This is going to be one part brief report, one part motivational post. Def appreciate RedMan's posts, because his mindset is solid in his posts and it gave me more motivation to go out alone, as the past 4 times I went out, I was with friends. Also, Jesse's recent lesson on Enjoying the Pain was a good. It made me nervous listening to it, and I figured when I wake up tomorrow, I will be better no matter what because I went out. Hit a bar I have not yet been to in my small city. One thing I have learned: NEVER PLAN. I was planning on opening the first set on the way in, but it was all AFC dudes. I joked with the door guy instead because no girls were around and I do much better with all girl groups. Get a drink, see a 3 set of good looking, but average girls. Open with, "Hey, you guys look friendly so I figured I will chat with you. My name is XXxx" Firm eye contact+ handshake on all the girls. The tall brunette was into me off the bat. They asked me about my long hair and I said, "Had a buzz cut my whole life, necessary career move." They asked me what I do, and of course, I said take three guesses. These were their 3 LOL, I took it as a huge IOI. "1) Model 2) Artist 3) Musician." Yes, I reveled in the validation. New Goal, STAY IN SET FOREVER. Make a bunch of small talk, and one of the girls BFs arrived, so I introduced myself. Other girls leave so I focus on brunette who was super into me. She was kinoing me and we had exact music taste, which is huge for me. But she kept picking up her phone, she said her BF gets upset if she doesn't text him every 5 minutes LOL. The second time she went to text I said, "Hey. Tell him to stop crying. Next time you pick up your phone will be to exchange numbers." Stayed in set for over 30 minutes, but realized I don't really want to see these girls again and went back to the bar. Get another drink, see TOTAL BLONDE HOTTIE on the staircase talking to bouncer and another hot girl. I go up to her, touch her arm and without thinking blurt out, "HEY. You look so cute! *hold eye contact* Tell me your name." She backs off and starts playing with her hair. I shake hands. I compliment her on her shirt and she says she got it from Target for 15$. I literally have nothing to work with and am stumbling over my words so I think to myself Hahaha this is hilarious, no matter what I say, I have this. I say, "Uh..So you put on a $15 shirt and see what kind of guys you can pick up?! You shouldn't have told me that, say it's Versace HA" She plays along and strikes some poses. Hard kino. She calls me by the wrong name accidentally so I neg her. We make more lame talk while I kino. She keeps gesturing with her hands near my chest so I say, "Look, if you want to touch my chest just do it" Her trashed friend interrupts but she says she has to go. She tells me to wait. I say NO. She assure me she will be back. I give a False Time Constraint and say lets exchange numbers, you seem cool. Before I can finish she has her phone out, and says Make sure you call my phone now, so I can be sure I have yours too. Most guys are too scared to talk to a girl like you do. I really respect you for that, you seem so nice. Do you live around here? Me *hands around hips* "Haha cool. Apprecciate it. I can be a real Asshole, you just wait" Push her away and she smiles, "There we go, love that beautiful smile." Lite tease, she was trying to ditch her friends to stay. I hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek. First time doing that and it felt natural. She seemed really flattered and it was LAME Game. Nothing but kino and eye contact. Whole interaction was under 2 minutes. She is a really hot, petite blonde. I will text her tomorrow just to stay in her memory. Any advice on Texts/Follow up Game would be great! Funny to catch look on guys faces who were around me! For anyone just starting DIRECT GAME IS THE WAY TO GO. If you need a quick close, you can not go wrong. If you have solid Non Verbals, the girls will be smitten off the bat. I have 100% number close rate when I go direct (granted, its not that many numbers LOL...like 7/7...) But it goes to show, most guys are PUSSIES. Motivational Part I saw some new members posting. I love reading other people's posts so lets keep it up. We all need to motivate eachother to go out and try new things, make goals, and improve our Game. If you have fun THE GIRLS WILL COME. Anyone too pussy to go out will remain.......A PUSSY BEHIND A KEYBOARD. Even if you FUCK UP ROYALLY with a girl, you will LEARN and ADVANCE. You will wake up a better Man the next day, try it if you don't believe It is like practicing scales on an instrument. it can get old, boring, tough, but YOU GOTTA DO IT TO IMPROVE. Then when you find the girls, you make the music! I have known nothing but FAILURE and NEGATIVITY from girls before I joined this Program. Even if you are only able to walk up to a girl and say hi, or smile, or touch her, it is a WIN. Go with the Flow, don't resist the current. LET US PLUG HOLES!!!!!!!:thumbup: P.S. I'm the Speed King hahaha [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p0rAP87B7UA[/media]
