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Eye contact is one of the fastest ways to build explosive sexual tension.
But most guys do eye contact WRONG.
Most guys look at the woman’s entire face as they talk with her, unfocused.
Pretend her face has been hidden, and it’s just her eyes.
This is the “safest” way to go, because looking at her face hides your sexual desire for the girl.
But she won’t feel any sexual tension from you either, and she’ll put you into the “friends zone” pretty quick.
Instead, when you approach a woman, give her a smile and look DIRECTLY into her eyes.
On the approach, you don’t even need to “say” anything. Just look into her eyes and hold it. Right into her EYES.
She’ll start giggling. Then introduce yourself and take her hand.
You’ve already shown your awesome coolness and sexuality just from your “eyes approach”.
The Eyes to Lips Technique
Now here’s how to make the girl feel strangely horny.
As you talk to her, hardcore look the girl into her eyes. Focus in on her eyes like a laser beam.
Then alternate your gaze between her eyes and her lips.
Look at her eyes, and then look at her lips, and move back and forth. As you look at her lips, imagine those lips doing down on you and giving you a wet blow job.
When the girl feels your sexual intent coming through your eyes, and you don’t waver or react… but you just HOLD it… that is VERY intense for the girl. She’s met a real man.
And women go NUTS for that “swept away feeling”. They literally get wet on the spot. IF you can hold it!
What Guys Are Doing Wrong…
Another mistake guys make is that they look to get eye contact from the girl FIRST.
But, as the man, it’s YOUR job to initiate eye contact with girls.
That means you approach girls to say hello whether they’ve given you eye contact already or NOT!
Women are like Chinese takeout. You need to make the first move to take it home.
Because most girls will NOT give you eye contact. YOU have to be the one to start it.
You spot the girl, you say hello, and you look into her eyes and to her lips, indifferent to how she reacts.
And THAT’S what makes you stand out as a sexy guy.
Now that’s not an easy thing to do.
If you don’t feel entitled to the girl, you’ll have trouble approaching her, let alone make strong eye contact.
And there’s no “magic bullet” or “routine” for making eye contact. It comes down to an Inner Game issue. Do you feel entitled or not?
That’s why I created the Deep Inner Game program. It’s 11 CDs of trances to install the 11 Deep Inner Game traits, including confidence, the bad boy, and sexuality, so that you can initiate and hold attraction-grabbing eye contact with even the most hottie cuties.
Just click on THIS link here to download the program.
~ Jesse
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How has eye contact affected you? Feel free to leave your thoughts
Yeah I’m a lesbian and I gotta say the my ex girlfriend maintained prolonged eye contact it made me attracted to her whilst she was doing it
Jesse,
You have simply made me a hopeless fuc*er. I just employ very little effort and zip the pants go down. I only have a major problem…Getting out. I get in, easy thanks to you and then the chicks start to put terms like “Forever”; “Promise” into their talk and when they realise i am not for keeps…they mess up stuff pretty bad. I am now paying for a car that was smashed by a chick pretty ugly. I dont know what to do …kindly help!
I did this once a few years ago, when I first heard about it, then forgot it. I was in a training class with a hot teacher. I was sitting in the middle of 25 guys in a classroom. I DEFINITELY picked up on her reaction. I need to get to doing this!
Yep…
sometime it works but other times I find myself staring instead of relaxed , sexual eye contact practicing.. and this can get them away. You have any tips when doing this so that I don’t creep them out thanks.
Yes, alternate between her lips and her eyes. Look at her lips and imagine kissing them. Then back to her eyes. That way it won’t come across as staring and it’s more of a turn-on for the girl that way
i have a better eye contact technique thats more powerful than all of them lol
i look into a girls eyes and dont let go when she looks away and looks back i lock on her eyes again whne she puts her head down i know i got her i became famouse in the ulster county area for this i make girls hot when i talk to them and thats it i just talk it rocks and it packs a real punch
Sweet one
It’s actually difficult and could be creepy to look at both eyes. So I just look at the left eye. And don’t change looking at the lips and the eye every second. Take your time and alternate at a slow pace, spending more time at the eye than the lips.
Yeah, one needs to alternate with the speed of gooey molasses. Like your gaze is stuck lingering on her lips, and then shifts to the eyes. If one flutters back and forth every second, it would be funky!
it really works, I have piced many girls after the eye contact only, once it is done, then I do my next move. eye contact is the first step to know the girl is intrested on us and that makes easy to remove her buttons.
I agree with the jess.
