Blow-Jobs- From a Woman's Perspective

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  1. TequilaMan

    TequilaMan Well-Known Member

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    Sloane Fox at personallifemedia.com has an article about blow-jobs at:http://members.personallifemedia.co...y-communicating-your-specific-desires-to-her/
    Note: Sloane used to think giving head was a chore,
    until hubby did this..he,he.
    Sloane is endorsing a video that can be purchased.

    Blowjob Menus – Help her feel confident and skillful at giving you head by communicating your specific desires to her!
    by Sloane Fox

    The more ideas you can give your woman about what you like, the better. This morning in the hot tub, hubby told me his current favorite “move” is when I:
    “Lightly comb the pads of my fingers from the base of his balls up over them to the underside of his penis while I am licking the shaft of his cock with my tongue wide and flat all the way up as I hold the head securely and softly, deep in my throat.”
    Well, damn! That was very helpful. Now I know his favorite move, so he’ll get lots more of that.
    You see, it’s very helpful if we gals have a lot of maneuvers in our repertoire and we know what you really like best.
    Does your woman know your favorite blowjob moves? Have you told her about some technique you’ve always wanted to feel?
    Help her feel confident and skillful at giving you head by communicating your specific desires to her!

    I suggest you run her a menu of moves you’d find enjoyable, so she has GUIDANCE.

    She doesn’t have a cock, remember. So it really helps for her to know that she’s giving you the best potential sensation based on what really turns you on during the time she’s orally pleasuring you.
    Here are a few moves of mine you might consider. In sharing my moves, it might give you the words you can use to describe your preferences to your gal:
    1. A two-handed grip on your cock with her mouth swirling around the head.
    2. One hand holding the base of your shaft, the other sliding your cock in and out and swirling around the top of your cock.
    3. One hand under your balls, pressing against your perineum while she loves up your whole cock with her mouth.
    4. Sliding her oiled fingers from your perineum up under your balls and feeling inside the skin to the meat of your cock and stroking up while she holds and licks your cock in her mouth.
    5. Light licks up one side of your cock and down the other.
    6. Take your cock out of her mouth and wipe it all around her lips like slippy lipstick application.
    7. Deep, long sucks all the way down your cock, all the way in her mouth alternating with faster in and out moves.
    8. Light sucking and lots of play with the corona edge and head of your cock in her mouth as she holds it very softly.
    9. Tapping the head of your engorged cock on her lips — tap, tap, tap, tap…
    10. Deep-throating. Which I’ll blog all about tomorrow.
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    Here's another article by Sloane. at: http://members.personallifemedia.com/2011/04/12/7-ways-to-make-it-a-blow-vacation-for-her/
    How To Get A Blow Job By Making It a “Blow Vacation”
    by Sloane Fox

    A “blow vacation” is the idea of making it fun for her. Here’s how.

    In my intimate conversations with many men
    they confess the one thing they never get enough of are…

    blowjobs.
    This scarcity is a source of pain. Men want to know how to entice and delight their woman and fear that she doesn’t truly enjoy fellatio.
    It is possible to turn your woman around and get her to love going down on you.

    Read below the 7 feminine points of view that will increase the quality and quantity of oral sex you are getting.
    You see, I had a 180° change of heart. Now thinking about having my man that close to me is a turn on. It invades my daytime fantasies…
    I used to think blow jobs were a chore, until hubby began with these three things:

    First, he got really good at giving me orgasms in many ways and “filled me up” sexually. Once I was sexually satisfied, I was in a mindset to “give back.”

    • Secondly, he started teasing me, calling them “blow vacations,” which re-framed the idea more pleasurably in my mind.

    • Third, he came up with the idea of “Three Little Licks.” This is a small offer, one of the four keys to seduction, which increases the likelihood that she’ll be willing to do it if there’s a finite end to the proposition and she won’t be “down there” bobbing her head for an hour trying to get you off.
    Hubby made it clear that I should only do what ever made me feel good – if three licks were all I wanted to give him, then three licks it was and he was appreciative.
    I really didn’t know what I was doing. With limited experience, I didn’t have a big repertoire of “moves,” didn’t feel confident I could do a good job sucking him and didn’t want to get into a situation where I was flailing around.
    The “three little licks” were just enough in the beginning to get me to try again after many years of not giving him any oral.
    In addition, I’ve created a little list of considerations that will help you encourage your woman and have some empathy for her situation.
    Below are 7 feminine points of view that will increase the quality and quantity of oral sex you are getting.

    1) Recommendation: Oral Fixation
    I recommend Oral Fixation, Michael Fiore’s new product that helps you know exactly what to say and do to get her to LOVE giving you head. He’s a genius at teaching guys how to motivate, inspire and communicate with women. Make sure you watch his video.
    [Video]: “The Real Reason Women Don’t Like Giving Head”

    2) Direction
    She wants to please you. Tell her what you like. What are three of your favorite moves?
    Do you like your balls licked?
    Do you like the wide, flat of her tongue dragged up the shaft from the base of your cock and swirled around the head?
    Do you love it when she holds the base of your cock securely while she changes sucking patterns around your glans?
    Tell her what you like so she has plenty of ideas from which to choose.

