Can I get some critique please?

I could really use some input on the following situation please. I've been trying to get a girl to come and meet me when I'm in her corner of the world next (still a long flight for her). In another lifetime we'd be in a LTR but because of my traveling and her job, we're stuck long-distance.

I thought she was completely into me but she's consistently been against us meeting up. Mostly because of "what else afterwards". I say nothing else and let's just take what we can get and enjoy being together when we can but she says she doesn't think that's enough for her... I have told her we're not being exclusive which I know hasn't helped things relationship wise but I can only be honest.

What do you think of the last email I sent? Should I break contact at this point and come back when I'm 100% indifferent or send another which says ~"contact me if you want to meet me in future and we'll see if I'm still available". Yes emotionally I can walk away at this point but I really don't want to and I do like this girl and more would love to see her in a couple weeks.

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Hi (her name),

Tough email for me to write and not one I would have expected to be writing. Top line is that I miss ya (her name) and it doesn't seem to be changing. Bottom line is that I thought a lot about what you said tonight and you're right we're at an impasse. My lifestyle is not gonna change in the near future and a "take-what-we-can-get" isn't going to work for you and it's all i can give ya. It was really disappointing when you'd say you couldn't or didn't want to meet with me and in this way. I can understand of course but for me I don't want a pragmatic decision anywhere near one related to my heart.

Where I'm leading with this is that I don't want to be in a situation where we watch our feelings for each other slowly decay until the point where we're both indifferent and no longer writing. Or alternatively and perhaps worse where one of us has to tell the other they found someone else. The lingerie comment caught me a little off guard today, I was like "shit, maybe (her name)'s already found someone else cuz afterall we did say don't kiss and tell". Anyway, I still don't want to know so don't tell me either way

I do wanna be your friend but I can't be your friend right now. I won't tell you the specifics of why because then I'll be talking about kissing every inch of your body and it'll ruin the somber mood of this email. This said I also don't wanna end this email in a somber way either so

What I'm getting at is that for me it is time to take a break from (her name). I care abouts ya and that's not going to change, but I want some time to chill things down to friends again. I dunno how long that's going to take to be honest but I'll send you an inflamatory email when I'm ready. ><

I hope this is making some sense to you too...

~Taf
xoxo
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The only response I got was a quick one that she read the email.

I'd say that you are putting to much attention on this girl, when, like you said, you want to have a break from her.

Just relax and go with the flow. If she wants you then that's fine. If she doesn't then that's fine as well.

Don't put all your attention on her if you really aren't that emotionally attached. Personally, I'd say that you are attached to her, more than you would admit. It seems to me that you wrote that e-mail to her in the hopes of getting more attention from her. You want more of her and you are giving her the take it or leave it decision. This sounds like something one of my gfs would send me.

Or I could be completely wrong. Either way, if you really don't care about her that much, then stop trying to analyze everything and let things be. Relax.

Hmm, I think I didn't express something very well in the post if that's the impression I gave you. I am emotionally attached to her but the "one of my girlfriend's would have written this" really hits home. Sounds like this relationship has evolved on me and I'm moving towards wussy.

What I want from her is that she'll fly to meet me when I have time to see her. For instance, I'll be in HK soon and she could fly to meet me there for a long weekend (about an 8 hour flight 1 way). She says she wants more from the relationship than this, I'm happy with it.

She knows that I've seen other girls since we were last together and I told her she should see other guys. It never occurred to me that it'd really bother me if she did.

Anyway, ultimatum I was hoping for 1 of 2 things. First that she'll miss me and change her mind about wanting to come and see me. Alternatively, as mentioned I get her out of my head with a break.

What I was thinking however was that it was a bit too hard for her to contact me in the end and I should open the door in case she changes her mind and wants to come and visit me. i.e. similar to what Karea used here:

Do one final follow up then really cut off contact, relax, and move on.