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Watching Porn? Three *Urgent* Reasons Why You Must Stop Right Now

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So many guys are caught up in this pornography and it really just not only saps your sex drive, but also actually saps your motivation in your drive to go out and meet women in general, independent of your sex drive. Now most guys are watching porn and it’s really going to hold them back in their lives.

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The reason is, two reasons that I want to go into: Number one, is something called hedonic adaptation.

Hedonic Adaptation

Hedonic adaptation is where your brain grows accustomed to new titillating stimulation and eventually, that titillating stimulation has less and less effect, so that it doesn’t really have as much punch as it used to the first, second or third time.

For example, back in the early 1900s, if a man saw a woman’s ankles, he would get blown away. He is really turned on. To see a woman’s ankles was very titillating. Because women wore long, long dresses that covered up her legs, covered up her feet, and covered up their ankles. Woman would basically lift up her dress like this, to show on the ankle and that was amazing.

But today you see ankles and legs on television. You see women’s ankles and legs out on the streets. So it has no titillating effect on you anymore.

Instead, what men find titillating are breasts. Breasts are that titillating thing. But if you go down to a nude beach down in South Florida, for example, you see a bunch of naked breasts and at first you are like, “Wow! This is amazing!”   Your brain is getting overload stimulation. “I never saw so many breasts before!”  But after, actually, just a couple hours your brain adapts. It’s not as stimulatory and titillating.  After a few days of going to the same beach it is going to seem normal. Breasts are normal. So your brain adapts; i.e. Hedonic adaptation.

Hedonic Adaption in Watching Porn

Now bringing this into porn, for example, let’s say you discover your perfect 10 porn. You discover the perfect girl and you think, “Wow! This girl is so amazing! So awesome!  I could just jerk it to this one girl for the next year. I don’t even have to go look for other porn!”

But what happens is after a couple days of getting off to the same girl, even though she was your perfect 10, let’s say she was a tall blonde, now are you like, “I need to see some Hispanic girls, I need to see some black girls”.  So actually, after a couple of days, you get bored with the same porn star even if she was amazing. That’s hedonic adaptation.

Or let’s say you develop or collect this big ultimate porn collection- the best porn you have ever discovered and you just collect it. What happens? You never really go back and watch that collection. You never go back into the archives or anything. You are always looking for new stimulation.

Because, no matter how good the porn was, your brain adapts quickly to that titillating experience. You need something new. You need something more. So what happens is that your brain is accustomed to constantly getting new girls, new stimulation from pornography. And when you go out and meet real girls on the street, club or bar, wherever it is, the girls are not as titillating.

They’re not really sexy. They’re not what you would really want them to be and only the super fine 10s can even get you motivated or inspired. So what happens is your brain adapts to these hypersexual girls in porn and then when you see real women in real life, you are just not that motivated.  What happens is you go out, you see normal girls but you don’t feel that motivated.

You’re like, “Yeah, I should go talk to her, I should go talk to that one, I should do this, I should do that…”  But you don’t really have that drive that forces you to go do it, because your brain is not getting stimulated by regular girls. So you think, “I will just go back home and watch some porn; Get that stimulation”. So that’s one way that saps your drive.

 The Chocolate Cake Analogy

Another way that porn, really, can sap your drive is I am going to use an analogy with chocolate cake i.e. grandma’s chocolate cake. Grandma makes chocolate cake for you every week. It’s delicious chocolate cake. It’s grandma’s chocolate cake.

So every week  you put on some nice clothes, you get into your car, you drive over to grandma’s house, you say hello to grandma, you talk to grandma, she pulls out the chocolate cake, you take the fork, you put the fork into the cake, you put it up to your mouth and “Mmm….!”- Grandma’s chocolate cake is delicious.

Now your buddy says to you, “Look I have got this awesome machine. You can have all the chocolate cake you want; you can have all the desserts. In fact, you just hook up this machine, these two wires to your brain and it will give you the stimulation of eating desserts”.

So with this machine, you can press a button and you are getting chocolate cake stimulated to your brain. It feels like you’re really experiencing chocolate cake… but directly to the to the pleasure center of your brain! Then you hit another button and now you can get pumpkin pie. And you hit another button and 30 seconds later you can get ice cream and hit another button 30 seconds later you can feel like getting chocolate chip cookies, the most mouth savoring delicious chocolate chip cookies you’ve ever eaten.

And say, you just get desert pleasure for two weeks, non-stop.

And what’s great about this machine is that you don’t have to even expend any time or effort to get the pleasure.

You don’t even have to you put your fork down, up to your mouth and chew. You have to expend calories to do that. You don’t have to go drive to the store, expend gas or pay money for gas. You get it all instantly from this machine.

So what happens?

After two weeks of doing using the machine, Grandma calls you up and says to you, “Hey! Sunny, come on over and eat some chocolate cake with me”.

So you think to yourself, “I should spend some time with grandma. I should eat some real chocolate cake. I should go over there and do my obligation”. But you’ve got to get dressed. You’ve got to get inside the car. You’ve got to buy some gasoline. You’ve got to go over to grandma. You’ve got to say hello. It’s a big production, you think to yourself.

You don’t feel that motivated to do it. It just starts to feel like a hassle. Especially, since you had this machine and since you can get the stimulation right to your brain instantaneously… AND it even tastes BETTER than grandma’s chocolate cake. Because in this machine they had some sciences design what was the perfect tasting chocolate cake for you.

So you just don’t feel like going to see grandma. It’s not fun anymore because the simulation of the machine is more fun.

How Porn Kills Your Motivation To Take Action

So it’s the same way, same exact same thing with the girls and porn. Basically you jerk off to some porn and then you just don’t feel the motivation that you should to go out and meet REAL girls.

You feel like, “Yeah, I should go out… I should do this… I should do that… but I can just get pleasure and stimulation from watching pornography”.

And even if you DO go out, then because you have hedonic adaptation, the real girls are not really stimulating you in the same way, because you have been seeing tons of naked bodies, tons of naked girls in porn. You can’t control the fantasies exactly how you want. So when you see the girl in the club it’s just not as stimulating as it should be.

The Short-Term Trap Of Watching Porn

Now here is really the trap of porn.

In the very short-term, porn is awesome!

Let’s say an asteroid is going to hit the earth and you have 30 minutes. Are you going to be like, “Ah God, I got to meet some real girls”?

After all, you only have 30 minutes to live. You’re not going to get laid in 30 minutes.

If your outlook is 30 minutes from now, porn is great. Because you can get a lot of pleasure and a lot of stimulation from porn. You can expend zero time and effort to get that pleasure and stimulation.

The problem is that we tend to think very short-term. We want the short term payoff. So we’ll just watch porn.

The problem is on the long-term. Let us say, a 3 year timescale.

Take Two Guys- One Who Watches Porn, The Other Who Doesn’t…

Take one guy that’s watching porn and another guy that avoids porn. The guy who just skips out on porn, maybe three years from now he can have two or three girlfriends. He’s gotten laid like 20 or 30 times. He is socially sharp from going out. And because he’s been around girls, he feels that pressure on himself to go the gym, to look nice, be healthy, eat correctly, and have good habits.

Whereas the guy that just gives into the easy temptation of porn, gives into the quick stimulation of porn with no effort.

He doesn’t feel that pressure to look good.

He doesn’t feel that pressure to eat healthy or go to the gym.

