hi jesse, first congratulations on your mind control program. The best i've heard, you speak with such passion and it's obvious you really want to help us guys. I'm of indian descent( so a lot of pressure to marry a nice girl and settle down) and your exclusive relationship track really got me thinking. You seem to be saying that all long term relationships are doomed to failure. Just wondered if you have ever encountered a couple that that been together for a long time >10 years, that are really happy. I've read a few spiritual authors like deepak chopra(the path to love) who say that good long term relationships are possible with the right attitude. Then again a lot of these authors have been divorced several times Would really appreciate an answer on this one, not really seen it addressed in the forum. Any books you know worth reading on this? thanks
When you're not getting laid or feel your options are limited, the natural instinct is to crave jumping into the arms of a woman; to feel hugging, warmth, connection, sex, belonging, etc. So your brains is screaming to pair bond with some chick, any chick. But the reality is, most women will cause more problems than they solve. Drama, emotional headaches, money issues, lifestyle conflicts... you are trading one problem (loneliness, lack of touch) for a whole slew of new problems. In addition, the "Coolidge effect". At first the sex is exciting, but within a few months or years you'll get very bored with having sex with the women 1,000 times over... no matter how hot she is. When you're not getting laid your brain thinks it's immune to this effect, but in reality it's programmed into you deep down as a man to get bored. Then the one thing that held the relationship together - physical attraction - declines, and you're in a relationship that's not giving you much. In that lesson, I was just saying to be careful and not to jump into relationships when you're coming from a needy place. Also, relationships work much better when the woman is of "higher value" than the man. Meaning an older guy with a young teen girl will tend to stay together, than a handsome, rich young guy who is dating an older woman past her prime. If you, as a man, feel you have more options better than your current girl, the relationship will often break apart. And a lot of couples break up down the road because of that; as the man gets older, he has more money, gains more confidence, and has more options. As the woman ages, in contrast, she loses sexual attractiveness and gets fat. The man's value is rising, and the woman's value is falling. Add in the Coolidge Effect. That's why many relationships break up 5 to 10 years down the road. If you're into meeting lots of women, my advice is to wait until you're mid-30's to get married, and to marry a girl 10 to 15 years younger than yourself. Or, if your priority is merely to have kids, then the pressure of raising the kids will tend to keep a marriage together, and you can get married in your 20s.
Thanks, Jesse...that was a GOOD post about relationships and marriage. (I noticed you used the Coolidge Effect, twice!):lol: SuperFly- Because you are from, India, there is a lot of pressure for you to conform to your societies views of getting married. Marriage does NOT guarantee happiness. TM
