I want to talk about how to initiate touch with a woman in a social party, at a bar, at a club, in any kind of party or nightlife situation, in a manner to generate HARD attraction with her- and get her horny within 3 minutes flat.
First of all, touching a woman causes her body to release a powerful sex hormone called oxytocin.
Oxytocin, what it does is increases a woman’s testosterone levels, giving her high sex drive. Oxytocin also causes a woman to feel a powerful bonding feeling with whoever is touching her. And it creates a desire to be penetrated; a woman spiked with Oxytocin has a sudden desire for intercourse.
So you’re talking to a woman, and even if she’s cold to you at first, a few touches will make her start to feel hot and sexual, literally against her will, because it’s an automatic response women have to touch.
And it doesn’t matter where or how much you touch her, even a few small touches on the woman’s arm is enough to release a spike of oxytocin hormones into her body and warm her up to you.
What’s more, the oxytocin hormone gives her the desire to be touched even more, producing yet even more oxytocin, a reinforcing cycle of sex hormone escalation.
So if you keep touching a woman, she’ll quickly get to the point of wanting more and more touches and eventually warm up to penetration and sex.
And here’s the strange but wonderful thing about it; the Oxytocin response is FAR more powerful in women than it is for men.
That’s because Oxytocin affects the brain only in combination with estrogen. Without estrogen, Oxytocin has no effect. And women have far more estrogen in their bodies than men, particularly young women.
I mean, in your experience, have you ever noticed how a girl you were never really attracted to before, one day she touched you on the hand or shoulder and suddenly, suddenly, like a bolt out of the blue, blood rushed to your penis or you started to think about her differently, in a more sexual way?
Well, in women, that effect of a touch is literally 10 times more powerful!
A touch turns you from nice guy friend into potential lover instantly.
You can’t underestimate how being touched automatically and universally gets women in the mood for sex, literally and immediately, and for more touching and quickly for and penetration.
Oxytocin also decreases mental processes and impairs memory. A spike of the hormone brought on by a touch basically takes a woman outside of her head and into the moment. That’s why hugging a girl will typically defuse and melt away her “bitch shield” or cool her off from an argument; touch breaks her pattern, makes her forget her pain, and changes her state. Hugging a girl can instantly warm her up to you in a purely sexual way.
For all those reasons, it’s why touch is one of the KEYS for generating HARD attraction in women.
If she likes you, she thinks you’re awesome, you’re entertaining to her, she will feel light attraction to you. But unless you are touching her, you’re going to FAIL to generate HARD attraction, period, that hard attraction where the girl will literally chase you down.
And look, guys are naturally more physical than women. We’re sportier, we’re about 20% physically larger on average, and physically stronger.
Women are more in touch with their feelings and their feelings quickly change to the surrounding environment.
So it’s natural to stimulate women’s feelings, spiking their sexual hormones, through being masculinely physical. By touching a girl and her being receptive and having your touch affecting her feelings, you are being a natural man, and she’s being a natural women. So it’s completely natural to touch women, all women, when you meet them.
Touch The Girl Right Away
Now, when you’re in a bar or club or social party, it’s very important to touch a woman right off the bat, from the beginning of the interaction.
Because if you just stay in conversation land, and you talk, and you talk, and talk, and talk, and talk, and talk some more, the longer the conversation goes on, the weirder it’s going to feel to the woman in a way she can’t quite put her finger on.
And how long can you fucking talk a girl’s ear off? 20 minutes? You’re going to keep going for 40 minutes? And never make physical contact?
What happens is, if you never touch her, you just end up entertaining her to keep the conversation going. And that’s a sure-fire recipe for the conversation to eventually just die and go nowhere and you end up wasting your time.
The sooner you touch a girl from the first moment the conversation starts, the more NORMAL the touching and the conversation is going to feel to her.
Because if you touch her right away, it shows her that you are completely comfortable with touching, you’re not making a move, it’s just part of who you are, and what you do with everyone. And since it’s no big deal to you, it won’t be a big deal to her.
When you touch a girl right away, you’re showing her your sexual masculine intent from the very beginning and she feels in her gut that you’re a sexual man and a possible sexual partner, and not just a friend or a buddy.
But if you wait 20 minutes into the conversation, and THEN you suddenly try to lay your hands on her of nowhere, you’ll creep her out because it’s like you were pretending to be the “nice guy” for the first 20 minutes to make her like you, and only THEN once you felt you had her permission to go further, only then did you start touching her. And that’s WEAK and girls don’t like it because you suddenly changed personalities halfway through.
That’s not what a cool guy who trusts in his actions does, he doesn’t look for the girl’s permission to start touching her, he just does it from the very beginning because that’s just what he does with all girls.
So touch the girl right away, because if you wait and beat around the bush trying to get her permission and making sure that she likes you, the girl isn’t going to trust you.
But once a woman feels physical contact is there from the very beginning, once she sees it’s just part of who you are, she will accept whatever the fuck you do, because girls fundamentally like touch. And once touched, they want more touch.
