A little background: This morning I woke up excited about the day. Confidence Max tapes have been very helpful and I have in general been feeling good about myself and confident about achieving my goals. I also understood that I have things I need to work on as they will come together with practice. My looks: I am not a muscular guy but I go to the gym. I am not fat, very slender. 6’0” 170lbs to get an idea. My biggest physical weakness is acne, but I fight it religiously and would say its only at a mild to moderate level. I try not to let it bother me much. Environment: I go to a difficult university in an urban setting with about 4000 undergrads. Because it’s a difficult university, there aren’t all that many attractive females. BUT there are some. The problem is that about 90% are in this one sorority. I have met and gotten legitimate (not fake numbers) from about 10 of these sorority girls. I thought I had a friend (her bf is a close friend of mine) in the sorority call her S. When I would meet these sorority girls, occasionally (by no means every time, just when it would come up) I would mention that I am friends with S and her bf. I thought this was an ok tactic to try to help my social value. Here’s the big issue: Jesse emphasizes that it doesn’t matter the end result because nobody will remember or care if you get rejected. So in general I agree. I met this one girl T last semester. I called her and she agreed to meet me. She was very rude, often times blatantly ignoring me. Well, I did my best to try and be friendly. It turns out that sororities are like big networks and the second something happens they all know about it by the next day. S told me that I am trying to hard because 6 of her sorority sisters had mentioned me trying make a move. Even though one of them was just someone I was trying to be nice to (no number, no asking out, just hellos and small talk). She also said that she didn’t want me to mention her name again bc she is afraid that it appears that she might be trying to help me out. (What are friends for?). Well, I now realize how good of a fried she is. I also realize that I am being talked about negatively behind my back. I am so frustrated. I don’t feel like any of my actions are creepy or obtrusive. I can accept the fact that some girls are just not interested but this is a little much for me to handle. I feel like I have been blacklisted. Any ideas on how I can ever show my face around campus again?