Thankfully, I have been getting dates. Now what stands out is my failure to bring in some dialog about sex. One thought that came to my mind is to bring up the subject of "romance novels," and then get her opinion about women's fantasies. I think humor might be good too, but I cannot think of any humor to use. Any thoughts out there? Are there any special threads that deal with this? And how soon/what time range should this subject be brought up?
Hold her hand, and tell her, "Wow, if your hand is that soft, then I wonder..." look into her eyes for like 5 seconds, then look away with an evil grin Or, "Do your lips only look hot? Or they feel hot as well? Anyways, I'll come to know about it later tonight" You get the idea.. As for the 'time range', do it whenever you feel comfortable.. It doesn't really matter when, but it does matter how.. Be serious, then add in some playfulness.. Do NOT say rubbish like, "Just kidding" , simply cause you're not kidding, and you're not a pussy!
There are simple ways to do this and then more advance ways to do this that's even more effective, for now I'll stick with the simple. What I do a lot is make it seem like she's the one who is being sexual and you're the innocent victim to their brutish advances. For example; when she says something that can have a plain everyday meaning or a more sexual meaning use the sexual meaning and tease her about it. I have been talking to this one girl, who has been a long term project of mine, because of her social / religious beliefs. Anyway, she started talking about how she is in the process of remodeling her bedroom and all the things she's doing to her bedroom. While she was talking about it, I shot back, "Why do you keep talking about your bed? Are you trying to get me to imagine me and you in your bed and how good it would feel, right now? Haha just kidding." Of course, she wasn't saying anything sexual or thinking anything sexual, but in one come back I turned the entire conversation to something deeper and sexual. I also said, "Are you trying to get me to... Imagine you and me in your bed together and how good it would feel -- right now. ?" Girls always say different things and I would turn it around to mean something sexual, but it's always in a fun, light-hearted way. Another point and this is a little more advanced, when you throw out something sexual -- wrap it up quickly and move on to something else before they have time to object or say no. This is a subliminal bonding trick. When you throw out something sexual and they have time to disagree or object to your suggestion they are establishing a block. And they have basically negated what you have said. BUT if you throw out something sexual and then move on to a different topic BEFORE they have time to object, it kind of lingers there as an implied yes and the more you do this the more they get use to not objecting to your advances. Pretty soon, you will be able to throw out all kinds of craziness and they'll just look at you and smile. I can't even begin to tell you how well this works and how fast it works. Also, inside of this very fast, teasing question was a subliminal command which said, Imagine me and you in your bed and how good it would feel, right now. When you use words like IMAGINE and FEEL the person who you are saying these words to cannot help but to imagine or feel what you're saying. It's automatic and subconscious. But if you don't believe in subliminal techniques or you have some moral or ethical objection to it that's totally OK too.
Its all in the eyes and the way you look at her. In one of my field reports i looked a girl up and down and smiled. She replied back "i find that very degrading the way you look at me". She obviously had a low self esteem of herself and couldnt handle me looking at her in a sexual way. Another time i looked a girl up and down looked at her boobs thinking how nice it would be to lick and bite them and then looked into her eyes. She burst into giggles and blushed. Touching is very important going from small touches to massive sexual touching. My point is the non verbal actions are more important then the words themselves.
Hi, Player; Hmmm,...when do you bring-up sexuality? I would say, you would want to, "first", express yourself by your Body Language. (80-90% of WHO you are is expressed in your Body Language. I have a post called, Body Language.) (If you walk, sit, talk and look like a confident sexy guy, the women will notice it). I would say, for-sure, to NEVER enter the "Friendship Zone" with a woman. When I see a woman who is desirable (sexy), I think, "Boy, would I like to fuck her...etc.". When I do this, I will make-sure she sees me looking at her and I will look her up and down with that thought. (She will get the message!) Express your masculinity and sexuality with everything that YOU do! (FM, Jesse and I are BIG supporters of TOUCHING women). Jesses' material is, also, a GOOD resource. Are you reading/listening to his stuff? TM Note: Wow, Steven!!...A woman CAN NOT escape your subliminal suggestions!
Wow guys! Your replies to my question are worth their weight in gold! This is what is so great about the VIP lounge. It would have taken me years to come up with stuff like this. Your advice is VERY PRACTICAL to put into practice, and easy or fundamental enough to hopefully remember. THANKS! :thumbup: If anyone has more to add to this, I am all ears!
Player; If you are just starting to get the knack of expressing your sexuality to a woman, bringing it up, directly, would NOT be a good idea. FM and I like to kid with women by looking at them and saying, "When I look at you, I have dirty, naughty thoughts". (They will SMILE and understand the meaning, which is, YOU are sexually attracted to her.) Essentially, I would do what Steven said in a previous post of his. Just say: "We both are attracted to one another and we both like one another, isn't that TRUE". (This is NOT a question, but, a statement that "is", TRUE!) (Wait for her response). "Let's go to some place "close" to here so we can get to know each other better. It's too noisy, etc., here. Do you have any suggestions"? (Let her make any suggestions in where the two of you go to. If she suggests a motel/hotel, she PAYS for it, because, she suggested it.) (Asking her to make the suggestion is contrary to LEADING a woman, sexually. In this case, it's OK for her to make the "first" suggestion.) (If she suggests another place that is public, go for it!..and TOUCH her!) TM
