Guys, Had two instances where women have flaked on me when trying to organise a second date. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Russian Girl Met in Street Spot this dark haired russian girl walking down the road. I walked upto her stopped her smiled and told her how cute she looked. She smiled stopped we talked. Attempted to number close her. She said that her battery was flat and didn't know her number. So she said "Letme take your number". I wrote down my number on her hand and set to her lets meet tomorrow afternoon. She agreed and said she would text me. Next day wow surprised she texted me. Wet metup and I took her to a coffee shop. Sat her down we talked flirted and did some rapport "where we both from, what we do etc etc". I then stopped talking gazed into her eyes an said "do you want to kiss me" she giggled turned away and said "no". I changed topic continued chatting about where I had been to in Europe. I began gazing into her eyes and listening to her talk then said "so tellme what is your favourite position". She says "thats private I cant tell you". I told her my favourite position when having sex then changed the topic back to a flirty conversation. I grabbed her hand under the table she didnt let go. I said lets go. I walked her outside the coffee shop into the street. Then said to her "kiss me" and began pulling her in. She kept saying "no no" but she didnt resist I pulled her in and began making out with her. We began walking down the road hand in hand. Talked more...after about an hour I said to her "Listen if your comfortable why dont you come back to my place" she said "no". I said its "its ok honey it was an invitation thats all". I walked her to the station we made out again. We did another makeout and then she said "you should come an visit me in Moscow". I said "maybe" gave her a smile and said goodbye. I text her 2 days later (she is in London for 10 days). But she never replied, tried calling her no reply. Any thoughts ? what do you think I did wrong ? A simliar thing happened to me with another girl I met.
She's getting swept up in the moment kissing you, but it's too fast. They're kissing a guy and considering invitations for sex from a guy they don't know anything about. She probably figures if she meets up with you again, it will be meeting up for sex, so she holds back. Probably there needs to be more heart-to-heart conversation and sharing going on... asking the girl about her dreams, discovering her core values. So that she feels like there's a real connection with her. More connection... like a few hours of conversation (with underlying sexual flirting and tension of course)... and less outright sex talk. Then, once you get her back to your place, you makeout and get her clothes off. Another factor; she was leaving London. Consider maybe she felt the pressure of time to pack and get ready to go...
Thanks for your reply Jesse. Might have tried to escalate too quickly with this girl. Your right probably should have taken things alittle more slowly.
