Ok I'm 28 but I tend to have a very youthful look, to the point that I typically find myself attracting girls from the ages 19-22. It has its obvious perks, but I've notice that in many cases once my real age is revealed many of the girls get spooked. Well maybe not spooked, but it almost always seems to throw them in a fight-or-flight response. Some of them seem to get easily intimidated and psyche themselves out, while others perhaps worry I'm some older creep (hoping more of the former than the latter). Any tips or advice on how to ease that sort of tension out of the picture is well appreciated.
I have dated girls who have been 10 years younger and 10 years older. For the most part, it's not a problem unless you make it a problem. If you are carefree and don't even consider it an issue then the chick will be looking at you and thinking, well if he doesn't see it as an issue then it must be OK. But it's all in how you carry yourself. Now, realistically there are going to be some chicks who will never date men above a certain age (but even that can change with some serious PUA moves) but most girls react to your body language and how you carry yourself. If you're moving on a girl and the age thing comes up something like this will work, Her: How old are you? You: 28 - How old are you? Her: 20 You: Hmmm, I don't know. I normally don't date girls who not 18 or 19, but you're kind of cute, I guess, I might make an exception with you if you're good. But I don't know about you, grandma... See that way you've done a couple of things right; 1. you defused the issue, 2. you turned it around and made HER the issue, and 3. you did a tiny pull back which is telling her that you're not totally committed to her yet and she still has more work to do if she wants to get you. But like I said, I think most girl has this number in there head that they think they will never date a man over a certain age but it's only in their head. If you come with with serious PUA skills then picking up chicks in the age range you're doing is eaaassssyyyyy. The biggest issue I have with chicks in that age range is maturity. They want to be pampered like they were when they lived with daddy and I'm not their daddy. But that's another talk. You shouldn't have a problem. Read what's on this forum and you'll have plenty.
First, they test you about the age to see if it bothers you. If you react and show that it DOES bother you, you fail. You crumble easily and that's unsexy. If you ignore them or turn it around on them, remaining positive and unaffected, you passed the congruence test. That makes you COOLER in the girl's eyes. So really you WANT girls to throw that kind of shit at you. It only makes you COOLER and MORE attractive when you pass it. Yep, just like that turn the frame back around on them. Falsely disqualify the GIRL. You: "You're only 19... damn you're dangerous for me... I should keep away from you..." push her away. "Wait come here..." pull her back in. "Maybe I can make an exception for you - do you follow only what your friends say, or can you think for yourself?" Notice the physical push and pull thrown in. P.S. Both you guys have great contributions and make the forum rock, why don't you upload Avatar images to your profiles. It helps me keep track of who is who
Well i am in my mid 40s and an dating girls in thier early 20's. So long as your comfortable with dating younger girls it doesnt matter. Generally i have found that every women i have met feels more comfortable dating older guys. I mean look at Harrison Ford his ex was half his age . Older men like myself tend to subtlely quiet, calm and more self assurred compared to younger guys. Too many guys try to be "sociable" when really all they need to be is more "socially aware". Thats generally the difference between old men and young guys. I believe myself to be a socially aware person yet by nature i am not a sociable person. In fact i am more of a private person then anything else. Apologies for rabbiting on here but hey older simply means being more sexy in my book
I tend to like girls around 19 to 25 and I am myself 33 years old. I know a very small portion of the seduction theory, but I can say that your age is definitely not the problem. Your problem I assume is your INNER GAME. Because I have this problem in particular. Recently I talked to a very good friend of mine (He is the bad guy who treats women like shit) and he said that this is THE MOST important part, when it comes to life and in particular to women. He said that women have very fine sensors that enable them unfortunately to filter out guys (I hate this behaviour of women...). Since he is nice to guys he told me today about "Derren Brown" Derren Brown He uses Neuro-Linguistic Programming in order to control and to manipulate human behaviour. You can just type Derren Brown in youtube and watch. He told me that this techniques can reprogram women
I thought SS already explained the contrast between the Nice-guy/Jerk-guy dichotomy. Thanks for the comment though.
If this one thing i can add that might be useful is if you are 35, 40, 45 years old dont try and act like a 19, 20 year old PUA. That is very off putting to a younger girl. Be calm, be an authoritive figure on life. I went on a recent date with a 22 year old girl. I asked her what she liked about older men. She said she found younger guys very immature.
dont think about it much but, i am middle age (65 )i"m still attractive to 18 to 25 years never had a sex with , one over 40. i had total afew over a 100 in life time 30 in the last 5 yrs here in costa rica. I'm still after the beautiful girls, age is not important but it 18 to 25s is what i like. sure its hard but have to play the hand that dealt to you wilson
