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3 Easy Ways To Get Her Clothes Off And Overcome Last Minute Resistance

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Once a girl is back at your place, have her sit down on your bed and watch a movie together. You can place the television in front of your bed so that you have an excuse to be on the bed together.

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Next, start smelling her, touching her face, and then start kissing her. This is where touch escalation is important. Begin by touching her legs, arms, neck, and face as you kiss her. Next, you can move to more erogenous zones like the outsides and insides of her thighs. You’ll also want to pass your hands down over her breasts to see how she’ll respond. Don’t grab her breasts, just pass your hands over them and keep going.

Pretty soon, the girl will become increasingly turned on the more you touch her. Lean her back on the bed and keep making out. You can further proceed by slipping your hand under her shirt and bra and cupping her breasts and slipping your hand down her pants to massage the area around her pussy.

Continue to proceed to sex.

But if she give you last minutes resistance here’s what to do…

What NOT to do – start begging her for sex

You’re sitting with girl on your bed. She’s making out with your tongue, playing field hockey with your tonsils. You kiss her neck while you pass your palm over her breasts through her shirt and with the other hand stroke her thigh. You slip one of your hands down her jeans and start massaging her lips with your fingers.

Then she speaks those pesky words you prayed you wouldn’t hear.

“No… stop… we shouldn’t be doing this…” she says.

You feel that disappointing feeling of frustration. Most guys unfortunately either 1) stop moving forward, 2) start begging for sex, or 3) start arguing with the girl as to why she should continue.

With all three strategies however, you’re playing with matches on a wooden boat. Most likely they’ll backfire and the ship will sink.

If you stop moving forward with the hopes that you’ll show her that you’re sensitive to her feelings and a swell guy, she may just come to the conclusion that you’re another “nice guy” who folded at the very first sign of resistance – not very sexy.

In any case, if you stop she’ll most likely pop out of state and you’ll have a lot of backtracking to do.

If you start begging like, “Please… girl… just let me take this bra off… come on baby… please baby…” you’ll come across as needy and desperate to get into her pants. Begging also engages the woman’s neocortex which is responsible for reasoning and critical judgment – and frames sexual escalation into a yes/no choice for the woman.

In other words, you’re placing all the power of sexual escalation into the woman’s hands – specifically into the hands of her critical mind that’s responsible for acceptance or rejection – which is exactly where you DON’T want the power to be.

For example, imagine you’re at a car dealership and you’re on the fence about buying this new car. You’ve just met the salesman that afternoon – so naturally you don’t know if he’s completely trustworthy, even though he may seem to be.

You hesitate whether you should buy the car or not and suddenly the salesman starts pleading with you to buy the car. He begs of you, “Come on… please buy this car… do it for me… I really need this commission…”

Tactic #1. Be Understanding

Sometimes, despite all of your efforts to turn a woman on, when it comes down to the moment of sex, a woman still shuts herself down mentally.

Don’t take it personally. Most likely the woman has legitimate concerns that worry her, preventing her from sleeping with you – even if she otherwise wants to.

Some women are extremely worried about the word getting out to their friends or family that they had sex and being labeled a “slut”. Other women are worried about catching a disease or getting pregnant… but they don’t want to ask you to wear a condom for fear of being a “slut”. Or they don’t even think to ask.

Or they really like you and they’re afraid that after sleeping with you, you’ll disappear from their lives. They fear that by sleeping with you, they’ll lose their power over you and they don’t want to give up that leverage.

Or the girl might be a virgin – and is simply scared of the whole unknown experience in general.

Although you can’t know specifically what her particular fear is, you can preemptively address and allay her possible fears with some heart-to-heart talk to get her into bed.

Simply hold her in your arms and tell her that you always wear a condom when making love to a woman so that she trusts she won’t catch anything or get pregnant. And tell her that you look forward to waking up with her tomorrow and that you don’t want her to look back on the experience with any regrets – implying that you won’t think of her as a slut for sleeping with you and that you won’t ditch her the very next day.

Again, you’re doing some “mind reading” here in the hopes of addressing her particular fears to get her into bed.

But guess what – it works. A little understanding and addressing a woman’s most common fears is often enough to make her comfortable enough to continue.

