Your Complete Guide to HIV – What Are The REAL Risks From Sleeping With Girls?

HIV has been something of a godsend to socially conservative groups who see sex as sin.

They use the threat of the disease to scare people into equating sex with death.

Consequently, alot of misinformation gets out by groups with ulterior motives other than educating the public.

For example most recently, U.S. Senator Bill Frist mentioned on a television talk show that he “didn’t know” if HIV could be transmitted through tears or sweat, and that it “would be very hard… I mean, you can get virus in tears and sweat but in terms of the degree of infecting somebody, it would be very hard.”

But just because there are a lot of politicans and interest groups with religious motives to exaggerate the risks – there still ARE risks and you should be aware of them.

HIV is a virus that replicates and multiples in the white blood cells, cells responsible for fighting off diseases. Technically, you don’t get sick or die from the HIV virus itself.

What happens is that once the HIV virus replicates in enough numbers, your immune system is weakened and you can catch exotic, life threatening infections that no healthy person would ever normally catch.

You have “AIDS” once your immune system has been sufficiently compromised to catch life threatening illnesses such as cancer, pneumonia, and tuberculosis.

The good news is that the chance of catching HIV from unprotected vaginal sex with an HIV+ positive woman is relatively low.

Your Chances Of Catching HIV

It’s estimated that your chance of catching HIV through vaginal sex from an HIV+ positive woman is about 1 in 300 to about 1 in 1,000, depending on the research group you ask.

Some studies indicate that the chances may be even less; as little as 1 in 10,000 from infected women to men through vaginal sex.

Keep in mind, those are the odds when having sex with an HIV+ positive woman unprotected!

The chance of catching HIV from receiving oral sex is considered nearly non-existent. In fact, there are no known documented cases of a man catching HIV from receiving oral sex.

HIV is actually a delicate virus, and doesn’t survive in the harsh environment of the woman’s mouth and saliva. As long as you don’t have open cuts on your penis, and she’s not bleeding profusely from the gums, you’re safe.

What about giving a woman oral sex, cunnilingus? Again, it’s extremely difficult to catch HIV from an HIV+ positive woman by giving her cunnilingus unless your gums are bleeding or she’s menstruating into your mouth.

Still, vaginal fluid can contain small amounts of the virus. You can always reduce your chances from extremely low to absolute zero if you use a dental dam.

So what are your chances of nailing a girl who has HIV?

In the United States, about 1 in 300 Americans are infected with the HIV virus. But you have to look at the demographic group you’re dealing with. A random, middle-aged Caucasian gay man is statistically more likely to have HIV than an 18-year old straight, Caucasian girl.

And a lot of people who are infected know they are, and will tell you.

So let’s play with the russian roulette odds for a moment.

(P.S. If you’re scared about HIV, check out my Soul Mates Formula program (click here), so that you can quickly get the RIGHT girl for you and have as much hot, raw, and yet SAFE sex as you want)

Let’s say you randomly pick up a girl off the street and she sleeps with you. The two of you have one encounter of unprotected, vaginal sex.

Let’s say that no one has ever been tested. No one knows if they’re infected or not. And let’s go with the national statistics and say there’s a 1 in 300 chance she has HIV.

And let’s use the more conservative estimate for vaginal female to male transmission – again, about a 1 in 300 chance.

Your chance of catching HIV from the single encounter is about 1 in 300 times 1 in 300.

That comes to about a 1 in 90,000 chance of being infected. (However, your chances of catching HIV from an HIV+ positive woman increases if you give her anal sex).

All the research studies say that condoms are highly effective in reducing the risk of transmission. With a condom, your chance of catching HIV from vaginal sex falls effectively to zero.

The risk of transmission is much higher from a man to a woman than it is from a woman to a man. Sperm carries the HIV virus and is more likely to infect a woman through micro tears in her vaginal tract.

And sperm unloaded into a woman’s anal track during anal sex is the most dangerous of all; the anal tract is most likely to have small tears that allow the virus to enter the bloodstream. In fact, some studies estimate that the chance of an anal-receptive woman catching HIV from an HIV+ positive man may be as high as 10% per encounter.

Getting HIV is not automatically a death sentence. If you have access to modern (and expensive) anti-viral treatments, you can reasonably expect to easily live 20 to 30 or more years with the virus. And by that time, hopefully and most likely there will be more advanced and effective treatments extending life spans even further.

