must read !

About three years ago, I blew my chances with an incredible woman. She had everything I ever wanted in a female. Gorgeous face, great bod, super passionate, talented, funny, the works. I had no idea about seduction at the time, but apparently, this “AverageFrustratedChump” was smooth enough to get invited to her house to sleep over...

She shoulda been mine that night. Candles were lit. Sade was playin softly in the background. The game was on 100%. But somehow things didn’t pan out, and like so many other times in my life, I let another great opportunity pass me by. But this time I finally got fed up...

WHERE THE HELL DID I GO WRONG?

It was this very question that led me online in search of answers. From e-books to seduction forums, I remember soaking in all the info I found like a giant sponge, hungry for the next mind-blowing tip/technique. I mentally kicked myself for being an “AFC” and began to patch over my insecurities with a more "alpha" persona, thinking that perhaps I should have been more cocky/funny or used some kind of patterns, kino, etc.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but in the process I managed to become a sheep in wolves clothing. I talked the talk and walked the walk, but in the end I was only fooling myself. As time passed by, it became painfully obvious that I had serious issues that an attitude adjustment could not eliminate.

It quite was humbling to realize that, beneath my confident player image, I was actually ashamed of my sexuality! Deep down I believed that women did not feel “that way” about me and I had to use some Jedi mind tricks to seduce them! What I really needed to do was...

DIG DEEPER

It was only after I really delved into my past to unearth the sources of my unhealthy attiude, that I began to confront these issues. Between my dysfunctional upbringing, twisted self-image and 10 years of complete religious brainwashing, I had some serious conditioning to break! It wasn’t easy but gradually I started to shift my core beliefs and deal with parts of myself that I had suppressed for years.

To top it off, my field experiences also started to hammer into my thick skull that girls are indeed sexual creatures, probably more so than we are... and finally, something GREAT happened.. I began to feel comfortable in my own horny skin. And what a difference this has made!

In my opinion, this is the single most important aspect of seduction. For how can you expect a woman to feel comfortable with your sexuality if YOU can’t?

Exactly.

This was the answer to my burning question...Why did I fail time and time again? Because I gave in to my shameful insecurities and ignored the impulses resonating from my balls!

Plain and simple.

All I really needed was some good, old-fashioned courage to take the necessary risk. Being interesting and socially competent was enough to get the attraction going, it was only after I censored my behavior for HER benefit that I failed!

good for you homie. right now i'm going through what you were going through(except the religion thing)

concentr8 concentr8

man once again im blown away by your posts concentr8. Dont mean to freak you out but i can seriously relate to you and it feels like you have the understanding that going for. i went through a similar situation met a beautiful girl she loved me i loved her but was scared of my sexuality and had some major mis wiring from my religious brainwashing and parental influence. anyways before we were dating i read a few e-books and got a few techniques and it worked really well until much like yourself you start realising its deeper than that. cut along story short i blew it with her and absolutly ashamed myself. you mentioned how you dug deeper into your life was there any specific techniques or processes you went through that helped you. i really feel like i can learn alot from you concentr8 and have enormous respect for you.