Date with a bisexual and the Demanding approach

I just wanted to share this story and see what you guys make of it.

I went on a date a couple days ago with a girl who just got out of a serious relationship with another woman. She's not a lesbian, just bisexual.

I kept myself calm and cool, didn't really pry into her sex life, or inquire about the lesbian lifestyle. I didn't want to come off as a stereotypical horny male. To me her past lesbian relationship was none of my concern. If they were ex bfs I wouldn't care to know so I treated her ex gfs the same.

If there's one thing I've learned from this site, it's to be direct and somewhat demanding with girls. It took me a while to understand what that gray area between AFC and arrogance looked like. It was a bit of an epiphany once I realized how much that attitude can come across as intriguing and confident to girls.

Instead of asking her out, I just told her I was going to take her out. I told her I wanted to get to know her more and I wasn't going to take no for an answer. Now obviously if she said no I wasn't going to stalk her, but the confidence and expectation I placed on our conversation did catch her interest. In fact she pretty much told me the confidence intrigued her.

I told her I was going to take her out for Thai food and teach her how to use chopsticks. She was up to the challenge, but the day of the date she got a bit busy and never got back to me in time for dinner.

Apparently she was getting the last of her things from her ex's apartment. She apologized and insisted we still go out for a coffee that night instead. I told we could reschedule later because of her situation, but she insisted and said she was ready to date guys.

So I took her out for a lame coffee. I think I handled the date well. Had her laughing, and talking, no awkward pauses. But she kept talking about her ex and how she was insecure, and how she just needed to leave the relationship to find herself in life, curious about men again, how she needs to be with someone who is financially stable....bla bla bla.

Nothing she said was rude or inconsiderate, but come on, you're on a date. I don't know if I failed to make the date entertaining for her or what? I'm not a monkey. Half way through the date I felt like I was consulting her on dating advice more than actually seeing if we had chemistry. For the most part I didn't feel any at all.

Would I have slept with her? Yeah probably. Was she gf material? I don't know about that. Who lays their dirty laundry on the table within the first date?

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Thanks for the tips and assessment.

But to be honest, I have no ambition to sleep with this girl.

i thought about it, and just have no drive to make it happen.

A lot of what you said seems to describer her well. She was the submissive in her lesbian relationship. And yes the big thing driving her sexuality right now is the desire to experience men again.

Nevertheless, I lost interest.

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Thanks for the advice.

I understood all of it. I'm familiar with reframing from marketing. I know what you mean, and agree with you. You made this thread really helpful to me.