Question how do i get her to talk (or message) to me?

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  1. Prashanth Iyer New Member

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    hey there... there is this girl in my class who i have been texting for a while now, its been fun... the problem is, we barely talk in class (yes, we r in the same class) she is mostly with her girl friends, etc... i already asked her whether she wanted to study together sometime and she sure enough she agreed to it.. now here's the problem, i dont think she likes me the way i like her... she thinks of me as the friend (not FRIENDZONED).. and im always the one who texts her first..
    BTW, she sits near the bullies of the class, so, thats another reason why i dont go and talk to her during free time...

    QUESTIONS
    1.How do i get her to talk (or message) to me?
    2.how do i get her to bring up the topic of hanging out (just the two of us)?

    sorry for the long message...
    Prashanth Iyer, Jul 17, 2012
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  2. Angelic

    Jesse Charger Administrator

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    Thanks for the questions man.

    you can't really seduce a girl over text. you just get friended, as this girl has done with you.

    since you're not talking to her, she's going to like getting texts from you because it feeds into her ego and gives her validation, but it does NOT make her attracted to you.

    You should have set up a specific time and place. Here's your problem... you're waiting for the girl to lead you. You're waiting for her permission. That's how a little boy acts with their mommy.

    YOU have to lead the girl. That means YOU set the time and place with her.

    Here again, you're wanting the girl to lead. You're wanting the girl to take the initiative. But if you want to make her wet for you, YOU have to go up to talk to her. You're trying to hide behind texting to eliminate all risk. That won't make a girl feel hot for you.

    Question is coming from the wrong frame again, of wanting the girl to do everything for you. The girl won't do shit for you, there's no little trick that will make it happen. You're going to need to lead, go up to the girl, and talk to her, on a regular basis like her other friends do.
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    Jesse Charger, Jul 17, 2012
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  3. Prashanth Iyer New Member

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    The reason why I want her to bring up the topic is because I always bring it up.. And I'm not friendzoned... I know it.. The other reason why I didn't specify the time and place, is because I didn't want to move too fast, she might be repelled.. So, I'm waiting for her to agree to it, and then I specify the time, place, etc...
    Prashanth Iyer, Jul 22, 2012
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  4. Angelic

    Jesse Charger Administrator

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    You're better off moving quick and showing leadership qualities. Women find that attractive, not repulsive. Playing it very slowly seems "safer" because it doesn't make her dislike you, but it doesn't make her like you either. Take bold action, and evoke bold responses in her. Positive or negative responses are good, that's what makes you attractive to the girl. Soft responses are less good, that's what makes you the nice guy.
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    Jesse Charger, Jul 24, 2012
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    Red Man Well-Known Member

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    Also don't put all your eggs in one basket. You seem way too worried about fucking it up. The best way to get good with women is have an abundance mentality. I've been rejected so many times since I've started doing this but that's what makes you better because you learn from it so now I know what works and what doesn't. Jesse is right with everything he has said. Hope this helps.
    Red Man, Jul 25, 2012
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