’s faces nonstop to sell products. Then, society tells us it is wrong and shameful to even admit our desire for younger women. If 18-year old girls were attractive back when you were 18, why wouldn’t you be still attracted to them because you’re 40, 60 or even 80?
So ignore those who think that there’s something wrong with feeling attraction for younger women. Don’t be ashamed and don’t be embarrassed by your natural desires as a man because look, here’s the big secret. As an older gentleman, you can actually pick up women 15 or even 25 years younger than yourself. That’s because most young women are actually looking for older men and for good reason.
Looking older, particularly if you’re still in good physical shape is an indication to women of both status and power. Age indicates maturity. It indicates decision-making ability. It indicates that you have accomplishments under your belt. You have economic stability and emotional maturity.
Understand the mind of a young woman for a moment. Every young woman’s secret wish is to just be taken care of. I don’t just mean economically, but to find a man that will: a.) unconditionally love her; b.) is faithful to her; c.) gives her attention and is dedicated to her and making the relationship work. That’s really not something that most young guys are in a position to do. Young guys are still sleeping around. They’re not faithful. Young guys aren’t into self-development or figuring out how to make relationships work yet.
So the truth of the matter is most young women are very disappointed in their relationships with young men. That’s where you can just swoop in and save the girls because girls are looking for a sexy, older man to just swoop in and sweep then off their feet.
An even a bigger mind warp, I mean, get this – It’s the youngest girls, girls ages 18,19, 20, 21 who are the most attracted to older gentlemen. In fact, a girl in her early 20s is often easier to hook up with than a woman in her early 30s.
That’s because a 21-year old girl is just out there to have fun. She’s looking to have new experiences and dating a much older man is just another experience that she’s looking to have. She’s in that experimental age. She just wants to explore.
By the time a woman hits 31 and she’s still single, she’s feeling that biological clock ticking, ticking, and ticking. She feels her beauty is fading and now, she’s looking more for a man who’s closer to her own age because guess what? She’s more desperate to settle down, get married, and have the kids.
So often, a 31-year old woman is just more resistant to hooking with an older man than a 21-year old girl. It’s perfectly true!
Besides, objectively speaking – I mean, listen – young women are generally better off with senior men.
As an older gentleman, you just got more to offer her. Maybe you can’t have sex three times a day like you did when you were 21 but you offer stability; you offer wisdom; you offer comfort; meaningful companionship and better sex. Far more so than a young guy who just hasn’t had time to develop himself yet. Studies show that marriages are far less likely to end in divorce when the woman is like the 10 to 15 years younger than her man.
So, if you’re an older guy and you take care of yourself physically – your body, you’ve got some big advantages when it comes to netting far younger women and you’re most likely a better fit for a younger girl than a boy her own age.
So don’t feel shy, don’t feel shameful about desiring or seeking out a younger partner. It’s perfectly natural.
It’s good for you and it’s good for the girls too.
Your pal, Jesse