I did this to an air hostess during her safety routine … got an invite for a free trip to where we would spend the night!! … I do believe that this is something we forget is so powerful.
Thanks for the reminder … and alas could not take up her offer … bugga!
Jesse, sometimes it works but it takes some courage especialy to shy guys.
dats right
I agree that this works only when done carefully.
Eye contact can be very powerful because of the effect it has on the central nervous system—which is also why many men have a hard time with it, because it can feel “uncomfortable” until you get accustomed to it. I just play that Bob Seeger song in my head, where he sings “Ain’t good-lookin,’ but ya know I ain’t shy, ain’t afraid to look a girl right in the eye.” And mutual eye-contact can be so intense that anthropologist Helen Fischer calls it the “copulatory gaze.”
My own technique is to be bold about the eye contact but not TOO bold, lest I seem too “stare-y eyed” which can look creepy and crazy. A nice soft gaze can convey the so-called “bedroom eyes” look. Notice the color of her eyes….and smile while you do…in my opinion, the look needn’t be any more intense than that.
If you are unaccustomed to making eye-contact it can feel very uncomfortable at first. Just keep practicing. Especially in situations where it’s “acceptable’ such as with store clerks or waitresses. You’ll find the more you do it the easier it becomes. And just understand that there will always be some women who will scowl and look away when you make eye-contact and smile….its not you, don’t take it personally.
…and don’t forget to add the naughty twinkle now n again.
Sometimes, I can’t help licking/biting my lips when using this technique; especially if she has the Scarlet Johansen type mouth.
Slow down you move too fast….
“Women are like Chinese takeout. You need to make the first move to take it home.”
That’s priceless. And I’m gonna try this eye-lip watching thing ASAP.
Cool
As a 55 year old, you have reminded me of something that happened when I was in my early twenties.
2 stunning looking girls came into the bar I was in with 2 other male friends, I thought I had no chance, but one was so beautiful I could help but stare at here, I held here gaze the next thing I know she came over to me. My 2 friends were amazed.
So you right it is an effective tool.
Keep up the great tips.
Thanks Dave, great story
I do this with a girl at work because I adore her, and she get’s really nervous around me, when I go and talk to her she has to play with something in her hands without fail. One time her leg was literally jiggling up and down repeatedly. A couple of times when she’s got close to me and we’ve shared a silent eye contact stare it’s made the hair on the back of my neck stand on end. I honestly believe eye contact flirting is so much more effective than touching/teasing, it can be so intense, then when it’s followed by casual touching it’s almost unbearable.
sweet man
Seducing beautifull women with your eyes awesome and definitely fun and cool.If you look into a girls eyes you can tell if she likes you or not by seeing the love in her eyes.The eyes are definitely the windows to her soul and her heart.
Jesse,
Do you typically look directly into one of her eyes, or at the bridge on her nose between the eyes?
Into her eyes
Great tips.Despite being an up and coming coach ,I’ve always struggled with good EC to this day.This post should help me on this sticking point.I can teach proper EC,but to do it myself is a task.
Thanks. As a female, I love your articles and tips. I use them myself when approaching or inviting an approach from men. Eye contact should never be underestimated
sweet, female readership
jesse bro, while holding eye contact with the girl would making faces or winking at her help in a way?
um, if you’re being playful it could make her laugh
IF A MAN IS OLDER, SAY IN HIS 50′S AND SEE A PRETTY YOUNG GIRL IN HER 20′S OR SO, IS IT STILL OK TO MAKE THE EYE CONTACT, LIKE YOU SAID, DOES THIS MAKE IT CREEPY ?
depends on the context… remember, eye contact is only eye contact when BOTH people engage. If you just stare down a girl with no response, that can be considered creepy
it’s creepy. Almost all 20 year olds dont want 50 year old men. Aim for mid 30′s at best.
don’t listen to this chick, girls like older guys. just workout, take care of yourself, girls love that because you’re combining the best of both worlds – maturity with a nice body.
I have glasses (near-sighted). Do you recommend me to remove them while gazing?
No! keep em on
Am trying it ASAP. .bt aint gona be easy. .am a shy guy kinda
The last place I worked had a resident “player” (a supervisor who thought he was the “boss”). He flirted with me a lot … and I recall him leaning over me at the reception desk and using direct and sexy eye contact. He was/and still is, I am sure, a very sexually magnetic male…so it was unnerving for me. And I found out I was older than him by three years! He called me a ‘cougar’. Anyway…I would have succumbed to his charms but 1). it was the workplace and I was paranoid about gossip and bitchy/catty women…and 2). I was/am married.