However, the anti-viral treatments are expensive and can make you feel tired, weak, and sick. And you’ll have to monitor your condition with repeat visits to the doctor. Even worse, you’ll lose the ability to ever have unprotected sex without seriously putting your sexual partners at risk of catching it too.

The real danger with HIV today is catching it and not knowing that you have it.

You can easily go on for five years feeling no symptoms. Then, all of a sudden, you get sick and weak for seemingly mysterious reasons. You get hit by a life threatening infectious disease. The doctors diagnose you with HIV, but over the years your immune system has been seriously compromised – it’s progressed to AIDS and you have a 30% chance of dying from the opportunistic infection that afflicts you. In the meantime, you’ve spread it to your girlfriend.

Even worse, HIV is no longer one strand. Viruses mutate and “super strands” have appeared. Today there are at least five known strands of HIV – A, B, C, D, and E.

In North America, the “benevolent” strand A is by far the most common. However, strand E has been spreading throughout Asia like wild fire recently.

Strand E is a much more hardy form of the virus than strand A and spreads from person to person much more easily. Whereas with “old fashioned” strand A, the chance of spreading from an HIV+ positive woman to a man during a single vaginal intercourse is no more than 1 in 300, with strand E your chance of catching the virus are more like 1 in 30 to 1 in 50!

Consider strand E a nasty “super mutant” version of the virus.

Currently, less than 1% of North Americans who are HIV+ positive have the E strand. That might change in the future however.

Managing Your Risk

The mistake a lot of guys make is that they think they’re safe because they’re with a “clean girl”.

Even if your “clean girl” has had only one male sex partner before you, that male sex partner could have slept with ten other girls… or who knows… ten other guys!

Also, women have every incentive to LIE about the number of sex partners they’ve been with before. Women in general don’t want you to think of them as a slut so will underreport the number of previous sex partners they’ve had. I met one 19-year old girl who claimed she had had only three sex partners previously; later she revised her number up to 17!

Remember, statistically, you are safer having had one-time protected sex with 100 street prostitutes of unknown status than repeated, unprotected sex with your “clean girl” of unknown status.

That being said, having had unprotected sex with girl doesn’t mean you have HIV.

In fact, given the odds, it’s highly unlikely that you are infected.

But we are talking about odds.

You might want to get tested just for the heck of it. It doesn’t hurt. Most likely your test will come out negative. If it doesn’t, and you want to live a long life, it’s best to know right away before the virus has a chance to damage your immune system. At least then you’ll have a very good chance of living a long life.

Remember, the worst case scenario is having it and not knowing it while it attacks your immune system.

If you do get tested, it takes 4 to 6 weeks after your possible exposure for the test to be generally accurate. After 12 weeks of the possible exposure, the test will be 97% to 99% accurate. You usually have to wait a few days after the test to get the results.

I got tested and it came out negative. Yes, it was nerve racking waiting for the results… but nothing makes you think about and appreciate your life more than that HIV test!!!

What I Recommend

Don’t put yourself into the nerve racking position of having to guess whether you might have been exposed to HIV… and having to wait an agonizing six weeks to get an accurate test… and sitting in the doctor’s room while he hands the results down on you.

Believe me, it SUCKS.

Even though the odds are low, the psychological stress is NOT worth it.

Use a condom. But most of all use a condom because, besides HIV, there’s a lot of other nuisance STDs that you can catch MUCH more easily than HIV – like genital warts and genital herpes.

What a wonderful period of human history we live in when you have to put a balloon on your penis!

But it beats waking up the next morning praying to god and scrubbing yourself.

If you have trouble putting on a condom in the heat of the moment, find a steady girlfriend and, ideally, have her tested. Put her on the pill and that way you can have all the unprotected sex you want. And if you do have sex outside of your primary relationship, at least you’ll more likely wear a condom because now you’re not only protecting yourself, but you’re responsible for protecting her, your amore.

Also, if your girlfriend knows that you’ll go ballistic if she cheats on you, that is certainly one strategy of keeping her from cheating in the first place. But the strategy can backfire on you. If she DOES cheat on you behind your back, she may fear the disastrous consequences of your hell fire if she tells you.

So she cheats behind your back and one day you wake up with a mysterious STD you caught from her lover.

You may want to consider having an emotionally OPEN relationship with your primary partner, where she feels she can TELL you if she ever feels attraction for another man to the point where she feels like she’s about to cheat. That way she can come to you and talk about it without fear of jeopardizing the relationship – BEFORE she does the deed and puts you at risk.