He doesn’t feel that pressure to be social and be socially sharp.

He’s not going to have any girls around him.

And he’s not going to have two or three girlfriends. He is not going to be getting laid. So three years from now; even though there is a short-term payoff to watching porn which traps you into wanting to do it, over the long-term it’s a very negative habit. It’s really going to hold you back.

What About Cheat Days?  The Backsliding Problem

Now you might be asking, “Jesse, what about a cheat day? Can I have a cheat day where once a week I watch porn? I don’t do it very often, but I want to watch a little porn here and there.”

The problem with that is, you’ll watch porn once and then it can be very easy to backslide into that habit of watching it day after day, two or three days in a row, or worse.

You get the stimulation one day and then the next day you are like “I kind of want to see that other girl. I didn’t quite finish off to her”, so the second day you’re back to it.

It’s very easy to backslide into it if you have cheat days.

Cheat Days Aren’t For Champions

Another issue with cheat days is, if you want to be, for example, a great runner, you want to do marathons and you want to really excel at your hobby… then yes, you CAN have a cheat day eating all you can eat at McDonald’s every Saturday.  But it’s not going to make you the best marathon runner.

Doing that cheat day is really going to impinge on your results.

If you want to get the best results out of your hobby or out of your passion of women, you don’t want to have that cheat day of doing porn.

You want to align all of your habits to be good habits to give you the best results you can get. You don’t want to be cheating with bad habits.

You don’t want to be in the mindset that pornography is a positive reward. You want to see porn more like eating junk food or smoking, where you want to just avoid it completely. There’s really no reason to do a cheat day.

Watching Porn Will Kill Off Your Genes

Another thing to consider is that porn watching is a maladaptive trait, where your brain is tricked into thinking that porn is like fucking a real girl, when it’s not.

You’re wasting your time on the simulation fantasy. It’s not going to help you reproduce.

So basically you are going to have two groups of guys in society- first, guys that get sucked into porn because it’s tricking their brain. Their caveman brain can’t tell the difference between the fantasy and going after girls in real life.

Versus guys that, for whatever reasons their genes say, “I am going to skip the porn. I am going to go after real girls”.

Those are the guys that are going to be genetically successful.

They are going to have more sex.

They are going to have more children.

They are going to have more choice of women.

They are going to have more fit offspring to propagate their genes into future generations.

Whereas the guys that get all hung up on porn or spend a good deal of their days in front of porn are eventually going to get weeded out.

Which Side Are You On?

So, it’s really almost like a life-and-death struggle of your genes. Are you able to adapt to the post-1995 universe of the world, where porn is basically ubiquitous?

Can you still get the hot girls in that kind of situation, or is this new technology going to suck you into the abyss of not being able to procreate?

Because maybe you can’t not adapt to the new pitfalls in the new environment. And as you know, species go extinct or certain traits in the species go extinct when the environment changes and that species or groups within the species can’t adapt to the new environment.

So you want to be one of those guys that is adapting to modern society.  A guy who can still procreate, be successful genetically in evolution instead of being one of those guys that your lineage is going to be snuffed out because you wasted time watching porn with lack of motivation.

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  1. Yandry

    Thank for you reflection I erase mi porn collection an begin to live in a date.
    Thanks again.

  2. anonymous

    hey thanks for this vid this has really helped but i still feel guilty about watching it

    • Jesse Charger

      Great!

  3. Anonymous

    Jesse, I am of a very young age. 11, almost 12, to be exact. I started having urges when I was really young, and that got me to the question of “Hey, what’s this thing called porn?”. Then I couldn’t stop watching it. I have tried stopping, but the longest I have made without watching is a week. But after seeing this video and reading the paragraphs, I don’t feel the same way about porn. I managed to find a hobby. This changed the way I think. Thanks Jesse.

    • Jesse Charger

      Great… awesome :razz:

  4. Anonymous

    Thank you thank you I ve always had men that are addicted to porn n I couldn’t tell them why not to be

  5. laos

    I think it actually kill your entire motivation, not only for real girls. You stop interacting with people, avoid everything thats distract you from porn, and you even stop doings things you were supposed to do. Great article

    • Jesse Charger

      Yep, spot on

  6. Darwel

    I fap daily. I fap over porn. I still bang my girlfriend and think it is the best feeling of my life, when I am in her. I am able to get her to orgasm and after that, ejaculate. I watch porn probably like four times a day and my sexual appetite with my GF, if anything, only rose.

    So, what’s the matter with watching porn?

  7. tht oan

    ha this is heavy bruh!
    And it mostly makes sense..my social skills are inversely proportional to the porn i watch…

    1 month straight#i jus picked myself up

    hope i can cut the masturbation tho….thts a real difficult 1 t stop
    -jabe

  8. Anonymous

    i know, no matter how much i control, i wont be able to stop it..life is no more the same it used to be… :cry:

    • Anonymous

      turn to that which is bigger than you could ever be… might I recommend Jesus? even if you dont like the church, treat him as an all-powerful, friendly spirit who only wants you to succeed.

      • Anonymous

        hmmmmm….you must be a good person…thanks for the valuable reply…ill follow this suggestion..maybe this will work out…

  9. Anonymous

    Thanks for the tips it really helped me alot and like I watch porn everyday its really hard to get rid of and we all guys have reasons to jack off porn and it maybe be a habit. But to those guys who are older you should go out and find a girl then watching porn. Kids and teens watch porn probably because they “cant find a girlfriend” oor there just desperate to fuck a girl. Well thats a reason why they would watch porn.. but if your older think about it.

    • Anonymous

      Well you are right about that. And like seriously guys think about it if ur old…. jacking off to porn, teens or adults thats just low..

  10. Anonymous

    hi i’m a Muslim guy and i live in a islamic country,in our society (belive or not!) its almost illegal to have sex before marriage and i dont want to marry for ten years later so what i must do dear jesse? i’m really really tired of porn but for guys like me in arabic countries its a way to release the pressure

  11. Angel Donovan

    Another reason porn is a bad idea…
    Each time you cum you shorten your lifespan a tiny bit (sperm is expensive genetic material in terms of your body’s resources and ejaculating and having to rebuild it shortens telemeres – thus lifespan). If you’re going to ejaculate do it with a real girl – shortening your lifespan is more justifiable with real sex.

    And for the advanced… sleeping with too many women brings up some of the same issues if you aren’t careful. I’m talking hundreds here.

    • d.m

      sorry dude its bullshit there is not any problem whit sperms! don’t talk like that if you dont have any resource

  12. Terisa

    I need advice. I’m a 19 year old girl and as a child, i was severely sexually abused and exploited by several men. For the longest time, i refused to trust men and to believe that they could love and respect a woman. The fact that women are so sexualized, demeaned and disrespected has added to that. After several abusive relationships, i began to heal from my past. A year ago, i finally let an amazing man into my heart. He earned my love and trust. But i found out he watches porn. This highly upsets me and has made me once again doubt men. I just dont see how men can watch women be exploited like that. When i told him of my fears, he said he would stop and has been trying to stop because he doesnt like watching the porn…just the outcome. He said he had stopped when he was 16 but then when he started college, he started again and wants to stop again. He’s always been honest. i even remember him telling me that yes, he thinks some girls are hot but to him, i am beautiful which means so much more than just being hot. I so badly want to trust him but my instincts from the abuse i suffered are causing me to be very untrusting which is leading me to be a bit controlling and jealous lately. From a males perspective, what should i do? Should i trust him? Will he really be able to stop? How can i open up to him about my jealousy/controlling thats caused from past abuse without scaring or chasing him away? Weve always been able to work out issues and disagreements but this one is a really big one.

