Need your help

Guys, there is a FB of mine who has been somewhat difficult lately. I explain.

In December, whenever she called me, I would not respond immediately but would wait one or two days before contacting her. Or alternatively I would text-message her saying something like "busy right now, but will be at X at 8, meet me there if u want".

Last time we met was the last weekend of Dec. and at some point she playfully complained that I had not been much available lately. I just ignored it. We slept together and then after that we only communicated on Jan 1st (I first sent a cocky message to her wo which she quickly responded something very sexy and indicating she wanted my dick inside her as soon as she came back to the city from her parents' place).

After that, she has called about one week ago, but I did not answer. Only text-messaged to her where I would be and that she could meet me there. She didn't show up. I texted her something like "sorry, change of place, if u want 2 come call me first so you know where to meet up." No reply.

Yesterday she called again. I didn't answer and I am thinking of just freezing her out for about 5 days until I finally call her. The reason I am doing this is b/c I think she has become conscious that I am the one calling the shots and she wants to turn the table, which of course I won't let her do.

Another choice would be to call her later today and tell her something like "sorry, I will be busy all weekend, but we can meet on Tuesday for dinner/drinks. Let's say 7 pm, I'll pick you up at your place. Now I got to get going, have to go meet someone" and just hang up.

What do you guys think? Do you agree with my diagnose that she is just trying to take away the power from me? Do you have any specific recommendations to improve my approach with this girl?

Hmm, I'm not sure you've converted a FB entirely yet. You need to Blissnosis her stronger with some more mind-blowing sex. Have her begging/lusting/craving sex with you whenever she can get it because she's never orgasmed like that before. She knows she's only going to reach those levels with you as you're her sexual monopoly now...

To me a FB can be all about sex/lust so I think there's no problem escalating huge the sexy talk rather than blowing her off and/or freezing her out. Get her hot when you're not available and build up anticipation for the next encounter.

Thank you Taf, what you say makes a lot of sense. I have been using first the MES CDs, but had not listened to Blissnosis yet. I will now.

As for the escalating the sexy talk instead of the freeze-out, it's an interesting point and I think I'm gonna do it.

Thanks again man.

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Could be. I will soften it and let her come to me. Let's see what goes from there.

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Good news

You are right!

In fact, I followed Shark's advice of softening my stance with her a bit, and on Thursday called her. It was during the day and we agreed on meeting at 8 pm. She mentioned that she had now moved. She was living with her sister but apparently had a problem with her and decided to rent and move to another place.

Called her again at 6 pm to ask her the directions of her new place (I was to pick her up). She was still at work and couldn't talk, but told me that she was almost done, and to call her back 5 minutes later.

I waited about 15 mins. and then called... she didn't pick up.
Waited another 20 mins. and called again... no answer yet.
About 1 hr later called again (it was already about 7.30 pm), and still nothing.

I then just text-msgd her with "sorry, but as couldn't get through you, I made other plans". 5 mins. later she called. This is the exchange:

HER: darling sorry, forgot to tell you that I had to buy some stuff, and I'm still at the supermarket, but now I received a msg from you saying that you made other plans.
ME: Well yes, had to because I knew nothing of you.
HER: [This time in an apologyzing/complaining mixed mode. Not angry or anything but suggesting that she still wanted to meet] But I just had to go and buy some things, and still haven't finished, but will soon and will be available.
ME: That will have to be another time.
HER: [Same apologyzing/complaining mixed mode] But I just forgot to tell you, I don't see what's wrong.
ME: Yineth, the fact is that you didn't tell me that you had to do other things. You said call me back in 5 minutes, I gave you 15 and called, you didn't take it. Called again some time after that, still you didn't take it. Lastly I called you a third time after more than an hour, and still you didn't answer. We agreed on meeting at 8 pm and I couldn't get through you...
HER [interrupted me] But right now it's still 20 minutes before 8.
ME: Yes, but again, I didn't hear anything from you and you didn't get my calls. That is not acceptable Yineth. If we agree on doing something at a definite time, I expect you to abide by that.
[LONG PAUSE, she said nothing]
ME: Well Yineth, have a good time, take care, bye.
*click*

I was not angry or anything. Didn't raise voice, etc. I just made it clear that for me an appointment is sacred and I expect others to respect my time.

That was Thursday, and yesterday (Sunday) in the evening I called her, and greeted her as if nothing had happened, positive mood and all that. She answered and talked to me well too. I proposed to meet, she said

HER: Well, I am still in Santiago [a city that is about 3 hours from Panama City. Her family lives there, so she goes very often on weekends], and will be taking the late bus, so it can't be tonight, but I know I owe you something, I have a debt with you and I want to make it up for you, so it could be tomorrow after work.
ME: Tomorrow sounds fine.
HER: Good, cause I really want to make it up for you darling.
ME: I am glad that you acknowledge it.
HER: Yes, I do.
ME: Ok, tomorrow it will be then. I will call you at lunchtime to arrange the details.
HER: Ok.
ME: Well, enjoy the rest of your stay with your family and take care.
HER: Bye darling.
ME: Bye.

I was positively surprised. I did not expect her to be so much like a puppy. She didn't say sorry or apologized expressly, but her tone and what she said was much better than an apology. I didn't expect her to apologize, because I think she learnt the lesson, is an intelligent woman, and I don't need people to apologize to me, as long as they don't repeat the same mistakes. But to hear her like that was really good.

I won't be playing too hard to get from now on with her, as I accept what Alaskanmana says about what a "Buddy" is supposed to be.

I won't tell you what the "debt" is, but I am sure you get the idea. Last week I went through the 6 cds of Blissnosis, and will certainly apply the lessons learned.