Remember, in life you can never completely eliminate your risk in anything.

Every time you step into a car you put yourself at risk for injury and death.

In fact, in the United States far more people die from car accidents every year (about 50,000) than die from HIV (about 16,000).

The point isn’t to go crazy worrying about the risks, but to manage and minimize them.

You have the ability, with the right tools, to have beautiful women in your life. Just play it safe!

Now here’s the typical kind of comment and letter I get:

Hi Jesse- Make a long story short.  Was out with friends and ended up bringing random girl home from the bar this past weekend. The bar definitely was in an area known to be roamed by street workers. Any how, she was 28 yrs old, cute & i thought for sure she couldn’t be a hooker. Had unprotected sex and after the deed she told me she usually charges a fee but im cute so she made an exception. I freaked out on her and she said she was clean and gets tested every 6 months. Said she doesn’t do it much(yeah). I felt like crying and told her to leave immediately. I’ve never had an STD before and definitely concerned with HIV. I’ve never felt so vulnerable and helpless like this before. I don’t show any symptoms yet (only because its day 2). What should i do? I’m 29, healthy, no drugs. Any advice would be appreciated!

And here’s what my response would be,

Don’t panic! It’s *very, very difficult* to catch HIV from vaginal sex, unless the girl was menstruating and bleeding on your penis. Not impossible, but it’s estimated at 1 in 1,000 to 1 in 10,000 for vaginal sex per encounter. And that’s usually because the man had open sores on his penis AND the girl was infected and menstruating.

HIV does NOT transmit easily. It’s much more commonly transmitted from anal sex (receiving anal sex) and from needles put into veins.

Also, of the hundreds of guys who have written me about this (vaginal sex), NONE of them turned out to be infected after they got tested.

So you’re very safe.

Still, it’s like revving up your car to 100 mph on the highway. It’s a pretty stupid risk to take. Not particularly dangerous if it happens once, but dumb nonetheless.

Much more likely you can catch HPV or Gonorreah or Herpes from unprotected sex. These viruses spread VERY EASILY and herpes has no cure. So you want to wear condoms because of these ones.

Use this as a lesson to use condoms! Every guy has to go through this and screw up once to experience that fear. That fear will help you now to be safe in the future. Just like every little kid needs to burn their finger on the stove once to learn the FEAR not to do it again!

Jesse

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Corey
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Corey

Hi Jesse i am from india.. last night i was drunk and had unprotected vaginal sex with a street worker for about 2 minutes.. what is the risk of getting std s.. i am scared to death right now.. please help me

anomous
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hiii jesse
i have sex with prostitute in india… but condom broke in between. 7 days later i have diagnosed with choncroid with hiv duo antigen test negative. but now after 15days my choncroid is not cured and i have fever headache etc.. what are my chances please help

anomous
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please help
hi i had sex with a prostitute in india…. the condom broke in between. a week later i have diagnosed with choncroid. my hiv duo test after 10 days is negative. but i have also suffered from fever, headache and stress please help me what are my chances

Please help
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Please help

Hi..i had protected sex on May 1st and I took p24 antigen and hiv duo test on August 20 it came as negative.
Now the problem started last week,I got herpes zoster (shingels) on my thigh.please help me is this related to hiv or is it sign of hiv.i heard shingshingles is common symptom for hiv. Kindly help.

gopi
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gopi

hi, i had sex with prostitute and i had long kiss on her lips.
what are my hiv chances
thanks

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Hi , I had sex with a masseur. . Used two condoms for protection…. but while she was rubbing over me.. the vaginal fluid was over my stomach… I thing while cleaning after sex.. the fluid might have been towards my urethra.. what do you think on this situation

My chances
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My chances

I had unprotected sex with an mid-aged Asian prostitute at a cheap message palor in Canada, Toronto. I came inside her a minute later after she took the condom off. I’m dreading that I could have hiv and the waiting to get tested is killing me. A full four weeks left for rapid hiv testing. Is that accurate? What are my chances? I’m so worried. This is the stupidest thing I ever did in my life. I feel so dumb and guilty.

Carl
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Carl

Hi friend. We don´t know her status and you were in a brief exposure. Your risk is slow, the odds are in your favor but yea you had unprotected sex and that makes a low risk in your case so you have to get tested in 3 months, thats a conclusive test (99%). In think you will be ok, and remember use condom correctly and consistently.

