Chronic Negativity – Break Your Addiction To Negative Thoughts!

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You obviously want to be a positive guy around girls if you want to attract them.

But there’s a different kind of positivity and negativity that I want to talk about – and that’s how you think from moment to moment.

One of the things to remember is that, you become addicted to what states you most commonly access.

So if you spend a lot of time feeling and being positive and happy, it’s really easy for your brain to go back to that place of positivity and happiness.

If you spend a lot of time worrying, it’s very easy to trigger worry in that person.

If you spend a lot of time being depressed, it’s very easy for that person to go into a depressed mood.

You get, in effect, addicted to whatever state you spend the most time in, even if the states are negative ones.

And what I’ve noticed is with some guys that I’ve met, is that they have somewhat negative thought patterns or thought loops.

They’re addicted to thinking negatively.

Other guys are addicted to thinking positively.

And the types of things that a guy talks about most tends to be a reflection of the state they’re addicted to.

So if you’re a positive guy, you tend to gravitate in your thoughts and conversation toward positive outlooks or the positive sides of things.

So if you tell a positive guy a negative story, like, “Uh… this girl dissed me when I went up to her, I suck man.”

The positive guy will like, “Uh that sucks man, but don’t worry about it, there’s tons more girls about there… why just the other day this positive thing happened, and this positive thing, positive, positive, positive… blah, blah, blah…”

A positive-addicted guy is always ignoring the negative and veering his thoughts and conversation to the positive.

In other words, it’s like his brain is locked into positive thinking and positive feelings.

Conversely, a guy addicted to negative thinking and negative states, will always latch on to the negative side of life, wanting to pick apart all the negative aspects and deeply explore them and dwell on them… while blowing off the positive side.

So if you ask the negative guy about his experiences, he’ll usually just remember the most negative aspects of them.

Like, if you take him out to a bar and he talks to 3 girls, he’ll only recall the one girl that blew him off.

Or if you take him to a hot club, he only recalls the long drive it took to get there or how much it cost to get inside.

Or, he can approach a girl, have an awesome conversation with her, and he still believes that she didn’t like him.

In other words, it’s like his brain is locked into negative thinking and negative feelings.

It’s kind of like when a girl addicted to negativity acts and thinks, when she loses 20 pounds and everyone tells her she looks terrific and amazing, and she’s still absolutely convinced that she looks ugly, or she gets a boob job and she’s still self-conscious and self-hating about her breasts, even though everyone else tells her otherwise.

The guy stuck in negativity, who practices it everyday, his brain is literally blocking from having success.

So, you’ve got to ask yourself, what states are you addicted to?

Do you spend most of your time being anxious and worrying?

Do you spend most of your time feeling happy and excited or giddy?

Do you spend most of your time depressed?

Is most of your time spent in positive thought loops and states, or negative ones? Are you addicted to positivity or negativity?

And I’m asking that question because, if you’re addicted to the negative, you’re getting in your own way.

Even if I handed to you all the answers on a silver platter, you’d still go absolutely nowhere with them because you’re steadfast deadlocked in seeing the darker side of every aspect and every situation. Like a runner who is self-convinced that he’s already defeated and it’s already over. You can’t win the race that way.

And it’s really, from what I’ve experienced, ONLY the positive-oriented guys that have success in pickup and succeed with this. Because positive guys, their brain focuses on the positive of what he learns and does, and because of that he grows, he pushes himself, he stays motivated.

While guys who focus always of the negative, I’ve noticed they give up REALLY FAST. They have a few experiences, focus on the negative, and give up. And they do that in most aspects of their lives, not just with them.

In other words, if you’re spending most of your time addicted to feeling depressed, or angry, or anxious, or hateful of women, or whatever it is, the odds are REALLY stacked against you in succeeding at this.

So if that’s you, what you want to do is start mimicking the patterns of positive successful guys. Where you focus on the successes and you ignore the failures. You focus on what went right and you ignore what went wrong. You focus on good feelings, and you simply let the bad feelings pass and you don’t dwell in them.

That’s the key to staying motivating and enjoying this process.

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aakash
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aakash

Hey Jesse great advice. This negativity inside you not only stops you from getting hot girls but also stops you from taking advantages of opportunities that comes in your life. I am very good looking guy but I always think I am not enough and always puts brakes on myself. But from now on I will start to think positively and try to live my life brake free no matter what happens. Great advice.

Trent
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Trent

😉 so how do i start thinking positive all the time, their is this girl at work i really want to talk to, and i have all these negative thoughts weighing me down….

Marcus
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Marcus

Great thinkable stuff!

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Jesse, that is very good advise…. you see, i think i have found my soul mate (cheesey i know) but i always focus on the bad things in our relationship and blow them way out of porportions… thank you… i will think and act positive now… I am standing in MY own relationship’s way!

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august constantine

jesse…you was born to tell me the truth, i don’t believe that i was wrong..and you live to fix it.and i don’t believe someone wrote this stuff.thanks..but you’re late telling me this..now i got married with such heartless bitch dumping me.keep your motivation and incredibly ideas! i’m with you..

Attila
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Attila

It is really usefull for my life sulotion!thanx

Shawn
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Shawn

Jesse is on the leading edge of what its “really about” for teaching men how to be them selves and still get results, I am pleased to say that unlike other “gurus” his content does give you results because he was once in the shoes that were once struggling, its effortless to say that he is ahead of the game. Jesse’s nature is really about helping men because thats what he really wants, and for him its not ony about the profit, he is authentic. And he does want you to succeed. This article proves it!

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Great stuff Jesse, I really enjoyed and what struck me the most, is how you mentioned that by thinking negatively, we stand in our own way. I know you were referring to this chronic negativity in terms of women, but it affects me more in terms of my academics, but I’ve found help at last, keep doing the good job man.

Peace and Love from South Africa.

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