There's this girl, she's 20 odd. She's going a bit downhill in the looks department now, but in her prime she was one of the hottest chicks in my town. She's an 8.5 -9. She's a bad girl. Very selective in most matters. Has tickets on herself really. Will tell you she is hot. For example, won't send friend requests on facebook under any circumstances: you strictly have to add her. I met her when she was about 14: we've both changed in this time. Haven't had much to do with her, but we are acquainted and have mutual friends. Flirted a bit with her on facebook. Commented on a pic of her's where she looks like a rock star: "Like whoa. This must have been time consuming portrait =)". Was driving with this chick the other day we both know, and we picked her up. She wanted me to take her for a drive so she could collect money. I said: "We can go further as long as you put on your seatbelt" (in my jurisdiction the onus is on the driver to ensure compliance). She had been drinking, was a bit frazzled. "Can you take me?" she asked. I said: "We can go all the way as long as you put your seatbelt on". Anyway, she held me up for a fair while, which may have been a compliance test, which I think I passed by texting her friend to text me when they were ready and drove off. When they texted me and I returned, I said: "You made me wait for a fair while, you'll have to help me pick up chicks next time we are out". I told her she may look excited to see me and give me a hug. She protested mildly that she already does. I do remember her kissing my cheek at the pub one night we were out on the town separately. Anyway it was my pay day and we decided to throw a little party at the friends house I was driving with. My target said: "Come round in 15 mins so we can see each other." I said I'd have to get ready in my time. Left it and hour and went to the address with some booze. She kissed me on the lips as I entered. It wasn't passionate, but it was squarely on the lips. She had been drinking that day as I say, but she wasn't out of control. She announced excitedly: "I just kissed [my name]!" She was very focused on me that night. When I went outside to smoke she said: "Don't go anywhere [my name]!" There was a time I was not a blip on her radar. I'm significantly more polished now, age has been kind to me, and I've read pickup. Even suggested - I don't know how seriously - that me, her and another girl retire that evening to the same bed. She made an observation about me, one thing she said was I'm quiet. At one stage I offered to pour her a drink of spirits I had brought. She smashed a plastic bottle of frozen water on the ground outside to obtain ice. I said: "You're not a timid girl - that's what I like about you". The really interesting thing is what she confided in me. Told me of her hopes and dreams and how she wants to move above her station in life; she's aware welfare receipients are on the bottom rung. Told me of her preferences in males. She likes men who have brains and can debate the issues. Men who wear designer clothes. Guess what? That's me. She'd have to know how the game is played. If I'm not mistaken, she's attracted and that was her qualifying herself to me. I know that I should have got in and told her my requirements in a female before she laid out her's in a man, but she did say that she has only had sexยป sparingly with a few people in quite a while, and that she felt unable to date men in our town. I said neither can I date women here, because they are all indiscrete (it's a small place). Later, she wanted me to come while someone else took us for a drive, but I didn't end up doing it. The host - the chick I was driving with earlier - got tired and emotional as girls often do when they drink and ordered us out. As the party started to break up she said: "[my name] can go". She was reflecting on the past. I'm sure she would have cried later. Now she's a close friend, she knew that would not offend me, she didn't say it in a way like "piss off right now" but strictly speaking when the lawful leaseholder says have to go, you have to do this as soon as practiable. So I waived and left - I was ready to go anyway. I don't know where the target was at this time - nor did I care. Girls are like whatever. But I did text her about 45 mins later: "I think women who have a laser like direction in life are really desirable. It's just a pity ur not brunette!" (She's blonde). I think I have done a good job of conveying unneediness. Did some takeaways. Most guys would follow her like a puppy; she was lavashing attention on me. She was as nice as pie. She would bump you and say: "I'm sorry". I have her number. I've only sent her a few messages - "updates" - that were sent out to a group and not her specifically. I might ring her next. I'll make sure it's when I'm at a party or something. Won't try to get her out on a date at first. Wait until there's something good to do. I don't see the need to go to that fast in this particular case. It's a small town as I say, and I used to be a needy AFC. Although the reputation I gained back then is slowly becomming history.
I get the impression that you care a bit too much about crossing other people's (these girl's) boundaries. Texting and dealing with compliance issues can be a huge pain, especially when coupled with logistics like going to a party. I think you have her attracted, but DO NOT over text her. Don't be surprised or feel down if the next time you see her is not the same. Forward thinking, and be chill. Focus on making you guys feel positive when you're together. As for the non-needy and calling her and what not, I would say, just do WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT. You can elaborate more on your post, but I don't think it would hurt to push people's buttons more. Maybe it's my personality type, but if I was at a party of someone I knew, and the girl was closing up shop, there is NO WAY I would have taken orders...I would have teased her about being a wet blanket, boo hoo no more party, and playfully demanded a hug and kiss goodbye (all while leaving, of course) Guess it is a bit passive-aggressive, but you need to be THE ONE UP. I say, she kissed you, and it sounds like she is a party girl. Don't dwell on it too much until next time you see her--then push it forward. We can talk and type game all we want, but none of it really matters until the girls right in front of us. Keep us posted with any further progress! Good luck slaying this dragon
As for taking the host's marching orders, I'm on bail as it is. So I don't need to come up on criminal tresspass too. They could even make it sound like home invasion if they twisted it every which way but loose; and for that there's no bail, just jail. These are not people of good character.
Hahahah wowwwwwwwwwwww that sucks A real bad-boy Umm, in that case, don't push their buttons too far... As you already know, just focus on getting it farther with that girl each time you see her. Best of luck
