Help! Putting her on a pedestal!

I need some help understanding something and then some guidance to do something about it!

My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 months now and until the last few days the sex was mind blowing. I'm not saying the sex is bad by any means its just not at the same intensity as it was in the beginning. In the beginning we were having sex 3-5 per day. We would lay in bed and fuck for hours. now, we go out more and stay out late on certain days and come back to my place burned out and go to bed. Of course, I'm always down to sex it up. She gets sleepy and hits the sack early and we usually wake up early and have quickie sex in the AM before work.

The one thing I am noticing about myself is that I'm not pushing for sex (meaning leading) as much as I did earlier on. Its like my mind is telling me that I don't want her to think all we do is have sex so I don't start going for it as much. However, the other part of my brain knows that women love sex as much as men do. This morning she didn't really respond to my touching like she normally did so my mind said "maybe she doesn't want it this morning". So I didn't push it. I looked at the clock and realized it was 10 minutes till we had to get up for work so I looked at her and said "lets have a quickie". She seemed really excited by the idea which leads me to believe she wanted it all along.

Why am I starting to think like this? How do I get out of thinking like this? I think I am subconsciously starting to put her on a pedestal thinking she doesn't want SEX like me all the time. This is fucked up I know.

Please provide some insight for me here.

AKM...you are the master of sex on these boards so I think you may be able to understand what I am saying. Cyrano..you are the master of sex and its power to change/affect a relationship.

And a shout out to my homey from DC, AK!

Anybody with some ideas here? Much appreicated.

-Bluesky

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Thanks Shark! Your post reminded me that I need to order/read the Passion trap ASAP. I need to focus on always leading my girl because I know that is what she wants. If I want sex with my girl I will do it. If I want to make love to my girl I will do it. If I want to lick her pussy for 30 minutes I will do it. If I want her to suck my cock I will tell her.

I am in control.

Gracias,

-Bluesky

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Damn Karea. That is dead on. Half the guys I met in the beginning have dropped off. Your right about them being orbiters. I meet new orbiters at parties and with my good ability to read body language I can tell they like my girl and despise the fact that I am with her. How do you handle guys like this? So far, I have been extra friendly with them. I will initiate conversation by going up to them and say "What's up man? My name is Bluesky!" This basically throws them off. How would you handle situations like this?

My insecurities about her dancing with these "guy friends" in the beginning have disappeared because now that we have gotten close she doesn't do it anymore. She gives me all the attention. Additionally, at this stage I won't put up with it. I also instill some jealousy in her by talking up women at different places we go whether its a restaurant, nail salon, or bar. I've also given her subtle hints about my thoughts on how couple should respect each other in a relationship so I think those paid off.

Your right about those losers. I watch some of these guy friends at parties and see how pathetic they are with women. A couple of her guy friends I like and I have been tempted to help them with women (without revealing anything about the community). What do you think of that? Should I just leave it alone? I might be stepping into an awkward situation if her guys friends get any inkling that I might be PUA. Thoughts?

Glad to hear things are going well with your girl.

-Bluesky

Karea, I'm curious what you told your girl about your being a top PUA. How do you bring something like this up? Did you tell her about MM or SS? Or just told her your good at picking up women?

What was her overall reaction to learning this about you? Did she feel fooled in any way? Would you recommend telling my girl? I almost want to share it with it her because its changed my life and lead me to her, but at the same time I'm wondering if I'm opening Pandora's box by telling her.

Additionally, I'm worried she may tell her friends about it and then they will all look at me as some sort of "pickup creep".

What are your thoughts, Karea?

Thanks,

-Bluesky

Sometimes I read your posts and they don't make any sense. Later I re-read your posts, they are as clear as the bluesky and realize how brilliant they are. You are a fucking wise man Alaska!

Thanks.

-Bluesky

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