So you’re an older guy – perhaps much older – and you want to meet far younger women. It IS possible, so here’s the problem and the solution…
Most older gentlemen simply look OLD and don’t feel entitled to chasing women. They don’t do cold approaches are they’re just super-duper nice and they hide their true intent.
And if you’re over the age of 40, the number one thing you can do to not look like the creepy old guy is to get into great physical shape.
Because when you don’t work out, and you don’t eat right, it conveys to women that you don’t value yourself. Or that you don’t give a shit of what you put into your body.
(P.S. It’s perfectly NORMAL to desire younger women. Any guy who says, “Oh I’d never sleep with an 18 year old,” is either lying out of fear of being judged, or because societal reprogramming tells him to react that way. Because from a biological standpoint, men are driven to mate with the most sexually fertile women. In other words, younger women.)
What makes you look old, is not your actual age or the fine lines on your face, and gray hair can be easily colored back in, but actually how your body carries itself.
Because even having gray hairs and fine wrinkles on your face is sexy to young women. But it’s the lack of muscle, the lack of muscle keeping your posture straight, that’s what makes you look like “an old guy”.
And as you get older, and you’re someone who does not work out at the gym with heavy weights, what happens is you gradually lose muscle mass each year.
So in very subtle ways visually, your posture begins to show signs of age by bending inward, the skin around your shrinking body and muscles gets lax and loose, and your body begins to shrink.
So an older gentlemen over the age of 50 is really going to show his age, not because he’s 50, but because of the muscle shrinkage in his body. And instead of looking like a handsome 50 year old cutie, he’s going to look like a “old geezer”.
The other thing that happens as you get older and you don’t workout is you start putting on weight. You lose muscle gradually, your metabolism slows down as a result. And all those calories start going in as fat. Some guys put the weight on their bellies, most guys put the weight all over their body, but that weight gain is a glaring sign of old age to the girl, and a sign that you don’t care about yourself and you don’t care about dying from diseases like diabetes and heart disease.
And that’s where older guys go wrong, is that they just LOOK old in their profile, when they really shouldn’t if they were working out religiously. They’re really out of shape, and that’s a dead giveaway that you are low value, that you don’t respect your body, you don’t care enough to stay physically young looking and healthy.
So why would a young cutie girl have sex with you, and potentially have your children when you physically look like you could keel over any day.
Because older men can get diseases like diabetes and heart disease. So lack of muscle indicates to a woman on an older gentlemen proximity to death. And she doesn’t want to spend her best years being your nurse.
So it’s not a good genetic strategy for the young woman to have sex with you.
But, fortunately, you can rely defy this attraction decline, just by working out religiously. Because women will forgive just about everything else about your age as long as you’ve kept physically in really great shape and you’ve got the muscle of a younger man.
Because it’s that muscle that says you’re still healthy, that you take in your body and you’re proud of your body, that you have the physical ability to give her children, to protect the children, provide for the children, fend off rivals, and so on. A young woman wants to see that you are physically able, just like a guy who would be in his 20s.
And that physical fitness and retaining muscle and building new muscle is the key to staying attractive into your 40s, 50s and 60s. Period.
Because a young woman, ideally, wants to meet an older man with a younger man’s body.
A young woman wants to combine the maturity, status, and power of the older man, with the health and youth and vitality of the young man’s physical strength. That’s like the ultimate guy to most younger women.
So if you’re an older guy, and you want the “magic pill” to getting laid, the magic pill, if you want to call it that, is to have a good BODY.
A body that has good posture because muscle is key to posture, looks healthy, has a respectable amount of muscle definition, and is lean with minimal fat.
And for an older guy, a good body will get you far. A good body, with game, will bring you into Don Juan territory where you can literally blow away these younger guys because women want, ideally, to meet an older guy with a good body and game, not a younger guy who doesn’t know what he’s doing.
That means working out every day. It means lifting weights. It means eating very strictly nutritious and proper food.
Working out, eating right also gives you a sense of entitlement.
Because what’s holding back older gentlemen is that they know they physically look bad, they know that the girl physically looks good, and that there’s a fundamental mismatch there.
So n older guy sees a cute girl that is perhaps 10 or 20 years or even 30 years younger than himself… and what’s going to happen? He just freezes up. Or more likely, he won’t even allow the girl to catch him looking at her. Because he doesn’t feel entitled to even be talking to a younger woman.
Because he knows he looks old. He knows he eats badly. He knows he doesn’t work out or do anything to try to correct the situation. And he FEELS old. Fundamentally, he FEELS old.
So when you don’t feel entitled to have a younger woman, that holds you back. Not only do you not approach, but you avert your gaze.
Or, at best, you do a really timid Nice Guy, Fatherly sort of game on the girls. Where you’re always looking for IOIs to first make a move. You’re always really sweet, like a grandfatherly gentlemen to the girl. You’re always looking for permission to make a move. You’re really concerned about being liked and getting acceptance so you don’t do anything. You’ve got a big smile on your face, in a very supplicating, kiss-ass kind of smile that’s overly friendly.
And that’s the problem with older guys, is that they’re too nice, they’re too permission seeking, they’re too approval seeking, they’re conversational asexually like the girl’s Dad, but not physical, and they’re looking too much for permission and IOIs to escalate or continue.
That all stems from a complete lack of entitlement. And lack of entitlement comes from feeling physically old, looking physically old. And feeling and looking physically old comes solely from lack of lean muscle tissue, which is what makes you look good, makes you look young, makes you feel good, gives you good posture. But you’re lacking all of that, and you know it, you won’t feel entitled and you won’t get girls, period.
So hitting the gym and eating properly to put on lean muscle tissue is absolutely fundamental. And if you’re not 50 yet, you should start now. So that by the time you reach 50, you look fucking fantastic and you’re still can pickup up the teenage girls and the college girls and feel good doing it, and look congruent. Where at least if you’ve got a strapping hot body at 50, the really young girls will WANT to hook up with you, will WANT to talk to you, and you’ll still feel like a cool guy that hooking up with young girls feels normal and natural.
And that’s why there’s really no special “trick” or line or routine for an older guy to pickup younger girls. Because this is a strictly inner game issue that stems largely from how well you’ve maintained and built your body, or how you’ve neglected it.
So again, this is why physical fitness, and becoming that hunky older gentlemen, and starting now is so important.
Your pal, Jesse