Exotic dancers are the females of "pickup artists". Their job is to seduce men. The better they're at it, the more money they can make. But most don't know what they're doing. Asking a guy for money straight-up, is like going into a bar and asking a girl for sex. Both come across as desperate, and it's a turn off. The girls often don't know what they're doing - and many of the girls are struggling - so sometimes you need to have empathy for their situations.
I agree, Jesse....a man NEEDS to put themselves in the dancers, shoes. Almost ALL of the women dancers are there for the money. They are in a desperate situation of supporting themselves, their kids, their husband/BF, high cost of drugs, buying a car that runs good, etc., etc. Sandee, I have noticed that the women are more into making money, due to, the recession. There's fewer men going to the clubs and spending money. Almost ALL of the women dancers have serious problems, due to, their past experiences..sexual abuse and poor parenting. Many have psychological problems. They dis-TRUST men. Their relationships with their husband/BFs are, most likely, dysfunctional. You will NOT be very happy with what occurs from being with them in a more intimate, basis, or just a good friend. ONLY a very few percentage, (1%?), will be worthwhile in getting intimate, with. Just, TRY, to put yourself in their shoes and learn to enjoy being the dancers that are NOT money hungry and treat you well. TM Note: I am speaking from 20+ years of experience.
