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thanks Iceman. It's true indeed not to place women on a pedestal and the ideal is to remove all neediness from oneself.

BUT if you start thinking in terms of anti-feminism and how men are oppressed, that will also start fucking with your head, big-time. It's a dark path you don't want to go down.

The vast majority of women are pretty nice and not scheming how to take advantage of men. It's when a man is too much wishy-washy "kissing ass" and pushovers and let a woman walk all over them... that provides the temptation to be walked all over.

Just stay away from marriage and you're out in the clear.

So we can have open eyes, but ALSO have sympathy for women too - in many ways they have at it rougher than us. Because if you just get on that women-hating binge, it will make it extremely difficult to be fun and positive and social, which is the key to having fun and also meeting women.

hehe alright.

Me personally, I would NEVER change places with a woman, ever. Being a guy is epic, and I've always thought we had the far better end of the stick. At my age, 34, I'm just coming into my glory with both income earning and becoming attractive and meeting the opposite sex and having sexual value. By a time a woman hits 34, her window has already largely passed. Even if a woman is attractive while she's young, her window is very short. As a man, you can become increasingly awesome even into your 60s. NO WAY I'd trade that in a million years.

Men are far more free to be rebels. We can have fun, have sex, travel, buck the social conditioning, do our own thing... far more than women can. There's far more pressure on women to be "good girls". As a man, you've got for more potential to do your own thing and engineer your own lifestyle.

Maybe you're thinking of some stay-at-home gold-digger that has taken advantage of a rich man. Sure, that niche of woman has it easy. But is she really happy? Nope. I don't think that's an easy life, or at least not one I'd trade shoes with.

Or perhaps the 18 year old girl that happens to be pretty and is spoiled by her Dad. I guess she has an easy life. Again, that's a minority. But these types of young girls don't know who they are, don't know where they're going, lack confidence,
are lost, and usually tepid mentally. Maybe that's an easy life, but not one that I envy. And as she gets a little older, she'll only lose her power.

Most average-looking women (the vast majority of women) don't have it easy. Most women work to the bone in some job they don't like, or are care-takers of children. Or both. Often by themselves, with a deadbeat Dad fucking other women. NOT EASY.

NO WAY would I trade places as a man. You have a penis? Dude, you won the fucking lottery.

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Separately, YES women take advantage of men and you have to be aware of that.

The biggest pitfall is when men try to attract women with MONEY and their CAR and their JOB. Then you attract gold-diggers, and you're asking to get burned.

Or men are just weak-willed wussy pushovers, and providing endless temptation for the woman to walk all over them.

Guys bring most of this shit upon themselves through needy behavior.

Also, there's a lot of messages to women to follow the money - like the capitalist system itself pounds into ALL OUR HEADS, women AND men, to look at the superficial layer of money and status. This is built into advertising and the economic system itself.

Why women act the way they act is actually a larger confluence of factors.

Like I've already written about here,

Why I LOVE Feminism As a Pickup Artist

The idea that feminism is some sort of great satan and the source of man's misery is a gross simplification, and an easy scapegoat.

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Here's the worse though, in my opinion. The whole anti-feminism thing feeds into hardcore victim-mentality thinking.

It's basically where the world is a dark place and other people are out to screw you over. Where you become filled with resentment and unable to forgive.

Also, it shifts responsibility from one's own inaction and bad habits onto an external bogey man.

A victim-mentality has got to be the absolute worst thing you can do for your game.

Here's more details on having a victim mentality:
How to Break Out of a Victim Mentality: 7 Powerful Tips

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This thread is closed. There's plenty of pickup blogs devoted non-stop to creating paranoia in men, cultivating a victim-mentality, and blaming everything on feminism. One can feast on that dark mentality all one wants. But it pulls away too far from the purpose and spirit of this site.