The Initial Moves You Need To Make
Okay, now what I’m going to do is give you a give you a moves to begin touching a woman in a bar or club when you first open her and say hello.
The jewelry moves. After saying hello or introducing yourself and opening, you check out her jewelry. You just ask her about her jewelry while you touch her jewelry and by default brush her skin with your fingers. You do a jewelry inspection.
Or another initial first touch you can make, is when you introduce yourself, you shake her hand and you pull her in slightly.
Or you introduce yourself, say something that you like about her, and then you give her a hug, which conveys assertiveness, comfort, and sexuality.
Or when you open her, you put your arm around her shoulder as you do so.
So you want to pick some physical move that you start out every interaction with. And it can be the same move for every girl you meet. You don’t 5 different opening physical moves in your head at once. Just pick one, stick with it, they’re all effective, and they’re all good.
It doesn’t matter the first physical move you make, it just matters that you make a move. They’ll all triggering the Oxytocin response. That all convey assertiveness, leadership, comfort with oneself, trust, self-acceptance and convey sexuality. All of them. So just pick one. And get it down. Use it and recklessly bust it out on all the girls you meet.
For example, every time you open a girl, start inspecting her jewelry. For every single girl you meet.
Or, every time you say hello to a girl, put your arm around her shoulder. Even if she’s with other girls in her group, or whatever. Just make it a rule that when you introduce yourself, you put your arm around her shoulder.
Hugging every girl is damingly effective because girls likes hugs. And you make it the one minute hug rule. Within the first minute of any interaction, you MUST hug the girl! No questions asked. No scenario where this isn’t possible. No situation where it won’t lead to a better outcome.
So pick your opening physical move, and just stick with that move. And getting physical is exactly what sparks that HARD attraction.
(P.S. For even BETTER physical moves, check out my Nonverbal Sexual Mind Control program here)
The 1 Minute Hug Rule
Here’s how to make a girl horny in one minute flat…
Now most guys talk about what they should SAY to women, but really attraction and seduction is not in your verbal sparring with the girl, but in the physical interaction, the touching.
Because can’t really expect to talk your way into a girl’s heart. It’s got to be through physical touch. It’s physical touch that is what makes the girl wet and horny between the legs for you.
So rule #1 is, you want to touch the girl right off the bat. You don’t to be waiting 10 minutes into the conversation before you start thinking, “Oooh, wait a minute, I should be touching this girl.”
You need to initiate touch right from the beginning, and the second you start talking to her, you should be touching her.
It could be giving her a high five, or shaking her hand on the introduction, or tapping her on the shoulder, it doesn’t matter. You just want to set the precedent of touching her and giving her the idea that you’re okay with touch and that it’s okay to be touched by you.
And once that first touch precedent is set, you want to keep physically escalating!
And one good rule to follow is the hugging rule.
And the hugging rule is that you want to hug the girl within 60 seconds of meeting her. So within the first 60 seconds of any interaction, somehow you MUST hug the girl! So questions asked.
So even if people are looking, it doesn’t matter girls like to be hugged no matter what. You can hug the girl in front of other people. Girls love hugs.
Even if a girl has a boyfriend that you don’t know about, it’s still cool and socially accepted to hug the girl.
And you don’t need a good reason to hug the girl. Just for any dumb excuse you can give her a hug. She says something you like, and you say, “Hey that’s so cool of you! Come here, give me a hug for X Y and Z!” And you hug her.
And what hugging does is that conveys confidence, it conveys dominance, assertiveness, friendliness, sexuality, it conveys to the girl that you do what you want and you take what you want.
Hugging conveys that you’re not held back by what other people think or by society’s standards. It conveys that you’re comfortable with physicality and therefore sex.
It conveys that you’re a leader, and that you’re not worried about being judged by others.
And the cool thing about hugging the girl within 60 seconds is that it helps to overcome one of the biggest conversation problems, and that is the problem of running out of things to say.
Once you hug the girl, there’s a level of sexual tension, and then it doesn’t matter what you say. Because even talking about your job or what the weather is going to be is going to be far more sexually charged, and therefore very interesting to the girl.
So instead of trying to be interesting by having the most interesting or funny things to say, instead touch her right away, hug her within the first minute, and then you’ve created a low level of sexual tension and then even the most boring topics will seem interesting to the girl because your are physically attractive to her and there’s a physical attraction going on.
And be setting the physical groundwork early, it makes it much easier down the road to cross that barrier into kissing and sex.
Because if you don’t touch her early on, it gets very hard later on to try to go for that first kiss. But if touching is already there, getting to the kiss is more of just a natural extension or next step of the physical escalation.
So remember, touch the girl right away, even if it’s just with a handshake, and hug the girl within the first 60 seconds.
It makes the interactions so much easier and getting to that first kiss, and you don’t have to worry about what to say so much.
Your pal, Jesse