Quit Porn For Good! My Easy 4 Step Formula

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Hey girls and boys it’s Jesse charger here coming to you from lovely Florida.

In this video I want to talk more about how watching pornography scrambles your brain in a negative way that really decimates your inner game and motivation in terms of meeting real women.

You see after watching porn over a long period of time your brain associates having pleasure with watching porn, and it doesn’t associate anything with real women any longer.

Over time your brain associates having sex with watching porn, it doesn’t associate having sex with real women.

Over time your brain associates your own reproductive success with watching porn, and doesn’t associate reproductive success with real women.

Over time your brain associates sexiness and femininity with watching porn, and begins to associate of boredom with real women.

With time, real women in the real world quit being a sexual turn on, and you only become turned on by porn.

How You Lose Motivation

Porn, in effect, tricks your brain into thinking it’s having all this great sex, and all this reproductive success, watching the computer screen. So much so, that the very idea of all the effort and time you need to put into meeting real women starts to feel like a chore or a waste of time.

Because when you associate reproductive success with watching computer videos, the effort put into pursuing real women feels like time taken away from the easy gratification you can get just by watching a screen.

Or even if you like the idea of having sex with real women, or you like the idea of getting a real girlfriend, wishing for something is not enough to get it.

You wish for it, but you don’t feel motivated enough to take the actual steps necessary to have sex with real women or get yourself a quality girlfriend. Because your brain already perceives as having all this reproductive success and sexual pleasure ALREADY… as much as it wants in fact, whenever it wants, with whoever it wants.

Your brain already perceives itself to be getting sexual rewards, getting reproductive success, and getting big payoffs of pleasure with very little risk taking – in fact no risk taken at all.

So why go through the time, all the effort, the risk of meeting real girls? You don’t!

It’s just easier to stay at home and you don’t take action. You lose your motivation to take real action in the real world on real girls.

And your brain wiring and circuitry becomes changed. So that you no longer associate reproductive success with you putting your own penis into a real live girl. Instead, you associate reproductive success and sexual pleasure watching other people have sex in a video.

Soon Your Brain Craves Only The Visual

Your brain circuitry changes to thinking that sex is purely visual. That great sex is something that you see, is a face that you see, or is a hot body that you see, or the hot outfit that you see, or is a physical position that you see.

When in fact real sex is more about feeling and touch primarily, and is about the five senses together; touch, taste, smell, sound and also visual as just one small part.

So real women cease to be seen as sexual creatures in your mind, and instead become asexual beings that are ultimately too much time and too much energy to really bother with. Why? because they’re not dressed sexy or naked as in porn, they don’t give you instant gratification on command as in porn, they don’t have the exact body type that interests you in that particular moment as in porn… so your mind just starts to see regular girls as other asexual people that happen to be there. And in effect, you become neutered and asexual to real girls.

Porn Should Make You BORED

So instead, you want to get to the point where you’re only interested in having sex and getting sexual pleasure with real women. You want to get to the point where videos and pictures of light and pixels bore you.

Where watching other people have sex BORES you.

Where you’re only interested in you yourself having real sex… where you yourself have real reproductive success… where you yourself have real pleasure with real girls. So that when you look at a video or a picture you think to yourself, “well I’m not there having sex watching this, it’s not me there having sex, so I’m not interested.”

A Note On Fetishes

And even if you have a fantasy, driven by watching porn, like you’re really into watching a guy have three girls at once, or you’re into watching two guys on a girl, or you’re really interested in interracial sex, or you like cheating wives, or whatever it is, whatever fetish really gets you off, understand that that fetish typically comes from a lack of going out, from a lack of social interaction, and from a lack of real sex with real women.

Once you start going out and meeting real girls, once you start getting a lot of social interaction with real girls, once you start having sex with real girls, a lot of those porn driven fetishes fall away to the sidelines.

And you become much more satisfied and much more interested in having one-on-one sex with the real girls you meet, where it’s about feeling the sex through touch, where it’s about experiencing the sex with another person in her personal reactions and her own personal qualities.

And those old fetishes that were driven from social isolation and watching porn, cease to interest you.

You Need To Retrain Your Brain

The solution is you’ve got to retrain your brain to stop associating sexual pleasure and reproductive success with pixels and light and videos, and retrain your brain to start associating sexual pleasure and reproductive success with real women.

To do that, you have to stop having orgasms watching other people have sex on video. You have to retrain your brain to associate sexual pleasure and reproductive success by FEELING real women through touch instead of visually watching others have sex on video.

You have to retrain your brain to find looking at real women, clothed women, as arousing and titillating.

