girl i like isnt attracted anymore but she works same place

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as i wrote in the other thread.. go out get to know other women (this hopefully helps you to realize that for a 99% chance she isn't special at all)

than don't go for a number... go for an activity or anything else interesting and because of this you could maybe exchange numbers

the things mentioned in this thread by earl, jesse and jax migth also help: http://www.seductionscience.com/for...rent-non-reactive-small-awareness-radius.html so you don't feel any disapointment the next time.

do you really know you two have the same passions etc? how? if you are not anywhere near a date? i bet it's more the dreamgirl that you imagine she could be.. but maybe i am wrong.

don't go direct if you don't know what you do.

as i said in the other thread practice with other girls.. flirt also with the other girls, well with all girls wich are around you and just try it again... if you only flirt with her it could be a bit needy but if you flirt with everybody it's just normal and than it's also just normal that you go out with women etc. , but don't flirt with other women because you are trying to make her jealous

again just my two cents :thumbup:

Sandee, my intake on this is: she is at you work, right? You will see her every day. Why take her numb without a reason for it? I'm sure specially in that environment you can find a reason her phone, but above that, you can always have a coffee break together "to talk about work" or something like that =)

Also I don't know if this is true or not, but on some days I feel in the zone and every conversation, every eye contact seams more inviting! However, this feeling does not last forever, so the next day I might feel like shit and thats when I do the most damage.

I don't want to say that my emotions lead my success, because I lead it, but sometimes the pre-built success is not enough to close the deal. There is also a need to be consistent.

Tiger

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Sandee, you have one itis =) this is so clear to me since you only talk about this one girl... I mean I understand you, and if I had a hot girl in my environment, I'd want to have her on my team, one way or another, but this seems to be ridiculous...

Whats your progress with that other girl from your work, the one you were having lunch other day?

Have you been hanging with other girls outside your work, such as a new girl from a bar or from you past?

Maybe you are thinking too small when it comes to the on itis girl and about how to attract her. For example, if you are suddenly to become her boss or just a person of reference in the office, you'd get more attention from her, voluntarily or involuntarily.

Also, have you though of organizing any event for people inside the work, like everyone goes out together at night and has a beer? or for your clients: you and you clients go out for a coffee and celebrate a deal, or just you make an annual meeting with the client to celebrate the good business? Or any other activity inside the job that will make you the face of the department?

Tiger

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WOW DUDE

This is a real Reckless Disaster eehhhh!!???

At least we all know your intentions were good. You should have just told your boss you were running hardcore Kino escalation on her, calibrated her interest, and carried out physical action to induce greater attraction by illiciting a response from her mammilion brain. This would hopefully lead to a Day 2 or Same Day Lay.

I think they would totally understand.....

Dr. Sandee, LoveDoctor hehehe

On a serious note, great Casey quote, Jesse. And Sandee, as I am sure you now realize, kissing her in the workplace or school elevator was probably not the best idea. That's an extracurricular activity, unless she is your GF.

You are still the man for being that Ballsy.

Wow! Thats not fun stuff... here what I can tell you though, and maybe you can find a lesson there:

Yesterday I went out, made 3 kiss closes effortlesly (with girls actually wanting to kiss me), with possibility of a LR that I did not take, for personal reasons... Tons of other girls talked to me and I got 5 numbers and about 6 prospects... Fun night!

Tiger

PS: Phd is too much work :lol:

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Yeee, I originally did not quite understand the story all the way... you actually kissed her? like on the lips, with the tongue and everything right? Big hug too? And she liked it, like she reciprocated?

As for regretting this moment, dont. Think that you actually did something that broke your limits. Now its just something you do.

In future more crazy things are going to happen to you with more ease, but hopefully you have learned not to f*** you professor for a better grades. Its only works best for the best of us :lol:.

Cheers,
Tiger

Sandee- Jesse keeps-on saying to break the social norms, so do I.
It's OK to hug a woman when you meet her. It's OK to give a woman a slight kiss on the forehead/cheek. (This helps form a BOND with people.)

Let this be an experience that went BAD.

Here's a good suggestion for you. It's what I do when I want to hug and/or kiss a woman:
ALWAYS ask permission to do this for the FIRST time.
(After that, it will become common-place for the two of you to do this when you meet and leave one another. If she says, "NO", don't do it!)

Note 1: I have been doing the above for many years with NO bad outcomes. Just remember, it takes experience to do this, confidently.
At times, as I am in the process of hugging a woman, I will ask her if I can hug her. :thumbup:

Note 2: We live in a fucked-up society where our sexuality is suppressed. For a woman to take such drastic steps, tells me she has some problems with men.
A better outcome could have occurred if the school had handled the situation, better.

Note 3: I can see that you are having problems in being comfortable with women. What things you NEED to learn is difficult for us to understand. There are some sexuality schools that may help. I can help you in this area.

TM

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