    • Darwel

      If you want him to stop watching porn, you’re going to have a really bad time. Literally all guys watch porn. You have to realize, that porn for us is like reading romantic fiction for you, women. We just don’t feel it for those chicks on screen – we want to get off quickly and to look at boobs. That’s all. For everything else, he has you, so as long as he’s emotionally attached to you, let him watch his porn.

  13. Anonymous

    Hi
    I am a real old guy in my late seventies ,

    enjoyed porn when it was only in print and

    pictures,I go to Thailand every year , some of the

    women I meet are beautiful, but I can not even

    get it up.don’t even bother to slap the old monkey when I

    am there or watch porn . you have all these fantasy with with what you are going to do when you get there.but it does not turn you on that much.and yet when I come home and watch some good porn I can slap the old monkey two or three times a week. Thailand is just a place to hold a women for a night and not be so damn lonely.
    I hope u guys have good porn stache’s because the longer you watch porn.like any addiction over time you need some pretty strange shit to turn you on. Have a good one.

    • Logan

      Pretty cool advice :) The part of going into stranger things is VERY real, been there, done that… I’ve always liked bestiality and shemales, then I went into SM… Later came watersports and now scat. And i brought all those into my personal life, except for scat (till now) :roll:

  14. strong-willed

    You’re all so gullible. I’ve been watching porn since I was a teenager. My motivation toward finding a girl has never changed. But sex is not my main motivator. I find pleasure in stimulating conversation, a warm or flirty smile, holding hands and the pleasure of knowing a girl is interested in me. When I’m with a girl, I like the romance, the foreplay and enjoy the moment. Porn hasn’t negatively influenced my sexual manners. I may watch certain types of porn that I would never consider doing with a girl, either out of respect for her or myself.

    • strong-willed

      Not to mention, I find myself bored of looking at perfect 10s and I particularly like more plain girls. They bring more to the table and aren’t so shallow. They have realistic desires and personalities that make relationships so much more enjoyable.

  15. Anonymous

    to hell with you porn!
    I’m a champion! :)

  16. D

    Thank you so much Jesse. This changed my life. I am very grateful. Thank you.

  17. Anonymous

    I watch porn everyday, How can I undo those effects or consecuences, what should I do to not to have hedonic adaptation anymore? What can I do to start being more social? And what can I do to reverse all the effects that porn has given me? Please help me

    • Jesse Charger

      Your brain can return to normal after a few months… check out the site for the free tips man!

  18. misty

    I was hoping to find some kind of relief to why married men masterbate to porn. I am one of those wives where it has ruined our marriage because it makes me feel like I am not adequate to fullfill his needs,wants and desires. I am lucky if he even wants to have sex with me but he never does and the excuses start and I am wondering what that mind play is for him coosing porn over your own wife? It’s something that has just made me feel so unloved and left feeling lonely knowing my husband has chosen this choice of masterbation over me is really hard to deal with. So the motivation part ..there is no motivation to initiate sex cause his brain is used to porn and masterbation.
    Thanks!

    • Jesse Charger

      Porn didn’t ruin your relationship. Other things are causing problems. For instance, men are turned on visually and maybe he needs to see you fit and in sexy clothes to get turned on. That’s just one thing for instance– I’m not a relationship counselor, but your man isn’t being turned on sexually by you for one reason or another. In addition, he needs to stop watching porn, you can talk to him about it and put on a blocker like focusme.co

  19. Anonymous

    thanks i will try to stop watch porn
    ;-)

  20. neil

    Hello everyone, including Jessie….I wanted to share a little research that I did about the effect of porn on memory, I saved it as I found it to be profound. This seems to jive directly what Indian spiritual thinking believes on the topic, from my understanding. Generally Indian thinking values seminal fluid as fundamental to healthy living, not to be wasted. This information is also validated by my own experiences as I have found myself dazed and missing memories which should have been easy to recall. The next day after such activities (I can’t even get myself to mention them, it feels so shameful!) can be particularly difficult. I may have more references in future as this is a good discussion, very enlightening, and could save a lot of people (possibly more of the male persuasion judging by above comments, especially the females) a lot of hassles and difficulties in life. It is definitely food for thought and I want to give Jessie due credit for opening what may be considered by some to be a taboo or difficult subject to discuss – thanks Jessie! Kudos to you, friend!

    Here is the information promised…(quoted directly, spelling mistakes and all! LOL)….

    Question: effects of masturbation on human memory. Best answer….

    Source:

    http://ehealthforum.com/health/topic61692.html

    seektofind2 wrote:
    Hi. I’ve stimulated myself since I was 12/13 and now I’m almost 20. I haven’t had a specific patter though it was many times a day in the earlier years. Then I would stop for awhile and go back to it. As of a year or so now I’ve been trying to quit but have had little success. It’s affecting my life and with the college work I’m finding this extremely difficult. I can’t focus on my work, I can’t remember things, and the easiest of tasks have become extremely hard. I exercise regularly and it doesn’t help. In fact I heard that it’s bad to masturbate and exercise.

    I really need to stop damaging my body and find a way to fix what I’ve done. How bad is the damage from what I’ve explained? What should my diet be? What can I do? I hate this addiction and want it to go away! My life is in ruins and falling apart more and more each day b/c of it. :(

    That’s a testimonial worth thinking about! To the guys I would say stop doing this useless activity and try to follow the good advice so graciously provided by Jessie in different formats above and in his video.

    Neil. :-)

  21. neil

    Jesse, you’re spot on and I’m really thankful that I came across your video. 35 years of this habit and what has it gotten me? A lot of pain and a realization that I am not as socially adept with females as I perhaps should be or would like to be.Once again, I am in the process of transforming myself now and good things always seem to happen to me when I make an effort. I want this to be the last time I give this bad habit up and once again I think I feel more empowered, stronger, more attractive and more socially able. I’ve just got to believe in that, sometimes I seem to forget somehow! Thanks for speaking out about this important topic. It helps to realize that you are not the only one adapting to this post -’95 environment, others are experiencing the same pain and shame, and to know that masturbation is very maladaptive behaviour that holds us back in many ways. Best regards, neil.

    • Jesse Charger

      Exactly, well put !!

  22. Anonymous

    Great insight! Very interesting and makes a lot of sense..
    What is your opinion on masturbation without porn? Is fantasising over beautiful/sexy women in your head while you get your self off a problem too?

  23. matty

    wat can be period gap between mastrubations for man

  24. Socialkenny the black Cassanova

    I seem to be having problems posting my comments. Hopefully the first 1 went through Jessie.

  25. Socialkenny the black Cassanova

    This topic has been pounded to death all throughout the community over the last 9 months with all these no-fap challenges :)

    Masturbation however, is difficult to stop doing. As a guy who regularly gets laid and have a girlfriend, I can attest to this.

  26. james

    hi;

    If a person watching porn videos for almost 8 months & then realize that what he is doing can he may become father or not

  27. Anonymous

    Great info – Backsliding sucks

  28. Harker

    Here I was thinking that part of enjoying porn was seeing different women! Hopefully together! I think your talking about a very small percentage of people who have issues.