Tactic #2. Ignore Token Resistance

Now, if you have a girl isolated, sitting on your bed, and kissing you – there’s a 99% chance she *IS* willing to sleep with you. However, a lot of women have intense emotional feelings when it comes to having sex with a new guy for the first time.

When it comes down to the moment when she realizes that sex is inevitable – or at least once she realizes she’s become so turned on that if she doesn’t stop things NOW, she’ll lose control over herself and surrender to her urges – she’ll attempt to put up a final resistance. “No… this is happening so fast… please…” she’ll say.

Her body and limbic brain responsible for lust and sex (also referred to as the unconscious mind) is telling her to GO, but her neocortex (the conscious mind), full of societal programming, is telling her to hold out. Christina Aguilera sums up the female dilemma nicely in the song Genie in a Bottle – “My body’s saying let’s go… but my heart is saying no.”

However, the primal, older limbic brain will always win out over the thinking, rational, newer neocortex.

Her limbic brain telling her to have sex has the force of a tsunami wave while the neocortex telling her to stop has the force of a whisper. So don’t let a woman’s final resistance to sex phase you. Most of the time it can be overcome with some simply strategies I’m about to show you.

Instead of stopping, begging, or arguing with a woman, follow these simple guidelines below.

First, simply ignore what she’s saying and keep moving forward.

Many times a woman will verbally say one thing, but with her body say something completely different. She may say, “No please…” verbally but give you no physical resistance whatsoever. In fact, I had a girl telling me, “We shouldn’t be doing this,” while she was unfastening her bra!

So in many cases you can just IGNORE her token resistance and keep going. She crumbles in no time flat.

If she keeps saying, “We shouldn’t really be doing this…” and you sense the situation calls for you to say something, simply start talking SEXY to her.

Her: “Oh god… we shouldn’t be doing this…”

You: “You’re right… we shouldn’t do this… it’s so bad…”

And keep going.

You may have heard the advice “agree with what she’s saying” before. Indeed, agreeing with her disengages her logical, rational mind which is the source of all mental resistance. After all, how can she argue with someone who’s agreeing with her?

But it’s more than that. Think of it as SEXY talk to get her WET and speak it like that – with a husky, sex voice.

Tactic #3. Make your bedroom sexy

Your home is your love castle.

And you need to set it up with a minimal level of standards to help put women into the mood.

Candles, incense, big fluffy pillows, a large bed, and sexy low level lightning all set the mood for hot sex.

What’s more important however are what emotional anchors you’ve associated to the bedroom.

Is the bedroom exclusively reserved for passion, experimentation, and fantasy, or do you have negative anchors and emotions linked to the bedroom?

Is the bedroom a place that you fight in? Is the bedroom a place that you play cold war mind games and power plays with each other? Does your bedroom double as a work office? Does your bedroom have a television that you associate passive entertainment to?

What do you have anchored to that bedroom of yours… negative draining experiences or positive passionate ones?

Clear Out All The CRAP!

The bedroom must be reserved exclusively for passion, lovemaking, and fantasy.

It should be a Tantric temple of comfort and sex. Don’t clutter it up with crap that has nothing to do with sleep or lovemaking.

Get the dirty pile of laundry off the floor.

Put that exercise gear in the closet.

Put the laptop in the main room.

And yes, the television too– get that television out of there.

When you bring work, stress, and a mess into the bedroom, you begin to associate your bedroom with all kinds of negative emotions such as work, stress, and mess.

Likewise, if you ever fight with a woman, work it out first and don’t let those negative feelings get attached to the bed. Don’t go to sleep together angry at one another or else you’ll anchor negative feelings directly to the bedroom.

If too much negativity and mess is associated to the bedroom, she’ll feel the negative energy from the past whenever she steps into the room.

Even a stripped down bare room with a twin bed can carry incredibly good anchors and set your woman into the right frame. Whereas if you fight all the time, a luxurious room with candles, incense, a grand bed, and big fluffy pillows will not feel like a safe place.

So keep your crap out of the bedroom and keep your bedroom a pure and true playpen.

Replace the television with candles.

Replace the dirty laundry with a rich oriental carpet.

Put a collection of incense where the computer was.