Please Suggest
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Please Suggest

Hi ,

I am from India ..Had unprotected sex with prostitute 40 days Ago…I took HIV1 and 2 Antibody test and PCR DNA tests after 30 days from exposure …Both came as Negative and Not Detected …Please let me know can i treat this as conclusive …Please Help and i am tensed

Carl
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Carl

Hi man. After 4 weks is not conclusive but is a very good signal. You should take a test 3 months after the possible exposure I have read that this one is conclusive. Remember use condom correctly and consistently.

Need Advice
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Need Advice

Hi Jesse,

I would like to test for HIV, Please let me know the best test to evaluate after 30 days from chance of encounter and accuracy of Test result after 30 days.

James earl
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James earl
I had un protected intercourse with a female who is known to have a lot of wild crazy sex with a lot of men it lasted no more than 5 min month and a half later I came down with a real bad cold no other symptoms just a nasty cold for about 3 and a half weeks now my girlfriend has devolved plantar warts on her feet please I need advice are these signs of hiv my girlfriend has had tons of stress due to school and other things Im hoping the stress is what developed her foot warts… Read more »
James earl
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James earl
I had un protected intercourse with a female who is known to have a lot of wild crazy sex with a lot of men it lasted no more than 5 min month and a half later I came down with a real bad cold no other symptoms just a nasty cold for about 3 and a half weeks now my girlfriend has devolved plantar warts on her feet please I need advice are these signs of hiv my girlfriend has had tons of stress due to school and other things Im hoping the stress is what developed her foot warts… Read more »
Tony
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Tony

Hi Jesse…

is there any documented case about straight men gets HIV in a single sex act?…please help me, i got unprotected sex from a prostitute, this year April 1, 2016…i can’t focus on my daily activities, i’m paranoid, please help me…by the way name is Tony and i’m from the Philippines…

Nick
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Nick

Tony, I think you’re ok. A few months ago, I did a lot of research on this. What I found was that prostitutes are more aware of these things than ever, and have taken many precautions to not contract STDs. Basically, there are tons of global movements dedicated to protecting prostitutes and customers: educating them, getting themselves tested regularly, always having condoms, etc. Prostitutes are safer than ever. And even then, the # of prostitutes with aids (and you can check this) in 1st world countries is extremely rare.

Tony
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Tony

thanks for the information Nick, i appreciate it….

Jegan
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Jegan

Hi Jesse..

Thanks in advance.

I had a sex with unknown lady which is similar and continuation to the previous query
protected vaginal sex singe encounter and kissed her in lip ,tongue
and breast. What are my chances of getting HIV assuming she is HIV positive with high viral load…I am scared.

Worried
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Worried
Hi Jesse.. Thanks for Helping many people in this forum. I met an prostitute in India 2 days Back and we had protected sex…first she sucked my cock for 3 mins on condom and later she ride me for 2 mins and then i was on top for 5 mins…The session last for around 15 mins…It was a protected sex( I used 2 condoms)..I am really worried after that and did not slept properly from last 2 days ..What are my chances of getting HIV assuming she is HIV positive with high viral load…I am scared. I washed my pennis… Read more »
dean
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dean
Hello Jesse, You wrote: “It’s very, very difficult* to catch HIV from vaginal sex, unless the girl was menstruating and bleeding on your penis. Not impossible, but it’s estimated at 1 in 1,000 to 1 in 10,000 for vaginal sex per encounter. And that’s usually because the man had open sores on his penis AND the girl was infected and menstruating.” I had protected sex with an HIV woman and the condom broke which i became aware after about 5 minutes. She was bleeding and there was blood on my penis. My local CDC says the risk is low but… Read more »
Brydo
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Brydo
Hi Jesse, I would be grateful for any advice. Last week I had unprotected sex with a woman I met for the first time. I had been drinking and in the heat of the moment I failed to take precautions. The intercourse lasted no longer than 3 minutes, in truth I would be surprised if it lasted longer than one minute, I ejaculated inside her (not worried about pregnancy as she assured me she is on the pill), later (minutes after we had finished) she got her period. In the past outside of relationships I’ve always been careful so I’ve… Read more »
Brydo
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Brydo
Additionally, I’m not sure if this is relevant but she also told me she has suffered from Endometriosis since she was 16 (she is now 31) and recently has had a full insertive pelvic exam and smear tests relating to this. I know only the HIV test actually checks for the virus but I presume other STDs are visible during the exam and come up in some of the tests. Could these tests give doctors an inclination if she was suffering from HIV? I mean if for instance her white blood cell count was low etc could that be cause… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous
The problem with all these guys and ne is we slept with an escort and feel guilty for either paying for sex with escorts. Or cheating on thete girlfriends/wives and as children people are taught hiv is so easy to catch and always wear Condoms because they cant teach us true hiv facts or all you dummies woild be going in raw over and over lol so the system worked and it failed in a way but as for the escorts there’s a huge difference between a girl who is escort and a girl who is a street worker. Escorts… Read more »
dariusz
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dariusz
I am freaking out. I’m in Poland and the condom broke anal sex. This was a brothel. I was hammered don’t know.y I even asked for anal. I came after 5 mins. The woman was from the Ukraine so I read it a 10% chance she has it. Not trying to be gross but it wasn’t hard to.get in her so, I’m not even sure it was anal. But I asked for it….stupid me. I’m not circumcised and there was not blood. I hear I have a 1.in 161.Chance of get hiv. I understand std risks are higher. I did… Read more »
Eduardo
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Eduardo

