Hi Jesse and everyone. To introduce myself my name is Nigel, as noted by my username. First off I wanna thank Jesse for the great course. Really helped with my issues around women which has been a huge problem. I was just shopping in walmart literally not looking to pick up. When this girl came on the same isle as me. Honestly, i wanted to approach her. i was nervous but eventually summoned the courage to say something. luckily she was really looking for something. ( oddly enough after the approach my nervousness disappeared and the stuff with ssx i had been practing at school mostly nonverbals and touching came out automatically). I commented on her backpack telling her i really liked it and where she got it from as a opener. We talked a little then i introduced myself, she did as well. Over the course of conversation. strangely enough we really connected scary well. Needless to say i like this girl. I commented on it, we both agreed how strange it was that two strangers -only a few minutes- had so much in common and could connect so well. I asked her for her number and got it. I gave her mine as well. Two days later(this is just incidently){it was today, yesterday techniaclly cause its 1:30am} I sent her a text. "Was wonderful meeting u. Hopefully we can meet in person again sometime.-Nigel" That was exact text. She replied: "Nice meeting u, too. Let me know when u wanna hang out. I'm free anytime." The problem is with me. I never had girlfriend before even though I gotten lots of iois that i've noticed since atleast 7 grade. (I've been blessed enough to naturally read body language, guess it turned out not to be not so great since it gave me a false since of results.) And still get them. Some background: I'm 17 years old in 12th grade. The girl was 16. I have an intermediate restricted license which means one person in car at time. Not sure if that's important. Continually the ultimate problem. I literally have NO idea what to do next? After all I've only got 2 girls numbers in my life. Both this school year and after I got Jesse's course about a month or two ago. Side Note: Lastest blog post so true I gotten lots of iois from girls I like. Never had courage to do anything about it. Subsequently, I'm a excellent student and get nearly straight A's.
Good Job Hey Nigel, Listen Bud there is no need to get shaky in your boots. Your already 3/4 of the way there, you have definitely got this one interested. I will say don't get anxious, be spontaneous and unpredictable. You texted her and she replied now get her to text you, how? by responding to her with funny flippant answers. If she gets curious tell her you will give her the real answer when she calls. Don't spend to long on the phone..remember you have to sink in her mind that you are really busy and she has to work for your time.When you call her, use that time to physically set up the date. Remember don't ask for her permission to go some where like "hey do you wanna?..." that is a no. You wanna come across as sexually dominant male so hypothetically it would be like "hey I saw a great sushi place on the corner of wherever free up your friday , we are going there..thought it would be cool to check it out" that is just an example. remember shes into you already, Do and don't ask and you should be in clear water dude. thats my two cents.haha
Here are some rules to follow about texting, http://www.seductionscience.com/forum/vip-lounge/1113-basic-phone-texting-tips.html You should follow those rules until you can call her, then set up a date at a coffee shop. I would just drive her if needed; unlikely a cop will happen to grab you at that exact moment. It will be a learning experience! You're jumping into some new territory and don't try to be perfect or even close to perfect. A girl will still like you even if you make a bunch of mistakes. Got more specific questions? Just ask
Thanks Jesse and kiddygrade, the advice really helped. I asked her out(through text, sorry) she agreed. We went to starbucks and we had an amazing time. My Post Date text around 12am before i went to sleep: Had a great time talking with you and connecting with you. Was fun. Her reply: It was awesome talking to you, too. I'm sure we'll talk even more the next time. This happened yesterday. Any ideas on what could we do next time? And time period between? Thanks, Nigel
If you didn't get physical with her at Starbucks, you definitely want to get physical with her on the second date, and the second date environment should facilitate physical touching. You could take her to the zoo... girls dig animals, gives you a lot to talk about (the animals), and you can put your arm around her shoulder, play thumb wrestling, etc. Even better... invite her over to dinner. You'll be cooking. And then have her bake a cake / sweets / brownies with you. Great way to get physical. Anything that you're really into... like mountain biking... arcade games can work if you like video games... anything that sucks her into your reality and you can show in front of her positivity and enthusiasm for what you're doing.
Any time specifics as to when to attempt to set-up a second date after the first? Or How long after the first date should the second date be?
If you wait too long, like weeks, she may cool off... thus, strike while the iron is hot. If she REALLY liked you, she'll obsess and be thinking about you anyway, waiting for your call. You should meet up when and where based on you're feeling, rather than do what you think will win her approval... if you feel like you want to meet up with her pretty soon, then just go ahead and do it. You're leading her, and she'll follow your step. If you overthink "the right time" to win her approval, it will psyche you out and put you into a kiss-ass mindset. Just do what you want, when you want. If you want to call her the next day (from a non-needy place) just because you want to and you don't give a fuck, then do it.
