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19 Ways To Be A Sexy Man!

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All the game advice out there can get confusing, and we can easily lose sight of what’s most important.  So I want to give you 19 fundamental tips to be a sexy man to women.

Sexy Man Tip #1. Be Relaxed And Chill

The best state for meeting women is actually a chilled out, relaxed state, and not a hyper state where you’re bouncing off the walls super excited or freaking out.

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The best state for meeting women isn’t extravagant. It’s just relaxed and chill. Because talking to a girl being all relaxed and chill communicates to her that you’re not desperate to please her or kiss her butt or get her approval. It shows her that you’re normal and confident.

And the best way to be relaxed and chill is to draw your state from within. You’re positive and relaxed from within no matter what’s going around you or what the girls are doing. So if a girl gives you a positive response, you just remain relaxed and chill, just as if she were to give you a negative response. You remain unreactive to the ups and downs in the environment. You’re steady like a rock. And that’s what women want to find in a man.

Sexy Man Tip #2. Don’t Apologize For Your Actions

Don’t apologize for your actions. When you go up to a girl, or you grab her hand, or you give her a hug, or you give her a compliment, or whatever it is, follow through with your actions and don’t apologize for your actions.

Being unapologetic is the key to getting away with any move, and to get the girl reacting to you.

Sexy Man Tip #3. Speak Loudly!

Speak Loudly! The loudest guy in the group is typically the guy who has the most social value, who is the leader, who is looked to for leadership, who is the most comfortable guy in a social situation, who is the most confident guy. Because if you’re not confident, you won’t be talking, let alone talking very loudly. Loudness is a cue for confidence, and girls love it.

Sexy Man Tip #4. Demonstrate Sexual Intent

You want to convey sexual intent to the girl. When you just pretend to play aloof, or you completely hide your sexual interest from the girl, she’ll just assume that you’re not a sexual guy or you’re not interested in her sexually, or you’re just a nice guy. By hiding your sexual interest, it ensures that you’ll be liked, but it doesn’t create any sparks of attraction in the girl.

Instead, you want to convey sexual intent to the girl by showing her in some way, that you have sexual interest in her, that you see her as a sexual woman. Like you can be talking to her normally, but you massage her back. Or you throw up a compliment in the very beginning. Or you hold eye contact and talk slow and sexy. Something that conveys sexual interest and intent.

And that tells the woman that you’re confident enough to go after her. And that’s what a woman wants to see in a man, confidence to go for what he wants.

Sexy Man Tip #5. Draw Your state From Within

Go out for yourself. And draw your happiness from within yourself. Don’t look to women to make you happy. If you need girls on any level to make you happy or feed your ego, that’s going to create approach anxiety. Because you have an outcome in mind that you need the girls approval to make you feel good. And that’s where you get nervous.

So instead, draw your state within, let go of the outcomes, and your approach anxiety will melt away and you’ll feel happier and more fulfilled.

Sexy Man Tip #6. You Like Silences

Be comfortable with silences. Normal conversations will have silences. If you feel like you have to keep talking non-stop to avoid any silences, or to cover up any silences, the girl will notice that and it comes across as nervous and frantic. Silences in fact are a good way to create sexual tension, by talking slowly and making eye contact during the silence, that’s where sexual tension can be created.

Sexy Man Tip #7. It’s Okay To Lose

You’re not going to win every time and you’ve got to be cool that. But the times you don’t win, you’ll learn.

If you’re out there taking action, taking responsibility to go out, learning and achieving things, you’ll progress. You won’t win every time, but you’ll achieve. And when you learn and you win and you go, you feel good about yourself, you feel congruent with being a man of action.

Because the worst thing you can do is do nothing with your time and just watch TV or play videogames. Because the time will pass and your opportunities will be lost.

Sexy Man Tip #8. Physically Escalate

Physically escalate! You can be the best conversationalist in the world, by funny, be interesting… but that only makes you “cute”, it doesn’t make you sex worthy attractive to women. Women get sexually attracted and wet between their legs when you TOUCH them. So you need a touch escalation sequence, like hugging the girl, taking her hands, spinning her, whispering into her ear, etc.

Sexy Man Tip #9. Let Her Game You Back!

If you’re just gaming on the gaming, gaming on the girl, but the girl doesn’t game you, you’re not going to have sex with her!

You’ve got to get the girl to chase after you at least part of the time. And you get the girl gaming you in the bonding and rapport stage where you transition into a 50/50 give and take talking ratio. This is where you can ask her questions about herself and you’re getting to know the real girl. And she’ll ask questions about you, and that in itself is a basic form of the girl gaming you.

Of using push pull physically to push her away, and allow her to step back into the space to touch you back.

And the more she finds herself gaming you, the more she’ll find herself liking you and you’re that much closer to her sleeping with you.

