Telling Your Friends About Pickup And Girls

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Allan writes to me. “Hey, Jesse, I’ve tried telling some of my friends about your website, Seduction Science, and picking up women, but they’re not just interested. Now that’s cool with me, but why is that exactly?” 

Well, it’s kind of funny, isn’t it? Have you ever noticed how almost none of your friends are interested in learning pickup?

Most guys have a really big ego about it and they will make up excuses like, “That’s weird. It’s funny. I don’t need that kind of thing. That’s strange. That’s creepy. I already can get any girl I want to get by talking to them, or I’m just not comfortable with that, or I don’t want to change who I am, I want a girl just to like me for myself.”

They’ll rationalize a million different reasons to protect their ego, and that kind of goes the same with most things in life. Most people will rationalize why they won’t go to the gym. They’ll rationalize why they don’t travel. They’ll rationalize why they don’t start a business or climb the corporate ladder.

They’ll rationalize the way to their success because on one level, they want to protect their ego.

They don’t want to admit that they’re not amazing with women.

They don’t want to admit that they’re not amazing at business.

They don’t want to admit that they haven’t lead an amazing, crazy life of adventure.

So most guys are more interested in protecting that little image that they have of themselves rather than learning and improving.

Of course, you have to push your comfort zone. It can be difficult. It can be a little nerve-racking and most people just want to live in comfort. They don’t want to be pushing their comfort zone.

As a result, most of your friends when you look at them from a success point of view are going to be very mediocre. From a success point of view, they might be beautiful people. They might be nice people. They might be fun to hang out with but they’re not interested in the science of success. They’re not interested in pickup, but not only pickup but advancing themselves in all areas of their lives.

Usually if you have a guy that makes up a lot of excuses why he can’t learn pickup or he doesn’t need that, or it’s not for him, he’s making excuses for a lot of other aspects of his life as well.

So anyone who has the balls to say, “Fuck it! Fuck my ego! I’m going to fucking learn this anyway despite myself, despite my self-image. I am going to shatter my self-image on the floor. I am going to look like a fool when I start out just like if you start out playing piano. You’re going to sound terrible if you start singing la, la, la you know. I’ve never taken singing lessons, I’m going to suck. I’m going to sound horrible. I’ve got to sound foolish. I’ve got to admit to myself that I suck, that I’m not amazing at singing, that I’m not amazing at picking up women when I start.

If you have the balls to approach women, you are in the top 1 percent. If you do an approach, even if it’s to say hi and goodbye, you are in the top 1 percent. Ninety-nine percent of guys will never do that and it kind of amazes me how hard some guys are on themselves to go up to a girl. They don’t get her phone number. It’s kind of a meh interaction but they’re just starting out, and they’re so hard on themselves. They beat themselves up.

They don’t get results right away and they are so critical, they just go into this negative spiral.

Listen, you got to understand 99 percent of guys will not ever approach a girl. They will not attempt to do it. They won’t even allow themselves to admit in their own mind that maybe that’s something that they should work on. They don’t even get to the point of psychologically admitting that there’s something they could do, so that you actually take action and approach a girl that is amazing in terms of comparing yourself to most men.

So don’t be so hard on yourself.

Understand that it’s going to take time to learn this kind of thing, and Pat yourself on the back.

That’s the thing after every single approach, you know I try to look for something that was funny about it, even if it didn’t go well. I usually have to do a warm-up approach, or two, or three just to get into the groove of things, just to get a little bit of momentum and I always pat myself on the back. I’m like, “Okay, maybe that didn’t go perfectly, smoothly. I didn’t build up a whole lot of momentum yet. It’s early in the day. But how many guys would have the fucking balls to do that? Very, very few. So, Jesse, pat yourself on the back.”

You want to go easy on yourself. You got to understand again that most of your friends are not going to have any interest in this. They’re going to be goofing on you. They could be negative about it. Most guys are not just going to care one way or the other. They’re not going to be negative but they’re not going to be enthusiastic, so just be prepared for that. Understand that that’s part how the world works. You’re going to be in the top 1 percent and let them be in the other 99 percent and just enjoy that position.

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Hey man, I just came upon this post. Gotta agree with you. Most people wont take the risk to even change a portion of their life . They so scared to take small risk and rather keep doing what the society have taught them to follow.

I’m new to pick up and tried telling my best friend about this. I talked to him about RSD. Guess what. My friend joked that this is porn and what we do is only valid theoritically and is not possible in real life.

Well at least now I know that I ain’t gonna waste my time trying to convice people about seduction and pick-up

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