    Secondly, give her a lot of audible feedback when you’re in her mouth. Moan, growl, thank her, guide her, tell her when it feels particularly good.

    Third, stroke her and touch her while you’re in her mouth. Make sure you are also keeping her in a state of delicious sensation, even if it just includes running your hands down her back.
    She’ll feel grounded and more confident when you are actively supporting her.

    3) Appreciation
    In addition to the positive feedback during your “blow vacation,” make sure to thank her and share your favorite moments afterward with some pillow talk. We call them “frames,” when you actually describe the sensations of the experience and what you loved about them.
    For example, a frame I’d share would be:
    “I loved when I put you in my mouth half hard and you got harder and harder and filled my mouth with your desire for me.” “It’s such a turn on for me to feel you.”
    You might say, “When you tickled my balls while you were swirling your tongue around the head of my cock, I looked down at you and felt so much love for you, baby.”
    Do not expect reciprocity. If you give her oral, don’t expect it in return. If she gives you a blow job, don’t assume she wants oral. Run her a menu of offers (4 keys to seduction) such as:
    After you give me a little pleasure, I could reciprocate, I could stroke you with my fingers, I could make love to you, I could even simply give you a sensual massage. Let her choose, unless she really prefers you just handle all the decision-making (also hot!).

    4) Physical
    I cannot emphasize enough how important grooming is. Make sure you are sweet smelling and you have weed whacked your pubic hair back (Bonus! Trimming makes your cock look longer!) and even shaved your balls. There are excellent trimmers at BeaverShaver.com
    As well, it’s helpful to be able to have a really solid erection. If you are at all nervous, consider taking a little bit of a Viagra. It’s fast-acting and works well in stressful situations. Take just a part of one and let it melt under your tongue. There’s nothing worse for a woman than giving her guy a blow job and she’s not getting him hard.

    5) Security
    Most importantly, keep your porno moves out of the interaction. Unless she asks you, or you are quite ardent love-makers, don’t pump your cock in and out of her mouth or pull her head onto your cock unless she wants you too. This can gag her and make her stop. Those are advanced moves you have to work your way up to.
    It will take her quite a few practice sessions to start getting turned on enough to develop the saliva required for deep-throating and for her throat to open enough to accommodate this kind of play. (more on this in an upcoming post)
    And finally, turn her on first so when she has you in her mouth, she’s already aroused and it feels good to her to suck and lick your cock. Spend 20 minutes stroking her body and kissing her before you let her put you in her mouth. This will work wonders in creating more enjoyment on her end.

    6) Time Frame
    Set a fixed amount of time so she knows it’s not going to go on and on. At least to get her started. The “Three Little Licks” is one way. Another is to say, let’s just start with a few minutes – and only do it as long as you are truly enjoying it. The minute it feels like work, just stop, darling, and let me thank you.

    7) Positions
    Body-dynamics are an important consideration. And if your cock curves a certain way, you’ll adjust for that. Make sure she’s comfortable so she can relax and enjoy herself. Depending on how well matched you are size-wise, you’ll have to find good positions for both of you. Here are three of my personal favorites you can customize.
    The first is you laying on your back, she’s straddling you, on top of you, belly to belly with her head in your crotch. If she doesn’t want you looking right at her pootie, have her wear a negligee or something that makes her feel more comfortable in this vulnerable position.
    Remember, though this is like 69, she’s putting her attention on you, so just stroke her but let her focus. And you can relax into the sensation she’s delivering and give her excellent auditory feedback to empower her further.
    The second position is a similar 69 style, but you are lying on your side, she’s facing you, lying on her side, with a pillow or two under her head so she can relax and just play and enjoy your penis without having to kneel, or hold herself up.
    The third position is great for polarity – making her feel very submissive and you dominant. That’s where you are standing or leaning or sitting in a chair and she’s kneeling or sitting on her heels and sucking you. That can be very hot and is great for you stroking her hair and shoulders and arms and playing with her breasts.


    Deep-Throating

    Here's more info about BJs and deep-throating, from Sloane Fox.
    Before she does deep-throating, she MUST have an oral fixation (really like BJs).
    What she is describing are erogenous zones inside of a womans' mouth.
    The lips, just behind the top front teeth (roof of mouth) and further deeper inside the mouth are erogenous zones. (There MAY be more in the mouth).
    You can find the article at: http://members.personallifemedia.co...-the-bamboo-flute/comment-page-1/#comment-211

    Deep Throat Exploration and the Bamboo Flute

    by Sloane Fox
    I’m sharing my deep-throat exploration because it’s an interesting story.
    This is new to me – I evolved from hating to give hubby head to wanting to have him in my mouth. Then I began experiencing orgasms from having his penis stroke deep down my throat.
    If you want to experience great head, start by using the Oral Fixation method:
    “Oral Fixation: The Simple Secrets Of Getting My Wife, Girlfriend or ANY Woman To Love Giving Me A Blow Job”
    (Like thousands of guys have already.)
    Click Here===> [Video]: “Why She Hates Giving You Head and How To Get Her To Love It”

    My Deep Throat Exploration Story

    Turn On…Fellatio vs. Irrumatio…Viscous Saliva…Pussy Ninja Move…Throatgasm…Oral Fixation.
    My turn-on is very high because I’ve been having a lot of sex. I’m in a massive growth curve in my personal sexuality on many fronts, which you know if you’ve been reading my emails and blogs.
    One day on a hike, my girlfriend asked me if I ever had orgasms when I took my husband’s penis deep into my throat. I hadn’t even tried deep-throating and dismissed the idea.