Sexy Man Tip #10. Be Authentic

Make your conversations real and authentic. A topic I’ve been covering quite a bit in past lessons. Basically speak about whatever YOU want to speak about it so it seems real and authentic and you’re not trying to kiss the girl’s ass or trying to impress her and you’re not going inside your head for “the right thing to say”. And besides, the more real you are, the more balls that takes and the girl likes it, it tells her that you talk to beautiful girls all the time and you’re not freaked out by it.

Sexy Man Tip #11. She Feels What You Feel

Whatever you feel, the girl is going to feel. She’s not judging you so much on your looks, or your words, or your status symbols, but how you are feeling beneath all that. Because if you feel like shit, she’ll feel you are low status.

So it’s best to be feeling good. And to feel good, you can do a number of things. Hit the gym, eat nutritious vegetables and fruits instead of sugar snacks, get enough sleep, and be a man that takes action, daring action.

And be a fun guy to be around. Smile, laugh, don’t take things too seriously. And that positivity will radiate from within you. And once the girls sees that you’re not looking to her to make you happy, but that you have a neverending well of self-generated positivity, she’ll be extremely attracted to that and your positivity will be infectious.

Sexy Man Tip #12. Meet Her Face-to-Face

Approach the girl face to face. You want to put yourself out there on the line, face to face, vulnerable, facing up to the social pressure, that’s what makes you attractive. Forget the talking to the girl over your shoulder and other complicated techniques, just approach the girl normally, face to face, that’s the most attractive way to approach.

Sexy Man Tip #13. Persist!

Persist! Pass a woman’s congruence tests. Every time a girl tries to ignore you or blow you out or not make eye contact, and you ignore her initial unreceptiveness like it didn’t happen, her attraction for you goes UP for you. That’s because women want to see if you’ll slink away with your tail between your legs, or if you can hold your own frame of positivity and pull them into it.

Sexy Man Tip #14. Don’t Be “Perfect”

Being natural and making “mistakes” is attractive to the girl. Because if you were to run “perfect game” and say everything “perfectly”, it would make you look plastic to the girl, and as if you were running a big routine. You don’t want to come across as too seamless and too perfect.

You want to make a lot of mistakes, big mistakes, because that’s what makes you cute to the girl, and seem really real and genuine. It’s that naturalness and making mistakes that makes you attractive. Like being Indiana Jones, he makes a bunch of mistakes and bumbles around, but that’s what makes him likable.

So don’t be afraid of making lots of mistakes in interactions, consider the mistakes part of the routine of what makes you cute to the girl.

Sexy Man Tip #15. Embrace The Unknown

You don’t want to try to micromanage everything in interactions. If the girl sees you going inside your head too much to try to figure out what to do all the time, or sees you second guessing yourself and calculating game, she’ll see that as not cool. Instead, you want to be present, in the moment, and trusting that all of your actions are the right actions.

Sexy Man Tip #16. Assume Attraction!

Assume attraction! This is where your perception of yourself and perception of the interaction tends to become reality. If you assume you suck, you’re going to go into the interaction being needy and unworthy and nervous, and you’ll get a sucky result. But if you just assume the girl is massively attracted to you, and assume that you’re the most attractive guy in the world, the girl will sense that confidence and certainty and drive in you and be massively attracted. It will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Assuming attraction, creates attraction!

Sexy Man Tip #17. Don’t Judge Her

Don’t be judgmental of women. If you assume she’s a bitch, or she’s a slut, or she’s a caricature picture of a feminist, it’s going to make you think negatively, and will ruin your game. Instead by open minded and be a source of positivity, and that’s what will attract women to you because girls want to be around a cool guy, a cool guy being a guy who is non-judgmental and positive.

Sexy Man Tip #18. Hold Eye Contact

Make eye contact and hold it. Don’t dart your eyes around, don’t keep breaking eye contact with her. It’s when you hold eye contact, especially through pauses and silences, that you create sexual tension and butterflies in the woman’s stomach!

Sexy Man Tip #19. Stand Out!

Do you stand out from the crowd visually? Do you workout and exercise and keep fit? Are you wearing cool clothes? Or are you dressed exactly like everyone else, trying your best to fit in to the crowd and be just another guy in jeans, flip flops, and a ragged T shirt?

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  1. Jesse Charger

    Leave your comment below..

    • kevon.m

      Hey jesse i been with ya movement from day one, how long it been bout five years n i still get excited wen i get ur mails cause its always something new…..i hav alot of favourites tho like d one wit model dat smiles n stand out.the elvis segment wen he charms the girl.My no. one fav. the old man who invented the science in which talkin durin sex blows a girl mind over havin a big dic…etc….luv ya jess

  2. Anonymous

    dope shit son!

  3. Ibrahim

    Thanks, Jesse.

    That was a truck load of gold bullions.

    Irresistibility unleashed.