Hi Jesse
I had sex with a prostitute and the condom broke I was probably two minutes inside her without the condom anymore. She told me she had no disease or HIV. But I’m still really worried please help

Sunny
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Sunny

I had sex with women i dont knw her hiv status i wear a condom during intercousre at last about 2-3 mintues my condom brake i am worried but she tell me that she has no hiv but am still worried and after 7 days i had headache from last 5 days is it sign of getting Hiv or can I Take PEP

Anonymous
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Anonymous
Hello Jesse, I had unprotected sex with a woman about 8 months ago. She told me that she had been tested and she was fine. We broke up and I had sex with another woman who did not have HIV. A few days ago the woman from 8 months ago calls me and tells me that she is HIV positive. I immediately start to panic. The second woman I slept with had an episode where she was raped and she had two STD tests done. I called her and she said that both of her tests came back negative. I… Read more »
rony
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rony

Trust me ur safe…. 1 unprotected sex doesnt mak much difference… ur 99.50% sure negative..

Good luck best wishes..rony frm india

Robert Kertesz
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My Name is Robert Kertesz from USA, and am really grateful and thankful for what Dr ADESUWA has done for me and my family. I Was having HIV/ AIDS for good three years with no solution, the diseases almost took my life and cause I was unable to work and I was also loosing lots of money for medication, but one faithful day when I went online, I met lots of testimonies about this great man so I decided to give it a try and to God be the glory he did it. he cured me of my diseases and… Read more »
Anonymous
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Anonymous

A response would be greatly appreciated. I am in a panic at this point and the wait for the results is killing me. My current fiance says that I am fine but I just want to be sure. I’ll obviously never do this again, since i’m getting married, but I don’t want this to ruin the rest of my life.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

UPDATE: Called the clinic yesterday and I got my results back. Negative. I was blessed, the girl I was with probably contracted HIV after she was with me but it scared the shit out of me. Word of advice. This is not a game, this is real shit, don’t play with fire. I learned my lesson. Even if she says she’s clean and shows you a recent Negative test, don’t take any chances, use a condom gents; same goes for the ladies.

alex
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alex

Love this post, good job

kim
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kim

Hi

CM i get hiv upon receiving blowjob. I am worried because i do not know the hiv status of the girl who performed blowjob. Do i need to have hiv test for this pls reply. Thsnk you

Janet
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Janet

Hi Jesse!
Please help me with info, i was so stupid.

I’m fm, had oral sex, less then 2 minutes with stranger, his HIV status is unknown.
Also he doesnt ejaculated in my mouth.

Just after this i spatted all saliva with possible pre-cum from my mouth and i cleaned mouth with wet-wipe. Also i rinced mouth with water in next 20 minutes.

For full info he was 50-60 years old, if it helps.

Whats risk to get HIV?

kim
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Hi

I am a seaman and working in ship. I received blowjob in bissau in west africa. The girl was very decent and we drank as well.. only activity was me receiving blowjob and no intetcourse . So my questions are
1. What are the chances for me to het hiv upon receiving blowjob
2. Do i really need to test for this activity.

