Do You Want to be a Player?

Here's an article from cliffslist, written by, Ron Louis(Become a "Man of the World" and be the Obvious Choice for women).
Every, now and then, something is written about, "players".
To a man, being a player seems, cool, but, to a woman, that's a different story.
I no longer define myself as being macho, a stud, a player, Don Juan Casanova, etc.
I feel VERY comfortable in the place where I am and the lifestyle that I am leading.
If anyone defines me, as above, I say, "I am BETTER than that'!

Here's most of his article, without, the advertisement:

I'm writing you today to bust the myth of the "player" lifestyle.

Being a "player" might sound great at first—heaven knows some guys on the Internet play it up as the best lifestyle a man could possibly live—but being a "player" has some real downsides that you need to know about.

Let me explain ...

You've probably heard of the the "player" lifestyle. A "player" is a guy who makes hunting for sex FIRST and foremost in all his activities.

Usually the "player" spends his time trolling bars, doing or saying whatever he has to as he tries to get girls to go home with him.

He takes big, scary risks with women. He gets slapped in the face a lot. He gets drinks thrown on him.

And yes, sometimes those big, scary risks do pay off, and a woman goes home with him.

You need to understand this: everything in the "player's" life is about getting sex. He's always on the prowl, hoping to "get lucky."

When he's not out at bars, he's on online discussion boards, trying to find the next great scam to get a woman to "put out ..."

Or he's arguing with other "players" about the best scam techniques to use ... or bragging about his real (or, let's face it, sometimes imagined) conquests with the latest "HBB10++" (don't worry if you don't know what that means—you're probably better off).

If you've found yourself attracted to this lifestyle—I understand. If you haven't been in the dating world for awhile, or are shy, or have trouble with women, being a "player" might seem like a significant step up. After all, as a player at least you are (hopefully) getting sex !

But here's what people who want to charge you thousands of dollars to teach you about the "player" lifestyle don't want you to know ...

- The "player" lifestyle is incredibly time-consuming. You end up abandoning other areas of your life to go out to bars every night. One instructor on "how to be a player" claims you MUST go to bars for four hours a night, five nights a week, in order to learn to be a "player." Does that sound like something you'd like to do ? Or does it sound stressful and time-consuming ?

- The "player" lifestyle involves INTENSE rejection. Do you like to be rejected ? Does it just "roll off your back" when a woman confronts you about your "hypnotic patterns," throws a drink in your face, or slaps you ?
I didn't think so. I don't like to be rejected, either. Neither does anyone.
But as a "player," rejection—INTENSE rejection—is an everyday experience.

- The "player" lifestyle relies too much on "the numbers game." You may have heard of the old story about the guy who goes up to every woman he sees and says, "It's my birthday, will you f*ck me ?" That's "the numbers game." He's relying on the idea that out of every 10,000 women he hits on, at least one, statistically, will say yes.

That's true, but here's something else that's true: the 9,999 rejections he has to endure to get there are NO FUN, and it simply takes too much TIME.

It may go against the dating "industry" to say it, but ...

The "player lifestyle" is probably NOT the lifestyle for you.

But, for all the flaws of being a "player," they do have one thing right:

It's important to develop a "lifestyle" that works FOR you.

Relies On Intelligence

He's figured out how to be the "Smartest Seducer in the room," so he doesn't have to be the most attractive, most successful, or richest man in order to take home the hottest woman (or even more than one of them at a time !).

Relies On Positioning

Instead of just trying harder (and getting into a habit of failing every time), he knows how to put himself in the spot where success happens. He's the guy who's in the right place at the right time, so the results he gets seem effortless.

Relies On Leverage

The "Man of the World" knows that you can often get big results with little effort, if you know exactly what effort to make. Because he relies on Leverage, he uses the same effort an average man uses to fail with one woman to MEET and succeed with an entire group of women.

And he doesn't use leverage just with women ... he uses it successfully in every area of his life.

Relies On "One Thought" Focus

While other men get confused with women and in social situations because they think too much, the "Man of the World" is relaxed because he has a guiding light: the "One Thought" he has, for each situation, that guides him
and tells him exactly what to do next.

Intelligence, Positioning, Leverage, "One Thought" focus ... those are the lifestyle factors of the "Man of the World."

Doesn't that sound a lot better than relying on going to bars night after night, enduring constant rejection, and hoping ?

You see, the cards are stacked differently for the "Man of the World."

He's the "Obvious Choice" for sex and relationships—with the women that most men can only fantasize about.

He hangs out with fascinating people and is invited to the best parties and social opportunities. (TM says: I have, yet, to have this happen to me.) :lol:

He is able to pursue his fantasies and dreams, and live them out, no matter how outrageous they may be.

Jesse;
I thought it was an interesting article, because, it reflects the mindset of many on-line advisers.

Oh, I said this, NOT, Ron:
Originally Posted by Ron Luis
I no longer define myself as being macho, a stud, a player, Don Juan Casanova, etc.
I feel VERY comfortable in the place where I am and the lifestyle that I am leading.

Thanks for critiquing the article, Jesse.

TM