That's GREAT, Earl...you are getting out there and doing your thing with the women... Talk/TOUCH/shake-hands/hug & kiss. :thumbup: TEXTING?... I would make it simple.."You're sexy", "Hi,Ya- Had a GREAT time". (I would focus on TALKING to her, on the phone or face-to-face. Set-up another time to see her.) TM
Yeah, logisitcs etc. is always a bitch. Here is what I texted her on Sunday. "Hey Xxxx-great to meet you last night, you seem like a cool girl" "Heyy, yes same to you!" "I seem like a cool girl!?" "Haha sry that was for the first part of the text, in response to it was nice to meet you" * a bit later* "Haha awesome, gtg sword fight, Ren Faire Lol" "ok Have Fun" In re-reading this, I am hoping she doesn't think I am being needy about the text thing. I don't think she caught the humor in my second text. Didn't want to overtext/invest so I stopped, as I am guilty of sending more than the girl sends. I'm realizing I would have been better off asking about her schedule or staying more serious. Called her today, left voicemail. My tone of voice should corroborate the fact that I indeed was not being needy, and am confident and having fun. "Hey Xxxx, I am about to run to the mall in a last ditch effort to find green pants for my costume! Anyway, it would be awesome if you tagged along, give me a call when you get this we will have a great time. Take care." If I don't hear back in the next day or so, I will text her Wed because at least that gives her time to respond whenever, as I have no idea what this girl does or what her schedule is like. I'm considering, "Wow, you have no idea how hard it is to find green pants these days..." Then once she responds going straight into, "let's get together some time."
First of all: Great Job, I don't want to know where you will be in one year if you keep going like that Earl Actually by thinking about being needy or not being needy you are actually needy, because just the fact you are thinking about it makes you needy. I know it's hard to not be needy and of course faking until you make it can be a good way.. but not thinking about being needy or not being needy and to dissmis a thougth right off the bat like: "Oh am I needy right now?" is maybe a better way combined with getting more experience, which you will definately get if you keep on going like that :thumbup: To your Texting challenge: I really don't like texting, so I don't want to suggest something. But next time I would try to not get the number of a girl, but a second date. Because in my mind getting a number is not getting me anywhere, getting a 2nd Date is me getting her... To get a number is only there to clarify things, if I for example break my right leg and I can't make it to the date.. but not to actually set up a date. my 2 cents
Not to worry, I got this under control. I don't bridge to second dates for a few reasons. Namely, I am not super involved in my area and don't care for the club scene, and I am more of a wine and picnic kind of guy. Besides, I have always gotten solid numbers, so that has never been an issue for me. Regardless, she sent me a huge text early this morning. I am going to text her in a bit, and get a good time to call her mid-week. Prob along the lines of: "No worries, I am out of town today. Free Wed + Thurs, lets get together What is your schedule like?" I want to cut the BS
Fuck so I text this chick yesterday to see whats up and no response. After some Day Game today I decide to give her one last call before I delete her number. Fiigure we can go for drinks when I get off from the animal shelter, as tonight is my only free night. Left a decent voicemail. "Hey Girl, tonight is my only free night so I figure we could grab a drink. Let me know if you are around that would be awesome. Take care." She sends me a huge text back: Hey I appreciate your sweet comment that night at XXXX bar. It was really nice...I'm seeing someone right now but if things change it'd be great to hang out bc you seem like a cool guy, sorry to be shitty just trying to help you out My respone: Thanks 4 the heads up so i dont waste my time. Shame ur too shy 2 make new friends tho I like AKMs neg text thing about taken girls being "too shy" so I think I am going to do it everytime as a game saver if the chick changes her mind down the road. If not...at least it puts them on a guilt trip. What sucks is she clearly still remembers my approach, telling me that I come in strong (thanks Jesse) But this goes to show the importance of building rapport and comfort. Oh yeah, and really, numbers are nothing. Getting the girl out for dates is the important part. Fuck, really want someone to date now. Maybe I'll go back to that same bar this weekend and pick up chicks right in front of her. NEXT
Yeah, but those are the two things I need to work on the most. Gonna buy some conversation books and see if that helps. I believe that due to my style and voice tone, I could walk up to any girl and she will give me her number. BUT it could be out of friendlyness, etc The comfort makes everything more solid, as I do not go after drunk chicks just looking for fast attraction.