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Hi jesse.. i had protected sex with an escort and there was no breakage of condom. However durijg cleanup i noticed spme menstrual blood on the lower parts of genitals.. im freaking out reg this. Am i safe?

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Jesse..can u reply? Im not sure abt her hiv status. M loterally freaking out.

Unnamed
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Unnamed
About 5 weeks ago I party with some friends once the bar closed we decided to go to the strip club one of the girls there took me to the back and I paid for sex I was nervous she put a condom on for me and I couldn’t really stay hard so the sex part (vaginal) didn’t last that long maybe a min or 2 the rest of the time she just gave me oral but I kept the condom on the entire time I never finished should I be worried? I got a std and hiv test done… Read more »
uu
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uu

Hi Jesse
I had sex with a girl i just met online well,we started to use a condom but when i finish the first time and check the condom and it was the only remain one so i decided to do without condom and after some few minutes i ejaculated she then tell me that she was infected with AIDS. that was just my first time of meeting with her, please help me out with some peace of advise.

anonymous
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anonymous
Hey I got a vip session with a stripper and got a handjob with a condom. She told me I don’t really need a condom for a handjob as they are usually safe. She then gave me like a one-minute blowjob with the condom still on. Things weren’t really working out and I started to get “soft.” She then took it off and gave me a handjob without the condom. now my memory is telling me that after the condom was off it was only a handjob. But I keep worrying if maybe she gave me some head as well.… Read more »
Jaime Priston
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Jaime Priston
Dear Jesse I just read the article above and fee so relief however I have the below question which is haunting me since one month I had sex with Bar girl in Thailand.It was a first time sex with a hooker.Jus one time- It lasted about 3 minutes or two. I had had three condoms on but I dint know it was bad to double bag or triple bag the condom. After I ejaculated I removed my penis and then the girl asked me if it was my semen on the bed or if it was her discharge on the… Read more »
Jaime Preston
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Jaime Preston

Jesse Could you please reply for the above? Can a girl come that faster? or was it my semen? i am really worried and looking on this post every third minute for your reply
Thank you

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Hi, I had unprotected oral sex with sex worker 4 weeks ago..Blow job, fingering and sucked her breast (not sure milk came out or not)…I’m worried if HIV could get transmitted through oral sex. Also I had rashes on my body on third week and my physician prescribed Doxy 100mg tablet…For a week I had headache (not sure is it a symptom of HIV or because of tablet)..but I’;m really worried..please help

Anonymous
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Anonymous

I had protected vaginal sex with a prostitute about 7 weeks ago and I’m now feeling a sore throat and swollen glands in my jaw. What are my risks for hiv?

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Hey. I am a female. I had unprotected sex with a man who’s hiv status is unknown, 10 years ago. I suppose the reason it has begun to concern me now is because of things I have read saying hiv can take 10 years to show signs. When it happend I was a stupid 20 year old that made a bad decision. I’ve not had unprotected sex since then. The sex lasted less than 10 minutes, and he did not ejaculate inside me. Other than me being a dumb ass momentarily, do you have any further insight?

gman
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gman

1 in 300 in the US…that seems pretty high to me

Joe
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Joe
Hi Jesse, Thanks for your labor is super helpful.. I would like to seek your opinion. I’m a happy married male with 1 kid that made the biggest mistake in his life. I went for a trip to Jakarta. I went to a disco with some friends and we met a group of young girls ( average 26-30 years) they were with oner indonesian friends and white guys.. they were with bottles and so.. they seems to be friends. Making long story short i ended with one in my house having sex 2 times with condom, no oral sex, no… Read more »
Ayaz
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Ayaz
Nice knowledgable share . Thanks Much !! GodBless. Long story short I had sex with an Indian prostitute and that was the first time i was doing that nad was not able to do that properly even . Some how did that and tried alot of positions there . at the end she masturbated me hard and making condomn week and when i was about to cum i asked her to cum on top and this way i came and suddenly she realized the condomn was broken so i was on her with out protrectio for 15-20 sec Can u… Read more »
Ayaz
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Ayaz

Is this site active and charger replying on here ? can some one plz reply.
M dying of fear and its 4 days after exposure , having muscle pain like anything
this was my first time to do so and i guess last time .