    Your basically saying if you watch porn your not going to be as successful or catch the biggest fish in your pond? Nonsense, utter nonsense. There is no medical backing to what your saying, and you talked a lot about genes and genetics. Watching porn is not in our genes.

    Kane: Keep going to the gym, if you asked a girl out more than twice and she is busy she doesn’t want to go out with you.

    Ricky: Say you have 2 years left, not four semesters. You simplify time in writing. You should be able to jerk off and screw your girlfriend.

    The jerk off who said having a orgasm is bad for you: Stupid ass. Looking at breasts for 10-15 minutes a day reduces stress, as well as masturbating. In fact it’s healthy to pop one off because the sperm gets old, so if your actually trying to have a baby you made be shooting some dead sperm.

  29. Taylor

    Hey, Jesse I wanna stop porn but I’m scared of all the Health risk I’m finding on the internet of not ejaculating. Do you have any advice? :lol:

    • Jesse Charger

      Taylor, you can still masturbate, just use your imagination to the REAL girls you’ve seen

  30. Chris

    I’m a shy person and for years I put my lack of a girlfriend down to being overweight and shy. Lack of motivation and energy to get fit and lack of testosterone and motivation to go out in the evenings or even talk to girls that I met during the day.

    I didn’t even think porn was the cause until I accidently typed in google (does femdom porn make men weak)lol. Would there be any way to put sites like this on porn search engines to warn men who don’t realise they have a problem?

  31. Ryan

    Thanks for this video. It really gave me great awareness that watching porn is a deadly trap that prevents me from getting the real girls! :grin:

  32. Fredo

    Exellent info for really people in trouble , those who cant or can will be aware what porn ia all about . Thank you for reseach

  33. Akshay

    Your way of writing the article is very funny and interesting lol… And i agree with your words bro…

  34. Anonymous

    I sometimes jerk off by watching sexy bikini girls on youtube, is that same like watching porn and MB…..? :cry:

  35. Jens

    Why you should continue? hehe :evil:
    randporn delivers you more than 17.000 free porn videos :mrgreen:

  36. hamyd

    thnks bro coz now i realize how pornograph affect a person.i wont look on them for the rest of my life

  37. Anonymous

    Thank you soooo much.

  38. curiosity

    Hai
    I’m a female who watches porn videos one time accidently, before that I don’t have clear idea about what is sex exactly? till my 21 years, but the video which totally changes my view towards sex, after that I started searching different different porn sites and started watching porn videos for 1 month past, really that videos and actres made me wet, I really feel a drain o my *****, But I loving it, Now I have a doubt wheather watching porn vdeos really make any side effects and I just happen to see your site, It is totally true, Now I know how to behave while having sex but I’m not sure about my future partner’s action, maybe I’m watching too many videos I may or maynot expect the good and mind blowing happenings of what I watched, but he may or maynot fulfill my ******. Maybe I will be unsatisfied. Let’s spread to those guys good job

  39. Anonymous

    Hi I was just wondering what if your girlfriend sends you nude photos of herself? Would that be considered porn or is that okay to use every now and then?

    • Jesse Charger

      It’s GREAT to masturbate to the REAL girls in your life

  40. help

    I want to stop watching porn but thats not so easy i put on tv hot girls i put on radio sexy sound like ooow yea like in porn so how can i stop thinking about porn ??

  41. Daniel

    While I agree somewhat with some of your points, I feel like you are assuming thy everyone responds to everything in he same way, I have watched more porn than anybody I know, by far. Way by far.im talking like hours a day sometimes. Sometimes I watch porn with girls. And I have a very fulfilling sex life and enough self control to motivate myself no matter how many videos I see. Yes hedonic adaptation is a real thing, but if I watch CSI everyday, am I going to be completely I shocked if I ever happen across a murder scene? No. I think porn, like all other things, Is only good in moderation. And only if its good for you.

    • Jesse Charger

      So you watch porn for HOURS a day sometimes– couldn’t that time be much better spent meeting women, or focusing on your relationships? You say it’s not holding you back- but any activity that takes up that much of your time IS a drain on resources.

  42. Ricky

    Jesse I just want to say thank you. This video has really opened my eyes in so many ways. I now realize that my porn habits weren’t just hurting me but all the people around me as well. You see I have been addicted to porn for 7 years and im a college student with only 4 semesters left until I graduate with my Management degree. I have also never had a gf in my life and all this time I thought that the reason why was because of the women and I had used that as an excuse for my porn habits. But now I see that it wasn’t the women’s fault but it was my own for letting myself be dragged by this addiction and even though I have only read your article today I believe that this info will help me in the long run and help me with my life. So now from this day forward I promise you that I will chance my habits and leave porn alone for the rest of my life thanks and god bless you and the work you are doing :smile:

    • Jesse Charger

      Awesome Ricky, keep me updated

  43. Ken

    So why is it that I watch the same porn girls over and over and only watch these porn girls?

    Not all guys are the same as what you described.

    These same porn girls never get old for me.

  44. Anonymous

    HI, good article out of experince…

  45. Kay

    This is for real. I learned my husband had a porn problem because he started rejecting BJ s. I turned up the heat and got some lingere only to be told I had no underwear on. Heartbroken. And for you who are wondering I’m as hot as I ever was and confident in my body. This is slowly destroying our marriage. Avoid it all together.

  46. John

    Great job…
    Its true and i have experienced it. But getting out of this trap is tough.Most of the guys will agree to it. How to get out of pornography??

    • Jesse Charger

      Most guys fall into this trap and don’t want to get out; that’s great for YOU and guys willing to take action, as you have very LITTLE COMPETITION !! :razz:

  47. Aviannajolie

    Jesse I’m a webcam girl because I love my body and love to masturbate so I figured why not make money doing what I love :-) but during my off time I like watching porn/ other webcams when i masturbate off camera, is this behavior as disruptive for women? I have a very healthy sex life and am very social with wonderful friends, could that all change? Or would you say that a little porn here and there for a healthy, balanced individual is not so damaging? I think most things in moderation are not so harmful, I feel it’s only when people go to far can things get dangerous…

    • Jaya

      I think porn has an opposite but sometimes equally undesirable effect on women. I think when females masturbate it makes us more sexual and increases our sex drive. This can be a good thing or a bad thing depending on your goals and situation. I think in your case maybe it’s okay since you make a living out of it and that’s what makes you happy then you would want to keep your drive fairly high. If you start to feel unhappy, realize that a lot of the validation that makes us feel good and confident in the long term comes from emotional relationships with men and not sexual ones(even though we tend to combine sex and emotions whereas men are better at separating the two), sometimes it’s just easier to take a break and be less sexual. It forces you to kind of look elsewhere for stimulus and validation and fun and you learn to find a new side to yourself :)

      • Anonymous

        Yes I agree with you. The more I masturbate on and off camera the more sexually active I find myself wanting to be with my boyfriend. I have gone for months without sexual stimulation (before I started webcaming and before I met my boyfriend) and it almost becomes normal, as if you could care less weather you have sex or not :-( I personally do not like the feeling of no sex drive. I also don’t like the feeling of having an out of control sex drive, like if I don’t get off I might die! Lol I have been at both ends of the spectrum and prefer to find balance :-)

  48. Anonymous

    for those who know of tumblr and the certain things that are posted (short porn clips and pictures ) does that count as watching porn in anyway.

