little help

Hi i have got big problem i'v never had girlfriend more then 3 month.
I think iam not lucky with girls. bcs if i like girl they dont like or if i dont like them they like me its really strange)). And when i speak to beautiful women i loose my confidence, i know to get my confidence beck i need a girlfriend

How do you think? Where is the problem? Is it money, sex, stuff you do, or maybe stuff you don't do? What do they tell when they break up?

Hey mate, you'll probably get a more detailed response from one of the more senior members, but in the meantime, I'll see where I can help.

What you seem to be experiencing is more than likely due to the way you treat the girls, and what you do for them. Think about the girls you don't want; you're likely very easygoing with them, joke around a lot, tease them, maybe flirt occasionally for fun, but in general you're "hard to get".

Now, go over to the girls that you DO want, and from what you've said, I'm guessing things change. You sound almost as though you are letting yourself be defined by having a girlfriend or not having a girlfriend. :thumbdown: This means that when you chase a girl, you act differently. You probably try to play "nice" to make make them like you. You do what they say, and generally bend over backwards for them. You keep chasing them hard. This means that there is no push-pull going on, and you're just pushing in one direction. This means that you aren't taking the girls for an emotional ride.

Girls are very emotional creatures, and they don't like being bored. You need to excite them, to make things extraordinary. Make THEM chase YOU. How? By not giving them every single bit of your attention. The more you think that you depend on them, the less you'll come off like a confident, charismatic, fun-loving, exciting guy. And that's the kind of guy they want you to be!:thumbup:

So your first step is to stop thinking that you "need" a girlfriend. What you need is to have fun in life. Just enjoy everything you do and, if you don't enjoy your life currently, then start doing things that you DO enjoy!:lol: Remember, girls can be a great addition to your life, but your life shouldn't revolve around girls. THEY should be happy to be with YOU, and you achieve that by being happy with being yourself, and just bringing them along for the ride.

You will find a lot of great pickup techniques on this site, but none of them will work unless you make your life revolve around you, instead of making it revolve around the girl you are chasing. Remember, when you are confident, exciting, and happy with your life the way it is, girls will be drawn to wanting to be a part of your life, because they will want to share in that excitement and happiness. :thumbup:

So before any techniques that you read here will work, you need to change your way of thinking. Stop being so negative, lighten up, and enjoy your life for what it is; YOUR life!

Regards,
~Element

Bek


Your problem is NOT the problem. Your problem how you see your current situation. It won't do me any good to just say BE CONFIDENT! because it's not just something you can turn on and off like a light switch.

The best I can say for now is read the info on boards like this one and then go out and do it. Nothing beats just doing it. Once you get out there and start practicing this stuff you WILL see a world of difference in your life.

98% of guys are in the same boat you are because they are just hoping that beautiful girls will just fall in their lap. But remember the words of John F. Kennedy, "Power is not given. Power is taken." Which means you have to go after what you want and take it. It won't be given to you and beautiful girls are not just going to fall into your bed every night.

Go get your power my friend. Go get your power.