1. Chances of hiv by protected vaginal , but condom burst when i came
2. i sucked her breast mildly and felt some fluid ?

any std/Hiv ? plz access

Anonymous
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Anonymous

Jese ,
Plz comment

APS
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APS

I had unprotected sex (vaginal) with stripper last night and now i am freaked out. I was drunk. I am not able to sleep whole night. Also don’t feel like eating anything. It feel like i did something horrible. Every time i close my eyes cont stop thinking of any STD’s. I did asked her if she is clean, and she said no need to worry. But still i am. Help me out please.

scared
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scared
I had unprotected vaginal intercourse with about 3 men, one I know came in me, the others I don’t think so. I do not think they have anything, and they are not drug users and have not had sex with other men. I got tested and waiting for results, I am terrified to find out. What are my chances that I may have HIV? I haven’t had an signs I do and it’s been like a year since this had happened. I live in the U.S. I know now this was very stupid of me, and will never do it… Read more »
Liz
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Liz

Hi Jesse,

I’m 21 years old white, wealthy female living in Aus. I’ve had sex with approx. 18 different people most times unprotected but none of them have come inside me. I went travelling and had sex with people and developed flu like symptoms and what I thought to be white spots in my mouth, symptoms of HIV. I got a blood test which tests for everything HIV etc.. and the doctor has asked me to come in to discuss the results.. :/ what are my chances of having HIV??

Jen
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Jen

Can you get hiv from sexual contact? Not actual penetration but just penis rubbing in the area?

rahul shukla
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rahul shukla

M before 2 months sex with a girl with condom …but oral sex i do it without condom …both the same oral sex …i m tested my hiv test now days m a hiv negative …..what is thecorrect period make hiv positive and blood test positive after doing sex or oral sex…

superworried
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superworried
Hey Jessee, great post. Awesome in fact. It relaxed my anxiety a little. Here we go: two weeks ago I had sex with escort. she gave me oral and then we had vaginal both with condom. She provided the condom and put it on before doing oral. Its not an independent escort, actually when you call a guy answers and when you get to the location, a guy answers the door as well. very nice house, very clean inside. Don’t know if that matters, anyways, what kind of freaked me out is that after I finished which was very quick… Read more »
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Anonymous

Scratch that last post. Took test today. Negative. So that’s that. Now I think I’ll go sit somewhere and die of a hear-attack. Scariest damned day of my life…and I lived in Miami during the Cocaine Cowboy days. Peeps: don’t stress….just test.

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Mitch
Hey Jesse! Interesting thread. I would like to bounce a long-term story off of you. In late 2001, I had sex with two call girls (American, Caucasian) within 3 months of each other. I was 30 years old at the time. The first call girl gave me unprotected oral, but we had protected vaginal…7-10 minutes tops. Second call girl gave me protected oral AND protected vaginal. Came inside both occasions. To the best of my knowledge, both times the condoms remained completely in tact. No anal was involved with with either. I never got tested, but my past is creeping… Read more »
galanz
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galanz

Hi Jesse
Please kindly reply to me. Thanks

galanz
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galanz

Hi Jesse,
Maybe 8 years ago, I had sex with one girls, I don’t know her HIV status,when I check in the middle, the condom was broken at the ring side so I take off and finish the sex. During this 8 years I didn’t have any symptoms. Now I want to test but I’m worry for infection, so please let me know the previous risk.

Thanks

jhonbosh
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jhonbosh

I Had sex with three girls…with first girl I didn’t use protection ,with second girl condom breakd and with third girl I did weard condom at all…those girls aren’t hiv+….bt still I m having fought that I m hiv+ so….still I hav to get marriage with other girl Wht to do nw

Lindo
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Lindo

Hi jesse need help here plz ,what are the chances of catching the virus ,i had unprotected sex with a 17 year old girl hiv positive once ,assuming she was born with the virus ,i’m 21 years old and i hv done circumcision ,this happened in 8 weeks after my circumcision

Mike
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Mike

Hey Jese I really appreciate what you’ve done, good work. Anyways I want to enquiry something.

Have anyone here reported of being poz after a single sex exposure? If there is, are they heterosexual males? Please answer me.

Thanks Jese, cheers.

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sadsorrow

nice post jesse!
iseriously need an advice. had a protected sex with a transgender(sex worker) from singapore. i was drunk but was sure that i was with condom. received oral for around 5-6mins and than penetrated for about 2-3min. i am not sure wheter my condom broked or not but the session was well lubed. i am in deep stress for the past few days of getting hiv. coudnt focus on my classes! i need more advice and my chances based on your experiences and when can i do the test? thanks !

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