Here's a brief, but, for the first-time, that this subject was brought-up on this Forum, to the best of my knowledge. Some men and women are bisexual. I think that it is important for us men to accept that people want to live certain lifestyles. To be bi, it does NOT mean that you are active in it or have ever participated in it. Here's the article: AM I BISEXUAL? by Mike Szymanski You don't have to be equally attracted to both. Some people would say that everyone is bisexual, but I'm not going to buy into that line. That's the easiest way to confuse those of you who may be on the fence. And no, just because you thought about doing something with a friend of the same sex—or maybe even did a little fooling around at one time—it doesn't mean that you've got the "B" label branded on your forehead forever. Nor, does it mean if you've never actually had sex with both a man and a woman that you cannot declare yourself a bisexual. In fact, many people who identify as bisexual have yet to experience full sexual relations with a man and a woman (and it doesn't have to be at the same time, either!) Bisexuality, in its simplest form, is the understanding or awareness that you can be attracted physically and emotionally to either gender at some point. It doesn't mean that you have to be equally attracted to both, and it doesn't mean that you have to have regular sex with both genders to be happy or satisfied. And yes, bisexuals can be monogamous, and have one only one partner at a time and be very content. So, very simply, the term is one of self-identification. That is why we don't see more people out there calling themselves "bisexual." It is a term that brings with it a lot of misconceptions, prejudices and judgments. A lot of people act in bisexual ways, but don't call themselves that. Others may never have really understood the term fully. If you're "on the fence" about whether you're bisexual, don't just jump in. Go to a Bi Center or a bisexual club (see the Bisexual Resource Center) and meet others to talk about it. Or, just do some more experimenting until you are sure. There are many ways of testing your sexuality. There are many quizzes you can take online, and even a bunch of tests that we developed that even include what you like to put between your lips to test your sexual preference (see: The Sushi/Hot-Dog Dilemma). If you know you are definitely not that way, then that's fine. That doesn't mean you have to stop reading this column. Here are some of the most popular methods for determining the extent of your fluidity. Kinsey Scale: Grades experience and psychological reactions with 0 being entirely hetero, 6 entirely homo, and 3, equally attracted. Most people fall between 1 and 5 revealing some level of bisexuality. This takes hours of intimate questioning. Klein Sexual Orientation Grid: Created by noted bisexual psychiatrist, Dr. Fritz Klein, the grid measures seven elements of sexuality based on past, present and future. Dual Attraction: In their book, Martin S. Weinberg, Colin J. Williams and Douglas W. Pryor simplified Dr. Klein's grid by using three variables: sexual feelings, sexual activities and romantic feelings, allowing bisexuals to fall into homo or hetero categories. Multidimensional Scale of Sexuality: Developed in the 1980s, this behavioral and cognitive scale measures levels of hetero, homo and asexual feelings and contains six bisexual categories. The Three-Circle Graph: Antonio Galarza has come up with three intersecting circles to show sexuality that includes concepts like hetero-romantic and homo-platonic, but ultimately it shows 70-80% of all males are bi.