You have to retrain your brain to find porn boring, because you’re not the one having sex in the porn.

You need to retrain your brain to stop seeing women as boring and asexual, and start seeing women as arousing sex objects.

My 4 Steps Solution: #1. Get Pissed Off

So here’s the solution to get un-addicted to porn in four quick steps.

First, you have to get pissed off.

Pissed off that you wasted so much time masturbating to photos that have tricked your brain.

Pissed off that porn has kept you unmotivated and sexless.

You need to get pissed off that you’re not getting the girls you want, that you’re not getting the girls you deserve, because porn has sabotaged your life up to now.

You need to get pissed off realizing that life is short, that you have a limited amount of time on this earth, and with that precious time you need to make the most of things. And that porn has stolen your time, that porn has stolen your relationships, that porn has stolen your motivation, and as a man who moves toward success, you don’t have time for that bullshit.

You need to get pissed off enough that you want things to change and you’re willing and ready, right now, to take immediate action to do whatever is necessary to eradicate porn out of your way.

#2. Delete Your Porn Collection

Second step. You have to throw out your porn collection. You have to delete it forever.

Maybe you have a list of links or your favorite videos. Maybe you have a database of videos you’ve collected.

You need to completely wipe those out.

As long as you have links or a database of any sort, that collection represents an investment. And if you hold onto that investment by keeping it stored away someplace, it means that you have not yet let go of porn.

Whether you have a collection of 10 videos, or 100 videos, or one thousand videos, whether those videos are categorized or not, the whole collection needs to be irrevocably eradicated and erased for good.

You must start with a clean slate, with no sense of previous investment, and with no avenues for temptation.

As long as you have a collection that represents an investment, you’ll feel a temptation to continue collecting or to go back into your archives. So it must be deleted completely.

#3. Stop Masturbating To Porn With A Blocker

Step 3- After your collection or archives have been completely eradicated from all computers and all sources, the next step is to stop masturbating to porn.

No porn whatsoever.

No masturbation to pornography or videos.

It’s fine to masturbate to real girls that you’ve met in real life or seen in real life using your imagination. That can be part of the process of retraining your brain to find real women arousing, to find real women titillating again.

But no masturbation to light and pixels.

And because the Internet offers such an easy temptation to an easy payoff of sexual gratification without risk, it can be very difficult to rely solely on willpower alone to stop.

That’s why it’s so important to get good distraction blocking software.

For Windows I recommend a software program called focus me, which you can download at focusme.co. The program will shut down any window with the keywords you choose. So you can put in a list of keywords like sex, teens, mature, tube, XXX, and your browser will automatically shut down if any of those keywords appear.

You can also set an “unlock level” where you must type in a long string of characters to unlock the distraction protection…

Having software like focus me is like taking the cookies out of the kitchen. Because when the cookies are in the kitchen, at arms grasp away, it’s just too easy to give into temptation, as your natural willpower will not be that strong.

So even when you get that desperate urge to watch some video porn, the software will simply prevent you from doing it.

#4. Practice Seeing Real Women As Titillating Again

The fourth and final part of the solution is to start practicing seeing real women as sex objects again.

If you’ve watched a lot of porn, real women will seem like unsexy, asexual beings that don’t really turn you on much anymore.

You need to start watching real girls walking, clothed girls.

Look at her as you imagine bending her over and mounting her. You need to look at that girl sitting down and study her legs and study her lips and study her breasts.

You need to start imagining what her hair would feel like. You need to start imagining what kissing her lips would feel like.

You need to start imagining her looking at you, with her big eyes, with her mouth wrapped around your you-know-what.

You need to start practicing imagining undressing real girls with your eyes. You need to start imagining how they react in bed. You need to start imagining how they pleasure you in bed.

You need to start seeing real women as sex objects again, as the source of your motivation to get up and take real action in the real world.

(And for more tips on doing that, check out my Nonverbal Sexual Mind Control program by clicking here!)

Recap Of The Four Steps

So that’s my four-part solution for getting porn out of your life, for eradicating it, and getting that sexual motivation and sexual drive for real women again.

Number one, get pissed off to the point where you will take whatever action is necessary to obliterate porn once and for all, even if that means reframing porn to be an evil influence that is stealing away your life and your time and the women in your life.

Number two, need to burn, destroy, and obliterate whatever porn collection you have so that it is irrevocably erased forever.

Number three you need to stop masturbating to porn completely, understanding that your willpower will probably not be strong enough, and you may very well need the help of a good distraction blocking software or porn blocking software.