Over time, you and the woman will begin to associate only good times and good sex with the bedroom. If the bedroom is free of negative anchors, a woman will go into an automatic “sex trance” as soon as she walks in.

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  1. Anonymous

    Is it really safe to ignore a “NO”? I guess you gotta check laws in your specific country.
    Some say:
    ““Stop” means stop. “No” means no. You can try again later or you can try something else, but you can’t
    barrel through. You can’t know for sure what’s in her head. Even if you could, you can’t know what she’s
    going to do the next day. Maybe she has fantasies of being overpowered – not that rare, really – and enjoys
    having sex with her despite objecting verbally. Then she kisses you goodbye, goes home, and feels badly
    about herself and wishes she hadn’t had sex. She tells her roommate. It comes out that she did tell you no
    and you ignored it. Well, if what just happened was actually rape, it’s not really her fault is it? Her roommate
    goes to the police. Welcome to hell.”
    Others even say that you should try to get her verbal consent to be even safer, with lines like:
    “Do you want me put a condom on?”
    If she says YES, that can be interpreted as verbal consent, if she says NO, that’s still not resistance, plus you get a good chance to say “I always wear a condom” and thus dismiss one of her possible fears preventing her from having sex with you – Win/Win

    • Anonymous

      Thank you for saying some sane things. Really, thank you.

  2. Anonymous

    hi i love it

  3. emily

    i had sex n im 11 how do i tell my parenta n there realy other protected cause im the only child he took off my clothes n i did the same n we stareted getting horny i was there for help in my homework n he was alone so yea HELP

    • A friend

      Did u really just say u were 11 and why the fuck are you having sex at that age!!!!???!?!

    • Anonymous

      Young one, it’s not just about getting some of that, you need to ask what you’re gonna be doing for fun at 18 with all this experience. You’ll be like one of those gross old people with their creeper ways.

    • jhon

      come her I will fuck u so hard that u will bleed

  4. omar

    i had agirl in my room ikissed her touch her body bt she removed her bra and top cloth off bt something made me wonder she refused to remove her trouser off i pleaded alot bt she refused idecided to sleep imagn now where was the problem (she was ahigh sch girl islept wid her dat nyt the folowin day she was support to go to sch help plz)

  5. Anonymous

    This is actually the most disgusting article. It completely de-values anything the woman is saying. If you respect her saying no, she won’t categorize you as a nice guy, you’ll be a good person. Ugh.

  6. gino pucci

    well I have been kissed forever on the lips and Kristin Miller is still with me but we haven’t had sex yet or got naked together but we still are boyfriend-girlfriend and I do see her bra stripes on her arms still and I need help getting naked and having sex with her without anyone anybody seeing us together naked or having sex cause we are in love and I will see her soon so can anyone anybody help me out with this please I need it soooooooooo badly that I can’t say no to her so how can I get naked and have sex with Kristin Miller with nobody seeing us naked or having sex together that’s all for now on here please leave replies on here so I can get tips of doing this with her to get naked and have sex together with nobody seeing us doing it

  7. Gino Pucci

    this is a story that I have to tell on here it is a friend that was at bowling and his name is Kalbe his last name not need to know anyway he came up the stairway and said I fell like getting naked and then after bowling was done he started getting naked but didn’t in the car on the way home then I said I got to Kalbe naked so I took his shoes socks off and he took his shorts and underwear off and then I said take your t-shirt off and he did and Kalbe was playing with himself and I said Kalbe who naked and he said I am again I said Kalbe who naked I am then I said Kalbe you got to say I’m naked and he said I’m naked again he said I’m naked then I said Kalbe I’m naked with no clothes on me and he said I’m naked with no clothes on me again he said I’m naked with no clothes on me and then I said hide yourself and he did then I said Kalbe where your underwear here and then he was almost home and Kalbe was still completely naked and then he put on his underwear shorts t-shirt socks shoes and then went in his house but should I take Kalbe clothes with me so he can be completely naked for ever cause I loved him completely naked in the car so please tell me what do you think I should do to him cause I want Kalbe completely naked and pictures of Kalbe completely naked loved it for me that’s all for now on here

  8. Anonymous

    but sometimes girls do not like to take off bra so you can ask her for removing her panty .maybe she would like that you are playing with her vagina.

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