  49. Adam

    For me watching porn killed everything. My sex drive, my motivation, my desire to be with real women, my social life. It even killed my erections as i was not aroused when with a real girl, needed lots of stimulation and every time went soft before getting to sex.

    Been off porn now for 4 months, Only masturbated a few times and now have finally lost my virginity at age 23 and now am far more assertive and flirty with girls.

    Arousal/Libido is still not 100% but its getting there.

  50. Unknown

    you make some good points but my question is how are you suppost to stop watching porn and meet real women if women dont find you attractive. i have only ever had one relationship it was long distance, lasted 4 months i saw her 3 times and she hated me and messed me about since then i havent had a girlfriend for nearly 9 years and porn is all i have. i cant get women. im not an attractive ‘hot’ guy that women fancy!! how am i suppost to go out and meet women whan women dont give me a second look?? ANY on them..i would love to stop watching porn and meet real women but that seems impossible.

    • anonymous

      There r so many guys, who r nt “handsome” yet they have sexy girls as their gfs…get off ur butt…..looks only matter upto 30-40 %, rest 60% r ur communication, not being needy,sense of humor, confidence, ur attitude, ur assertiveness…theway u dress….etc……
      if u believe that since u r nt hot guy gals don’t look for u n keep watching porn as an excuse for that, think of ur confidence bro…….

  51. Mohammad Imran

    Jesse its really a good experience to read it. and definitely it will help to stop watching pornography. do you have more stuff like that or somehow we can expand this literature like pornography sites (adult finder) i think if we try to make it large positively it will more fruitful to all of us. :razz:

  52. raj

    I am convinced!! Lets see if I am successful to stop watching it. Thanks bro. Your entire website rocks. Its bible for me. lol.
    Its in my bookmarks. You are the Best Jesse.

  53. haksang

    Good to look it realty does sex drive to better

  54. Chris

    This is hugely important. There was a really good TED talk about this, video is on youtube. It really does sap your sex drive. More men need to know about this.

  55. Anonymous

    Do you feel that nude art has the same effect as porn? I’m a graphic artist and I’ve done numerous artistic nudes (matisian/abstract style, mostly because i’m not good at realism) from photos of models. Interesting presentation, btw.

    • Jesse Charger

      Bro.. art is art ! :twisted: :razz:

  56. Josh

    Well isn’t it obvious that porn is bad for you? Also masturbation is bad for you for all the guys out there, ESPECIALLY when you go to the extreme and release semen. STOP masturbating, watching, porn and find better stuff to do in life to substitute that time. Don’t think that there is nothing else to do because there always is! GUYS that have watched porn have corrupted there mind how sex really looks like because the people in the video go to the extreme and are not realistic. Sex should be taken calmly and should be a relaxation rather than something that hurts and is extreme/ crazy. TEENS SHOULD TRY TO AVOID RELATIONSHIPS WITH GIRLS, this would help to avoid sex. What I do is: I try to avoid talking to girls to the most I can which is actually not that hard…

    • Matt

      shut the hell up fool

    • Anonymous

      Is that your excuse for not talking to girls ? you live a sad life man talking , making friends , getting into relationships its part of life dont deny yourself of basic social needs. as a human you are a social being

  57. ben

    excellent !!! what you said is really get me out of this bad habit.

    • Jesse Charger

      Awesome ben :razz:

  58. VisualVamp

    Hello Jesse, I have a confession to make. It’s not just men who get sucked into porn. I am a female who watched porn daily for 5 years and I couldn’t get enough. Society seems to think this is a male problem only – it isn’t! I started because I wasn’t getting what I needed from my husband, I’ll have sex every day if I can and he would be happy not touching for WEEKS!!!! It was killing me so I used porn to fill the void. Once it got hold of me I couldn’t stop and I had to watch more and more hardcore material to get my “fix”. I made a decision to stop one day when I realized I was crying because although I was fulfilling my physical need, it was empty and lonely. I also found out my husband was with another woman and that was the reason he wasn’t into the physical aspect of our marriage. The porn allowed me to ignore the real problem and my advice is DON’T because it just post-poned the inevitable. I got divorced and have a new boyfriend who is wonderful physically, mentally and emotinally and the best part is…..I haven’t watched porn in a year!!!! ;-)

    • Jesse Charger

      Great story Vamp, thanks for sharing ! It’s a pretty common story actually!

  59. AMM

    what about people like me, I don’t want to have children, don’t want to have a relationship with a women (for the moment I want to spend my life without a relationship), but I find the women’s body attractive, and according to my sex experiences, having sex is not amazing and I find more pleasure watching it (maybe my experiences have not been very good and not have been many to really prove it), I watch porn often, but I go to the gym I have been in the gym for 2 years, eat healthy and have a strong social group but I have not socialized in a lot of time because I realized that I don’t like people in general (found the stupid, or I get bored (lack of humility from me with that issue)).
    So I think that the desription in this video doesn’t work for me maybe it works in general. I agree with you but I think that you must consider that if someone has an ideological thought about some of the exposed issues it may not be true for them.

    • Jesse Charger

      Yeah, AMM, there’s always exceptions– like if you have no interest in relationships, porn can substitute. However, I think you can still have a lot of fun socializing and meeting people, and porn will sap your willpower for healthy activities that bring happiness. Even if you don’t want a relationship.

  60. BK

    Thank you Jesse for this article!

    I’ve heard about that many times before, so 3 weeks ago I finally stopped watching porn and also jerking off.

    Strangely it wasn’t difficult, because I don’t have this drive anymore that I had few years ago. Getting an erection has become very difficult for me, even if I seduce really stunning girls, I need to take some pills to get him hard. So I hope it’s from watching to much porn. Because even porn doesn’t erect me that much, I need to watch about 10 different videos, girls and fantasies to get really turned on. Seeing just a naked girl doesn’t do anything to me. This is really sad and I’m only in my 20ties :/

    The only thing that really motivates me is Beauty! I love beautiful faces of woman, I don’t feel that sex drive, I feel the drive to seduce this beautiful creature. That’s the only reason I still do approaches.

    So I see I got a big problem and that’s why today I will stop watching any porn. This time I will still masturbate at least every second day, cause I think you need to train your muscle. I hope it will help.

    BUT I got another question: What about watching beautiful woman? I got many facebook groups and on instagram and weheartit I see so many really pretty faces every day. Will my brain also get used to that? Will my standards grow and will it get harder for me to feel this drive to real world Beauties? Do you think it’s better to not look at those pictures every day? Or is it totally different?

    • Jesse Charger

      BK, 3 weeks is a great start! Don’t worry about relapses, just get back on the path. Looking at beautiful girls on the Internet is alright… the only danger with that is more wasting time on the computer, and possibly being tempted back into watching movies.

  61. Katey

    I’m female. Years ago, when I was a teenager, I took a summer job oversees. A friend gave me a romance novel to read while I was there. I had no other access to anything English so I read and reread the romance novel several times over. I began to sexually obsess over the male character who was handsome & viral. I found this character so appealing. He was very real to me and I preferred this fictional character to anyone I met that summer. Result was that while I had lots of opportunities to meet boys, I resisted them because my romance novel character was so perfect. No one in real life could compete. Now with so many men pouring their time into porn, I see a lethargy in their behaviour. They seem almost adrogenous to me. Sad. Like them I fell under a spell that hypnotized me all summer. I learned my lesson that summer and changed my ways. Today I don’t spend alot of time in fantasy. I limit my use of TV, internet, don’t watch porn, don’t read romance novels. Spend lots of time in nature, hiking. Work out in the gym. I also carefully monitor foods that I eat. Limit sugar & salt and food tastes just as good after a while. Same with you guys and porn. Limit or stop it and you’ll see us females in a new light.