Remember…he wanted me first!!!
I’m sorry, but these techniques would only work on a hussy. When certain men have done this to me, I automatically put them under the Disrespectful, Horny Perv category.
so when a guy gives you compelling eye contact on a date, he’s a “horny perv”? You must be SO much fun.
I resent been called a hussy. I’ve only been kissed by one man so I think I can speak for Saint Theresa here.
I have recently had a man give me this intense eye contact and oh my Goodness, I have become incredibly aroused. Infact while reading this, I imagined it all again and can’t wait to see him again. He is 10 years my junior and normally I wouldn’t look his way but far out the sex appeal of a man who has the confidence to pull this off speaks so many words about what else i can expect from him.
I have men chasing me all the time…even during the day but nobody has gotten me…this young guy….f@ck!
Hi Jesse,
There’s this guy I know and every time I talk to him, he looks at my eyes and then my lips, even when I’m not talking. He also constantly makes sexual jokes and references around me when we just met. It really turns me on, but I’m not sure if he’s doing it intentionally or subconsciously. Why does he act this way when we just met?
Thanks!
because he wants to bone you I imagine 8)
I love eyephucking but it’s so rare for a man to do it to me but if he manages to capture my interest with using just his eyes I literally become like butter and melt and crave more and more – the copulatory gaze.
So riddle me this please. A guy I work nearby constantly gazes into my eyes and I will maintain the gaze. We have held this mutual eye gaze for the length of a hallway. Its been going on for a few years and turned into hellos, how are you, coy smiles and light teasing (not sexual). Does he realize what he is doing? I mean this has been going on for three years and I get really aroused. Sometimes I catch him looking and he quickly turns his head but he mostly finds my eyes and then fixes them to mine until I look away. When we talk he looks directly into my eyes. Does he want to take this further and what can I do to show him it’s ok to go further?
He’s too scared to make a move on his own. But yes, he wants you to do something. You could try talking to him. But the fact is, he probably won’t know what to say to you to move things forward, and it will be all in your hands to do the leading. Leading should be the man’s job, not yours, so it’s an unfortunate situation
I met a guy over a year ago and every time we saw eachother he would gaze into my eyes and not break the contact it was so intense it was scarey. He used to do this every time I saw him. I eventually found out he was not interested and had a girlfriend so I doubt I would fall for the intense eye contact ever again to be honest. I would just prefer a guy to come out and tell me what he wants. I was certain he had fell in love with me or something the way he used to look at me anyone would have thought so, other people even did think so. But there you go. Not always true.
I do now believe that people only do this for attention and to play mind games.
I get called hot” by coworkers friends and family, but I only get the afraid guys ( no experience at all ) they just stayere my mouth as I’m talking / not talking, that’s why no girls wants those guys, those guys stayring mouth, they watch porn and they want slutty chicks to suck his junk.
Guys are such pussies nowadays, they always with their group of little guy friends, they so afraid to look at the girls eyes, guys are you afraid that bullets are going to shoot you right out of her eyes?
yes most guys are pretty afraid nowadays
Hi,it just magic. I read the post 4 day ago, I used this method 2 day ago, last night, I slept with a model who is 5 inches taller than me, magic!!!!
that’s quite a testimonial
guys,my eyes are mostly partailly closed (say 40%),but i have a habit of making eye contacts with everyone,right into the eyes,but as i said my eyes are mostly partailly closed,my friends say that my eyes seems alcoholic,now i m wondering it is a good thing or bad,as i never drink,never smoke,and far away from all these mess,but still i wonder if it is a good thing or not (alcoholic eyes),and what could be the advantage\disadvantages of it,by the way i m just 15
She usually looks somewhere else when i am in front of her but giggles to her friends so its very difficult to read her mind and get her eyecontact what should i do ?
It’s very nice Eye contact technique So I’m Going to do this technique without any shyness….!
Ey man,
First of all i have to say this is a great article,
Just wanted to say i have been practicing direct eye contact for about a year, and i gotta say it is one powerful tool.
I got laid instantly, and without saying a word, just listeningost of the time. Many girls i have dated say i have a very powerful gaze, and they love it. It definitly brings a different reaction from them towards you.
