Oh, I just LOVE some of the things Alex says. Here's an e-mail newsletter he sent me. It seems to go along with what I have been talking about, recently. Kick-in a womans' imagination with dirty talk, fantasies and other romantic things that turns-her-on. Here it is: THE ALLMAN REPORT: Scream-Inducing Female "Hot Button" Of all the spots on a woman's body that you can stimulate to drive her crazy... which one is the MOST powerful? Care to guess? As you probably know, I have an interview series for men called "Interviews With Sex Gurus" that I do every month. So over the past years I've had the fun and, frankly, the learning opportunity of interviewing all sorts of TOP experts in the area of sexuality... from tantra masters to clinical sexologists. It's been great, and I wanted to share with you something very fascinating that I've learned from doing all of these interviews. After doing many, many of these interviews I noticed that every single one of these top experts that I interrogated for their very best information and their top secret sex tips... Every one of them, at some point, thought it was important to bring up this one particular fact... A fact that MOST men obviously don't know... and if they DO know, they simply don't DO anything about that knowledge or there would a LOT more happy women out there-- Every one of these experts said that the MOST SENSITIVE and IMPORTANT erotic organ on a woman's body... the one that, if properly stimulated, would give her the most POWERFUL ORGASMS, is one that most men completely ignore. And, more surprisingly, they ALL agreed on what that secret spot was. Have you figured it out yet? If you've been reading these newsletters for a while I'm sure you got this one right... If you haven't been reading these newsletters and you STILL get it right, then you probably have a very happy woman in your life... Did you guess "her brain"? Because expert after expert that I interviewed said that the most important and powerful sex organ in a woman's body was her "mind," her "imagination", her "thoughts", the "organ between her ears", and in all other ways of saying it: Her Brain. And if you have been reading my newsletters for a while, then you know I'm not going to just leave you hanging here... you know that I'm now going to give you some straight up tips and techniques on how to USE this information to drive your woman wild. In other words, I'm going to answer the question: "How do I sexually stimulate her B-Spot?" 1. FEELING, NOT DOING One of the reasons that couples begin to feel like they are getting into a rut or that their sex life is quickly getting less interesting over time, is that they are so focused on what they are DOING, rather than on what they are FEELING. If you look at one of those books like 1001 sex positions, and you remove the ones that are impossible, uncomfortable, generally silly, or require 10 years of yoga or gymnastics to get in to... what you are left with is just a bunch of minor variations on about 4 basic positions. Well obviously that's not a ton of variety... If you are focused on what you are DOING, of course things can get dull. And it's so easy, especially after you've had sex with a partner a dozen times, to just start taking it for granted... Clothing off, a little kissing, a little breast stroking, a little oral, a little intercourse. But that is not going to be enough for a woman to really get what she needs. Building intimacy and connection is, on the other hand, an endless source of sexual pleasure and interest. Love making should never get boring. And when you ARE in love-- it has the potential to ALWAYS be exciting. Not every couple who are in love, though, manage to translate that love to their sex life. It takes confidence, courage, and intention to bring those intimate emotions into your sexual relationship. Making the effort to CONNECT with each other, and bring her emotional world into the erotic world is hard (Note: TM, believes with practice and knowledge, it's easy). And it is not something that you see in most media directed at men. In other words, when men want to get turned on and they look at pornography, or hot girls in calendars or swimsuit magazines-- the emphasis is not exactly too focused on emotions. But women work differently. Just respecting that fact and making an effort to connect with her in a loving way will do ridiculously powerful things to your sex life. But, like I said, it takes some courage. You've got to have balls to play that emotional card because it makes YOU vulnerable in a really painful way if she rejects it. The choice is yours-- I think the risk is well worth the rewards. 2. CONNECT, SYNCHRONIZE, TALK... ...or in some other way, make an effort to communicate. Women will tell you that most men are completely silent in the bedroom. Some will make an effort at "dirty talk", but few really try to make an effort at connecting in some real way. "Dirty talk" is way better than nothing... Many women LOVE dirty talk (Note: TM believes the % is 99%) and say it's a real turn on... some don't care for it... but IF you are with a woman that likes it, then it's a great way to SYNCHRONIZE your feelings together... First because you are directly stimulating her brain and you will get powerful results in her pleasure. More importantly, you are creating the communication that LINKS YOU UP, so you are on the same page during love-making... and not just both locked in your own heads, DOING something together, but not necessarily THINKING or FEELING it together. Speaking of your feelings or emotions, asking about hers, telling her how she is making you feel, describing what her skin feels like or what she smells like, telling her what you want her to do for you - these are all ways of linking up your experiences. All of these things are great ways to use your words to really connect in with her brain and make the sexual experience MUCH more intense for both of you. But if you don't feel comfortable "chatting" during sex-- that's fine-- find other ways to communicate without words... using touch, sighs, sounds, and eye contact, aggressiveness, tenderness, or anything else that connects you with each other's emotional state. 3. CREATE A SETTING A romantic environment definitely stimulates the "B-spot." (Note: That's FUNNY, the B-Spot is her brain) :lol: The obvious way to go here is to light candles, spread rose petals on the bed... But the setting does not have to be romantic. Not all men like that mushy sort of thing, and BIG TIP here my friend: Not all women like it either. Doing it someplace exciting is different things to different people. The danger of potentially getting caught can make a parking garage better than rose petals for more women than you might suspect... And if you like sharing fantasy, you don't ever have to leave your bedroom... If she is an exhibitionist (Note: TM believes, most women are), all you need to do is TELL her to IMAGINE the place you'd like to make love to her... Yes, that's right, using your words again... not necessarily during sex, but before it... to set the scene. Remember that creating the setting is even more powerful when it does not involve a physical setting-- but rather an emotional one. If you think about the sorts of things that turn women on in the movies-- forbidden love, romantic destiny, wild passion... these are the things that you can create in her brain before you ever get to the bedroom. It takes a bit of imagination, and a bit of effort, but according to EVERY expert that I've spoken with, it's WORTH the effort... because the "B-Spot" is far more powerful than the clitoris, the g-spot, or any other sexual part on her body. Try these 3 techniques out TONIGHT. You won't believe the results. If you've been together for a while and you're in a rut, just the fact that you are making this effort might bring her to tears of gratitude... and screams of passion. Wishing you the best in love and life, For Passion, Alex
WOW. Awesome post! It's very true that even skilled PUAs become stone silent when they get into the bedroom. We really should do an entire section on bedroom talk and sex talk. Most men think that when they are between a woman's legs the game is over and nothing could be further from the truth unless you're just looking for a one-time hit it and get out deal. But if you really want her to have a good time, get inside of her head, get her to say what turns her on and repeat it to her. Have her use all of her senses in the sexual experience; auditory, visual and physical. Most men drop the ball on the auditory but it's really hot when you get women to open up to what is turning them on inside their head. Good piece.
Thanks, Steven. It is a RARE quality for a man to include kicking-in a womans' imagination/sexual brain. Unfortunately, Alex has limited space to describe what he is conveying and he is selling his product. I understood, most, of what he is writing about. I WILL be using the phrase, "B-Spot", in my conversations. TM
