Here’s 18 awesome tips that will really amp your pickup game fast…
Calibrate your value versus your friend’s value before you plan your approach.
If she is a 9 and you are a 7, use High Octane Material. Be more assertive. Give her at least 3 negs. Do takeaways at emotional spike points. Push and pull more. Open loop her. Qualify her. Get her seeking validation, acceptance and approval from you.
If her value is lower than yours, do not need to use negs. Instead, be more playful. Show more insecurities. Make a sincere compliment. So always calibrate who, what, and where you are picking up. CALIBRATION is the name of the GAME.
Approach a one set with an opinion opener.
It has to seem like you only want an opinion from a female and she just happens to be in the area. If you actively look at her, with a smile and ask her for an opinion, her anti slut defense and anti pick up mechanism will kick in and you will be blown out. After you have successfully opened her and she believes through body language and other subtle things that you just want an opinion. You can hook her with stories, routines, and ball busting. Qualify her. For example, take her answer and bust on it.
Remember women do not sleep with men who choose them, as this violates the anti slut mechanism.
That is why women chase and have sex men who play “Hard to get.” Basically by you playing hard to get and making a woman chase you, you seem to convey that you don’t want to get down her pants desperately, you have other chicks because you play hard to get. When you switch the tables on a woman like this, she doesn’t feel guilty about sleeping with you because SHE CHOSE IT.
In society it’s the women who choose so she won’t feel like she is violating societal convention and will be more apt to justify playing with you. She will say “yeah but I chose him”. She did because you pushed her buttons, acted like a challenge, did takeaways, pushed and pulled her, and this made her chase you so it seems like she pursued you for sex. This is what you must do in a pick up. Play hard to get. Meaning ball bust, and qualify her. Then screen and accept her.
Approach at 45 degree angle.
Only close the angle if she earns it by responding to your opener and material. If she doesn’t, turn your back to her and just walk away. Women do this to guys all the time and it makes guys follow and chase them to find out “hey what the hell” what’s wrong with me or what did I say to seek her validation. The same thing will happen when girl or set give you a “I’m not interested” response. Immediately disqualify them and turn your back. They will chase you.
Do takeaways at high emotional peak points.
Once you deliver your high octane material like Cocky/funny, and she is engaged or laughing at the peak of the laugher. Turn your back slightly away from her and break eye contact. She will attempt to re-engage you to chase you because she wants those feelings you gave her. Remember people will chase to re build rapport with you when you attempt to break it. Also, people of higher value break rapport, while those of lower value try to build it.
Always follow these steps in your pick up: Approach-Show value-Attract-Rapport-Extract
There should be touch throughout. Less to more but she has to earn it. Your body angle gets closer as the pick up progresses. Remember, anytime she does something that you do not approve of, re open your body angle, lean away, touch her less. This way, she becomes dependent on seeking your acceptance or approval.
Handling Two sets:
Engage the cockblock a little more than the friend. Complement and socialize with her. This will build social proof and her friend the “Friend” will go “wow this guy is cool!” Value Zing the friend and give her less attention. You must constantly check to make sure that she is still in the game. Don’t completely ignore her otherwise she will think that you and her friend are hitting it off. So always make sure the friend is still in the game. The ratio of attention to CB/Friend should be 70:30.
Talk slowly and from your diaphragm. Use deliberate pauses and delays.
Do not say “Right” or “You know” when you speak
If a girl asks you a question, do not be too eager to answer it. Shows too much interest.
Just ignore it and she will say “Hey ….did you hear my question” which means she is eager to seek validation from you by you answering or communicating with her. That is the position of power you want to establish… where the tables are turned.
Do not smile too much when you meet a set or a girl.
It shows approval seeking, AFCtendencies. Only smile as a reward to what she says if it impresses you. This will condition her to seek your validation . She has to earn it! Then she will become like an approval seeking guy.
Grab a cell phone talk on it like you are on the phone with a chick and then open a set with an opinion opener.
Say “Hey let me ask these girls’ Jennifer” like you are talking to Jennifer on the phone….and let the girls hear you talking to a girl on the phone. This will build fake social proof. Also it makes you appear that since you are in the area where the girls are you just happen to be asking them.
It comes across as the girl on the phone with you or the imaginary chick also wants to know the opinion and girls will not detect this as you trying to pick them up.
If you go up to a girl and she starts to act rude, or uninterested, just turn your back and reject her.
Girls do this to guys. Slam the doors in their faces and what does the guy do try to re-engage. Do this to chicks. When they give you a reaction you do not like, turn your back, break eye contact, treat them the way they treat us. They will chase you.
Only do handwriting analysis, palm reading or strawberry fields type stuff after you have gained some prizability in her eyes.
This is more mid game. The first 5-20 minutes you should be qualifying her: busting on her, breaking rapport with her, and getting her to seek your validation. Once you have attracted her, you must then screen and accept her.
Then you can go for comfort and rapport. In this stage, turn down the high octane Cocky/funny with more subtle take-aways. If she busts on you, just go silent and break rapport. Do not go back to the attraction phase. You got this far so keep it at the rapport level.
Use situational openers. Notice something she does or is reading, and just make a cocky/funny remark.
Do not say “What are you reading?” or “Are those split ends” and other rapport building questions. Do not ask functional, boring everyday, AFCquestions, but unique, emotionally engaging questions. Make cocky funny remarks.
Everything out of your mouth should challenge and invalidate who she thinks she is. She will try to validate herself through your acceptance.
If you missed what a girl is saying, don’t say “What did you say?”
This shows too much interest. Who cares? Just stack routines and engage her on your terms.
Bring her closer to you and then push her away.
Once you have attracted her, push and pull.
TOUCH, TOUCH, TOUCH.
Always touch a woman. Go from light to more. She has to get used to your touch.
Wing with guys who are good, not AFC.
They will rub off on you. Find people who know what they are doing. Record and audit your pick ups in a journal.
You need to find out what you did wrong and what you did right. Get into the habit of recording your activities. Otherwise you won’t know what to do, or what to change, what works and what doesn’t.
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