  62. caveman

    i just jerked off to this article

  63. andrea

    Great thanks jesse…. i was almost like addict watching everyday porn and as u said there are many side effect for that i had less desire to meet and relate with chicks. burn all the porns and lets go and meet real chicks

  64. vivek

    sometimes is good but addiction is really a slow poison………….according to me it also decreases your manliness.

  65. Mr Interested

    That makes alot of sense very interesting

  66. Reece Green

    You the man Jesse! When I clicked on this article I was really expecting to hear alot of bullshit I can quickly dismiss, but you got right to the money quick! I was that guy that built up a huge porn collection outta nowhere, for no reason. I know my girlfriend wasnt too fond of it. And just like you said, after I had all that porn, I rarely ever went to look at it, I just liked knowing it was there. Then one day a couple months ago my hard drive crashed and I lost ALL the porn, and guess what? I survived! I havent even thought about trying to replace anything. I know Im better off without it. And I know my girlfriend hates knowing that I can temporarily satisfy myself without her, so I think the no porn thing will help me out alot. I’ll give it a try. It wont be easy, but Im about to be 25 and feel like I need to make a few changes. Ima give up weed (for at least a year) and I think Ill add porn to the list. Thanks Jesse!!

    • Jesse Charger

      Yeah- getting rid of your porn collection can feel like a weight off your shoulders :smile: You’ll feel lighter, more clean, and you won’t miss it.

  67. kkk

    well well jessie!!! when all is said and done you are the man! love your insight very well researched and explained.i watch porn for my own reasons.firstly i produce porn videos for educational purposes to help guys “break the wall”.so many guys are fearful of approaching real life women,pornography helps wire their brains and have that killer “no guts no glory” stamina.tantra yoga encourages watching porn for this particular reason.the problem might be that guys watch the wrong type of porn.secondly porn is art,erotic art,there is a challenge on creativity.if you end up addicted then the problem lies squarely with your own mental fabrication.sit back,relax watch people fucking its a satisfying natural flow of life energy.it brings you closer to the laws of the universe,a very deep kind of meditation in a world dominated by sex.how you jerk off is entirely your own business.thank you very much.love&respect

  68. Anonymous

    :grin: Jesse Your Are Sooo Right Bro,Guys Have It TOO Easy Nowadays,Easy Access To Porn,Easy Access To The Internet,Instead Of Cooking They Order,Or Go Out,
    Guys Prefer Taking A Car To Work Then Walk Or Bike Ride ,Why??? Because Its EASIER,The Problem With That Is ,If You Have Everything Too Easy,When You Face Challenges Down The Road ,We Tend To Get Lazy And Give Up Because It Requires Time And Effort,That`s The Price We Pay When We Make Things Alittle Too Easy For Ourselves

    • Jesse Charger

      As biological beings, we want to conserve time and we want to conserve energy. Porn is very seductive in that way. It sucks you in. But in the long term, it has negative consequences, just like everything “easy” in life, like fast food calories.

    • Stefania

      We should teatch our children , that the easiest way is not always the best and that you have to try many times to achieve something

  69. nameofspanish-boy

    fist days whitout porn is hard man! I fell very tired, trully

    • Jesse Charger

      It will be hard at first. You very may relapse as well, don’t beat yourself up over it. Just keep pushing through the initial bad emotions or withdrawal and you’ll eventually pull through and not miss it.

  70. Anonymous

    :mrgreen: :lol:

  71. Anonymous

    u did nice…!! thnxx

  72. D

    Hey Jesse wats up im all the way from Africa and love most of your articles. i always knew there are negative consequences of watching porn for many guys but i have been struggling to know what is the proper definition of porn. Is watching sex scenes in movies considered watching porn according to your perspective?

    • Jesse Charger

      Sex scenes in movies? No, I wouldn’t consider that porn. I wouldn’t even consider adult movies with story lines like “Pirates” or “Tatiana” to be negative http://www.seductionscience.com/2010/3-female-friendly-adult-films-women-will-love/

      The problem comes in when you can switch between scenes, fantasies, and girls in a matter of seconds, to having unlimited stimulation and unlimited variety at your finger tips.

  73. Anonymous

    Hey Jesse, thanks for putting up this video and all other stuff you are sharing. As always, I am interested in your view on things and I was anxious to hear this one as I watch porn on a daily basis.
    Sorry but perhaps I am the black swan here..
    Porn adds to my lively sex-life. I have been in 3 serious long-term relationships since my 18th and had more women in bed than I can remember to count them. Women fascinate me and that’s the reason I follow you and some other guys who have useful things to share. Porn did not kill anything for me. It made me a better partner in bed and even more confident than is good for me ;)
    The last 6 months I enjoyed a period in my life as a bachelor. I had several very sexy and awesome looking women. My friends were amazed I pulled it all off. At one point I was dating 6 women from the age of 26 up to 50 at the same time and watched porn daily.
    My mindset maybe a little different as the ‘average’ guy. Porn is fantasy and how I see the future. Real life is what I pray for and live to the fullest every day, again and again and again. Two worlds, two different emotional settings.
    Maybe there is some kind of modus between your and mine experience that we yet have to discover.
    Keep up the great work!
    A fellow admirer from Europe

    • Jesse Charger

      That’s cool you can fit porn into an active and real sex life. There will always be exceptions and areas of gray, and it sounds like you’re that exception. But I’d say for at least 90% of guys – if not 99% of guys – porn is holding them back in their real sex lives by creating a motivation problem.

      • imagirl

        I would def agree to this. My ex bf admittedly said he preferred his hands over me because it was way more convenient, like he doesnt have to drive all the way to see me anymore. It’s sad, but oh well.

      • Anonymous

        :?: i just can’t stop thinking about porn its really hard to stop the longest i went was about 2 wks….ps good job

  74. Anonymous

    its a great job sir, all religion strictly banned these activities

  75. Hans

    I was a porn addict for about 10 years and I can only say that Jessie is right in all that he says, he is even more right than you may think! Porn’s biggest danger is that it can easily change into addiction and you may not be even aware of that at the beginning. When it becomes addiction it will not only destroy all your success with women but also will destroy you in all other areas of your life and leave you feeling dumb like shit. And then it’s very very hard to stop.

    Jessie, you are only scratching the surface of the problem here – when you search for porn addiction on the web you will find web sites which deal specifically with that and explain in detail how the human brain goes crazy with the modern porn stimuli and why it is so different from pre-internet porn. Your advice is spot on for most people here but if anyone feels they are in a more serious condition they can search the other sites and have their eyes opened to what and why it is happening and how to stop.

    The brain gets literally damaged by internet porn as we know today and it’s really important to stop all porn – even small amounts can be dangerous and amount to bigger problems and lost opportunities later on. And take it seriously, I’ve been there, I got into debts, lost contact with friends, neglected my relationship and was thinking about committing suicide. Please, don’t go there!