    Calm, Certainty
    & Warmth,

  4. anant_

    In short, be like Jesse Charger. :evil:

  5. Akbar

    Pure Gold! If I ever have enough money, I will go ahead and buy materials from you. Since I live in India, I have to be careful when buying something in Dollars. I have burnt my hands in the past by buying useless materials from Doclove (the system)

    • Jesse Charger

      Thanks Akbar. You’ll enjoy the program, both entertaining and eye-opening

  6. Joey

    Fucking good post Jesse, good to have all this in one place. Bookmarked :o

    • Jesse Charger

      Thanks man

  7. jamie

    Nice one.it is really incisive.

    • Jesse Charger

      Thanks

  8. Will

    Honestly Jesse thank you for all your advice even though I’m 16 it made me a better man and understand how I should really be myself :D I know now that I don’t have to just talk about things that the girls interested I can just be me and tlak about things I like all my life I tought I have to talk to women about what they like in order for me to get them to like me but thanks to you I’m better

    • Jesse Charger

      Glad to hear it will :cool:

  9. Socialkenny

    The only 1 of the tips I have difficulties with is “Silence”.I feel very awkward going silent.Maybe if it’s part of my Game in order to make her open more and pursue me by asking silent-filling questions:cool I can do that(maybe).But to just be silent as when running out of things to say,I don’t see how one can be comfortable in such situation.

  10. Raul

    Jesse, I’ve said it before & I’ll say it again…your site is by far the most entertaining & engaging, plus very informative as well. Keep up the REMARKABLE work !

    • Jesse Charger

      Thanks man!

  11. Teyrak

    In the Sexy man tip 13, what do you mean by ignoring her initial unreceptiveness like it did not happen?

    • Jesse Charger

      It just means stand there and keep talking until she warms up to you

  12. jacob

    excellent advice and dating rules to seduce and attract women.Takes the fear away from interacting and talking to women and gives you confidence and guidance.

  13. Anonymous

    The girl at the end is hott

  14. Hedonist

    Jesse, you hit the nail on the head. All above is about being and owning your own reality. How would you walk, talk etc if you believed you owned your own reality. It’s your subtext and woman are masters of it.

    I’m Constantly doing all above even at work, office and on phone. It’s powerfull.
    This way of being alone will get you laid. Embody it guys.

    • Jesse Charger

      Sweet, thanks for the inspiration Hedonist

  15. Bruce M

    What if me and my friend went out with three chicks to thr movies and out to eat. At the eating out,my friend is taking the convo.over. Kinda loud telling alot of stories with few of his lowlights included and the whole group is watching and listening to him. Im pretty confident, What i shouldve had done to get the moment to my side. Yell and cut him off or go toe to toe with storys and statements or ehor fight the guy or what lol? I got vibes that as the whole crew was liking him the most and im not a cockblock.

    • Cheeky Mary

      To the guy who can’t handle silence (particularly when he has run out of things to say), use that time to stare deeply in her eyes (use your bedroom eyes). I promise you that if there is any attraction to begin with, she will see you as highly confident. If there was no attraction to begin with (yes we are visual too and want someone we are physically attracted to – thus the comments from Jesse to eat right and BUILD MUSCLES) then nothing you do will work (well not short term). Us girls are suckers for persistence though. My man won me and he is overweight, I earn much more money than him and he is not very confident at all. What did he do you ask? he persisted and I’m a 8 or 9 (I sometimes think I’m a ten when I dress up) and he’s a 6. If you can make the girl a friend, she will overlook your looks (it doesn’t work the same with guys though).

      Bruce M, I like when men compete for my attention so fight it out with your mate (your not being a cockblock, you’re looking out for No.1 – do you think he would give up pussy for you, no!!!) but you can look equally as sexy if you sit back and look at me with your sexy eyes while your buddy is putting on a verbal show. It’s the body language that overrides any conversation going on. Eye contact with the girl you like, do it slyly in case she doesn’t respond and that way you can do it to your next preference…I feel so bad to my fellow sisters sharing this.

      Guys remember get fit and build muscles and we will run to you.

    • Jesse Charger

      Cheeky Mary, thanks for commenting, you’re a real asset

  16. David Mora

    Good tips, thank you. You might add “Smile” This breaks the ice and shows confidence. Smiling also releases endorphins and makes you feel good. It usually gets a response in the form of a smile back. I’m not talking a wild crazy smile, a simple smile will work wonders.
    David

  17. Anonymous

    In other words….. don’t be yourself, be an asshole?

  18. joseph

    Hi Jesse, that’s cool article and I’m enlighten! Thanks man!

    By the way, you mention to meet her face to face. But other PUA said to approach the girl from the side so that it will not consume too much space of her and she will feel more comfortable than face to face approach. How about that?

    More power Jesse. ;-)

  19. JIMBO

    THANKS MAN!.

  20. Kingsley

    Hey jesse lov both your site and article.u are lyke my mentor. What abt when u keep talking and she just move away from u.

  21. Anonymous

    ich will sex

  22. Jon From NY

    Great Article, Every guy should read this, just in case, ya never know when you can grab an extra pointer or 2, its not about perfection, its just being you.

  23. Jon From NY

    Kingsley, Just let her go like you don’t care.

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