    Until a year or so later when I’d discovered that I got off on fellatio… The more I did it, the better it felt, the more relaxed I got and the deeper I wanted his cock. Then I remembered what my girlfriend was telling me — that she could orgasm from her boyfriend’s penis stroking her throat below the epiglottal sphincter. That’s the throat opening you close when you swallow – the portal between your mouth and throat.
    I noticed a more viscous spit would form deep in my throat if I just took my time and enjoyed the sensations. Hub’s cock naturally slid deeper and I got pleasure just being so connected and intimate with him.
    It was fellatio too, not irrumatio, which is when then man controls the movement. I was in control, so I could manage the speed and depth and my gag reflex.
    Speaking of gag reflex, with practice, gagging becomes less frequent and less intense and I think there’s a connection between the contraction from gagging and the orgasmic contraction. It’s merely conjecture, but I’m looking for information about that connection if you know of anything.
    What I notice is that if I gag, when my lover is deep in my throat, if I’m turned on enough, I actually orgasm. It’s a spasm that is somehow connected.

    When I read Sheri Winston’s book, Female Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure (read this book!) I learned about the Hollow Flute or alimentary system:
    Which is essentially our digestive system from our throat to our anus (including our vagina) and how it’s a series of sphincter muscles that are like drawstrings. The sphincters are controlled by your brain and they open and close together.

    The Hollow Flute, the Inner Flute and the Bamboo Flute have all been used by Tantric sex experts to describe the connection between the mouth, the vagina and the anus – when you want to open the bottom, open the top. (Read my Pussy Ninja Move for more information on how to open yourself.)

    By getting aroused and opening your epiglottal sphincter, you can get a penis further in your throat, which feels even more pleasurable. A few of my girlfriends and I conjecture that there’s erectile tissue in your throat, on the sides, just below the epiglottis. Perhaps that’s why deep-throating causes orgasms? Maybe Linda Lovelace’s doctor was right?

    Deep Throat Exploration Recap:
    1. If you can help your woman get very turned on, she will enjoy all forms of oral sex more.

    2. Fellatio is different than irrumatio and is based on who controls the movement.

    3. There is a more viscous saliva that your body produces to make the experience smoother.

    4. By using breathwork, making deep moaning sexual sounds and by actually focusing on opening her throat, she can more easily accommodate the head of your penis in her throat. (Pussy Ninja Move)

    5. Stroking the tip of your penis in her throat may cause her to orgasm as it has for me.

    6. If you want to get started down this amazing path of deep-throat exploration, start with Oral Fixation as the way to enter into the conversation and position yourself as a man whose cock should be sucked.

    If all of this BJ talk is getting you excited, here’s a testimonial from Mike Fiore’s Oral Fixation program which I’m recommending to you.

    “Transformed Our Sexual Relationship in One Weekend”
    “My current GF happens to fall into the category of, “I don’t like to go down on guys.”
    I’ve tried to shrug it off for the most part… but come on I love getting a BJ every now and then (really all the time), especially when I do my part of going down on her.
    Regardless, after going through Michael’s material I was blown away.
    The simplicity of the system, and the step-by-step approach completely makes sense. While my woman is still in the reprogramming stage so to speak, one of points mentioned in the guide was alone was this for me. I’m in particular referring to “What Do You Want Me To Do To You?” game. This by far has transformed our sexual relationship in one weekend!
    In a nutshell this is a must read for all guys, as it’s sure to transform your relationship as a whole (and of course at the same time satisfying your BJ urges).”
    — Frank Shah
    Click Here===> [Video]: “Why She Hates Giving You Head and How To Get Her To Love It”

    Note: I didn’t go into positions or sucking techniques in this blog post because that information, unlike the unique information I shared with you above, is readily available online.

    I hope this gave you a woman’s perspective.

    TMs' Note: I learned a lot about blow-jobs from this article and how to make it enjoyable for a woman and, myself. I have been working at inducing a woman to have orgasms while she is giving me a BJ. My method brings her deeper into being sexually excited by using her sexual imagination.
  2. TequilaMan

    TequilaMan Well-Known Member

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    I added, the Deep-Throating article..a MUST, read.
    Last night, I was able to, for the first-time, to convince a woman to imagine that she was giving me a BJ and it was a Deep-Throat BJ.
    She had, Deep-Throat Orgasms! :thumbup:

    TM

    Note: She told me she liked giving, BJs, but, she NEVER did Deep-Throat BJs...I then knew, she would like to try, Deep-Throat Orgasms.