Hi Jesse, There seems to be two schools of thought when it comes to emotion. One is embracing and being true to the emotion you are naturally feeling and finding enlightenment in that emotion whether it's anger, frustration, happiness etc. There is wisdom and a message in every emotion. The other is what you have been talking about- physically "be" the desired emotion, where the motion will become the emotion. Such as talk deeper, louder, and sharper, stick out your chest and be superman etc. Get your body moving and you will feel the emotion turn around. Is there some kind of marriage between these two schools of thought? What is your perspective in all of this?
I have some thoughts about what you are bringing-up. An emotion, such as, anger, fear, sadness, etc. are brought about by an outside force or influence. If you show good body language, by, walking tall, talking with a louder voice, smiling, being friendly, shaking mens' hands, TOUCHING women, etc.; your behavior will reflect how you feel about yourself. You will learn to be this way, most of the time, because, it causes you to feel good and other people will feel good, being around you. A key thing to remember is: Live in the moment and forget about any past bad emotions. When you meet someone and they have done something, in the past, that hurt your feelings, FORGET about it and live in the moment. TM Note: I think this is what Jesse would say. He may add other important info.
You can certainly embrace / acknowledge whatever emotion you're feeling, that way you don't get stuck in it. "Oh no, I'm feeling kind of down and depressed..." Just realize it, embrace that it's happening and don't let it get you down. It's just happening... you don't want to get upset about it. Accept it. At the same time, you can pro-actively through the day condition yourself to feel better emotions. Like doing jumping jacks in the morning or laughing to pump your state. Pro-actively condition yourself to feel better emotions; but if you get upset, angry, depressed, etc... these are signals telling you something is wrong and you need to take some action. It's a good thing to get these signals, so just accept the emotions, and don't let it get you down that you're feeling them.
What you said, Jobic, reminds me of something I just realized: I am just an actor in a womans' movie. Woman are VERY good at tugging on our feelings. They are much more socially intelligent than men. TM
Jobic; When I said, "I am an actor in a womans' movie": I was saying that I DON'T have as much power and control over what happens to me as I would like to think, I do. It is a way of being humble and accepting the idea that women are smarter than me when it comes to social intelligence. Women have been second class citizens for thousands of years. They have learned to turn-the-tables on men. They will, then, sit back and laugh at us for being sooo stupid and naive. To me, the woman is the director, producer, screenwriter and the one who does the hiring and firing in her movie. (I'm saying this in jest, but, there's a lot of truth in it.) TM
You did a REAL good description of what you thought, Jobic. I'm just saying that MOST or almost ALL men think they are in control, but, in reality, they are, NOT. When a man opens the door for a woman, hugs and kisses a woman, LEADS a woman sexually, is kind and RESPECTFUL of a woman; he is performing the role of the actor she wants you to be in her movie. I'm trying to think of the name that describes what we are talking about..it means that you will look at something at a different angle or viewpoint. I know that I view things from my own reality and women will sometimes TRY to change my reality...sometimes, they are RIGHT. Sometimes they are TESTING me to see how committed I am to my reality. TM
"No need to offer advice that stress is an ends to a means developmentaly because it's horse shit advice given by people who see no way out of stress, so they justify making it their bed fellow". (From my experiences, it's important for people to experience certain types of negative stress. They will become aware of how a person FEELS when they experience it...I believe this is called empathy.) "Only pleasure truely adds to the preception of wellness, wholeness and abundance". (I believe that this is TRUE. But, sometimes, withholding pleasure to achieve something that will be more beneficial is correct.) TM