And number four, you need to start seeing real women as titillating sex objects again, by engaging your imagination and actively strengthening your sexual imagination with practice.

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Thanks for listening, thanks for your time, I had great fun recording this, my name is Jesse Charger, see guys later.

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  1. Thank you Jesse for sharing these two videos with us bums living in a fantasy world. I can attest to the fact that porn has sabotaged my potential to have healthy enjoyable relationships with women. I’ve given up porn here and there anywhere from a week to one time over a year, yet some how I would convince myself it is okay to go back and just look for a few minutes (cheat day/everybody does it mentality) which can turn into a few hours each day for several days at a time, sucking me right back in and deflating my self esteem and desire to be around real women. Everything you said is so right on. I always knew these things inwardly, but you put it into words that clarify it so that it all makes sense and leaves on again off again porn addicts without excuse. I really wish that I never discovered that dam penthouse magazine under my parents bed. My mother who was a hotel maid brought it home for my father to look at along with many others I discovered under the mattress that got me on it at 13. Now I’m one of those non productive guys with no kids or wife 33 years later on the verge of having as you said in the video my lineage snuffed out. Very ashamed of myself in comparison to my brother, other male relatives and friends who are successful. All the advise you gave us it excellent, but knowing how my sex drive can flare up at any moment and because I don’t trust myself I’ve decided to get rid of my computer in the next few weeks as I’m about to move. Since I really don’t need it for work, I can always go to the library if I need to do an important email or whatever. It’s the only way I can guarantee myself into retraining my brain permanently away from porn. The only thing I disagree with is you encouraging those in transition to masturbate to woman they have seen without pixels, because that may become addicting too. You seem to know a lot about how the human mind operates, if you read this message can you let us know if you think woman have an intuitive sense knowing or suspecting that men have been looking at porn and are all perved up or momentarily sapped of their manhood there by turning them off. Thanks for all of your great advice and help. I’m all in. George

  2. I have gotten pissed off watching p8rn. That should be me experiencing that fun, dammit! And porn is so staged, I see it now more than ever. The girls watch themselves doing what they’re doing. They truly do it for fun, money and run.

    When I download anything, the anticipation builds. I open it, the excitement just dies on the spot. I delete. Then desire re-emerges.

    I crave female.

    And this has gone on before reading your four step recommendation.

    However, your post validates what I am naturally doing on a subconscious level. It’s time to kick my ” hide my activity from mom” habit. It’s held me for so long.Now, I have “it” to kick to the curb.

    And now the new social problem, facing pretentious feminists, bisexuals without morals, passion-less married woman.and clueless twenty-somethings.

    Hmm, well, this just means my personal path will get more attention and my natural seductive side will come out to play when I discover a woman who’s ready to explore the possibilities of responsible “fun and genuine connection.”

    Thanks a bunch for this post. It solidifies my mindset.

  3. The main focus here seems like it is the cold turkey approach. That is one method, and you will need a support network for the irrational behavior and emotional swings when going through withdrawals if it is an addiction.

    Another position could be continue to watch porn, instead of the movie/scenes usually with the bad plot or dialog, why not spend time looking at the behind the scenes footage. It is unscripted and more realistic of what life is like. It moves from the point of instant gratification a scene in a movie produces to a subtext focused more on communication. The starlets will usually be naked or semi-naked through most of it.

    Doesn’t matter what direction you choose, a support network/friends is critical in breaking an addiction. A point not even highlighted but is assumed there is one. A support network is for encouragement and correct social etiquette’s, they don’t need to know the issue for redirection.

  4. Very Good! Thanks for posting. Women can tell when they are dating a guy who is into porn… it’s not as attractive. I want to be ravaged by my man. Keep the sexual energy for your woman… 😉

    1. And if one is already married to a woman who is more spiritually satisfied and less sexually driven, the husband is painted into a corner. This is because he is with dealing with his most basic need being denied to him on the basis of “a wife’s holy behaviour.” Even if he has improved himself to a point where he is sexually desirable and magnetic he still finds himself in the same “sexually denied” situation. Something has to give. So when the appeal of porn has reached a low point where it is merely a cast of players catering to the voyeuristic tendencies of the sexually deprived, then porn’s been exposed to be what it is at its most basic selling point: it’s a lure to destroy a man from within and out of his money, teasing him to think he is getting satisfied vicariously, but he is not. After which, life becomes a dull act. And unless there is a life mission to re-direct such a man, he is doomed to an appetite that will never be satiated. He might as well self-castrate to bear out a dull marital commitment or cut his losses, divorce, expose his life to maximum social vulnerability and begin again.