My challenge is when i am with other people Like family, authority figures(to say the least) or my guy friends. Since i have the habbit now of looking at everyone in the eyes, many get intimidated, others Gressive, and some dudes think i want to fuk them( in my opinion)
This in turn makes me unsure about how to use eye contact when i am around my ladies. Since i definitly do not want to come across “differently” with the rest of the people
Just wnted to know whT you guys thought
ThNk you
I get serious eyefucking mostly when a girl is with her boyfriend . These same chicks would almost never engage in it if they were alone at the time . Why do you think that is? BTW usually the bf is not at all aware of what’s happening.
This happened to me by someone who had previously snubbed me, but the smiling eyes across the bar put me in a gamma-wave state very quickly (my range-of-vision reduced to seeing only his face; I couldn’t hear the music, either); when I felt him penetrate me, my heart and respiration rates increased (return to beta-wave state), and I became aware of where I was. The shocked look on my face was off-putting for the gentleman, and the chances for what might have been an exciting night were over.
This is a Kama Sutra method for inducing/increasing sexual arousal, and has to be used carefully. I would suggest that if any woman has the reaction that I had, the fellow should go to her and ask her if she’s OK…in that way, you show concern and might be able to resume where you “left off.”
Eye contact and good posture go a very very long way.
Once you get her in the sack, give deep eye contact as she’s cumming. She will be yours forever. If, that’s what you want.
Need a post cus it a very true and practical information
what does it mean if a guy looks from one eye to the other? so from left to right and then back again? and he does this several times?
it means he wants to do things to you
Is it okay to use this technique with a girl who you are trying to get out of the friend zone with? And great article by the way
yes, it’s good for the friends zone problem too
How do you use eye contact technique to get out of the friend-zone?
Pimpin Ain’t Easy!
I did this to a guy the other day,
he is normally really bad with eye contact, but for some reason he was reprocating, 
. While he was talking i just tried to stare deeply into his eyes, i looked away abit, and switched between his eyes. He kept looking away and then back into my eyes. And then the magical thing happened where we both looked into eachothers eyes for 10 seconds, we both blushed, and he started stuttering. 
But i don’t know if he liked it, or if he was practicing making eye contact. If he read this article before making eye contact with me, then i guess my chances with him are doomed. 
Hi Jessie. I have large super-green eyes and all of my life people (men, women, gay, straight, old, and young) have stared at my eyes. They even seem to get hypnotized and go completely blank, sometimes mid-sentence. I’ve learned to avert my eyes in order to try to have a natural conversation. Is there any way that I can tell the difference between simple fascination and genuine interest/attraction from a straight man? It would be nice to feel the eye connection experience… Thanks!
it works for me all the time its a combination of three things i use ,my friends are so amazed but i wont share my secret never i would sell it though study more things about telepathy its not in the chat u dont have to say a word and you can undress her by her own will without sayin a word,let mi gi un hhu a clue zeen ,a woman can open her legs and show you something ,and from here on she dont hah fi seh nuttin u zee me jamaican patois ..
I think GUYS only do ONE thing wrong .. And that IS to think that girls / Women do not know whats on your mind AND what your thinking the the second you look at them // No matter if you have a paper bag over your head lol .. terry
” Look at her eyes, and then look at her lips, and move back and forth. As you look at her lips, imagine those lips doing down on you and giving you a wet blow job. ”
Dude, do you even know how creepy that sounds? So guys are supposed to think of girls as potential sluts? I wouldn’t want a guy to think of me in such a disrespectful manner!
It might sound creepy to you, but it works. In the moment when it’s happening, you won’t know what he’s thinking, you’ll just respond to his sexy eye contact. Did you know that every guy that ever chased you down, also “creepily” probably jerked off to you in his imagination? And yet you’ve still had sex with them. Every guy is “creepy” at heart, sex drives guys to take action, and that’s what allows the human race to keep reproducing and going.
@Ana, why is a blow job slutty? Why is that disrespectful? (I find fellatio extremely arousing, myself.) I, myself, may look into a man’s eyes and think of them smiling at me from above my “mound”! What’s the difference?!
The directness is what is so attractive. And compelling. Some women PREFER to be with a man with whom they don’t even have to THINK about getting naked . . . they just know they want to, and can’t take their clothes off fast enough. It’s that “chemistry” that we women are looking for . . . that thing that you can’t put your finger on (well, in a manner of speaking!).
I can only look at one eye at a time . Is that a problem. ????
Gr8 and on addition Body language must sing as well. and licking your lips.
This trick works for me 90 percent of the time! Simple, yet effective way to get into a girl’s panties.
yep
could you tell me what to say to her before i stare at her eyes and lips, also can i speak to her while staring at her. ??
thanks.