    Let’s face it – how many men would honestly say they watch porn because they chose to? We watch porn because we can’t achieve the real thing for some reason. Porn site owners most often know about detrimental effect of porn and they don’t want our happiness. They want to make money on us or to make our brains dumb. And they live on our frustrations and inability to get what we are really after. If they wanted our happiness they would teach us how to get real women instead of contaminating us with addictive junk.

    There is a great British film about the problem: “Shame”. By reading opinions I can see that many people don’t understand it. But based on my experience I can tell you it’s spot on – the dumb state of mind, indifference to the outer world and the people around you – even the loved ones – is what eventually happens to a hard porn watcher.

    Now I’m off porn completely and after so many years I have to literally learn how to live again normally and it’s a great world out there! Clarity of mind, motivation, good feeling are what was absent earlier. And now an orgasm with a woman can leave me feeling calm, empowered and satisfied – this is 100% opposite of orgasming to porn.

    Having said that, I believe it is possible to use porn in a positive way. Back when I was in my late teens before my first real sex I used to look at some softcore porn photos on the internet – but that was pretty rare since I only had access to internet at school. I enjoyed looking at the beauty of naked women and was happy to imagine what it would be to feel like with a woman like that. I felt empowered by those short glimpses of sexuality. Also, occasional porn watching with a girlfriend can be fun, too. But we have to be extremely careful with this because there’s a very fine line between what we think as safe porn and what can become dangerous, so I don’t recommend it unless you really know what you are doing. I think when porn is used only with the intention of making real sex better then it can be good for us. But then I don’t think any prolonged porn-watching would fulfill that purpose.

    Anyway, thanks for the video, your words contain real gems of wisdom – however, I think some men may not realize that!

    • Jesse Charger

      Epic.

      In addition, even if you’re NOT addicted so deeply but just a “casual watcher”, porn will still destroy much of your general motivation. In all cases, it’s good policy to completely obliterate it.

      • aLIEn

        yeah, but what does it mean WHEN…

        You have a REAL girl coming over. But, You have
        to watch porn to get ready for her?!

  76. John M

    Jesse,

    Thank you very much for your good message. Many youth waste their time on seeing porn. Your advice is very very very valuable.

    • Jesse Charger

      Particularly when you’re young, you’ll be more susceptible to the de-motivating effets as your brain is still developing. Just like it’s far easier to get hooked on alcohol or cigarettes when you start the bad habit early in life.

  77. Robby Frank

    Porn made it almost impossible to ejaculate with real girls, whereas in the past I would ejaculate EASILY.
    Thank god I stopped watching porn..

  78. Frank

    Jesse, seems to make a lot of sense to me. You’ve explained it in a very analytical way, and its changed how I think of porn.

  79. jacob

    sexually frustrated guys,guys who are lonely and horny and men who are unmarried and don`t get the real thing are addicted to porn.I hate porn, people catch you they will think you are a pervert and lowlife and you feel guilty and ashamed.And don`t forget GOD is watching you and judging you.

    • Jesse Charger

      Jacob… there’s no reason to feel ashamed, guilty. That kind of guilt and shame about sex will tend to spill into other areas of your life where you don’t want guilt or shame. Also, you shouldn’t care about what other people think- you should quit porn for yourself, not to please other people. It’s my belief pretty much all guys are “perverts”, even your grandpa would love to bang the barely legal 18 yo hottie if he could get away with it.

  80. John McLean

    This was an excellent video…a couple of great takeaways and a fantastic grandma’s cake metaphor!

    Nice job!

    John McLean

  81. Charles

    Man, give me a tip, something, please, i want to stop watching porn right now!!

    • Vizu

      Bro, e1 i hd same prblm, i thought i couldn’t quit watching porn, 1 fine day on Youtube i accidentally watched a video of “Shelley lubben” an ex porn star’s story..it was darn touching.. she reveals the secrets of porn industry, & also she is nw rescuing othr porn stars…watch that video ur perspective about porn will change and u will definitely quit if u hv 10% of respect towards women. I hate porn… they exploit women bro.. its coz of ppl like us only they hv been exploited… also watch dead pornstars video on youtube.. u ll realise most of them r dead coz of suicide, drug overdose & HIV+…..

  82. Tim

    The only reason to watch porn besides the obvious is to learn dirty talk. DON’T LISTEN TO THE GUYS. They’re lame. Listen to the girls – they are saying what they wish was being said to them!

    • Tim

      And the article is spot on.

      And to my quote above – it is almost frustrating seeing how lame the guys and sex is. When we watch porn my girlfriend comments how lame the guys are. Very few know how to talk to and fuck their woman like a dirty slut. I’d like my dick to be an inch bigger but I wouldn’t trade it for how LAME they are.

      Jesse is spot on with his sex advice. Look up his posts on rough sex and dirty talk they are the real truth.

      It is all about the feeling you create!

    • Jesse Charger

      Yeah, there’s some girls that do good dirty talk, but it’s much faster and efficient to learn how to dirty talk from sites that specialize in teaching it, or right here on sed sci.

  83. Jake D

    Good video dude never thought of it like that but I know what your saying. Personally not a big porn watcher I prefer going out meeting real women and the more you do it the better you get at it, where as I have friends who only watch porn and have never had a girl

  84. steve

    Great !

  85. Tom B.

    Very good video.

    THE GIRLS:

    They are not real.

    You can not have them.

    They are not your friends.

    They cannot love you back.

    They do not care about you.

    They are not worth any of your time.

    They do not move you forward, they move you backward.

    THE LIMBIC BRAIN:

    It does not know time.

    It has no mind.

    It has no thought.

    It does not understand logic.

    It only wants pleasure.

    It gives you E.D.

    IT ROBS YOU OF EVERYTHING.

    R.W.O – Real Women Only.

    • Jesse Charger

      Stellar. :smile:

    • Anonymous

      THE GIRLS:

      They are not real.

      You can not have them.

      They are not your friends.

      They cannot love you back.

      They do not care about you.

      They are not worth any of your time.

      They do not move you forward, they move you backward.

      — Is this about pixelbabes or real life women? It seems to apply to BOTH in my long experience.

      MGTOW

      • Anonymous

        The real girls you know treat you that way because you’re not being real with them. They are mirroring you because of the way you look at or act around them. It’s their defence when there being creeped out by you when you look at them like their objects on a computer screen. So when you quit the porn you WILL start to learn that women have endless depth that you can never learn watching a flat screen. Just quit the porn, be patient and you’ll learn everyday.

    • abita

      yea u are right i have been a caveman who wasted his days in the fools of porn it really helped thx

    • Stefania

      Yeeees ! ;-)

    • Anonymous

      I can’t get enough of this thread!!!! The best porn star… is not the porn star! The hottest thing is the girl you meet and find attractive and interested exploring her sexuality with you. That’s why women should watch porn! Explore what tittalates them!

  86. joel

    VERY TRUE. WATCHING PORN SETS THE STANDARDS WAY TOO HIGH FOR THE WOMEN THAT YOU SEE EVERYDAY IN YOUR HOMETOWN.THEY DONT LOOK HOT(OF COURSE BECAUSE THEIR WEARING CLOTHES)….ANYWAY–SINCE I STOPPED WATCHING PORN FOR JUST 3 SHORT WEEKS- NOW MY BRAIN HAS CHANGED–PRACTICALLY EVERY WOMAN I SEE IN OUR TOWN-I WANNA BANG THEM VERY BADLY.NOW MY QUESTION IS: HOW MUCH MASTURBATION IS TOO MUCH- IF I MASTURBATE TO THESE MENTAL PHOTOGRAPHS OF THESE HOT WOMEN IN MY HOMETOWN?

