Guys think that having a hot, expensive car impresses girls.
Or at least, all else being equal, it wouldn’t hurt to have one… right?
But actually, owning a nice car only TORPEDOES your chances with women. Here’s why.
Core Confidence Vs. External Validation
Having Core Confidence is where you believe you’re the coolest guy on the planet, despite your wealth, despite your flaws, and despite your car.
“You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fucking khakis.”
And if you’re driving a shitty old car, you make that car cool because YOU are cool.
Then there’s relying on external validation to feel confident.
Relying on external validation, you feel at heart naked and unworthy of a quality girl, and you compensate by referencing your confidence from external objects, like owning an expensive car.
“NOW the girls will LIKE me!” In your own mind, you’re wrapping a nickel coin in a gold wrapper.
But a guy with Core Confidence and NO car is FAR more attractive to a woman than a guy using his car for external validation.
How The Car Secretly Sabotages You
Relying on your car to impress girls is a subtle form of ass kissing.
It’s supplicative and approval seeking.
“Spit out that Asskisser gum boy!”
He’s looking to fill a void inside himself, to be liked by the girl, because he doesn’t trust that he, alone, is fully worthy of her just for himself.
In other words, a lack of Core Confidence.
And guys who purchase an expensive car are generally too scared to approach the “9s and 10s”. They’re too timid to physically escalate and too apologetic to lead the girl on a date.
So the pretty girl never sees his “hot car” in the first place… let alone find herself in his bedroom!
But with Core Confidence, you can approach the hottest girl in the room, grab her by the shoulder, make piercing eye contact, pull her into you… and make funny faces at her. Then push her away.
She’ll be MASSIVELY intrigued as NO guy would pull that kind of move on her… and she won’t give a FUCK about what kind of car you drive as you’re touching that far deeper, primal side of her cavewoman brain!
The Provider Dilemma
The other problem is that an expensive car screams “PROVIDER!” to the girl.
It does NOT indicate to her “the sexual bad boy I must have crazy sex with”.
So even if you manage to show the pretty girl your hot car, she’ll only see you as “possible husband material” or even the “sugar daddy to manipulate”.
Because she thinks you’ve got money, she’ll want to date you for MONTHS to see if you’re “serious first” before she has sex with you.
Months of courting can lead to blue balls. Actual medical photo.
Why? Because the expensive car puts you into the “provider” frame.
Material wealth makes a woman “LIKE you” as a potential long-term investment.
But they do NOT make her WET or HORNY.
A guy with Core Confidence however, will get girls wet and horny right in the club, in the back of the alley, or in the back of their little Ford Escort.
The sex happens fast and urgently, because he’s playing the “the bad boy” and NOT giving off ANY “provider vibes”.
How A Hot Car *Decreases* Your Core Confidence
When you own a hot car and get validation from it, you’ll feel GREAT when you’re driving in it!
…And you’ll feel NAKED when you’re NOT!
So anytime you’re not physically in your car, like in a bar, a bookstore, club, or mall (anyplace you’d actually MEET real women), you’re going to feel half EMPTY because your “confidence crutch” – your hot car – isn’t with you.
And your state drops. You feel unworthy. You feel naked.
Approach anxiety hits.
Aaaahhhh! Approach anxiety head-ache!!
And you chump around… doing NOTHING!
Then, once you get back into your expensive car, you feel good again! Your state spikes back UP!
But your car isn’t where the hot chicks are. And you drive home alone… again!
The Gold Digger Paradox
The other problem is that your hot car will, naturally, tend to attract girls that value expensive cars.
In other words, Gold Diggers!
Wannabe Gold Diggers will tend to gravitate to you, because you’re relying on MONEY to attract women.
But using Core Confidence to pickup, the girl doesn’t care about your money. She’s attracted to YOU, and to YOU alone. For JUST you.
An Unorthodox, Yet Highly Effective Solution
Here’s my advice.
If you’ve got an expensive car, SELL IT OFF.
You’re going to save yourself a LOT of money on payments that you can spend instead on going out, traveling, or cutting back your hours at work.
And that will give you FAR more “bang-for-your-lay-buck” with girls than a sky-high car payment will.
And it will free up your mind to focus on developing Core Confidence.