    • Jesse Charger

      Great for cutting out porn! And the changes your experiencing are very beneficial. imaginative masturbation to the hometown hotties is alright, until you feel it’s sapping out your sex drive. Once a day, to let out pent-up energy, is probably alright if you’re a young guy.

  87. Anonymous

    Great vid :)

    You sound a lot like Saul Hudson!

    • Jesse Charger

      Guns N Roses? :shock:

  88. chris

    good vidio

  89. Psychologist

    This was an excellent treatise, Jesse. The fact is that porn is made by men who have learned the kinds of thing you teach: How to relate well sexually to women. These men then seek to make money off the poor suckers who do not care to learn. The fact is that porn is the enemy of the authentic man, and all of your reasoning here is backed up by science. Thank you for making this bold statement!

    • lolohilo

      “The fact is that porn is made by men who have learned the kinds of thing you teach: How to relate well sexually to women.”

      Is this a joke? Men who act in and direct porn are abusive and exploitative and no NOTHING about relating to women sexually. PORN IS NOT ABOUT WOMEN’S SEXUALITY NOR DOES IT DEPICT REAL SITUATIONS OR REAL SEX.

      Just thought I would point that out.

      The biggest reason to not watch porn is that it contributes to misogyny, sexual abuse and male entitlement.

      • Anonymous

        Are you fucking kidding me?!!! The women are completely control in Porn! How many female pornstars are there compared to men! They own this industry and have complete control over us… Their weaker minded counterparts! They don’t think with their pussies! They are superior sexually…. Stop this feel sorry Shit for women in porn…. They are doing exactly how and what they are comfortable with!

  90. Nicollo_M

    Interesting video. The chocolate cake analogy reminds me of “The Experience Machine” by Robert Nozick, which I think makes a good point with regards to the superiority of real women vs porn.

    I thought your points against porn were all good except for the evolution stuff. I definitely agree that it takes away our motivation and makes the thought of exerting effort and energy to seduce women seem unappealing. I don’t ever consciously think “Forget going out, I’ll just watch some porn”, but perhaps sub-conciously I do, since sometimes that’s what happens, because going out doesn’t seem to be worth the effort.

    With regards to the evolution stuff, Dawkin’s “Selfish Gene” makes it clear that the goal of our individual genes is to reproduce themselves. However, the goal of our genes is not necessarily, nor should it be, the goal of ourselves. In fact, our gene’s just use us – the organism – as vehicles to reproduce themselves. Our gene’s interests and our own interests diverge. Reproduction may be the “goal” of our genes but it is not the goal of ourselves. Our genes might benefit from us raping a woman, but we don’t, and healthy people have no desire you do so. What benefits our genes does not always benefit us.

    You make a good point that porn is taking advantage of the evolved make up of our brain. But the point that porn will lead you to reproduce less is not a strong argument – our goal is not necessarily to reproduce. If that was the goal, you would be making videos about why we shouldn’t use condoms.

    I don’t really care whether my gene’s get passed down. I just want to be happy – and meeting women and feeling socially confident is a means to that.

    Great first few points though!

    • Jesse Charger

      Your personal goal doesn’t have to be to reproduce, but you’ll get weeded out. In a 1,000 years, everyone who is hedonistic only living for personal pleasure will be weeded out of the gene pool. This isn’t my moral judgment, it’s just facts of evolutionary selection. Watching porn is a maladpative trait that puts quick pleasure before sex.

      Condoms are not the same, because if you’re using condoms a lot, it means you have sexual choice and can have children at any time. Watching porn means LACK of choice typically.

  91. Kane

    Hey Jesse,

    I’m a bit overweight and I’ve just hit the gym. I know a girl and she’s really pretty and I’ve trying to take her on date but whenever I ask her on date, she’s busy (usually on Sundays).
    so can you give me dating tips and how to score a girl?

  92. Damian

    Very true. I feel like I caught up in that trap. Dr. Oz said pretty much the same thing

  93. Anonymous

    Very good, but I watch porn and it seems to make me more hungry for women, but I would say that it puts ur standereds too high, and you tend to go for gals women that are out of your own league, but ur right you do have to keep changing porn sites to get

    • Jesse Charger

      It does set your standards high, but the problem is you may only find 1 or 2 girls to your taste in a club or bar… and then you freeze up when you see them and nothing happens in the night. It’s much better to be SOCIAL with everyone, and then once you have a lot of momentum, pick the girl you want. That’s the way to get results.

  94. Ashton

    litterally, this is correct i used to watch porn nightly for a long time, i had to ween myslef off of it but when i did the amount of girls in my life skyrocketed, it was almost weird haha

  95. Ken

    Hey Jesse you wake me up with the so damn good video. The message is so clear and so true! It’s kills motivation to go after girls. Gonna stop with the shit porno! I’m gonna start NOW!! Thank you Jesse.. your da man!! Stil doing the good work!
    Bless!

  96. Thomas J.

    This hits home hard. This opened my eyes in a big way. Now I know what killed my motivation. Great video this is a life changer.

  97. Stefano

    Excelente Video!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Anonymous

      I enjoy women’s bodies and erotic art. I also know the traps
      that you accurately detail. I think an informe and mature Man
      will know his strengths and weaknesses and conduct himself
      in his life accordingly. I enjoy erotic art and I have a great sex
      life…thanks for the debate Jesse

  98. Jake

    Loved the article! Loved the way you used metaphors! Keep it up.

    But I think this sentence should not belong where we are talking about the good guys (who avoid porn) – “They are going to have no more fit offspring to propagate their genes into future generations.”.. Was that a typo?

    • Jesse Charger

      Thanks for catching that Jake, I’ll get it corrected :grin:

  99. Rahul

    what about masturbation ?

    • Jesse Charger

      Jerking off is necessary if you need to sit down and focus to do work, but you are very sexually agitated and need to release pent-up energy. And typically when you jerk off, you think about REAL girls you’ve met. So it’s much better than porn watching, it doesn’t drain your motivation nearly as much. With porn, you can go waaay too long with it and it becomes a substitute for real girls. If you’re just jerking off, it won’t feel like a satisfactory substitute and you’ll remain driven to take action.

  100. Jason Y.

    Jesse, you did a great job with this video, I watched the whole way through. You’re spot on about watching adult films… it kills my motivation in subtle ways! :cry:

    • Jesse Charger

      Thanks !

      • I hate ugly men

        I don’t want any filthy offsprings running around with my genes. It’s a pain to care bout other people. I’d rather be free for the rest of my life than chained by a wretched woman

    • s.p prathap sobhan

      IT’S REALLY A GOOD JOB! IT MAKES MANY PERSONS TO CHANGE :lol:
      THEIR LIVES :|

      • Anonymous

        :lol: great job this helped alot

    • Anonymous

      Im a porn addict and cant stop I need help

      • Anonymous

        stay focus on other things the reality is better then a fantasy hobbies if your married stay focus on your relationship small steps. You will not be at your best every second your mind has already been washed to believe in porn stay stronge and hold on to who u are

      • Anonymous

        Get professional help!

    • umm

      what about my pocket pussy? is it ok for me to fuck that 20 or 30 times a day?

    • Anonymous

      thanks men for your advise





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